4 comments about Dissolving Barriers.

1. Louise Hay is so positive and has such an insightful way of making you look at your negative "tapes" and change them into positive ones to enrich and enhance your life. I also love her humor, it makes perfect sense in the way she uses it! I like the tapes so I can listen to them over and over and really understand her message. She is a very intelligent and "tuned in" person to what we need to do to make ourselves and our world a much better place. This tape and her others are well worth every penny.



2. This is the first program of Louise Hay's that I've listened to. I've heard a great deal about her, and everything I heard was correct. This is a very inspirational, practical CD on living life to the fullest. She's great.



3. This is a great CD that will help you release barriers in your life. I hear it over and over again and learn new things every time I listen to it.



4. Having compiled a small Louise Hay Audio library, I can recommend any & all of the CD's. I do enjoy this one as I seem to have become quite accomplished at building barriers for myself. Louise has a wonderful speaking voice & she is always encouraging us to realize the truth of ourselves. We are whole & complete, safe & secure, important & blessed. If the title appeals to you, purchase it. If it is not quite what you expected, pass it on.

5 comments about Lift-Your-Spirits Quote Book.

1. A quote book is a quote book is a quote book. And you can quote me on that! This handy little volume contains over 650 quotes that will inspire readers and probably provoke some thinking.

   Most of the quotes are different from what we hear every day, citing a very wide range of Quoted Persons. Sources range from Goethe to Oprah Winfrey. Now that's a wide range! Familiar folks like Mark Twain ("Wrinkles should merely indicate where smiles have been") and Martin Buxbaum ("A dog wags it's tail with it's heart") and interspersed with more modern figures like Barbara Bush ("Believe in something larger than yourself.")

   A table of contents organizes the subject areas (sixteen major categories) and an index of authors enables the reader to find a favorite source quickly.

   Looking for some different quotes? Some though-provoking words from Shakespeare, Alan Alda, Brooker T. Washington, and more? This book will be a good investment. Recommended for coffee tables and waiting rooms.




2. More than 650 uplifting quotations.

   Mr. Klein's newest collection of quotations is my favorite so far. Divided into the eight broad categories of Applause (praise), Arts, Beauty, Creativity, Family, Friendship, Heart, and Lighten Up, these are short, inspirational quotations that really can lift your spirits. I love opening the book at random and dipping into a few quotes.

   A few of my favorites are, "love is what we were born with. Fear is what we learned here" (Marianne Williamson); "The place to improve the world is first in one's own heart and head and hands" (Robert Persig); and "Faith is the strength by which a shattered world shall emerge into the light" (Helen Keller).




3. I dip into this when I am in a down mood. Sometimes helpful, sometimes not. There is a lot to choose from and the general style is uplifting and supportive.



4. I wish I could give half star ratings sometimes. This book would have gotten a 4 and 1/2 rating if I could.
   The only thing that I did not like about it was the Bible passages. To me they do not lift my spirit, but that is just because I am not of that faith. Otherwise this is a great book.



5. The quotes were what you would ecpect in a book with this title; very good. It was hard to find the topic you were looking for despite the table of contents because there was no definitive break between topics, but that was a minor fault. Over all would recommend.

5 comments about Your Power Within! Self Confidence through Hypnosis.

1. I can't thank you enough for this Cd. I feel so empowered! For years I have read self-help books and tried to apply someone else's technique to living a more positive, productive life with very limited success. Now, I feel like nothing can hold me back. I have so much more confidence and know I can accomplish anything! Thank you again.



2. Initially I didn't care for the way Trevor Scott speaks. It is a bit odd and I wondered if I could get past it. I was able to get past it however and after the first week I saw some pretty big changes taking place in my life. I don't think this CD will solve all of your problems but I do think it is a good place to start.



3. This has helped me a great deal. I had to give a talk recently and was nervous about doing so. I listened to this c.d. for a week before I had to give my talk and ended up enjoying it instead of dreading it as I usually do. I personally found his voice very soothing.



4. I purchased this Self Confidence CD to deal with my negative mental chatter. New to the writing field, my self doubt beats up on me so strongly I talk myself out of projects before starting them. Trevor Scott has an excellent voice for hypnosis, inspiring trust - I'm not worried he's hidden subliminal message to make me do something against my will. He speaks with so much confidence I am able to internalize his messages. I've bought several hypnosis recordings where foreign accents, unsureness in the voice of the speaker, and background music that sounds like alien landings took the value out of the session, for example: Hypnosis to Enhance Creative Writing by Charles Vald. I was relieved Trever Scott did such a good job with voice, choice of background music, and well worded messages. I would like to see more Hypnosis CD's available from Trever Scott. All this being said, my husband didn't care for his voice but I think that may be because some men would only trust a woman's voice in a hypnosis situation. Excellent Job Trever Scott! Thank you.



5. Thanks a million for the quik service, seems like I just ordered the video and it was here.. Thanks for the great service..

5 comments about On Becoming Fearless...in Love, Work, and Life.

1. I have enjoyed the book and actually practiced "fearlessness" to make a big change in my life.



2. I really started to identify with this subject and took time in between to reflect on my life and those of my sons as compared to my daughters.
   But when I got to the chapter about Faith and God I was extremely upset. How could someone as open minded as Huffington be so judmental and discrimintory against athiests? I was shocked, her point being that an athiests life will never mean anything without belief in a higher being. The quotations are so upsetting and damning to athiests that she sounds so much like the evangalicals she detests than they do!! She is practicing the discrimnation she so passionatly fights against. I believe she is the one is who full of fear, the fear that maybe there is a possibility that God does not exist. This chapter completely negates the book and its message. I am so sorry she chose to write this book without really being fearless herself.



3. I am part of the national networking group for Women called Ladies Who Launch and I was lucky to see Arianna Huffington at their LA live event. AH was such an inspiration flying in on the early flight just to speak and then turn back around and get back on a plane that afternoon to go back to NY. She is such a delightful speaker, I had to buy books for my mom and my two sisters. My youngest sister is a mom and hates to read, I knew just giving her this book with a fabulous title was just enough and if she ever comes on a moment where she is not feeling fearless, I am sure she will consult AH's book. I am not even a mother as the oldest sister, and I even read the chapter on raising children to identify with the book. I share the same feelings that AH does. As women we should be focusing on our good fortune to be cancer free, instead of constantly focusing on our appearances and how much we weigh. Thank you Arianna for telling it like it should be and writing a very light book that leaves the reader with deep insight into themselves.



4. Beautiful subject matter and written with personality that the reader can easily relate to. Everyone has fears.....this is a really good read.



5. I can't tell you how touched I am by this book. Here is Ms. Huffington, a woman known for her political influence and intellectual pursuits, who chose to write a book about her intimate relationship with fear. What an amazing gift that a person accomplished in so many ways paused to share her story of living with, yet breaking through, fear.
   
   Prior to reading this book, I held a belief that great people did not have to work with the same type of inner chatter - "the world's worst roommate," as Ms. Huffington so aptly puts it. Ms. Huffington has given me such a gift; to see that it is not some better, less fearful mind that makes her success a possibility, but rather her feisty excitement at moving through and past her fears!
   
   If you are considering this book, I highly recommend it! If you like this style of writing, in which wisdom is collected and woven together through a series of stories and anecdotes, I also recommend that you check out Ariel and Shya Kane's most recent book, Being Here: Modern Day Tales of Enlightenment. Like Ms. Huffington, the Kanes are skilled at using their wisdom and life experience to guide their readers past the limiting fears and ideas that naturally impede well being, so that life can be lived at its best: as a daring adventure!!!

5 comments about Talking the Winner's Way: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Business and Personal Relationships.

1. This book is pretty pathetic. Writing style is cheesy and even ridiculous at times. Waste of time.



2. This is an easy and enjoyable read; I find Lowndes' style engaging, entertaining and instructive at the same time. Some of the "92 little tricks" probably can make a real difference in someone's life. Some of the advice is a little repetitive, but most ideas are novel and readily applicable in various social situations. Some reviewers felt that Lowndes' style is too colloquial; I felt that her writing made it an easy and enjoyable read. What I especially like is the way the author summed up every tip in a little grey box so you can pick up the book at a later time and quickly reread what you're interested in. I can highly recommend this book, but I yet have to apply its tips in my life and see how valuable they are.



3. Great book to read and keep as a reference, totally enjoy what she had to offer, found the material excellent and very helpful.



4. The book is easy to read and very easy to apply. The techniques are sound and can make a difference at your very next business exchange. I highly recommend this book. I've given it to my son and he has used it at school, at parties, etc. and it has changed the way he acts when meeting new people. I wish I had this book in high school or college! Call me if you would like to discuss this book and the way it can make a beig difference in your relationships.



5. This book is unique in its organization of almost 100 step-by-step tactics to improve one's communication. Each technique takes only a few pages and a few minutes to read and practice.
   
   Most books focus on big-picture strategies, which are vital for communication success. You have to read How to Win Friends and Influence People, Never Eat Alone, and Influence to understand the principles behind the methods.
   
   This book does not cover those genuine relationship tactics for deep bonding. It wasn't meant for that purpose. This book is practical tricks to use to get instant results. And it works wonderfully. Just make sure you use the techniques with integrity.
   
   This is the best way to integrate the communication skills into your life: After you read the book, go to the table of content and cross out every technique you already mastered. Then, put a half-check on three tips you want to work on for that day or that week.
   
   Keep practicing those new tips until they become old habits. Once you have the results, complete the check on those three tips and choose three ones to work on! You can easily master everything in this book within 1 month, and that 1 month of work will serve you every single moment for the rest of your life.

5 comments about Nasty People.

1. The author accuses the victims of being nasty people. This is a very disappointing book. When I finished reading it, I felt even more hurt.



2. I have a nasty boss and this book is helping me deal with her in a more positive way.



3. If you need to learn how to deal with nasty people, destructive personalities,cult figures, and yes sociopaths read this book. This book outlines and goes into great details about the tactic nasty people use called invalidation. Everyone at young age is confronted with invalidation.
   Personally, I have met and worked with some heavy duty invalidation in the work place and the funeral arrangement conference. Pages 63-65 diagrams on the cycle of invalidation make the book worth the purchase. "The chapter (4) what do we do about it?" is most helpful. There are detailed lists about how to handle invalidation. I give the book four stars because the book needs more details and explanations in Chapter 4.



4. Ok, this book sells on the premise of teaching you how to deal with nasty acting people without stooping to their level. Let me sum up what this book actually does.
   
   IMO, the author himself is an invalidator of the worst sorts, he makes the readers feel bad and then teaches them how to become invalidators themselves. This book should be titled "How to Overcome Nasty People by Being EVEN NASTIER". I'm not joking. The author tells you how to overcome the invalidator by taking what he said and 'mirroring' the responsibility and pressure of the question back to the person. At the very least this involves you being AS NASTY or EVEN NASTIER than the invalidator you are warned about throughout this book.
   
   Not only is this a training manual on how to become a Nasty Person, the author has a few flawed interpretations of people's feelings. Jay Carter is the master of taking a nice conversation and making you paranoid of the other person invalidating you. Example:
   
   Lady on street goes:
   "I like your shoes, where did you get them?"
   Jay Carter goes:
   "STOP TELLING ME TO GIVE YOU INFORMATION! I DON'T WANT TO TELL YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE CONTROLLING ME!"
   
   I am not joking, this book takes common conversations and picks away at them to interpret them into evil wrong-doings and psychological warfare against the reader. Sort of like how conspiracy theorists can take a simple plane crash and end up saying the government did it because the computers in the plane needed to be replaced along with the dissident citizenry aboard the plane, so they just crashed it. How? They don't explain. Jay Carter is like a conspiracy theorist with conversations, with this book he teaches you to turn any comment or nice greeting into that person attacking you with the intent to control you.
   
   This book was only useful as firestarter or just in case I run out of toilet paper. I am sad that so many people have been brainwashed by this author and give this book high scores. He likely brainwashes you via this book into thinking this is the greatest book ever, and with everyone advertising for him he gets rich. Hence, he is controlling all of you to make him rich :)



5. But the world is also full of nice people. In his book, Nasty People: How to Stop Being Hurt By Them Without Becoming One Of Them, Jay Carter says it all. He discusses the cycle of manipulation, which he refers to as invalidation, as manipulators are bullies who use subtle tactics to get their way and make their victim feel less of a person. Besides calling a spade a spade, I greatly appreciate Mr. Carter's recognition of the cycle of abuse, how one invalidated can catch on as easily as catching a cold and go on to invalidate others due to their own bitterness and need for control. It is a horrible cycle. Luckily, I read this book after I had decided not to also become an invalidator. I will admit once you are caught up in the web of an invalidator its as if you've ingested the venom. After being so hurt it is tempting to want to hit back. Of course that is not the answer. The reason for so much invalidation in this world is due to low levels of self esteem, knocked down by invalidators.
   
   Nasty People is a quick read, a concise manual on the cycle of invalidation, complete with diagrams depicting the cycle that can begin as early as childhood and thankfully, solutions to stopping it.
   
   Speaking to both victims and the victimizers, Carter details sequences for handling such attacks in adulthood, whether it be from an invalidating boss, coworker, spouse or stranger in line at the grocery store.
   
   This book gets right to the root of the problem of an abusive epidemic and holds a magnifying glass to situations that happen more often than we realize.

5 comments about Law of Attraction Handbook: Revealing the Secrets to Manifest Your Desires Instantly to Success.

1. Reviewed by Irene Watson for Reader Views (7/08)
   
   An old concept recently revived by creators of "The Secret" encourages people to start believing they can manifest and create whatever they desire in their lives. Al-Maimani's handbook is supplemental to many of the books in the market proponing the same ideas. His concise, easy-to-read handbook skips over long drawn-out explanations and gets right to the point.
   
   One of the primary beliefs within the Law of Attraction is put into words by Al-Maimani "...what you put out into the universe comes back to you - whether wanted or unwanted." Using personal experiences Al-Maimani explains how the Law worked in his life. He also references specific books and teachers that encourage the same belief.
   
   "Law of Attraction Handbook" offers three simple exercises with a basic step one: Declare Your Desires. Personally, I believe a large amount of people find this the most difficult and often can't focus on what their actual desires are. This is because we are expected to know what we want. Al-Maimani encourages us to write what we don't want first. He emphasizes, by writing what we don't want first clears the way for what we do want. Once this list is made, Al-Maimani gives steps two and three in a simple manner. Believing you can manifest the true desires makes steps two and three an easy way for the desires to come to fruition.
   
   Al-Maimani questions the readers, which allows them to look within themselves to find the answers. One of the questions is `So what is going on in your subconscious mind?" He then briefly explains to find out what is going on in our subconscious mind is to check the emotions and feelings that are going on at that time. This is a very hands-on, experiential book.
   
   Furthermore, what makes this book appealing are the Twenty-One Day Exercises in the back of the book. I haven't completed them because of the timely submission of this review; however, I know this system works. I look forward to continuing the exercises.
   
   "Law of Attraction Handbook" by Aiman A. Al-Maimani offers sound steps on achieving desires and goals, as well as guidelines on developing a successful, fulfilled life with steps that actually do work, if you work them and believe.



2. This book is a masterpiece! I couldn't stop reading it. Many limiting believes, many wrong images, many uncomfortable moments held me back on the past. I learned from this book multiple techniques on how to go beyond the boundary and have more choices, select the right images and enjoy every single moment of my life.
   
   It talks about Law of Attraction straight to the point without any unnecessary stuff that consumes time and distracts the focus.
   
   My experience with this book simply can be summarized as if I have been given the correct combination to unlock a world of infinite possibilities or to live an extraordinary life.



3. I have always been a little cynical when it comes to books that promise to help you become rich, or a better person, or successful in anything you want. Most books in the genre tend to be pretentious, long winded and occasionally make very little sense.
   
   The Law of Attraction Handbook, therefore, came as something of a surprise. A self help book that comes in at under a hundred pages, has short and concise chapters and a small easy to follow collection of exercises for readers to carry out in order to make their dreams come true.
   
   The Law of Attraction Handbook explains the theory and practicality behind the whole concept of mind over matter leading anyone to achieve anything. Al-Maimani opens with a preface based on his own experiences when dealing with the failures of his life and how this changed thanks to some very simple changes to his thought process.
   
   The chapters read easily, very easily for a book dealing with a kind of science. This is not like a text book where the reader has to frequently pause to check the dictionary for meanings, or where hours are lost in research and assignments with very little outcome. This book seems different. It doesn't preach, or expect the world from its readers, all it offers is a step by step guide on how you could change your life for the better.
   
   The book ends with a short series of tasks that should take no more than a couple of a minutes a day over a three week period. The exercises are as simply explained as the theories of the book, and can easily be carried out by anyone.
   
   The most important thing this book asks for is a little belief. If you are willing to give it that, then is definitely a book worth seeking out.
   
   Reviewer: Anthony Lund, Allbooks Reviews.



4. The book title was very attractive to me, where I read many books on Law of Attraction. Some detail the concept and make it very theoretical, some will just make you read and read and you lose your focus but this book is totally different. This book is very simple and focused on the same time. Many tools and techniques have been described and made available for the immediate applications.
   
   The author defined affirmation, its magic in enhancing the attraction process of any goal or desire. Also, similar treatment of other tools and techniques like visualization, feelings and meditation to speed up and amplify getting the goals and desires were offered.
   
   I used it for my work and for my own life and I found miraculous results.
   This is the book that I was looking for and it has just arrived.



5. Again the author has created a quick and easy to read handbook. He provides common sense options for changing the way we think about our outlook on life in general. Each chapter contains a consolidation of practical information and ideas that helped me with a difficult time my son is having in his life and ways I may be able to help him get out of his rut. I like this book, it is easy to read and really helps me think before acting on a situation. I have sent my son a copy of the book in hopes that it will help him find peace.

5 comments about Honoring the Self: Self-Esteem and Personal Tranformation.

1. Wow..I've only read half of this book and I find it amazing how accurate it is in analyzing my psyche, and I'm sure lots of other people's also. I bought this book to find some answers about life in general and as I read it, it was as if the author knew exactly the type of person I was and explained it in such a concise way. I was literally learning things about myself just by reading his explanations on why we think the way we do and how self-esteem influences all aspects of our life. The first half of the book is basically his theory on the effects of self-esteem and he integrates examples of some of his patients. These examples are so true to life that it can easily be me or you. The second half of the book is about how we can improve our self esteem but I haven't read through it yet. But...I never review books online before this, but I just gotta say that if you have any issues with ur identity, doing some self introspection, or just plain interested in psychology, you should buy this book. Best 8 dollars i've ever spent.



2. Honoring the Self contends that self-esteem is the single most important factor for a fulfilling life. Author Nathaniel Branden notes that the greatest barrier to love is the fear that we are unlovable - which is why self-esteem is so critical.
   
   He describes self-esteem as the combination of self-confidence and self-respect. The former pertains to competence and the latter pertains to personal worth.
   
   To generate positive self-esteem, Branden suggests making a commitment to awareness (a commitment to thinking as a way of life). He says independent thinking about our work, relationships and values will guide our life, and thus enhance our self-esteem. He also emphasizes the importance of integrity, self-responsibility and self-acceptance in building self-esteem.
   
   For anyone looking to enhance their self-esteem, or to raise children with high self-esteem, this is a "must have" book.



3. Philosophy...yes; Psychology...No. From reading the reviews I thought this would give good advice for raising self-esteem. What a disapointment!



4. I struggled to get through the first 50 pages of this book before giving up. The writer may have good ideas, but his writing style is not for the average reader. Here is a sample of a sentence on page 49: "That we are sometimes influenced by others in ways we do not recognize hardly alters the fact that there is a distinction between the psychology of those who try to understand things for themselves, think for themselves, judge for themselves, and those to whom such a possibility rarely occurs." There must be a better way of saying whatever it is he is trying to say here.
   
   Here is another example from page 48: "Having the will to be efficacious does not mean that we deny or disown feelings of inefficacy when they arise; it means that we do not accept them as permanent." Who uses "efficacious" or "inefficacy"? It smacks of a professor trying to impress his peers.
   
   My recommendation? Read a few pages of this book BEFORE plunking down your hard-earned cash; then decide.



5. I've probably read over 500 books on science, philosophy, self improvement, and other subjects but this is the most beneficial and practical book of them all.

5 comments about The Red Hat Society(TM): Fun and Friendship After Fifty.

1. I thoroughly enjoyed this book. Light hearted good fun with lots of ideas for Red Hat Ladies.
   Loved the section on the names.



2. I have heard of this 'movement' for several years, and finally started my own chapter...but I guess its going to be slow-going cause no one has joined me yet...but I will continue to wear my purple, plus my red hats...and maybe those I invited will loosen up for some nice fun times...thanks for this book...it was a source of encouragement; gave me the guts to go for it...so give my Chapter a gander...join the Rockin' n Rollin' Reds in Arvada, CO. Way to go, Queen Sue Ellen!



3. This is a wonderful book for those ladies approaching the dramatic age of "50". It's uplifting, funny and positively great for boosting morale. Almost like turning 21 again! We have a new look on life and plan to strut with our Red Hats often. Already my friends and I have chartered our membership and have officially named ourselves the "Fabulous Diva D'Lites". An article was printed recently in our local newspaper with a photo of our Queen Mum and all the Divas! So far, we've had a ball! I highly recommend this book...



4. This book is full of typos; what happened to proofreading...is that a lost art/job?
   
   This book is also a good example of what Andy Rooney spoke of; authors making thousands on the backs of others. Nothing is original by the author in this book; it is merely a compliation of the works of others. You would think at least, since the author did have to compose anything, she could have at least proofread it.



5. As a 50-year-old guy, I'm not in the typical demographic for this book. Nevertheless, I found it to be a real hoot.
   
   The Red Hat Society started in 1996 as a sort of joke between frieds. Sue Allen Cooper had read Jenny Joseph's poem, "Warning" which threatened all sorts of self-indulgent and unladylike behavior -- including wearing purple clothes and red hats -- when she grew old enough to get away with it. Cooper started giving red hats to her friends as they turned 50. The silliness and liberation that this unleashed quickly became contagious. In a few months, the idea of forming rule-less girls-only clubs had spread across the country and around the world. The joy, release and sisterhood that these women have found is very inspiring and fun to watch. Rather than making middle- and old age a thing to dread, these women have found joy and camaraderie in their later years.
   
   The book tells of the story of the group and divulges the homemade rituals and customs of this fabulous "disorganization" It gives helpful tips on how to form a group of one's own, and of all things that go along with being a Red Hatter - the regal wave, the motto, the song, the vows and regalia.
   
   I truly enjoyed the freewheeling wackiness that has been a hallmark of the group from the beginning. The group names are a riot - "The Scarlett O'Hattas," "The Red Hat Tamales," and the "Ladies of the Purple Sage" are just a few of the whimsical names that the women have given themselves. Not to mention the personal titles! Women are bestowing upon themselves titles from Lady to Queen and everything in between. "Countess Can't-be-bothered" and "Lady Lie-about" were two of my favorites.
   
   The Red Hat Society is a breath of fresh air and sisterhood to what can bee a depressing and lonely stage in a woman's life. The Red Hatters are giving themselves permission to get old, permission to age gracefully and permission to bring joy into their own lives.
   
   You go, Highnesses!

5 comments about The Book of No.

1. We're raised to be agreeable. We're taught to be kind. We feel like helping out and doing favors makes us better people, more likable in the eyes of others... and more importantly, we fear that saying "no" will make us disagreeable and unlikable to others. We're wrong.
   
   As the author points out, our fear of being disagreeable is often far worse than the actual reaction we get. When someone hears no, they often move on quickly to ask the next person, and our refusal is quickly forgotten. And what's more, by saying no we get back time for ourselves to do the things WE want to do, rather than spending our lives always doing what others want to do. It's important that we all learn to master this skill.
   
   The book didn't get into much depth on the problem nor its causes, but it makes up for that in offering ways to fix it -- an area where many self-help books fall short. I was disappointed in the way this book was blatantly skewed toward a female perspective, as if this problem didn't exist for men or they are not worthy of being given a solution to it. It seems to me as if the author blames men for her "people-pleasing" ways.
   
   Even though I had to use my imagination at times in order to apply the advice to myself, I was able to get something useful from reading this book. I will, however, keep looking for a more comprehensive and non-gender-biased book on this topic.



2. If you regularly find yourself saying "Yes" to others when you really want to be saying "No, no, no!" The Book of No may be just what you need. The theme at the heart of this book is the eye-opening truth of "When you say yes continually to others, you say no to yourself."
   
   After shedding some light on why it can be so easy to fall into the yes-trap, Susan helps light the way to the path of saying no. In addition to providing 250 instructive and entertaining just-say-no scenarios, Susan's book is packed with hard-hitting insights including: "Each time you agree when you don't want to, you give up a piece of yourself" and "No is the cornerstone of self-respect and your gateway to being able to concentrate on what makes you feel better and more in command of your life."
   
   The Book of No is certainly a read worth saying yes to!



3. While I feel that this book does a good job of giving scenarios where people wheedle you into situations that you may not want to accept, I feel that some of the responses are rude. Every situation in the book deserves a no, but the way that the "no" sentences are framed could, at times, be much better.
   
   For example, on page 84, the scenario is the following: "Your brothers asks, 'Can you keep the children busy this afternoon so I can put the final touches on the new playroom? It's almost done.'" The author's recommended response is, "Give me a break. I need the afternoon to myself." I think that this could be considered potentially rude to the brother. I would respond in a light hearted fashion and say, "Nice try, bro! But David and I are going to the movies this afternoon; I can't do it." Or even, "I need a break from work, and as much as I love your children, babysitting them this afternoon won't give me the break that I need. I wish I could help, but I can't."
   
   Anyway, perhaps the author means a lot of these responses in a lighter way; if that's so, then I think that she should indicate the tone that they should be said in. Tone and body language often say so much more than words.



4. well, it's simple, a big big disappointment, the book should've been called "The book of excuses" or "excuses for dummies"



5. The Book of No
   As a psychotherapist, I'm continually helping bolster people who have trouble saying 'no.' It's an essential life skill, because if you can't say 'no' when you need to, then your 'yes' is meaningless, and will result in resentment that leaks out in passive/aggressive ways.
   
   Susan Newman's book is a great resource for my clients. It's a reference book for how to say 'no' in a variety of situations and circumstances. Having a script for how to say no encourages people to try it, and they then learn by doing.
   
   A very helpful aid to the refusal-impaired.