5 comments about How to Succeed with Women.

1. After years of disastrous dating and (so far) one failed marriage, I realized that no one ever really taught me anything about relationships.
   
   My family? Please. My family has more last names in it than a phone book so why would I look to them for anything (but lawyerly advice about getting divorced)?
   
   My friends? Just as helpless and ill-equipped as I've been.
   
   The media? The sappiest b.s. of popular music and lame movies has fostered the madness that "true love prevails" and probably did more damage than anything else in our lives.
   
   True love doesn't always prevail. Nice guys finish last. And women would love nothing more than turning every decent guy into a platonic friend while serial dating every loser on the street (they have to complain to the nice platonic friend who wants them about the wretched monster they pursue as their boyfriends). Cold, harsh reality...but here we are.
   
   So what do we do? We turn to someone for help. This year, I've been reading the various books on relationships, mostly from the male point of view, everything from the most predatory pick-up guide to this book, HOW TO SUCCEED WITH WOMEN.
   
   If you haven't lost all of your Nice Guy tendencies, this is the book for you. It's a practical, extensive guide to a lot of info that the rest of us might--MIGHT--learn on our own in the dating jungle. Save yourself a lot of time and take the time to read this book. You might feel a little threat to your guyhood to be looking into something like this--forget that. We were raised in the generations that hammered the sick dogma that "boys and girls are the same," the age of equality.
   
   When it comes to relationships, we're NOT the same. Not even close. It's been insane how long we've been beating our collective heads on the wall as we try to understand how women don't get that we're all the SAME.
   
   Admit to yourself: What I'm not, I will learn. Then read this book, which is a good place to start.
   
   The other book along these lines I'd recommend is Neil Strauss' THE GAME. He's a good writer and there's a lot of experience and wisdom there.
   
   Now go get 'em.



2. I picked up this book a few years ago, because well, as the book's title might suggest I had no clue on how to succeed in getting the women I wanted. However, this book wasn't helpful most of the information such as those "romantic questions" and other suggestions the author made just got me exactly what I was getting before reading this book, "let's just be friends" and the such. Until I came across The Game and Mystery's books, those have truly shown me how to succeed with women, skip this one, read those instead.



3. This woman Romy Miller-the author has been watching to much of the show"sex in the city"I think shes a superfical money grubing woman-she had only a few things that I thought were good.She must think all men are super rich and find her to be a money hunter when looking for a man.Save your money fellows.



4. In light of some of the reviews I've read here,I felt the need to add my two cents if you will,Seeing as how in my opinion this book doesn't get a fair shot...
   
   I first bought this book in 2001,shortly after September 11,at point in my life when I felt I needed to make a drastic change.I was 28 at the time,painfully shy,and just out of a rather tumultous relationship with a much older woman with several kids (none of them mine...) I felt unattractive,overweight...Besides my freinds and family,I wasn't a terribly social person,and felt as if there was no chance for me to meet a woman who I truly would want to be with.
   
   I did,however,have lots and lots of female "friends" who felt totally comfortable telling me about their dating problems,and of course I listened to them faithfully,hoping one day one of them would miraculously see me as their knight in shining armor...That happened once,but eventually with disastrous results.
   
   Once I read this book,I came to a realization that my family and fellow "Nice Guy" friends never clued me in on...That most people,male and female,DATE before they settle upon someone.That may mean there's sexual interaction along the way,or it may mean that one person falls deeper in love than the other...But it doesn't mean that your first is your one and only,and if you should happen to lose someone along the way,if you're a person with a happening life and confidence,you'll eventually find someone new,when you're ready to.
   
   Nice guys in particular truly need to read this book.I was one of them,and the section on the Fear of Hurting Women resonated with me.Because of all the accounts of bad dates and such my female friends told me,I swore in my mind that I'd never be that way,thinking that it was a good thing.NOT AT ALL.In turing nice and harmless,I essentially neutered myself in the eyes of any potential dates.
   
   Quite a few men have an inner war with their sexuality,not in terms of orientation,but in terms of whether or not their desiring a woman is HURTING a woman.This book will teach you how to see through the fog of those anxieties.
   
   When I started acting confidently,making dating women less of a priority,and myself the top priority,then things started to change.
   
   To the critics:
   
   In regards to the motives of any man who reads this book,it's been said by the authors themselves in other media that the only way a man is going to be happy with his final choice in a mate is only AFTER he's satisfied with knowing what's out there.How else will he truly feel confident in his choice of a woman as a long term partner.The book says it in Plain English,IN THE LAST CHAPTER...And they DO NOT endorse cheating on a long-term partner.They also make it clear that finding someone for a lasting relationship is a matter of compromise,to some degree.She's not going to be Miss Perfect.They also stress the importance of safe sex,and not getting into hasty sex situations,complete with a breakdown of what you could contract if you don't play it safe.
   
   And as far as some of their actal examples of tactics go...Well,okay,I have to admit,I did scowl at the use of hand puppets as a serious way of drawing women.I'm a big black man from New Jersey,and there's no way in You-Know-Where that I'm taking a hand puppet of a bunny rabbit and going to talk to ladies on Broad and Market Streets in Newark!But you can take their basic ideas and augment them...The fundamentals are the same.Maybe a hand puppet is a no go,but pushing your little baby niece in a stroller,or walking a puppy...You get the idea.
   
   I won't rehash some of the other strong points that other reviewers have already pointed out.Just read (and watch in some cases) and judge for yourself.
   
   When this book first came out,as far as I was aware it was the only one of its kind-serious in nature,not the "Pick up chicks" kind of book that you would find ads for in the back of smut magazines.
   In recent years,there have been others-Neil Strauss,David DeAngelo,and most Notably Mystery (Erik Von Markovik) who have expanded on this format.These days,they're known as the "Seduction Community" all of their material is valid.But in my opinion,if you're a "nice guy" who's had a ton of female friends who have regaled you with tales of lustful,touchy feely men who you'd sware you'd never be like,then those other media won't help you a bit if you don't address the underlying issues.Louis and Copeland will help you do that.
   
   In closing I'd like to say that in my younger years,I weighed perhaps around 220 lbs,and was ashamed of myself...Right now I'm TWICE that weight,and I date MUCH more now than I did when I was younger...Attractive,proactive women,with careers,goals,and exciting lives.In fact,I wish I read this book when I was 15,instead of 28.I would have avoided MANY of the dating pitfalls I wound up making,and pursued the NORMAL women who were worth the pursuit!
   
   The book WILL help you,if you're a nice guy!!!!
   
   JJ.
   myspace.com/martinjr73



5. You know all those puzzling things women do. They are explained here. More importantly this book tells you how to respond to the situations we find ourselves in with our women. This book is aimed at those trying to start a relationship or hook-up, but is still essential for someone that is already in a relationship and wants to make it better.

5 comments about Don't Sweat The Small Stuff For Teens.

1. I always read books I get for my daughter first to confirm that I got her something right/good for her. This one is no doubt a winner. The titles of each chapter were catching enough to make you curious as to what you were about to read and then the story you read were a great explanation to the sometimes funny and odd titles. The story in each chapter was absolutely great. They were short enough to keep any kids attention, make a good lesson and walk away feeling good that you learned something new and were inspired. The really great thing is, my 13 year old who usually complains about sitting still and reading because she'd rather be actively playing sports, isn't complaining a bit about winding down and reading this book. She loves that most chapters are only 2-3 pages each, but even better, she is mimicking what they are teaching and I'm loving it, too, as a mom. This is a great read, a great inspiration and a lot of the stories are what these kids can relate to. I plan to buy it as a gift to others, but I'm not sure if I should get it for the parents or the kids.



2. When my grandma first gave me this book, I thought it was gonna be another useless book saying "just be yourself" and all that [...]. But this book actually has substance and I was surprised that I actually got something out of it. Recommended to any teen on the "emotional roller coaster" who needs some guidance in their life.



3. This book is irresponsible, and I equate selling this book to teens with selling them drugs. Each could drive a troubled kid over the edge to suicide. The premise of the first chapter is that for a teen to tell their troubles to a friend or anyone else is the same as "barfing on your friends". As crisis center and peer counselors know, many teens hold their most disturbing thoughts and emotions to themselves, and in all too many that leads to suicide attempts or successful suicides. Any useful ideas the author may have expressed in the rest of the book is more than negated by this irresponsible, lunatic advice. Please Amazon.com, withdraw this item from sale to impressionable teenagers looking for advice in their troubled lives.



4. I am very dissapointed in this book. It is intended for a teen audience, but is written for an adult audience. I read it to several teens individually to get their opinion. One student commented, "It's obvious he doesn't have any teenagers." Try the library before buying this book I wish I had.



5. I had previously bought and read two other books by Richard Carlson, Shortcut Through Therapy and Don't sweat the small stuff...it's all just small stuff. I had found that both those books made a huge difference in my life and helped me, as someone who suffers from anxiety, to look at life in a very different way. I had even read bits and pieces of Don't sweat the small stuff to my sons when they themselves were dealing with issues of their own. My younger son is soon to be 13 and my older son is 16 and has Aspergers syndrome. What was interesting was the my older son, the one with Aspergers, really crasped the simple easy to understand writing of the late Richard Carlson, so when I came across the Don't sweat the small stuff for teens I decided to get it too. As with Don't sweat the small stuff...it's all just small stuff, the one for teens is fantastic. Another thing which makes them so great is that each chapter is unrelated to the others, so you can just jump to a chapter which is very short,( takes only 5 minutes to read), read it with or to your teen and it will offer a simple solution to the situation at hand. I even carry the don't sweat the small stuff books in my handbag, as they are small and light, and we often just stop the car, pull to the side and solve a problem there and then! I would recommend both Don't sweat the small stuff books as I feel they go hand in hand and compliment each other. And if you have a high functioning Autistic teen, then I would really go for it, even though it is not written for teens in the autistic spectrum. The reading is so short that you won't loose their attention and actually encourages them to look deeper inside and see a way out which then lessens anxiety.
   
   Dora Blondal Mizzi

5 comments about The Power of a Positive No: Save The Deal Save The Relationship and Still Say No.

1. Anyone who works with a group of people, large or small, can benefit from skills you can develop from reading this book and putting the ideas into practice.
   
   The concepts are very accessible and you don't feel like you are being fed "new-age" psycho-babble. It's real. It's grounded. It will help you even if you are already a great communicator.
   
   This is a book you will want to read again in 6 months or so to help you make the concepts part of a more successful and fulfilling life.



2. Having been on the operations side of professional services firms for years, I have had my fair share of working with sales people who had a speech impediment - they could never say NO. Once I became a sales person myself, I understood the pressures of sales pros to meet quotas and ensure they can make the next lease payment on their BMW. But I also knew that companies wanted consultants and sales people to tell them no, and set boundaries for their engagements.
   
   William Ury's book tells, quite simply, how to deliver a "positive no" and emerge with a much stronger relationship. If you are in sales, you have to read this book. If you are on the delivery or operations side, you must get this book for both your sales people and your consultants. It will transform your client relationships like you wouldn't believe!



3. Let me badcktrack a bit. "Getting to Yes" by Fisher and Ury was a good book that introduced a few important concepts, such as the principled negotiator, win-win and so on. But, I did not like reading it - dry and uninspiring.
   
   The sequel, "Getting Past No" by Ury was a much better book (in my opinion) and I really enjoyed reading it - a few times! Great book - highly recommended! This just in case you think I have something against Bill Ury - no, on the contrary, I hold him in high respect.
   
   So, I had high expectations of Ury's latest brainchild - this unfortunate treatise on the meaning and importance of NO. I was so dissapointed that I didn't even finish reading it (Does my review still count?;) The book is a drawn-out, laborius and it deals with only one aspect of negotiation. You will NOT learn how to negotiate from this book!
   
   By the way, Fisher's latest book "Beyond Reason" was another dissapointment - after reading a first few pages (carefully, not to leave any greasy fingermarks) I sold it on ebay as new, where I had to lie that it was a great read (I will rot in Hell for sure for that!) "The Power of Positive No" remains to be sold, where I will have to lie again.



4. The Power of a Positive No provides an intriguing view into the delicate, complex, and yet important process of saying no. Whether it be saying no to a professional request from a superior at work or saying no personally to negative and destructive behaviors one may be engaging in, this book explains a pathway to thinking through the process of saying no without damaging or loosing the relationship. The book is packed with several practical examples both simple and complex. Ury's theories are battle tested, and his unique personal experiences as cofounder of Harvard's Program on Negotiations have enabled him to have wealth of exciting and world changing opportunities that have served as a testing ground for these ideas.
   
   The book lays out three critical steps in the process of saying no. Preparing the "No" encourages the reader to dig into the core beliefs and values behind the No answer. This self-reflective section of the book draws parallels with many other leadership authors such as Sergiovanni and Covey. Delivering the "NO" helps the reader understand the importance of asserting the beliefs behind their core decision, and how to find compromise. Finally, Ury encourages the reader to be consistent and persistent through the "No" which increases the integrity of the decision and the decision-maker. While relatively simple in concept, The Power of a Positive No provides an authentic framework for effective decision making and negotiating. This influential book explains how balancing the power of the decision and preserving the relationship is possible and attainable in every situation we face.



5. This book is the outcome of what happened when master negotiator Jim Camp (author of "Start with No!") was invited to a symposium on negotiating at Harvard, and proceeded to blow William Ury & company out of the water. Camp is the real deal and has the data to back it up. The Harvard guys hated Camp and had to regroup to save their academic behinds. If you want the real deal, read "Start with No!", and find out how 'Getting to Yes' and other boooks of that ilk simply reduce you to cannon fodder in the face of an experienced and ruthless negotiator.

5 comments about Care of the Soul : A Guide for Cultivating Depth and Sacredness in Everyday Life.

1. a very insightful book on tending to your own garden, that is your soul. This book is beautifully written and thought provoking. With wonderful lessons in nurturing your daily life and finding the sacredness in day to day living that will deepen your own soul experience.



2. This book was atrocious. My friends shrink recommended it to him for a read to help him, and I was wondering why he was walking around even more confused in life so I decided to buy it and see why. I now understand. I would like to consider myself very intelligent, but this book is not an easy read, at all. I found myself rereading pages just to try and understand it. The average person would get lost in all the fancy jargon. I found myself skimming the pages toward the end hoping someone would put me out of my misery. Would not recommend.



3. The new paradigm Moore presents for psychology is extrordinary! He permits people self respect and an avenue for growth within depression or other mental disorders. Should be a must read for every one.



4. I found the book to provide sound, every day recommendations for the care of my soul which has been neglected for many years. The book was recommended by a therapist and it is well worth the time to read it.



5. This is a creative book in which Thomas Moore synthesizes psychological,spiritual and religious knowledge and beliefs of his into a deeper description and analysis of the idea of a soul. Who among us, with the possible exception of theologians, has spent much time even thinking about what a soul is? We use words like soul, spirit, intuition, instinct, feelings, emotions, etc., all the time, but seldom do we take the time to develop meaning for these words that ring true, or resonate on the level of personal experience. Moore peppers the book with numerous case studies of clients he has counseled. These examples add a great deal of interest and insight into Moore's thinking. He leads us into an examination of soul - what it is, what it might be, what it represents. This journey can serve to expand and open new realms for readers.
   
   He adds depth to the book's message by suggesting that care of the soul works both ways: we care for our soul by listening, nurturing and abiding it. We are also cared for by our soul in the ways that it guides our lives, most often subconsciously. Moore equates aspects of the soul to our psychological shadows and subconscious realm of suppressed and repressed feelings, emotions and desires. His approach offers a useful perspective for better understanding the role of our shadows and for coping with it - including simply accepting the mystery the soul delivers.
   
   This analysis includes a look at the inseparability of our soul from the soul of all-that-is. In doing so, Moore draws the connection between care of the individual's soul and the destiny of the broader ecology.
   
   At times, Moore seems to fall back on his theological training with the Catholic church. These sections feel a little awkward juxtaposed to the deeper spiritual nature of the book. At these times he slips into a bit of a lecturing, imploring tone that, in its certainty, seems out of place in comparison to his celebration of the mysteries of the soul throughout most of the rest of book.
   
   Recommended reading for its creative exploration of these interesting ideas!

5 comments about Curious George and the Birthday Surprise (Curious George).

1. These were used as favors for my son's 5th birthday party. I added a little sticker inside to thank everyone for coming. It's a great story, a familiar and cuious monkey and it even includes some fun games in the back. Many parents thanked me for encouraging their kids to read and most of all for not giving junk and candy.



2. I recently purchased this book to read at my son's first birthday party....What a cute book.....soft cover....they loved the story!



3. The Curious George series of books is a wonderful addition to any youngster's library as the stories are brief, beautifully illustrated in vibrant colors, and the plot is simple and easy for young ones to understand. In this book, Curious George gets all excited over a birthday party, and wonders who its for? There are many fun parts as in when George decides to help frost the cake, and what he does with a mess in the kitchen.The activities at the end of the book is an added bonus. A must-have for any Curious George fan!



4. This story follows the same story arch of all the others: Man with the yellow hat leaves George alone (will he never learn?), George inadvertently creates a disaster, and all works out in the end. My four year old loves Curious George and enjoyed a story with a birthday theme.



5. Wonderful story! Perfect for the Curious George Birthday Party! All the guests loved it!

5 comments about Choosing Civility: The Twenty-five Rules of Considerate Conduct.

1. While this book might identify behaviors you have been using since childhood, it may open your eyes to some of the more inconsiderate conduct that goes on in your life. It not only explains how one should act, it discusses how you can deal with the conduct of others, and how to encourage civility all around you.



2. This is an excellent book on courtesy in our everyday interactions. I think if everyone practiced Forni's 25 suggestions, both public and private life would go more smoothly.



3. I read *Choosing Civility* because I found that the pressure of living in a crowded city was beginning to make me a bit misanthropic towards my fellow humankind, which led to me becoming a bit less civil in my behavior in this crowded world. I wanted a refresher on how to treat my fellow man in a manner that I wished to be treated myself. I also read this book because I saw that the pressures and pace of the modern world was beginning to break down our civilization.
   
   *Choosing Civility* definitely delivered on my first need, it made me more conscious of the little things that lead to better interactions with people; little things like ensuring that I respect the personal space of others in a conversation, being inclusive of everyone in a group such as my coworkers, refraining from idle complaining, and respecting other people's time. After reading this book, I found myself noticing moments where I was being uncivil in small ways and allowing me the opportunity to correct these behaviors.
   
   Where the book falls short, at least for my needs, but not necessarily for everyone, is in how to deal with and accept the uncivil behavior of others. Before reading this book, I was aware of a general incivility in our everyday lives; but, after reading this book, I became painfully aware of how bad the problem was and the book didn't prepare me properly for those times when I felt the victim of uncivil actions and how to remain civil myself at the moments.
   
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   A Guide to my Book Rating System:
   
   1 star = The wood pulp would have been better utilized as toilet paper.
   2 stars = Don't bother, clean your bathroom instead.
   3 stars = Wasn't a waste of time, but it was time wasted.
   4 stars = Good book, but not life altering.
   5 stars = This book changed my world in at least some small way.



4. I love this book of tenderly nuanced advice written in beautiful prose and will reread it often to remind myself how absolutely necessary civility is in our lives. Professor Forni does Johns Hopkins proud!



5. After discussing why we don't treat each other as well as we should and why we should treat each other better, Massimo offers 25 rules to help us implement his advice. He gets very specific about the ways we can treat each other better, every day.
   
   I like this book for two reasons. One, because it puts the accountability where it belongs: on me. I can't improve my relations with other people by expecting them to change. I can't do it by labeling them, criticizing them or judging them. All I can do is change what I do and how I do it.
   
   Two because it offer specific suggestions on how to be more civil. It's useful and can be implemented right now.
   
   The better we treat each other, the better our world becomes. This book is a step to helping us all get there.

5 comments about Visioneering: God's Blueprint for Developing and Maintaining Vision.

1. As a Pastor I have read so many books on leadership and vision I stay away ordinarily but I really enjoyed reading this book. It is a 101 course on visionary leadership based on Nehemiah (which makes this book an inspiring Bible study for anyone). It is written in a way that makes you feel the authors sincerity and warmth. Very encouraging and inspiring. I thought the stuff on naysayers was very insightful. Couldn't put it down until I was finished with it.



2. This book is amazing! I read it 5 years ago, lost my copy and reordered it to re-read as I was starting a new ministry. It's brilliant. I recommend it all the time to people who want relevent and applicable steps to following through on their visions. Fantastic! One of my all-time favorite books!



3. This book is a "how to" on dreaming big. Sometimes knowing where to start is the biggest hurdle in making progress and articulating the vision for your life. I appreciate Andy Stanley's efforts in this writing.
   Elaine Littau
   Author of "Nan's Journey"



4. If you are a one of those very devoted Cristians, then I think you will enjoy this book.
   I thought it there was too much Cristian's Content for someone who is a soft Cristian.
   Way too many stories from the bible.



5. Great study in the life and leadership of Nehemiah on discovering your passion, pursuing it, and staying wtih it. I strongly recommend this one if you are seeking personal or ministry vision.

5 comments about Indigo Teen Dreams: Guided Relaxation Techniques Designed to Decrease Stress, Anger and Anxiety while Increasing Self-esteem and Self-awareness (Indigo Dreams).

1. My daughter who had been weepy and sleepless, found herself giggling hysterically to this cd the first time I put it on. I considered this a good thing. And although she thought it was dorky (repeating "I am a good person" while she felt terrible caused much laughter), she vowed to do it each night as the relaxation techniques later on the CD worked for her. I listened for a few minutes and thought the affirmations were a bit awkward and the music was a bit dorky. But all in all it's given my teenager a good attitude about meditation and for that I think it's a decent start.



2. i have listened to this but have not been able to get my teenage son too. great calming techniques; the cover is more girl friendly though i think...



3. I only listened to it once; it's a christmas present for my two teens. It was ok.



4. I know from actual teens that this is an amazing relaxation process! It's very peaceful and understanding. It's very good for teens dealing with anxiety, anger or just everyday stress! It really prepares you for everyday situations by teaching you breathing exercises and affirmations so you know what to do next time you feel stressed or anxious! A real winner!



5. For over one year, my 12 year old had major problems going to sleep after starting middle school, going to sleep over 1 hr past her bedtime, and getting migraines the next day. It continued even into the summer, and I was getting less sleep too. I tried an amateur CD made by a therapist but it didn't work;I was I went on Amazon and tried Indigo Dreams the night that it arrived, and for 2 months now, my daughter has been able to put herself to sleep in 15-20 min with this CD! We use a CD player that has a sleep function that decreases the volume and turns off at the preselected time. There are different tracks - intro, breathing, muscle relaxation, visualization, affirmation, etc. The techniques the kids use will be helpful to decrease anxiety before test, competitions, etc. The narrator's voice is soothing but not creepy. I'm a physician and have recommended this CD to my teenage patients to help with sleep and not just pop a pill, and the adult Indigo Dreams for my adult patients. I have to burn copies in case the original CD gets scratched because we can't survive without it!!

5 comments about The Enlightened Sex Manual: Sexual Skills for the Superior Lover.

1. Just wanted to respond to these fear-arousing posts about David Deida being a "follower of a...demonically deluded cult leader". Curiously, these exact verbatim posts have been made to most of Deida's books listed on Amazon (I haven't checked them all). Seems like some kind of organized effort going on here to smear Deida.
   
   I'm a pretty tolerant guy - everyone has a right to their own opinion, etc. But to suggest that David Deida (or Ken Wilbur for that matter) is a brainwashed follower of Satan, and that you will become infected from reading his stuff, seems pretty laughable to me. Any innovator worth his salt has been accused of the same thing, like, you know, DaVinci, Copernicus, Darwin, St. Francis, Martin Luther, Jesus of Nazareth, etc.
   
   These two gifted thinkers, Deida and Wilbur, are cutting-edge intellectuals, ahead of their time. They are leaders, not followers. Neither has any interest in "controlling" you or what you think, although there are obviously some out there who do. Fifty years from now, educated people will still be studying their writings, while "Bubba Free John" will be like that weirdo who had that cult out in California about the comet Kahoutec and the aliens on the dark side of the moon. What was his name again? I rest my case.
   
   I have read two of Deida's books, The Way of the Superior Man, and The Enlightened Sex Manual. I'm a pretty accomplished social scientist myself, but I know when to tip my hat to an Enlightened Master, and Deida is one. If you need the Thought Control Police to tell you what you may or may not read, and you think the Salem witch trials and the McCarthy hearings were right on, then skip on over to Pat Robertson's web site to see what you are allowed to read. For everyone else, Deida has a lot to offer, particularly if you are trying to find your own way in the modern world of gender roles, relationships and sex.



2. If you are becoming familiar with David Deida, then this book is one good place to start, especially if you are doing so as a couple. This book describes Deida's view of masculine/feminine polarity, sexual energy, sexual desire, and more. And Deida being Deida, it is about sex and spirituality and growth. The book gives the sense that we are being offered an ancient way or yoga or art. We get the sense that Deida has learned this tantric-esque wisdom from various teachers, and now he is transmitting his knowledge to us. Maybe that sounds strange, but I've come to trust his advice and insights. An audio CD-ROM is included, in which Deida describes a number of experiential exercises. A remarkable aspect about Deida is that some of what he says about women is counterintuitive to men, and some of what he says about men is counterintuitive to women. And you are likely to disagree with some of what he tells you about yourself and your sex. But when you test these things out with the opposite sex, you find out that he's spot on. He's on to things that most of us don't understand, I believe.
   
   Before buying this specific product, take a look at Deida's website/portal. Get a sense of ALL his products and pick the one that makes the most sense. He offers a fair amount of audio material, and if you aren't an avid reader, these may be more helpful. He has recently released a DVD titled "Function, Flow and Glow: The Art of Sexual Yoga," in which he shares his views of therapy, art and spirituality. He claims that he's mostly about teaching the "art" of great sex and loving, though he delves into the other areas with considerable insight and wisdom. The DVD is entertaining and informative (and funny), but I think it is mostly targeted toward the Ken Wilber / integrative spirituality crowd. You might be a bit confused if you are not familiar with the "Integral" world, but I suspect you'll find something of value anyway. I should probably note that Deida doesn't pretend that what he offers is empirically validated science. If that is what you are looking for, you won't find it here.
   
   Another good place to start (even if you are a woman, I believe) is "The Way Of The Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Woman, Work, and Sexual Desire." Many view this as Deida's master work, and I can see why. "Superior" in the title is misleading because it is easily construed as macho-arrogant. But I doubt you'll come away with this impression. I learned about this book a few months ago from a woman in San Diego who is also a psychotherapist friend, and she thought this was a really great book. I've been reading this book over and over since then, and I have to say I agree with her. I learned plenty.



3. Of many books from this extraordinary author, this stands out as a great basic sex manual (some of his, and so many other, works seem too basic) with a flashy title (gotta bring home the bacon) and very intimate writing style that makes it hard to put down.



4. Yes, not all books written on this subject are helpful to everyone. I will not deny that fact. However, this book truly covers a spectrum you rarely see. I do believe every person and couple can benifit from this book.



5. This respectfully written little book gives you the basics for healthy love making. If you are into learning how to use sex as a doorway to communion with your inner self/partner/God & undo any energetic/physical/emotional blocks in your system, than this book will serve as a clear guide. All of David Deida's books are great. I also highly recommend "Making Love" by Barry Long. That book has some helpful information that I have found profoundly improves lovemaking, as well as some mythology that I could do without.

5 comments about Say Good Night to Insomnia: The Six-Week, Drug-Free Program Developed At Harvard Medical School.

1. Until I read this book I was struggling with a recent bout of insomnia. Little did I know that I was doing everything to make it worse: trying to get to bed earlier; sleeping in late; taking long naps; ruminating before going to bed; etc. Jacobs explain clearly, by educating the reader on the physiology of sleep, among other things, how all of the above beahviors make matters worse. Within a few days of reading the book (actually before I even finished it), my sleep pattern improved sigificantly. The techniques he provides - like stress reduction, for example - are also helpful in solving other problems . If you are having problems with insomnia, this is a must read.



2. The product was priced reasonably, shipped promptly, and received in good condition. It provided a substantial amount of helpful information and was definitely a worthwhile purchase.



3. This book provided a good program for overcoming sleep prevention issues. It seemed a little more complicated then it needs to be, but provided some good reference material for my sleeping aid CD You are Getting Very Sleepy. This book can help those suffering from sleeplessness to gauge their progress.



4. If you're struggling with insomnia at any level, this is a very
   good ally: facts, attitudes, concrete proposals, real support



5. Putting all the ideas in this book together helped me discover some things I never knew were contributing to my insomnia. I feel like I'm finally on the path to better sleep!! (after having insomnia most of my life!)