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5 comments about The New Bottoming Book.

1. Unlike a few we've read, this book was written from a more hetero- friendly point of view. Although there are scenarios described between alternative couples, they are tastleful and much less anecdotal in nature than some that seem to be more of a BDSM gay's memoirs. We enjoyed the scene suggestions and perspectives offered into a bottom's head space. This revised book is written assuming one is not just a 'curious beginner', so it didn't overdo the often present common-sense "safety" section, and it's definitely not a 'how-to'...instead I found it an insightful and pleasant read for the novice bottom.



2. I'm new to this and this is the first book that I've read on the subject, so I was quite excited to get my hands on it. It is an excellent book, but the way that things are worded are from a very philosophical perspective and not a more concrete perspective. There's nothing at all wrong with this persay, however, I tend to grasp concrete concepts much more easily than those presented from a philosophical standpoint. I would have given it 4.5 stars because it really is good, but Amazon won't let me split fine hairs. If you have any interest in this subject from either a dominants or a submissive's point of view then I would recommend that you read this first.



3. This is the second version of "The Bottoming Book," the first one having been published a decade before and much has changed with the world and with the authors, including their names. Catherine A. Liszt, who had minor children that she wished to protect at the time of the first edition, now writes under her real name, Janet W. Hardy. The authors have since written several other books as well.
   This 173-page guide to the art of "bottoming" is packed full of information and personal insights that have the ring of obvious common sense. That's not an easy task since to most people in the world, the entire concepts of BDSM seem like they are straight out of the Hellish visions of painter Hieronymus Bosch.
   The book is like a peek into the strange, dark side of the human mind. Oddly enough, the people involved as bottoms and tops find enlightenment, out-of-body experiences and spiritualism from their excursions into D&S sub-space, trances and endorphin charged highs. I actually hesitated to publish this review under my own name, but it's only a book review and this is still a free country, even for that portion of the nation that is truly kinky and the much larger group that is simply curious about kink and its practitioners--like me.
   It would be impossible for me to provide much detail about the content of this book because it is extremely complicated and yet amazingly simple and understandable. This is not a book for dummies although difficult concepts and what seems like universal paradoxes are amazingly well articulated and explained. This is also not an instruction book on the various techniques of how to flog the skin off a helpless victim. The authors, who write as a team, describe their book as "an unabashedly-centrist book. In it we will tell you over and over again that bottoms are beautiful, bottoms are powerful, bottoms are alchemists who magically transform suffering into sex, humiliation in desire, screams of pain into moans of pleasure." The authors actually do a pretty good job of doing just that--not only explaining why, but also how. That's a hugely difficult task.
   The human mind is a marvelous thing. The complexities of that mind are limitless. This book delves into the many subcultures that are coming out of the closet to proclaim their place in mainstream society. Once the reader has read this book they will still have lots of questions, but they will also have gained a much better sense of what this subculture is really about and how it is often more caring a safety minded than regular society. While it seems to be totally non-politically correct, especially because it uses pain and humiliation and many criminal themes (being captured by pirates or slaves and their masters for instance) as the building blocks of role playing and sexual fulfillment as consensual ADULT forms of loving and caring the reader will quickly realize that much lies below the surface of myths of the world of tops and bottoms. Reading this book is like opening a door into a whole new world of understanding. This reviewer apologizes for not being better able to convey the material contained in this tome. This review is only a few ice crystals on the peak of a gigantic iceberg. The insights contained in this book are a fascinating discovery even for middle-aged conservative and vanilla adults such as me. It could never be considered a boring read. And it won't give the reader nightmares either, it's too thought provoking. It's amazing what some perfectly normal, loving folks will do for limitless amounts of mind-boggling sensation.



4. This book was a fast and easy read while still imparting a lot of useful information.



5. Very well written, it is for any submissive that wants a fresh side on the lifestyle. I will read more books by this author.

5 comments about The Surrendered Wife : A Practical Guide to Finding Intimacy, Passion, and Peace with Your Man.

1. Laura Doyle had probably the best intentions when she wrote this book and I can see the appeal it would have to many women. No one wants to nag, nit pick or harass their husband. We would all love it if we could be his cheerleader, supporter, friend instead of a "mom" figure to him. At first it seems as if you might agree with her strategies. Let him make up his own mind about what socks to wear, which friends he wants to have etc.
   
   But then she takes it to an extreme ...a downright scary one.
   
   According to her you can never teach, criticize or correct your husband. Even if he's cooking a roast so poorly it might burn down the house, even if he's driven across state lines and made you miss your father's funeral as a result, even if he's missed 7 payments on the mortgage, even if he asks for your input and opinion, your response should always and forever be "Whatever you think!" If you don't do this you are emasculating him, disrespecting him and he will resent you, lose sexual attraction to you or begin a "cold war" in your home.
   
   Oh and if you're thinking "No problem I'll drive, do the chore and handle the finances" ...well you're not allowed to do that either because the man MUST be "in control."
   
   This logic does not work in the reverse. Apparently women can and should listen to their husband's criticisms, suggestions and opinions because they are valuable. I'm confused ...men can take control of a situation for a woman, teach her, lead her, but is incapable of benefiting in any way if a woman does that for him? Doyle coaches women to suppress their aggravation if a man has done a disrespectful action such as ruin the silk sheets because he spilled coffee all over it and didn't clean it up. She says instead to weigh that action against the whole marriage and ask yourself which is more important the sheets or your marriage? So if I tell my husband he made a mistake he might leave me?
   
   I agree that the way to effective communication is not through yelling, insulting or belittling but that doesn't mean to silence your self altogether! There are so many levels in between. Andrew Carnegie's book "How to Make Friends and Influence People" while not in the context of marriage is the happy medium that teaches respectful talk while still speaking your mind. PLEASE don't lose yourself in a marriage just because you want a husband!



2. The Surrendered Wife is a book for women who are willing to take a step back and re-learn her love for her husband. I have been married for exactly 9 months now with my first love and first husband. We were made for each other as almost complete opposites. Where I want to fight an issue until it is resolved, he wants to stop and take a step back to breath for a minute. I recently found myself wondering what was going wrong. We were arguing every day about something, even the smallest thing. Somehow we managed to make up recently, but I still felt like there was something different that had to be done besides the usual. Nothing was working my way, so I walked into Barnes and Noble on a mission.
   
   When he and I first started dating, I purchased The Surrendered Wife. As I read the book, I set it on the bedside table because I had no idea what she was talking about. Since we were not married yet, I thought to myself, "None of that will happen to me." Eventually it was sent to the dump. However, when I saw it on the shelf in B&N, I knew I should read it again. That was Sunday. Today is Wednesday, and I have already seen the affects her techniques have made. We were driving home in the car from worship when I started reading. As I read through the first few chapters, I started feeling guilty immediately. It was embarrassing to see myself through the words in that book.
   
   In her introduction she begins by identifying "The Origin of Control." I had NEVER thought of myself as a controller. I don't have the main portion of money in my account, and he already pays all the bills. Yet, as we were driving along, I suddenly thought of many situations where I was trying to control my husband, rather than allow him to be who he is. I cannot even remember all the things I apologized for, but it was about 7 times by the end of the night. When we got home, he came in the door after unloading the car to announce I had left the light on from reading my book. I said, "Oh, did you turn it off?" He said, "Yep." When I smiled at him and said, "Thank you." He said, "Wow. There was something different in your eyes when you said that. It was refreshing." Then he hugged me and kissed me. It was funny because I was feeling lighter from my apologies and just thought it was nice he had done that so I did not have to go back out to deal with it. For MY mistake of leaving the light on, I was REWARDED by hugs and kisses!!!
   
   Later in the night after my seventh time apologizing, he said, "It makes you feel lighter doesn't it? Less of a burden." I heard his heart message (Chapter 18) in that. He was not telling me that he felt like I NEEDED to apologize, but it was his way of saying he was feeling better too. The baggage from dating and marriage was slowly pealing away, and we were BOTH feeling good.
   
   Even today, when I found out I had a meeting from 4:30-6:30, I found myself controlling. I emailed him at work to let him know I would not be home in time to make dinner. I let him know that there was food to make tacos, but that there was really nothing else if he did not want to cook. His response was to tell me that tacos sounded good. Well, I immediately hit the respond button and proceeded to spell out how to make the tacos! He is not a dumb idiot. I rewrote the email 4 times to make sure I was not instructing him. Instead, I wrote this: "This sounds like fun! I'm looking forward to coming home to tacos!" Now he has something to look forward to: providing dinner for me without my nagging and providing for my needs. We'll have fun and not argue. It was HARD leaving it up to him to get the job done. I could go home, and he has not started yet. I plan on just taking some "self-help time" (Chapter 4) and relaxing for once! Or, I can get that laundry done that has been in great need. I do not plan on taking over, but instead, I'm going to rely on him to get it done.
   
   Doyle's book is not for EVERYONE. However, if you are at least willing to give it a try, I suggest taking the challenge. There will be ups and downs, but if you just hate it, I would try something else. If you want hugs and kisses...it's worth the risk.



3. I read this book about 6 years ago, with a pretty normal, dual-career, 3 kids marriage. I started trying her ideas. Our marriage got better. Then, I decided that I resented doing this. (By the way, our marriage got worse at that point, maybe coincidence-?) To make a long story short, I am definitely back to surrendering to my husband, as much for him as for me. I am calmer, happier, and 100% obedient. He's the best husband on earth. I needed to ease up on personal pride and once that happened, I can't explain to you how much it feels like it is supposed to be this way. When obedience and submission to your husband are offered voluntarily out of respect for him, there is no implication of me being a second class citizen or less intelligent or whatever. Forced submission out of fear is wrong, unproductive, and bad for marriage. But what Laura Doyle is talking about is in our hearts, and voluntary, and initiated by the wife. I do think though, that the woman should not work outside the home. (Ms. Doyle does not feel this way necessarily). That is why I started resenting the idea of submission initially, because the demands on me were unrealistic. But once I stopped working, aha! Then it fell into place. If a woman works outside the home, she has too much to do to attend to her husbands needs, AND she is mixed up in two different energies: work (competing with other companies or workers; time-frenzies) and home (routine, calming, quiet, etc.) But when she can stay home and be a wife, she comes into her own world and it all fits together. This is a great book.



4. I love this book and am now reading it for the third time. It is just full of common sense wisdom about how to have harmony in marriage by giving up the fight to always be right, have everything done your way, have the last word, etc. Here's a typical nugget (p. 55), "Either you hold your tongue and preserve harmony or you speak critically and create a chasm of resentment and resistance." The advice is excellent, practical, and has the potential to change your marriage for the better.



5. Follow the suggestions in this book only if you want to "bend over and take it" for the rest of your marriage. This is one of the most unbalanced books I have ever read. You would think it was written by a man trying to take advantage of his wife without accepting any responsibility for his own actions. In actuality it was written by a former self-proclaimed feminist, who is clearly prone to extremism, and now clearly leans way too far into the submissive realm.
   
   If you have any pride in yourself as a woman...or if you actually want to be happy...do not follow the recommendations in this book. Thank God, we, as women, finally have a voice in this nation. This book would set women's rights back centuries. I have been happily married 11 years. Marriage is a 2 way street. Completely ignoring yourself should never be the goal for any wife...and your husband shouldn't want that for you either. We can be strong women, and enjoy chivalrous actions from our partners...all without losing ourselves or our dignity along the way. There is a happy medium to everything in life...a delicate balance to peacefully co-existing...YOU WILL NOT FIND IT IN THIS BOOK.

5 comments about Beyond the Influence: Understanding and Defeating Alcoholism.

1. I was so impressed with the service and the quality of my purchase that I will come here first for all my college books. I am so grateful to have found a place where it is easy and priced right to find my textbooks without any hassle. Thanks Amazon



2. This is an awesome book for anyone who wants to really understand the disease of alcoholism. As a recovering alcoholic it helped me through a difficult time. It also helped my family members understand what I was going through. It explains what is going on chemically inside the brain of an alcoholic. It addresses many of the issues we go through. I even bought one for my doctor.



3. In Under The Influence Dr. Milam clearly outlines the physiological causes of alcoholism, the progressive nature of the disease, and the solution.
   
   The authors of Beyond the Influence have done a great disservice to anyone struggling with this disease by taking the valid evidence from Under The Influence and tossing in erroneous "causes" of alcoholism. This mishmash of ideas only serves to throw the struggling alcoholic back into the confusion that makes successful recovery nearly impossible.
   
   The brilliance of Under The Influence is this: When the alcoholic understands the true nature of the disease, all the guilt and remorse resulting from the life led "Under The Influence" vanishes. Without the weight of this guilt and remorse recovery is easily attainable. The alcoholic understands that they did not cause their disease any more than they caused their hair color. If only the rest of society would catch up with what Dr. Milam wrote in 1981.
   
   The authors of Beyond the Influence say:
   
   "Alcoholism is caused by biochemical/neurophysiological abnormalities that are passed down from one generation to the next or, in some cases, acquired through heavy or prolonged drinking."
   
   and:
   
   "Over a period of several years and sometimes decades, the social drinker is irreversibly transformed into an alcoholic."
   
   The guilt is back. They are saying the alcoholic caused the disease. This Is A Lie. This lie has killed countless alcoholics and will continue to do so aided by Beyond the Influence.
   
   We live in a culture that has been overcome by the concept of "Fair and Balanced." That in order to discern the truth both sides of an issue must be presented. It is not Fair and Balanced to mix lies in with the truth. The truth stands alone.
   
   It was not necessary to "update" Under The Influence. It is important for anyone concerned about the devastating impact of alcoholism to read Under The Influence. The authors of this "sequel" should have re-read it.
   
   Dr. Milam's first book, The Emergent Comprehensive Concept of Alcoholism, and his more recent position papers can be read or downloaded from his website Alcoholism Again http://www.alcoholismagain.com.



4. The authors here perpetuate the confusion that has existed all along about alcoholism, even while claiming science on their side.
   
   Only a born alcoholic can be an alcoholic, is the strong claim on page 5.
   
   But they go on to say that behavioral tests are still the most reliable way to predict alcoholism (p. 112). The problem is that the tests that they administer will create a "positive" for almost anyone who drinks regularly. "Problem drinkers" will certainly score high on these behavioral tests. But the authors are at pains to say that many, if not a majority, of "problem drinkers" are NOT alcoholics (p. 105). In my view, "problem drinkers," with their outrageous misbehaviors, are more likely to be thought of as alcoholics than true born alcoholics who are operating in the "high-function" area between early- and middle-stage alcoholism. Although many "problem drinkers" are alcoholics, not all alcoholics present themselves as "problem drinkers." The tests would mistakenly nail the one group, and also mistakenly miss the other. Are you confused? If you're not, then you haven't been paying attention.
   
   For me, the clarity cited in my review title comes from reading Ketcham's earlier book, "Under the Influence." It was a huge light bulb that came on in reading the descriptions of acetaldehyde in our bodies. In Milam and Ketcham's description, the distinction between the born alcoholic and the non-alcoholic centered on how early (after the first drink) acetaldehyde appeared in the bloodstream, and how long it persisted there. Born alcoholics generated more acetaldehyde in their systems more quickly, and they evacuated it more slowly. If the persistent presence of acetaldehyde in the system (with its attendant metabolic transformations) is the primary thing that leads to alcohol addiction, then that leads to an inescapable conclusion... eventually, anyone that drinks long enough and hard enough will exceed his or her ability to efficiently evacuate acetaldehyde from their system... eventually, if you drink long enough and hard enough, acetaldehyde will be present in your system, and you'll subject yourself to its addiction-causing effects... eventually, you'll become an alcoholic.
   
   This would explain delayed-onset alcoholism. A truly "born" alcoholic could become irretrievably lost after a few short years of problem drinking. But a "problem drinker" who is not born to alcoholism might drink heavily for 20 years, give up without difficulty for a whole year (impossible if you're middle-stage or later), return to 20 years of hard drinking and finally, in retirement, be diagnosed as a late-stage alcoholic. I've seen any number of cases of this long-onset alcoholism, and it's always been puzzling, but the acetaldehyde model explains it quite well.
   
   The inescapable conclusion of reading between the lines of "Under the Influence" was that ANYONE CAN BECOME AN ALCOHOLIC.
   
   That conclusion is supported by the behavioral tests in "Beyond the Influence," but we're still left with the insistent claim that many "problem drinkers" will not become alcoholic, even if they continue heavy drinking throughout their adult lives, and that the distinction is black and white.
   
   So which is it? The only reason I'm not confused is because I believe what I've read in "Under the Influence," and I believe that ANYONE CAN BECOME AN ALCOHOLIC. It may take 40 years for the full symptoms to appear, but if you abuse for long enough they WILL appear, and you WILL be an alcoholic... all you have to do is the acetaldehyde math. It's also clear that if you stay below your acetaldehyde evacuation threshold, you can stay out of trouble, but that the acetaldehyde evacuation threshold isn't that high for most of us (the problem is that we don't have reliable ways of determining our acetaldehyde evacuation threshold). That's what I believe. It's as clear as a bell, which is more than can be said for "Beyond the Influence."
   
   "Beyond the Influence" almost seems like it pre-dates "Under the Influence." It features less science and more behavior. "Beyond the Influence" should have benefited from almost 20 years of hindsight and improved technology. Instead, the lines are fuzzier, not clearer.
   
   Oh, and one last thing. Ketchams's been right all along about one thing. However you got there, if you're an alcoholic, once you're there, it's definitely physiological.



5. This is a wonderful book that updates readers on the newest research in dealing with alcoholism. A must for every professional therapist and recovering person to read.

5 comments about Good Grief.

1. I worked for Hospice Austin and we used this book in our grief counseling groups. It is an excellent guide to the stages of the grieving process.



2. This book "Good Grief" was a most helful little book to me. It tells the
   syptoms of greif in truly honest manner. It brings comfort and hits the
   symtems right on the nail's head. I ordered three more copies for my adult
   children, who had just lost their father, {my husband[.
   My pastor recommended it to me.
   
   In faith of God's love, Doris A. Voller



3. Excellent material for anyone going through deep grief whether death or deep pain and disappointment.



4. Good Grief is an excellent book for all families that have lost a loved one. We are never parpared for death, this book leads you through the griefing process and makes it much easier.



5. I got five copies of this book to give to co-workers who had deaths in the family. I got them quickly and in excellent condition. All of the recipients said they were helped by the books. Thanks so much.

5 comments about In The SpotLight, Overcome Your Fear of Public Speaking and Performing.

1. There are a lot of self-help books on the market that deal with the fear of public speaking. But I can say first-hand that if you are looking for help in how to overcome this fear, this is the best one you can buy.
   
   The book is more than just speaking tips or techniques---it takes you right to the heart of the issue, which I found to be surprisingly helpful. It helps you understand where the fear is coming from in the first place and how to ultimately overcome it. I read the book about a year ago, and have re-read certain chapters many times since then as both a resource and a confidence booster when I've have a big speech coming up.
   
   There's not much more I can say, other than I bought the book. It helped me. I highly reccomend it to anyone who is looking for help with this very common fear.



2. Reading Janet's book was a revelation for me. It was amazing to find that someone understood exactly how I felt when I found out that I had to speak in public and the torture I imposed on myself leading up to, during and after speaking. But better yet, she not only empathizes with the reader, but provides a clear path to overcoming the torture. So enjoy the empathy, but enjoy even more the tools for success!



3. The author had first-hand stage fright experience and she shared the techniques that she learned to overcome the stage fright and to go beyond the fright to enjoy being in the spot light. The skills are very valuable for a stage fright person like me, and are also valuable for teachers of music who would want to learn how to help students with stage fright.
   
   The skills mentioned in the book are transferable skills that can be used to reduce stress and to cultivate positive self-esteem. Teachers can use these excellent skills to help their students.
   
   It was by far the best book that offers alternative and possible solutions to shift the stage fright paradigm. The book has been helpful to me as a personal growth tool and in other areas of my life, in addition to the performance anxiety challenges. One day I was feeling down, and reading chapter 10 of the book re-channeled me to something more funny and pleasant and I was uplifted. That was a powerful experience.
   
   The book is easy, fun and enjoyable to read. Once you start reading, it is hard to stop reading.



4. I would listen to this CD to sleep, not for my anxiety. The best thing for anxiety is Celexa and EMDR. I bought this CD with the book and it's terrible. It states the obvious and is not helpful at all.
   
   Sorry, but it sucks.



5. I am a college student studying Business and I've had a long history of anxiety and panic with being "In the Spotlight." I finally got sick of living in fear-- that a teacher would call on me or that I would have to give a presentation. If a presentation was listed on the syllabus for a class I would have a panic attack right there just in anticipation! I was finally fed up and joined Toastmasters about a year ago. I then set a goal to start the only Speech club on my college campus. At this point, I was still VERY nervous about public speech and decided to read this book in preparation of the first Speech club meeting.
   
   This book helped me in many, many ways. It helped to go forward with that first meeting for the Speech club-- something I had been dreading for months and months! There are many positive and useful techniques: positive thinking, reassurance training, breathing techniques, getting to the source of the anxiety... The list goes on!
   
   I still get nervous giving speeches and continue to have small panic attacks when put on the spot in a class. I know that if I continue to face this fear and use constructive techniques such as the ones in this book, I will slowly grow out of it. Good luck!

5 comments about The Road Less Traveled and Beyond: Spiritual Growth in an Age of Anxiety.

1. I have not read many of M. Scott Peck's books although they have all been highly reccomended. I got this one and it was a PERFECT PLACE TO JUMP IN FOR NEW READERS. He briefly summarizes the highlights of his works and then goes further to bring in his more recent insights. A great book.



2. Practical, level headed advice. Great psychological insights!
   
   This book would make a great gift for friends or relatives who may be searching for some understanding and meaning in their lives.
   
   I recommend this book!



3. Again M. Scott Peck has created a tool for discovering meaning in the complexity of life. There are answers to be found in the reading of this masterpiece.



4. It's true, this book is not an "easy" read. I have been stuck at some points in the book because what he said rang so true to my life. I've had to take his ideas seriously into account and review my thinking style. Which has been quite erroneous, not due to me, but to a bad upbringing. Also, being a human soul, I need to progress. So what do I do? I need to change the way I think to a more realistic way. "Know the truth and the truth will set you free". Thinking with God is now my #1 ambition.
   
   I like the real life case studies he presents from his practice as a shrink. I can relate to many of these people. They are like me in many ways ( neurotic). It has given me a new perspective on my past. In my opinion, that's all that therapy can do for you, e.g., give you new framework to view your life from. I've had a little therapy, but so far, the best way I've discovered is to learn a new way of thinking about everything. That's a lot of work and many will not go there.
   
   I like the quotes he makes from the wisdom of great thinkers. He stresses that life is complex, no way around it. No easy way of thinking either. It's not black vs white. The gray area is the reality.
   
   He delves into the world of psycho-therapy. It's hard work to face therapy and " the truth" . Often, people live like ostriches with their heads buried up to their necks in sand to escape the truths they ought to face up to.
   
   His view of the purpose of life as a training ground for learning is very interesting. I'm also reading Rick Warren's "The Purpose Driven Life" and this ties into his thinking perfectly. We are a creation of God, we live here in His power for His purposes during our time here. The creation can't out think the creator, that's for certain. Maybe all this was covered in his earlier books, I don't know because I didn't read them.
   
   This book has been my therapist for a few weeks. It's a good thing.



5. Excellent book in a series or spiritually invigorating books. Particulary good in today's age of fear and rampant consumerism.

5 comments about Now, Discover Your Strengths.

1. Nice concept that could have been handled with a 10 page paper. Clearly authors had to have some volume to prove value so they drone on and on and on. Very tedious reading. Then at every turn they continue to try to sell other products or services. The major killer is having an online exam to evalute your strengths; however, the code is only good once - so DON'T buy a used book as your code will be invalid. If the exam is a work related exercise, you'll be forced to buy a new book just for the code. Also, DON'T let your spouse read the book. If you do, they'll want to take the exam and suprise suprise, you would need another new book just to take the test.



2. [As a corporate human resources director, I often work on developing the latent talents and skills of various managers. Years ago, I taught a class where I had each participant to look into a hand-held mirror and ask the question, "Would you want to work for this person?"
   
   This book takes this exercise to a completely different level. To discover your own inner strengths (and weakness) ensures that you will become the very best manager possible. As a fan of First, Break All the Rules, I was very satisfied that this follow-up was as timely and useful as the first book. I highly recommend you purchase a copy of this book for yourself and for all of your managers. Michael L. Gooch, SPHR Author of
   [ASIN:1897326882 Wingtips with Spurs]]



3. I think the subject of the book is good, however a big part of dicovering your strengths is taking the on line strength finder quiz. Unfortunatley for me the code provided on the inside of the jacket is either invalid or has been used by someone already.
   So as I read this book I will be left to wonder "what are my strengths..."



4. Probably the best management and personnel development tool around! Four staff members were each given a copy to read and to follow the instructions for getting an analysis. Each was asked to bring the analysis for their annual job review. They expected the typical "this is good and that is bad" comments but found that when they reviewed their positive traits they were asked "how can you apply that in your job?" Ar real morale and performance builder.



5. Marcus Buckingham is truly an inspiring writer and this book really helps one identify their great strengths. I loved this book. Also highly recommend "Running with the Rhinos" by Christian Warren as a companion book. excellent insight in terms of leading with your strengths.

5 comments about Mama Gena's School of Womanly Arts : Using the Power of Pleasure to Have Your Way with the World.

1. I didn't know what to expect when I read this book, but I heard Christine Northrup mention it in her recent talk and decided to check it out. I wish I had this book when I was twenty, it would have saved me a lot of tears over lost loves-and guilt when it comes to dating several men. But its never too late to read this.. Almost 30 years later I'm learning what every mother should be teaching their daughters. Mama Gena gives out exercises-some aren't surprising, but one in particular was well worth buying the book-she refers to it as Bitte et Chat and it really changes the way the world responds to you..Her book gave me the courage to asked a guy to dinner-something I was taught never to do-he was pretty surprised as we had formally talked for months. His first personal question to me was "What do you like to do for fun" after reading her book I now recognize the significance of his question and now know this guy has potential.



2. I love Moma Gena's attitudes about having more fun and pleasure for both the man and the woman. What happens outside the bedroom clearly translates into the bedroom. This book is one of my favorites!



3. I've never given a book a one-star review before. The one star is for the exercises in the book but the writing itself is awful. What a waste of money. I'm not even going to give this one to the library -- it's going straight into the recycling bin.



4. I can't remember how many copies of this book I've given away to my girlfriends. It sounds silly, but I'm not kidding: this book has changed my life. Nowhere else in our culture have I found a woman who made such a strong case for women owning their power and enjoying life.
   
   I'm not saying everyone will get it, but I am saying it was nothing short of transformational for me -- it's all about pleasure. GETTING IT, not giving it. Trust me: Mama Gena is right.



5. It was the pink cover that attracted me. I picked it up, and put it down a few different times.
   
   I ended up reading the book over the course of one week, while relaxing each evening in a perfumed bath. How fitting, since the book is all about pleasure. Specifically, female pleasure - of every kind.
   
   Having my way with the world - radiating joy and pleasure as a means to attract, to draw wonderful things toward me--how revolutionary! And better, so much better than what's currently playing on the "female misery" channel!
   
   I tried out Mama Gena's suggestions - "pleasure exercises" mainly because they seemed like fun. People in my world, even strangers, began to respond immediately, treating me like a delicious dish that they could not get enough of ... Just as Mama Gena predicted.
   
   It's quite the adventure, learning to use fun and enjoyment as the barometer for how to lead one's life.
   
   I noticed a copy of this book in my local bookstore yesterday, the last one left on the shelf. Pink as ever, and just as alluring. I'm saying to you now: why not take it out for a spin?
   
   You'll be amazed at how much fun and pleasure can be squeezed into the most ordinary day.
   
   Turn off the "female misery" channel once and for all - and start really living.

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