5 comments about Ride 'Em Cowgirl! Sex Position Secrets For Better Bucking.

1. You know the old joke that goes, "What ONE food causes a woman to lose her desire for sex?" and of course the answer is "wedding cake." Well, I've just found a way to reverse the ill effects of all those sugary carbs in a book called "Ride `em Cowgirl!" and WOW---hold on to your dear wife!
   
   My bride and I followed Dr. Sadie's prescription and read the book together in bed, which was a lot of fun because we could look at all the ideas and positions and laugh, relax and rekindle (without relocating!). Dr Sadie's sure right about finding your best sex positions: it's not about contorting yourselves into rubbery Cirque du Soleil knots that leads to better sex---it's about SLIGHTLY adjusting your already favorite positions for more intimate, pleasurable contact. Now instead of being one trick ponies we've become a pair of bucking broncos. Whodathought?
   
   We (okay, I) browsed in a bookstore and flipped through a bunch of sex position books, which is awkward when other shoppers suddenly appear in the same aisle, especially attractive young blondes looking at the `help me mend my broken heart' books on the very next shelf. Anyway, I ended up buying "Ride `em Cowgirl" on Amazon, which not only sounded like a good wedding cake antidote, but I wouldn't have to feel awkward handing it directly to yet another attractive blonde at the cashier's stand who'd undoubtedly ask if I'd like to join their eager-reader's discount book buying club, but would actually be thinking, "What kind of cowgirl does this guy think he is?" Amazon quickly delivered in a plain brown box with that cute smile under their logo that suddenly started looking more and more like a wicked little grin. That Bezos!
   
   I digress. Those other books I'd flipped through in the store and left for someone else were either boring (really...how do you make sex BORING?), preachy, impractical, wordy (with no illustrations), illustrated (with cutesy position names), too clever for their own good, too dated to still be around, too expensive for what they delivered ... you get the picture. Yet, here's what it all really comes down to: DO YOU WANT BETTER SEX? If so, then this is your book. It's a perfect blend of advice and illustrations, funny and sexy all at the same time, easy and comfortable to read with your partner. And it works. Uhhhh, what's that, honey? Not now, I'm writing. Really? You're kidding! Right now? You're NOT kidding! Why, um ... of course, yeah, sure, wow, yes, absolutely!
   
   It's been fun. Gotta ride...



2. It may sound corny but my boyfriend brought this book home and it's really revolutionized our sex life. For him it told him all the little things that we wish men knew but never remember to tell them because we just assume that they should know since it's so natural to us. Dr. Sadie really takes the guesswork out of giving each other pleasure. Thank you!



3. For my fifth anniversary, I decided I needed to spice things up a bit and bought this book and a couple of others. Sex Deck: Playful Positions to Spice Up Your Love Life- are a deck of "cards" designed with a position on front and the description on back. Was that an earthquake? The Sensuous Couple's (Flip Over) Guide to Seismic Oral Sex- is a fun flip over format with cunnilingus on one side and fellatio on the other. We enjoyed quite an anniversary romp and enjoyed reading Ride Um Cowgirl in bed later. It's not about impossible contortions but finding the best positions that work for both of you. It's all about making sex fun for both partners. These three items lived up to my hopes and expectations and sex before and after the anniversary has never been better.



4. Even if you're sexually skillful, you can stand to learn more illustrative and explanatory sexual contact.



5. I loved this book and really got a kick out of it. It's full of all kinds of different positions and ideas, and is written in a fun, friendly, informative manner. It's a good one to look through by yourself or with a partner. I would highly recommend this book.

5 comments about Flipping the Switch...: Unleash the Power of Personal Accountability Using the QBQ!.

1. I used this book for our annual staff retreat. It is great for employee development of personal accountability. This book has made a difference in the lives of my employees and subsequently in the culture of our company!



2. I think the book is so great that I purchased several copies for my employees to help them see what I saw...personal responsibility starts with ME! This books teaches you how to practically apply "giving" and "serving." It's about ME. I also think our politicians should read this book to learn what REAL personal responsibility is so that they can stop blaming the government for not doing enough.
   
   I'm responsible. It's about me. I change! It's not about them. It's MY life and I can change.



3. I liked the first book and it really got me thinking of all those IQ's in my life and how to get rid of them. I think I expected the same thing with this book but for whatever reason I came away feeling let down. It just seemed like less substance than the first and more of a fluff of highlights while trying to cling on to book 1. NOT a bad read but not as inspiring as the first.



4. Flipping the switch is a very enjoyable read in which the author John Miller is basically asking the question: Would you rather be part of the problem or the solution? To be part of the solution, all it takes, according to him, is a shift in perspective. Instead of asking "why me?" switch to "what can I do?". It is a simple shift, which takes you from the victim's chair into the driver's seat and allows you to experience satisfaction and transformation in all areas of your life.
   
   In this respect the book reminded me very much of the work of Ariel and Shya Kane Working on Yourself Doesn't Work: A Book About Instantaneous Transformation , How To Create a Magical Relationship and Being Here: Modern Day Tales of Enlightenment. The Kanes also present the idea that a shift in perspective can transform your life instantaneously and take you from the realm of working on yourself and thinking, to the realm of being yourself and being enlightened. Instantaneous Transformation is accessible when you flip the switch and choose to be present in the moment rather than lost in your thoughts.
   
   I highly recommend both the work of John Miller and Ariel and Shya Kane to anybody looking to live a "bright" life!



5. Flipping the Switch is a great follow up to QBQ. The concept of QBQ is great but to really make it a core value, it takes follow up and understanding on the part of the leaders. This book helps leaders to understand what is needed to make personal accountability a core value. It is a little more to think about than QBQ, but very helpful. It will be part of the whole package of personal accountability for me.

5 comments about Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations For Working Through Grief.

1. Healing after Loss: Daily Meditations for Working Through Grief by Martha Whitmore Hickman is very helpful after the death of a loved one. The author has experienced the loss of her daughter. My father died. Even though I feel that Martha's loss must be so much more difficult than mine, the comforting words and the thought for each day helped me to understand that grief may be experienced in many ways and it must be worked through in an individual way. I bought several copies to give to others when they experience loss.
   Although there is some reference to religion, the over-riding message is comfort.



2. This book is a daily reminder that healing takes time, but it does happen.
   I start my day and end my day by reading the meditation of the day and it is very uplifting, practical and very easy to relate to when one is in the process of healing and grieving after the loss of a loved one. I gave it to our daughter and she found it to be just what she needed to help her with her healing and grieving.



3. Earlier this year my 43 year old daughter died unexpectedly of liver failure and I was searching for encouraging, inspirational support of my grief. Turning to Amazon I found several reviews that sounded promising and the free shipping on the order made me consider "Healing After Loss" as an add on under the listing of "People Who Bought....Also Bought...".
   This small book has become the single most helpful tool in my journey through grief. The author unexpectedly lost her teenaged daughter and offers a unique perspective on the deep bond between mother and daughter without being overtly maudlin or "religious". However, the book is appropriate for anyone experiencing loss, not only of a child but also of a spouse or other loved one and certainly for professionals involved with the bereavement process.



4. I received many books after the death of my husband but ths one is by far the very best. It is beautifully written and very helpful to the bereaved no matter he or she happens to be on the journey of grief recovery. I lead a bevreavement group and give a copy of this book to our members and also to other persons who are suffering a loss. Very worhtwhile.



5. After my husband passed away I purchased many books dealing with grief and loss, trying to find words that spoke to me. This book was it. Even after two years I still read passages. Martha Hickman writes in a way that is comforting and inspirational. I have given this book to many friends, aquaintances and colleguse to help them through their journey of loss and healing.

5 comments about The Law of Success In Sixteen Lessons by Napoleon Hill (Complete, Unabridged).

1. I received this book as expected and am pleased with the service. The book is excellent.



2. The concepts in this book were the one's that the author used to compile "Think and Grow Rich". Buy this book if you are an avid fan of the concepts and principles of success and want to read them in a slightly different format and organization. Otherwise, you can get basically the same information from the compiled book mentioned earlier.



3. This book is truly a Bible for success, and is full of amazing concepts.
   
   Now you can listen in your car or MP3 player!
   
   This is the ONLY true unabridged audio edition of this book available in the world. This MP3 CDs utilizes the original, unabridged text, thus capturing the entire essence of this all time motivational Classic.
   
   Listen to the sweet sound of success



4. In reguards to the comment about this book being too long: First, this book (the original which is the 16 lessons version) was out about 10 yrs before "think and grow rich". Second, and more importantly, the depth of this book is essential to living life the way you want to live it. Not just because you want a few good ideas in your head for a couple days only to be forgotten a month later.
   For example, what lasts longer: a puddle of water, or an ocean? Of course an ocean. A puddle dries up quickly because it has limited substance. On the other hand, an ocean withstands the droughts.
   This is a book for the person who is truly dedicated to the next level. A level of true achievement and freedom the "downers" in life. If your just looking for an interesting read, than purchase think and grow rich.



5. I ordered this book for my son who is IB Student. It is one of 3 on his summer reading list. We were unable to get it at the library so my wife located and ordered on Amazon. The book is in great condition and my son is already half through it. It was accompanied by a nice note from the seller. We are really happy with this purchase.

5 comments about Adult Children of Alcoholics.

1. In it's time, and for a very -long- time, this was what we had to go on. Woititz understood the dilemmas, the lost decades of our lives, the confusion that swung us hither and yon, and the loss of grasp of ourselves and the world around us that overwhelms the child of confusing, invalidating, ignoring, abandoning and abusive parenting. Though she framed it as she did, it is clear now that the 12 Step movement that sprang from her book includes the children of such parents regardless of their drinking or other substance abuse habits... or -lack- of them.
   
   My own mother did not drink heavily until well into my own adulthood, but she was surely one of "them" throughout her life... and mine. She had Munchausen's by Proxy, and I was her medical punk. Today, I find it wholly and entirely possible to accept her as the daughter of those who confused the h**l out of -her-.
   
   Wotitiz's 13 generalizations have opened the eyes of hundreds of thousands. Her work opened the floodgates of self-identification for Claudia Black, Melody Beattie, Patricia Evans and Pia Mellody, all of whom picked up the torch she inherited from Bill Wilson and Jimmy Kannon... and carried it to millions in the much larger Co-Dependents Anonymous 12 Step framework, as well as to those in "ACA." In a mere 118 pages, Woititz handed down a platform for recovery, as well as self-recognition. Her other work since then has put wheels under that platform, of course.
   
   In 2006, the first- and second-wave veterans of ACA published another book by the same title currently available on from ACA itself. Building hugely upon Woititz's work, the new ACA "big red book" not only expands upon the original thesis and identifications, it takes them into territory Woititz and the psychophilosophers of her time were as yet far from. The new book is now, as the old book was then, breaking new ground in lay language similar to what we're hearing in professional language these days from Bruce Perry, John Preston, Neil Bockian and Glen Gabbard.
   
   The ACA "book study" meeting I attend in the Victoria-era, university town of Redlands, California, began with Woititz, and has since moved on to the new book. I'm glad we did it that way. The new book is a very, -very- stiff dose of personal reality. I recommend it, but it occurs to me that it is -such- a stiff dose of reality that working up to it with the original of this same title makes a lot of practical - and emotional - sense. Recovery, after all, is not an event so much as a -process-.



2. This book is a must have for those who are in a relationship with ACOA's. Without this reading it is nearly impossible to understand the complexities experienced by your ACOA growing up and how those experiences are potrayed in adult hood. After reading this you will realise there is hope.



3. I can remember very clearly that day in '75 when my dad came home from the grocery store with an enormous green jug of some kind of liquid and I, being only ten years old, innocently asked him, "What's that dad?" He just kind of smiled a me and said, "Oh, that? That's joy juice, Johnny."
   
   I just kind of laughed it off.
   
   By the time I was fifteen years old I began to notice how quickly that "Joy Juice" seemed to disappear. My dad would buy maybe three or four of them aweek and not only were they in the refridgerator but I also found them in his closet.
   
   By the time I was twently, I realized that that stuff my dad called "Joy Juice" did not really give him any kind of joy at all. In fact, the more of it he drank, the meaner he got...at least that was my perception. Maybe I noticed it more than my other siblings because for some reason I bore the brunt of his anger. I felt as though I was the source of all his disappointment and anger. I often felt guilty abut my dad's drinking. If only I stayed in college then my dad wouldn't have drank so much...if only I loved him more than he wouldn't need to drink...if only...if only...if only...I even thought that if I ended my own life, my dad's would be so much better.
   
   After a botched suicide attempt, I was literally thrown into the world of healing and recovery. A lot of the books that I read at that time came to me rather than me coming to them. Such is the case with this book.
   
   My eyes well up with tears when I think of this devastatingly beautiful book. It was the first book that told me what my condition really was; I was an adult child of an alcoholic. Those words were not a soothing balm. They sting just as much now as they did when I first read them.
   
   I remember thinking, but my dad can't be an alcoholic. My uncle was, that was for sure. They found Uncle Ralph dead in a South Carolina gutter. He never knew how to handle his life, but my dad was a brilliant man and an incredible English teacher who had won more than his fair share of awards. He was witty and charming and people loved him but my dad had more than a few demons wandering around in his psyche and when those demons got the better of him he was dark and lonely, insecure and afraid. He was running from something but I never quite knew what it was.
   
   This book made me so angry that I could only read a paragraph at a time at first. I often felt while reading it the urge to scream while still on other days I often found myself running to the bathroom and throwing up due to the stress I was feeling about confronting my own demons regarding my dad's alcoholism.
   
   But even though I was learning about my dad's illness - and that is exactly what alcoholism is, I was, at age 25, going to the bars with my best friend and getting drunk at least 4 nights out of seven and one night, I guess they call this a "moment of clarity" I looked at my friend(whose mother was also an alcoholic) after drinking my third Stoli's on the rocks and I said, "Hey, do you think we're becoming alcoholics like our parents?" He looked at me and just smiled, "Well, if we're not than we are kinduv wasting our money." And I looked at him and I just remember feeling partially frozen and partially horrified and I looked at that glass of vodka and back at my friend and said, "If that's the case, then I don't want to do this anymore." And I walked out of that bar feeling alone, scared, and yet willing to have my life completely change.
   
   I finally got through this book and then I read it again and again. I finally got the urge to attend an Al-Anon meeting and I stood up and said those words that often change lives, "My name is John and I'm the child of an alcoholic..." And the weight that came off my shoulders that evening was so incredible.
   
   Who knew I had wings? That was all I needed to say. That was all I ever needed to say.
   
   Last month my dad was admitted into the ER. His drinking had finally caught up with him. He had permanently damaged his central nervous system and has thrown his balance completely off. I sat with him at his bedside as he told the doctor that he only drank "a glass or two". At almost 81 years old, he's still lying. But his lies are more and more transparent. The doctor knew he was dealing with an alcoholic but I knew that this man laying in that bed was a brilliant teacher, a witty and charming man, a man who had his demons, a man who once completely terrified me and had me convinced me that I wasn't "good enough", a man suffering from the dis-ease of alcoholism and I just held his hand.
   
   I love this book but I am more than an adult child of an alcoholic just as the alcoholic is more than an alcoholic. We are all children of Love, of Life, of Light Itself. We all have wings and if we are willing to go through the darkness, we will find light...not by analyzing the darkness...but by admitting to ourselves that we are good enough to heal our lives and bring forth who we already are within.
   
   Peace and Blessings,
   john, "the Light Coach"



4. In her study of adults who as children were reared in homes where one or both of the parents were an alcoholic, Woititz discovered 13 characteristics of adult children of alcoholics. When I read the list, I thought: "Hey, 12 out of 13 ain't bad." Only later did I discover that had I been telling myself the truth, I'd have scored a perfect 100%. And all this with both of my parents total abstainers from alcohol. How come? In her introduction, Woititz acknowledges that after her study was completed, they discovered that the same characteristics (and solutions) also apply to children reared in homes where, for example, there was an individual with a disability, nonchemical addictions (i.e., work, sex, religion), or some other kind of obsession that demanded everyone else in the family fit in and around and aid that obsession. Although my parents have long since passed away, I still find the book helpful in understanding some of my behaviors that even I find bewildering. And in hope that it may benefit others who haven't yet come to see the forces that helped mold them into the person they are today, I've made this book a gift.



5. The book teaches you about lifestyles of alcoholics and what they experience during the time of living at home.

5 comments about Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers, Third Edition.

1. This was a little to complicated for me. Everyhting was explained by science etc. I don't think an avarage person would enjoy this at all.



2. Of science books purporting to explain science for the non-scientist, this one actually does it (with interesting examples and wit). I enjoyed reading (and understanding) about which hormones influence what we feel, and how they are triggered.



3. It didn't save my life but I got your attention.
   Sapolsky's book is an absolute hoot. He is clever, entertaining, and passionate in his work. More than that he is humorous. Even more than that he is a literary genius. I have never enjoyed endocrinology and the physiological response to stress so much. I now understand what glucocorticords are without referencing my "Dorlands Medical Dictionary". The book is informative and written clearly enough for me to use it as a reference in my course "Stress Management" an undergraduate course in psychology. I'm eagerly anticipating the release of "ZEBRAS II, the sequel". Buy it, you'll like it.



4. Your body is a sophisticated machine. If it were an automobile, it would be a top-of-the-line, luxury-class vehicle with all of the latest options. There's just one problem: Your body was designed for the savannas of Africa, not the streets and sidewalks of some urban metropolis. This is a major issue due to one of your body's great fail-safe systems: the stress-response mechanism, also called the "fight-or-flight syndrome." This mechanism provides your body with its best chance to get away safely from sudden peril, such as when a lion attacks you. It immediately floods your muscles with robust energy. Thus strengthened, you are far more able to evade the hungry predator. Unfortunately, this same stress-response also kicks in during psychological stress. In much of modern city life (even without stalking lions), such stress is often chronic, making your stress-response mechanism work dangerously overtime, and putting your body at risk of numerous stress-related disorders and diseases. Robert M. Sapolsky, a leading neuroendocrinologist, explains it all in this lively and entertaining, yet highly informative book. He writes with delightful, ironic verve and dry, irrepressible wit. He details how chronic stress can undermine your health, and explains what you can do about it, even in the urban jungle. getAbstract feels calmer just suggesting that anyone experiencing stress could benefit from reading this book.



5. I will admit that it can be a bit technical for a few folks. His book makes you feel that he is teaching you in a classroom. The citations and references are informative.

5 comments about Ten Days to Self-Esteem.

1. This book is a very good resource for those who are battling depression. Whether you are a manic depressive, or just battling low self-esteem, this book breaks down everything for you and even has work book exercises to help you pin point the problem, then work on it. I highly recommend it.



2. I liked this book. It helped me alot. It was easy to understand but you have to write in it ALOT! You should get "The Feeling Good Handbook" by Dr. David Burns as well. Dr. Burns has you to read different chapters of the book to go along with Ten Days. I had to stop reading Ten Days and get the Feeling Good Handbook before I could finish.



3. This is an excellent companion to Ellen J. Langer's "Mindfulness". It provides practical techniques for becoming mindful in small decisions that can add up to big problems or big benefits.



4. 10 Days to Self Esteem is a staple in my practice working with clients coping with depression and anxiety. This is the one workbook where clients will consistently complete the exercises and homework. They have shared that the techniques are understandable and they can see their progress. The Cost benefit analysis is the one technique, however, clients /patients find dificult initially; but then catch on. My clients see improvement in themselves once they go through the entire workbook and that the most important. Thanks so much!
   Debra Irby, LCSW-C



5. I am still in the middle of reading this book...but so far I am delighted with its primary message: WE ALL HAVE CONTROL OVER OUR OWN MOODS! This book is filled with exercises, checklists and mood inventories...all designed to offer the reader an interactive role in their own healing.
   
   I have struggled with depression my entire life and because of this book am understanding the concept of healing myself through positive thoughts. I would recommend this book to anyone who struggles with depression, regardless of the severity.

5 comments about The History of Last Night's Dream: Discovering the Hidden Path to the Soul (Plus).

1. A powerful story of a seeker who found what he was looking for. From Israel to Denmark to a small town in rural Vermont, Kamenetz chases the dream until he catches up with it. This story of Kamenetz's awakening to the power of his own dreaming is heartbreaking, moving, and enlightening. This book may well change our collective view of dreaming forever. Even more phenomenal, though, is that Kamenetz has given each of us---dreamers all---a chance to finally hear what our dreams have been trying to tell us all along.



2. The History of Last Night's Dream is part spiritual autobiography and part historical analysis of how exactly the "revelation dream" lost its eminent status in early biblical times and how it is now reasserting itself in quiet, rural Vermont; reasserting itself in a way that is profoundly changing lives for the better. In the process, author Roger Kamenetz reveals how his own life was impacted, and finally transformed, by his dreams.
   
   This book provides a gentle introduction to a psychological and spiritual path known as Archetypal Dreamwork. It's written with enough scholarly background and credentials to quiet (or perhaps even please?) skeptical intellectuals. The particular method of working with dreams that was pioneered by Marc Bregman is probably not very palpable fare for the masses. But when it's presented by an author who's already made a name for himself with his penetrating religious studies - and, what's more, it's presented in the humble form of a human journey that becomes more and more personal as the story unfolds - the result is a book that may just be what this seemingly-esoteric path to spiritual healing and evolution needs to catch the eye of the mainstream. The fact that Roger recently shared his insights about the Work on Oprah's radio show seems to support my hunch...
   
   One's own healing is the greatest message of hope that can be imparted to others; and Roger Kamenetz has, within these pages, enshrined that hope with eloquence, honesty, courage, exhaustively-researched fact, and a healthy dose of wry wit and humor to wash it all down. Highly recommended for seekers (I suspect that there are more of us now than ever before) on all roads to the Mystery of the Soul.



3. Reading The History of Last Night's dream is like looking into the open door of a private home - only instead of seeing the furniture and decor - you get to feel into Kammenetz's soul. I am awed by his honesty and the 'direct hit' the dreams have for propelling him into what really appears to be true inner growth.I found that it started a little slow - but keep reading! It will blow your mind - and change your ideas about dreams!



4. This is an eye opening book. Dream work, as opposed to dream interpretation, involves developing a deeper and deeper relationship with the soul until you begin to see yourself as God sees you. It is transformative, and this is what Kamenetz's book is about. He presents some erudite background in the beginning of the book. He then describes his own journey into his soul in vulnerable and poignant terms, and how he was changed by the experience. I was inspired and moved. Thank you, Mr. Kamenetz.



5. This book, and it's contents has changed my life! And I'm NOT exaggerating. I have begun to dream as if my life depends on it. This book has opened a portal into a new and unknown inner world. I wholeheartedly recommend it to anyone who is interested in their dreams and the life changing messages they have to give us.

5 comments about Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life.

1. I found this book to be incredibly eye-opening and helpful, both as the daughter of a toxic mother and the parent of two children. The only thing that I am not sure about is whether confronting the toxic parent is always the best option. The most obvious questions in my mind were "What's the point? Why do you still want ANY relationship with this person? Why do you feel you owe this person ANYTHING? At what cost are you willing to keep trying?" Several years ago I made the very difficult decision to end my relationship with my mother when, after years of trying so hard to keep some relationship going and suffering for it, I finally found the courage to ask "what's in it for me?" and realized the answer was "absolutely nothing positive whatsoever". Also, being disgusted by her interactions with my children was a big factor. I profoundly miss having a mother, but I do not miss her or her poison.



2. I read this book when it first came out in the early 90s. It made me realize that my sister and I were not crazy - our mother was! Our mother had caused us a lot of pain with her belief that her needs always needed to come first. The book opened my eyes. We eventually both broke it off with the selfish monster and led much happier lives. Incredible book.



3. If Susan Forward never typed another word her life would be well spent. This book should be required reading for every expectant mother or couple... the sooner we stop the legacy of bad parenting the better. Just as important adults can figure themselves out better if they get a better insight into their own childhoods.
   
   I think one of the great unsung books on the subject of toxic parenting and the confusion it creates from an accomplished author about his own childhood is "Be Sweet" by Roy Blount Jr. It is pure genius and I highly recommend it. Interestingly, a lot of the reviewers and subsequent commenters don't "get it." I would hope that these books get discussed a lot on amazon; it is one of the greatest features of our times and can do a lot to enlighten us individually and as a society.
   
   Along the lines of pure psychological brilliance Alice Miller and Alexis Morgan (recently changed her author's name on amazon to Nancy Carter, author of "Fortresses to Build") are also incredible.



4. Toxic Parents is wonderful and extremely useful. I thoroughly enjoyed reading the second half of the book in particular. Susan Forward has written and explained various techniques to help you re-gain control of your life. There are that many techniques and activities that I doubt you wouldn't be able to find one that works for you.
   
   I found the book 'Controlling Parents' by Dan Neuharth to be better at explaining the different types of control and more about the insides to the problem, whereas this book I found to not be as in depth in that area. I just found that this book helped tremendously in regards to its therapy techniques.
   
   Overall, both books work extremely well hand in hand. I recommend them both, regardless of whether you are in therapy yourself or not. There is a lot you will learn and come to understand and ways in which you can help yourself regain control of your life and independence.



5. I cannot rate this product due to not receiving it. When I looked up the tracking number it said it was delivered, however, I did not get the package. I have contacted the post office, but they could not do anything. If you could help me resolve this I would be grateful as I will not pay for something I did not receive. Thank you.

5 comments about What to Say When you Talk To Yourself.

1. This is one of the greatest books that I have ever read on self-development. I am one of those people who tried other self-development techniques, found them successful, and stopped using them 2-3 months later because it took too much work. Mr. Helmstetter believed that, in order to change your habits or improve yourself for the better, the technique used must be easy and requires little to no efforts. And he's right. I recommend reading this book if you want to make yourself feel better at any situation, improve your attitude or be rid of any unwanted habit.



2. Lot's of experts tell you that self-talk is important for success & happiness. Shad Helmstetter explains why, clearly and with rational scientific support.
   
   More important: He delivers clear and simple steps to help change the way you talk to your self to realize your personal vision of success. This book must be part of your personal power library!
   
   Jim Bouchard
   Author of Dynamic Components of Personal Power
   Dynamic Components of Personal Power



3. If you really want a change in your life, this book is essential. You need to know how to program your own computer (brain) in order to make the change permanent. I highly recommend this book.
   John



4. Another tool in self development. Until you change, your world will remain the same. And the subconcious picks up on every thought you think and every word that comes out of your mouth. Therefore, be careful what you say, especially to yourself. Good read.



5. The essence of this book can be captured in the following excerpts:
   
   P 70
   "We believe what we are programmed to believe. Our conditioning, from the day we are born, has created, reinforced, and nearly permanently cemented most of what we believe about ourselves and what we believe about most of what goes on around us. Whether the programming was right or wrong, true or false, the result of it is what we believe. It all starts with programming! What we have accepted from the outside world or fed to ourselves, has initiated a nature cause and effect chain reaction sequence which cannot fail to lead us to successful self-management, or to the unsuccessful mismanagement of ourselves, our resources and our futures. It is our programming that sets up our beliefs, and the chain reaction begins. In logical progression, what we believe determines our attitudes, affects our feelings, directs our behavior, and determines our success or failure:
   
   1) Programming creates beliefs
   2) Beliefs create attitudes
   3) Attitudes create feelings
   4) Feelings determine actions
   5) Actions create results
   
   P 72>
   Self talk is a way to override our past negative programming by erasing or replacing it with conscious, positive new directions.
   
   P 212
   
   Just the simple act of telling yourself that you are going to have a "good day", as an example, not only helps convince you mentally, its sets off chemical/electrical triggers in your brain which affect your mental state which in turn affects you physiologically, which in turn affects how you think. It is a self generating cycle: thought, emotional response, physiological response, thought, emotional response and so on until something breaks or changes the cycle. That is why one negative incident first thing in the morning, can cause a chain reaction throughout the day. It affects our energy and our enthusiasm, our initiative and our spirit.
   
   Overall, I thought the author's message was thoughtful, clear and important (but not concise). I do think that the essence of the recommendations could have been presented in half the pages as there was considerable repetition.