5 comments about How to Say It to Seniors: Closing the Communication Gap with Our Elders.

1. David Solie was a speaker at a conference I attended this spring. Along with getting to hear him speak, I obtained a copy of his book, "How to Say it to Seniors". I went home and tried some of these strategies with my mother and the results were astounding. The book was easy to read and understand as Mr. Solie uses entertaining stories to illustrate his message.
   
   I have now purchased 5 more of these books and have donated one to my church library, one to our parish nurse, one to my mother and will be making this book available to all my clients as this book, and the techniques contained within, go far beyond my professional use of these strategies. This is a book for everyone who has an aged parent, grand-parent, elderly neighbor, or who deals with elderly people, either professionally, or on a personal level.



2. An easy to read book with a very powerful message. We as a society need to redevelop a respect for our seniors. Because, after all, we will all be there sooner than we think.
   
   This book describes human development stages, including the one seniors go thru toward the end of their lives. It really is the most important, but least understood phase of our development.
   
   As a senior advocate, I would like to see this information rolled into our educational system, because it's so important to us all.
   
   If you have a senior family member, friend or client please get a copy for yourself. I think that you'll find yourself ordering additional copies for others.



3. By profession I am an estate planner. I have ushered both parents from this earth after confronting their very real crises in their search for answers in what their limited future would hold for them.
   
   Mr. Solie addresses our frustrations in communicating with the elderly. I am embarassed at my annoyance with my parents for what was their pain. A pain I could not feel because I did not understand.
   
   Mr. Solie's concept is simple: Our "problem" with seniors and their quirks is their search for a peace of mind at life's end. This revelation elevates an obligation of a child in putting up with "irrational" seniors to the act of offering them a path to mental balance. Put this way, the relationship approaches being a holy task.
   
   More than this, understanding Mr. Solie's insight, offers all of us a guide to our own search for meaning in lives that often turned out much different than we thought they would.



4. Some good ideas but often couched in cliches and occasional jargon. I suppose like any self-help book, if you pick up one or two new approaches to communication, it's worth the money. I think it could be organized for quicker reference. It approaches the Dr. Spock model of reference but isn't as comprehensive. And, finally, it's more helpful than the majority of "So your parents are elderly" texts, but still doesn't quite hit the mark.



5. I had been feeling as if my 89 year old father was from a different planet than I, one where he spoke a language I did not understand (I called it Oldmanistan). After reading Mr. Solie's book, I was able to learn to speak some of that language and developed a greater understanding of what was motivating some of his talk and behavior. Although it doesn't resolve the feelings I have regarding his decline and the loss I feel, (that would be a topic for another book), it is extremely helpful in guiding us boomers through the unfamiliar terrain of the elderly.

5 comments about The Power of Positive Confrontation: The Skills You Need to Know to Handle Conflicts at Work, at Home and in Life.

1. It's only natural for a popular self-help speaker with a truly great message to want to put it into book form. The Power of Positive Confrontation teaches a truly great technique for confronting others that will help everyone who has trouble standing up for him or herself. Too bad there's only about three chapter's worth of actual content in its sixteen chapters. Instead the author gets into telling us how to dress for success, how to convey the information that a friend or loved one is in the hospital, do's and don'ts of International Travel along with several chapters of warm-up before finally getting to her actual WAC technique. Don't get me wrong, I still recommend this book highly but an abridged cassette version would be a lot less painful.



2. I like the tone of the book. Its not about self esteem etc. It provides valuable concrete techniques for dealing with conflict effectively and constructively.



3. this book has common sense tips for clearer, more effective communication. I recommend it.



4. so far, so good. I'm only about half way through the book, but what I've learned so far has been helpful with situations at home and work!



5. Excellent summary of basics that are desperately needed by all of us. Steps are simple enough that people can actually practice and use them at home and at work.

5 comments about The Cosmo Kama Sutra: 77 Mind-Blowing Sex Positions (Cosmopolitan).

1. I didn't feel the book had anything in it that the average person hadn't already tried before in their own experimenting. After like the first five positions, the book started repeating itself by switching the man with the woman, the left side with the right, or leaning forward or more backward. I don't really recommend buying this book, there wasn't anything in it that I didn't already know.



2. Unless you spent your entire life doing acrobatics in a circus this is not helpful at all. I returned it because it was in no way realistic and seemed it would be quite painful for those of us who are not from the circus.



3. UNCOMFORTABLE! Most of these positions were created out of desperation for "NEWNESS" opposed to created for pleasure and good sex! It is as though the point were not to create sexual satisfaction, but to test the couples physical flexibility and endurance for discomfort.



4. because the pictures aren't of real people but are like bathroom figures. i'm not a big fan of the kama sutra books that have naked people all up in them...i feel like i'm looking at porn. if you're like me this is the book for you.



5. Some of the positions look just the same as others with slight differences, but if you read the descriptions, they really are different enough to be very significant. Also recommended: Sex and the perfect lover by M. Iam: is it the Kama Sutra Sex and the Perfect Lover: Tao, Tantra, and the Kama Sutra

5 comments about Instant Enlightenment: Fast, Deep and Sexy.

1. It was Ok not what I expected form this author . All his other books had a WOW factor for me.



2. I'm a big Deida fan and I've really loved all of his other stuff. There was a period of time where I carried "Blue Truth" around in my purse or pocket and read a line or two here and there on a constant basis- and this from a bookaholic who reads a book and gets rid of it in order to move on to the next one. But this was uninspiring and far from his best.



3. Wow! This book is made up of short chapters that can be read and implemented in a moment. Fun and challenging. For me it's the best Deida book.



4. The mind/ego loves self and sex. This book provides some great tricks for enrolling the mind into exploring deeper states of consciousness and presence by exploring sensuality and sexuality. The mind is then tricked into stepping aside and you have access to the really good stuff. And it can happen in a heart beat!



5. A wonderful, quick, pick-me-up book on the go for those too busy to sit through entire chapters of David Deida's books to learn lessons on Sacred Love and Sensuality. Wonderful insight by a man geared mostly for men.
   
   Farrah Nayka Ashline

5 comments about The Zen of Creativity: Cultivating Your Artistic Life.

1. I am certain that even that torrent of innovation, Pablo Picasso, was interested in improving his creativity. So it's no surprise that the title of this book would pique the interest of artists
   
   Loori is a photographer who adopted Zen and established a monastery that is noted for its way of integrating Zen and art. He begins the book by telling the story of how he came to be a Zen Buddhist after being influenced by the great photographer Minor White. He then explains how to adopt several Zen practices to enable one to be more creative and he describes exercises to develop these skills. These include the practices of still point, direct experience, caretaking, experiencing without identifying, and expressing things for what else they are. He next discusses the Zen aesthetic as expressed in various forms of Zen art with examples from history (or at least legend) and his personal experience. As the book progresses, various forms of enigmatic statements that appear to be common in the Zen tradition are introduced. For example, the author states "In the Zen transmission of wisdom, nothing is transmitted; nothing goes from teacher to student".
   
   It would be nice if some principle could be extracted from a religion (for surely that's what Zen Buddhism is) that could be used by an artist without actually adopting the religion. On the other hand, I have never heard of a Christian way to be creative without being a Christian. So I suspect that Loori has placed the horse before the cart. If we are to practice the creativity of Zen Buddhism, we must first become Zen Buddhists and then the Zen creativity will come.
   
   I'm not certain if readers are willing to adopt a religion to perhaps find new creativity as artists. I particularly wonder if an artist would be willing to confine his work to the constrained limits of what Zen art appears to be: haiku, pottery, calligraphy and so forth. I have always admired artists who work to innovate within rigidly defined standards, like the pueblo potters of the American southwest, but I have never been anxious to abandon my own art to adopt these traditions. Even the pictures that Loori provides of his Zen photographs, like the picture of a heron in black and white, look remarkably like the ink drawings shown throughout the book. I might have been more receptive if I had seen a color landscape that had been influenced by Zen principles.
   
   I will acknowledge that I did not try the various exercises suggested by Loori throughout the book. It seemed clear that these were not one-shot exercises that could be tried and finished. Rather they were ways of behavior that would have to be practiced day after day to have an effect. And I was not interested in becoming a Zen Buddhist.
   
   Even though I believe most artist will not want to adopt the path to creativity suggested by this book, I think artists will find it valuable to see how art is shaped by the cultural beliefs and milieu in which it is created.



2. A most creative and quiet way to immerse yourself into the creative process...would highly recommend! Kate



3. This book is filled with excellent points that, especially with any Buddhist or Zen background, truly hit home. It gets at issues and the substance surrounding both creativity and the practice of Zen from multiple angles including the artless arts of Zazen, the author's own story, the stories of others, religious examples, and normal explanations. If one doesn't cause some sort of understanding in you the next will, not about the concepts but about the processes that are their essence.
   
   This book would be worth reading again, because at a different part of life the message that you need to hear will have changed, but it, or its seed, may still reside within the pages.



4. This is a wonderful book, and I highly recommend it to artists and writers who would like to be exposed to Zen Buddist methods of approaching creativity, as interpreted by an American Zen Master.
   
   And if you really want to stretch your creative mind; add Twyla Tharp's The Creative Habit: Learn It And Use It For Life, and Stephen Nachmanovitch's Free Play: Improvisation in Life and Art.
   
   These three books, in my humble opinion, make up the definitive library on developing one's creativity.



5. The Zen of Creativity by John Daido Loori is a wonderful expression of how art can be created by developing empty mind. The artist joins with the object so there is no duality and where something sacred and magical is created. This is a well written book with Loori taking the time to detail his own experiences that help enlighten the subject for the reader and is one of the best texts on dharma art I've read.

3 comments about Everyday Commitments: Choosing a Life of Love, Realism, and Acceptance.

1. Clearly written, a good guide to examining life and improving the way you live. I am using one affirmation a week for 52 weeks...and will start over again next year.
   
   David Richo is a sound psychologist, a loving and wise human being, and totally non-dogmatic. He encourages you to make up your own mind...not take anyone else's word for how to live your life.



2. A well written guide to making good choices and living better. My favorite quote:
   There will never be only love or only peace, but there can be more love than we got here and more peace because we stayed here.



3. This is a book, that will lift your day, and give you a real sense that your life starts with the right perspective.

4 comments about Relationships for Dummies.

1. Informative reading for men and women. Great book to purchase for your self or a friend ........
   when you can't seem to have any luck finding the right mate.

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2. This book is very well written. It is written in a way that both male and female can read it with comfort. Best of all, you do not have to read it from beginning to end. For instance, my girlfriend and I have been dating for awhile. One of my weaknesses is communication (especially with a girl). I skipped to Chapter 11, without having to know Chapters 1-10. Dr. Kate Wachs talks about almost anything on relationships. You name it, she has it. Sex, Communication, Marriage, Is it real love? Is he/she compatable? In short, you cannot expect to have a perfect relationship by only reading this book, but I can guaranteed your relationship will be stronger and last longer if you practice what's being said. The bottomline is, this book is definitely worth reading if you want to learn about relationships.



3. Dr. Kate uses real time language to make relationships come alive and be more than just some treacherous rite of passage. Her advice is specific, exploratory and helpful in making relationships living breathing things we need to care for in order to make them blossom and grow, or not.



4. I bought this book because I'm in my very first relationship, and I felt totally lost and confused as to if what I was doing right/wrong or if it even mattered. But after reading it, it's targeted more towards people having problems in their relationships, or people who can't find a date, and not necessarily just people who are confused and want tips or clues.
   It really focuses on good communication, and has excellent advice in that area. If you're a married couple with problems, or a two people in a long term relationship wanting to move ahead, or someone who's always picking the wrong guy, this book would be perfect for you. But if you're like me and just want to know how to convey feelings for your partner without outright saying them, or try to figure out your pertner's feelings/intentions by their actions, this book isn't for you. There's a great chapter for that in "Body Language for Dummies" and I was hoping this book would expand on that, but this book kinda skips over the whole physiological aspect of dating/relationships.

5 comments about Silently Seduced: When Parents Make their Children Partners - Understanding Covert Incest.

1. I am a survivor of incest from the hands of my father. I was searching for a book to read on the topic when I ran across this book. At first I thought that it would not apply to me, but when reading this it gave me my first understanding to what happened to my by the hands of my father. When listening to profilers and how they catagorize different rape preditors I could not really place my father in any of the catagories. Once I read this book I realized that incest (especially from a parent) fits perfectly into the catagories of covert incest to overt incest. As a survivor I have come to the point that I would like to understand why I had suffered this type of violation in my childhood and life. I am really greatful for the insight of such doctors as Dr. Kenneth M. Adams. It was good to read that I was not the disfunctional one in my family but that my family as a whole was disfunctional. This book truly depicts how a relationship between a parent and child can and does cross the line to become very disruptive and at times criminal. A must read book if you are looking to understand incest. --C.J. Wilkes-- Author of "Daddy, I Forgive You"



2. This book is an important addition to the collection of books out there that exist on sexual abuse. Even moreso are the examples of how a mother can be sexually abusive in covert ways unlike fathers who tend to manifest their abuse overtly. This book along with Pat Loves book, The Emotional Incest Syndrome, are the bible of Covert Incest.
   It is easy to say covert incest does not exist since it is subtle, indirect and is about what you don't see, but the victims of this all feel it and it is very real!



3. Wow, very impressive! I read it from cover to cover, in one sitting. Just could not put it down. It is written in a clear and concise manner. Almost every word seems well selected and carefully considered to support the theme of the whole book. Very convincing with powerful logic.
   
   I have to admit when I was hesitant to order this book at the beginning. I thought, "What this says about me, if I need to read a book on this topic?" I felt uncomfortable to put myself in the category of covert incest victim.
   
   Several things which are happening in my life, made me decide to take a try. My career has experienced a setback for several years. I have difficulty in establishing a great long term relationship. And most immediately, I have dreams of being angry at my parents. Those dreams rarely occur, but when they do, once or twice a year, I find my whole body tighten up in anger when I wake up. I ask myself, if I can be so angry about something I don't understand, why not spend some time to understand what exactly makes me so angry?
   
   When the book arrived, I wrapped it up in a book cover to hide the name. I have to agree this is an uncomfortable topic and I do not want to be seen reading such a book in public.
   
   But let me tell you, this is one of the most important books I have read in years. It is neatly organized:
   
   First two chapters:
   -What is the silent seduction?
   -When is a child betrayed by a parent's love?
   Introduce the concept of silent seduction and general pattern.
   
   The next two chapters:
   -The man of the house
   -Daddy's little girl
   Talk about the specific situations in case of a mother and a son, and a father and a daughter. The author uses different cases to address different areas. It is quite specific.
   
   The following chapters:
   -When does sex become a hiding place?
   Discusses the impact on the victim's sexual feelings when the victim grows up.
   
   -The struggle to Commit
   Talk about the impact on relationships the victim will face as an adult
   
   The last chapter:
   -Towards Wholeness
   A short but comforting guide towards healing.
   
   
   When I was reading the first two chapters, I found myself nodding occasionally but suspicious. But when it got specific, my eyes grew wide, as I saw a step by step description of my life. It is as if the author had followed my life and summed it up in different cases. It is scary to see your life being so accurately depicted.
   
   As it was very late (midnight), I went to sleep. And I was sad. The author reminds in the last chapter that when we let it go, we would feel sadness.
   
   I turned back and forth on bed, feeling emptiness. The kind of emptiness you feel when you cannot find the purpose in life.
   
   The book made a very important point, that when we were treated as special by our parents, often it is perceived as love from our parents, and we hang on to it as the only and most powerful love we have experienced, but actually it is not love, it is an expression of needs of our parents. We were there merely to satisfy the emotional needs of our parents. And our needs, when as little kids, were ignored.
   
   Logically, I accepted this point. But emotionally, it was sad to recognize the single most powerful love in our life experience was not even love. It brought a question: what do we live for?
   
   Since I could not sleep, I got up and started reading again.
   
   The next chapter talks about sex addicts. I almost laughed, hey, this could not be about me. Out of curiosity, I did not skip it entirely. Wow, when my finger touched on the last page of this chapter, it turned out it was talking about me. It talks about the seeking of sexual highs, and the seductive patterns.
   
   It exactly describes the experience I have been having in the last year. I reveled in the attention of many suitors. I seduced one after another. Of course, the seduction was very subtle. I behaved exactly like a lady, but secretly put the man of my seduction in anxiety to get me. It was like a power game. And I felt safe when powerful men fell for me. And I do not stay for any long term relationship. I just seduced and moved on. The reason why I never labeled myself as sex addict, was because actual sex seldom happened. The seduction was very sexually charged (with strong sexual energy), but I almost always moved on before the man could actually get me on bed.
   
   I did not realize this was what I was doing until I read this book. I just did it unconsciously. For me, it was a game of fun and power to get back at men, and to make myself feel safe, treasured, chased and desirable. Upon this chapter, I began to realize, maybe, just maybe, it is the start of sexual and love addiction.
   
   The chapter also talks about double life. It did make me laugh, because in my fantasy of success, I always added on a second life of sexual satisfaction. It is my ideal life to be a highly successful woman, with a colorful secret sex life. The thrill of having a secret dirty life against common convention seems so exciting and satisfying, against the background of success and social recognition.
   
   This chapter makes me rethink my goal. Is my goal of success, really something I want, or is it a way to get back at my past so that I do not need to face my past? Is that a way to prove to my parents I grow up to be better than them, beyond their wildest expectations? Is this a way to prove myself I was not hurt by my parents, I grow over and above the hurtful past?
   
   My career is in a setback for several years now. It happened very unexpectedly. When everyone expected me to become a great career woman, suddenly all motivation drained away from me. For several years, I just sat around, wanting to do nothing. In business meetings, though I knew I probably were the most qualified in giving out professional opinions (due to my qualification and educational background), I sat in a corner, demure and obscure. I do not understand why I hate to go out, getting what I deserve, and what the other people think I deserve. It is like I clipped my own wings intentionally.
   
   It came to a point that I took a look at my past. I had been a wonder kid academically. I found whenever my academic future or career future opened up to a new height, somehow, on several important occasions, I just escaped the night (or months) before it happened. I undid the effort I put in for years, to avoid collecting the fruit of being much more successful than others.
   
   Every time I did that, it was extremely painful for me afterwards. Guilt and confusion took over. It took years to build the base for success, and it took years to recover from the disappointment of escaping from success and make a comeback. It was like a cycle. Maybe it finally got to my spirit, and I started to associate the prospect of success, with the slow and deep pains from disappointment and fear of escaping again. So, in the end, I felt chasing success did not worth it any more.
   
   In Ken Adams's book, it discusses the ambivalence of commitment to relationships. It is an extremely interesting chapter. From my personal point of view, I do see my own relationship surfacing from the pages, a quick commitment, an illusion of starting anew, followed by a slow stew of doubt, and the desire to get out.
   
   I do wish this wonderful enlightening chapter could address more issues: not only commitment to relationships, but also commitment to goals and personal ambitions. Does the fear of abandonment drive us away not only from committing to intimacy, but also to allowing ourselves the success we deserve, work hard for, and deny ourselves for?
   
   When it comes to the last chapter, it is comforting to see we are not hopeless. It talks about letting go of your idealized image of the seductive parent. Among the many thing I learn from reading this book, this is probably the most important. To realize what you cherish as the best love and the integral part of your childhood memory and what makes who you are today, is actually an unconscious seduction by your parent to realize his or her own need in an unhappy relationship. It is not about you, and never about you. And you miss the important development phase of recognizing your own needs, building your own character, wants and values as a human being. Chasing your parent's love is like chasing emptiness, something they never can give, and something which does not exist. The lack of it makes a strong emptiness in your heart, since you never learn how to live for yourself. That phase of development was stolen from you, by the need of your parents.
   
   Naturally it is angry to recognize it. It feels like being betrayed by someone so close to your heart. I now partly understand why my dreams were so intense, where I screamed at my parents for their lack of love and their insistency of not seeing the error where it is. (In real life, I never accused my parents. I just cannot.)
   
   The book talks about acknowledging your anger toward the seductive parent. And I agree it is very necessary. We need to see the reality the way it is, before we can come back to reality and come to terms with ourselves.
   
   Is it necessary to make your parents acknowledge your anger and their grand mistake? From my experience, it is a no. Because they most likely will never acknowledge their mistake, and it will become a contest of wills. My grandmother was seriously abusive, (hehe, now I agree family issues pass from generation to generation), and my father was deeply hurt. But until her death, my Grandma never ever admitted her mistake, no matter how miserable she made her children's lives. It is unfortunate in an effort to be a better parent, my father turned out to be very much like my Grandma, even though in different ways. From my lesson, it is largely useless to confront your parents, making them admit their mistakes, since they will never ever able to see themselves in that light. They pride themselves as the best, most righteous people in the neighborhood. While that blind pride probably will make you very angry, because you know how much dirt is wiped under the family carpet, they live for that image.
   
   But it is necessary to speak your voice, and set boundaries. (The book talks about: If your seductive parent is alive, begin to set boundaries and separate.) If you see something seriously wrong in your family, speak out.
   
   During my brief visit to the parents' home the last time, my father consistently verbally abused my mom before me, saying she was stupid, short-sighted, silly woman, never can do a thing right, blah, blah. I finally could not take it any more and I confronted him alone while my mother was away.
   
   He was so angry that I dared to speak like that to him. He screamed how badly he had been treated for years by my mom. I simply said, there is no way to treat even a stranger, the way you treat mom. No matter how bad she is, at least respect her as a human being in your words. Give her the respect she deserves as a person. And I stuck to this basic point. I did not argue what was right or wrong in their marriage, since that was beyond my ability to argue. My father nearly kicked me out of the home. (Hey, it is important to be economically independent, so when you are kicked out, you have a place to go).
   
   In a few days, when I made the second visit back home, he calmed down and even respected me a little bit. Later, my mother told me he changed a little bit to become more accommodating. I do not know whether my confrontation ever worked, but it is rare to see a man like my father change even a little bit.
   
   My experience is, even though I do not have guts to confront my parents directly about my childhood, start to set boundaries and address the family issues in simple, objective terms. Never take side and never be involved in a family political war, because there is no win for you. But address the serious and persistent wrongs happening in your family, in a simple, firm, objective view, to make the person who is aggressor realize it is wrong, and to make the person who is victim realize he or she is being wronged. Set an example of being assertive, and encourage each family member to stand up for him/herself and take responsibility in his/her life. Compassion is a good thing, but compassion can be misplaced and taken advantaged of.
   
   The last chapter, the healing and the change, is in my view, one of the sweetest things to read in this book. It makes me stay hopeful and think of how to have a plan to address the issues. So, it is no surprise I wish this chapter can be longer, and more specific in how to set boundary and how to address the anger invariably arising when dealing with the pains.
   
   Throughout the review, I repeatedly stress how close the cases in the book resembled my own life. And it surprised me a great deal to read the preface and find out the cases were not real life cases, but structured from the author's clinical practice.
   
   Nonetheless, I agree the cases are very close to reality. It happened some of my close friends have serious problems with their families too.
   
   A guy took to drinking to drown his frustration in dealing with his parents. His story was very similar to the cases in the book. Unfortunately, his anger was not recognized by any of his family members. Coming from a very traditional family background, every family member encouraged him to acquiesce to his parents no matter what. (It is valued as great family ethics to respect your parents, no matter what; and give them whatever they want, to feel like a good deserving child.) And it was exactly what I told him too when he came for my help. I said, "After all, it is your parents. Do you want them to feel unhappy as old man and woman?" In my words, I denied his right to be angry, just because he was the child and he had a duty to make his parents happy, especially since his parents were aging. It was several years ago. I wish I had read this book when he came for my help.
   
   He was not the only friend who has this issue. I am certain there are many people out there who experienced similar issues. It is just that this is not supposed to be talked about among friends, or in public. My book cover is still shielding the book title, and you see, I do not want to use my real name in the review.
   
   But, do yourself a favor. Buy and read this book, if you relate yourself to issues like this, or if you are like me, feeling angry and frustrated about yourself without knowing why. Your own childhood problems can spill over to your career, love life and your view on yourself, and potentially, your children. I wish I had read this book earlier. I would have viewed my family and myself more objectively, and also I would have started earlier to treat myself as an adult who takes responsibility for her life and decisions she makes in her life.



4. This book certainly protrays the difficulties and impact on children haunted by covert incest. At 55 yrs. old, my life could have been soooo... much better if I had been diagnosed previously. Thanks very much to my therapist (3rd one I worked with) for identifying this issue for me. Amazon's search engine recommended this book immediately and I devoured its message. The 5th chapter will be presented at our area's Spring Retreat of S.A.A. this April. This book should be a must!!



5. I purchased this book to use clinically, however found it personally enlightening as well. It is fairly simple to read, but the message belies the book's easy readability. The book focuses on covert incest, as the title suggests, and will probably not be very beneficial for overt incest survivors seeking answers. A client of mine borrowed the book and reported that little pertained to her. This does not mean, however that the parent-child dynamics involved in covert incest can't also exist in a more physically/sexually abusive relationship. I recommend this book for clinicans and survivors.

5 comments about Laparoscopic Adjustable Gastric Banding: Achieving Permanent Weight Loss with Minimally Invasive Surgery.

1. I didn't gain any new information or tips on dealing with the lap band. This same information I have received from my doctor and off the internet. I think it would be good for someone who didn't know anything about the procedure.



2. If you are thinking about or have recently had the lap-band surgery it is very informtive. I still pick it up and read it as a reference guide and I'm 6 weeks post-op. It has helped me alot.



3. This is a very good book and people who are thinking of doing the lapband should review it. Also people who are not doing lapband should also read it as it gives a lot of information about what to expect etc. This is a very good informational tool



4. I had lap-band at Northwest Weight Loss Surgery Center where Jessi Ahroni works. She is a no-nonsense person that tells it like it is. This book is a must read for ANYONE that is deciding if Lap-Band is for them, those who have made the decision AND for their family and friends. I am one of the lucky ones that has been able to work with Jesse as well as read her book. This gives the up front approach and gives you so much information that you want and need to know. I have had HUGE success with my lap band. I was banded 5/22/07 and am down over 100 lbs at my 6 month mark. It's do-able, it's a great decision for me and this book can help you decide if it's right for you. Leigh Bergman



5. Although this is a fairly short book, it is very informative and it is easy to read. Most of the information in the book, I already knew about (I've done a lot of research on the band) but, If you haven't done much research yet, this is the book to read. Or if you have family members/friends that want to know more about the band, this would be a good choice for them to read. I have had the pleasure of meeting Jessie, and she knows what she is talking about! She is no nonsense and just wants to make sure everyone succeeds and that the band is the right choice for them. This is a wonderful book, and again its not complicated and anyone would be able to understand it. If you are even considering getting the Lap Band, I would read this book.

5 comments about The Little Red Book.

1. Useful and worthy book for anyone wanting to practice the 12 steps in their life.



2. Re: Mike McF. I don't think AA is for you, but I can assure you that AA does work for some people. Live and let live one day at a time easy does it.



3. The item I ordered arrived very quickly and in terrific condition. I will gladly utilize this seller again



4. This is a Hazelden book specifically written as a study aid to The Big Book. It helps to clarify and illuminate the 12 step process and is often used by sponsors as they guide their sponsees through the steps. It is a tool which, if used in addition to (and not in replacement of)the basic program literature, may add a layer of depth and understanding to the step process. This book is also used as the basis of step-study groups in some areas. It appears to have been used to a much greater extent in the past than it is now and it deserves a second look for what it may have to offer.



5. This is a great supplement to the big book, especiall if you are a group leader or if you just want to improve you understanding of the 12 Steps.