3 comments about Recovery Of Your Self-Esteem: A Guide For Women.

1. Carolynn Hillman presents an effective way to eliminate the inner-critic with its degrading and put-down voice and teaches us how to replace this with a supportive inner caretaker so that we can truly be our authentic selves. This is the first book that I have found that gets to the root and digs out the cause of poor self-esteem. The first line in Chapter 3,"Why We Are the Way We Are" blew me away. She writes, "We devalue ourselves and treat ourselves in harsh, judgemental, overly critical ways because we have been taught to do so". Wow, that meant I could unlearn this and eliminate once and for all that self-destroying inner critical voice! I wasn't born flawed! The author gives clear, specific steps on how to do this and it works. I have been working on my self-esteem for many, many years; reading books, therapy, and praying. The day before I found this book on my friend's bookshelf,I had asked in anguish and frustration, "How do I do this? How do I be ME?!" This book was the answer. Even before I finished reading it and doing the exercises, I experienced a huge "energy exchange". I believe the term is panic attack (of which I had never had before). I was laughing and crying at the same time while unable to get enough air. I gulped and sobbed and laughed as I felt thoughts and emotions whirling and clashing inside me, rearranging themselves. Later I realized it was as if my authentic inner self was battling that "critical worthless" me that I thought was real. When I finally began to breath deeply again, I felt a self-acceptance in my heart and insides for the first time in my life. I knew that I was o.k. I was/am enough. I feel different. I even feel normal - whatever that is. Thank-you, thank-you, thank-you Carolynn Hillman for giving me back to myself. I am buying several copies for my daughter, my sisters and friends. So to anyone who is not living the life you want, or being the person you want to be, get this book, read it, do the exercises. You can change and truly be the wonderful, caring, loving and beautiful person you are.



2. This book is not exceptionally user friendly and lacks the appeal that a self help book needs to maintain the readers attention.



3. I believe this book will help any woman looking for a little self healing. If you will do the exercises, you will feel better about yourself and your surroundings. I had exceptional service from the seller Thank you.

5 comments about When GOD Winks on Love: Let the Power of Coincidence Lead You to Love.

1. I have read all three of Mr. Rusnells books. I think they really make you think about the coincidences in your own life. Many times I have thought about things that happened to me and wondered, how could that be? Why did this happen at this particular time in my life? I thought Mr. Rushnell's book help put these life events in perspective I can't think of a better name then God Winks too!



2. Some people are just meant to be and when you think of it ... maybe one ought to just go with the flow when it comes to love. Real life stories of how there is something beyond your control ... God ... and that is a good thing!



3. I order this book after reading SQuire Rushnell's "When God Winks At You". I was very impressed by the first one and after I ordered this book, I plan on getting the rest of his series. It has a few amazing stories, but most of them are realistic stories that teach you lessons and give you hopw that you can find love too, and that God is there every step of the Way.



4. I have read all three of the God wink books. I have found them excellent and will recommend them to others.



5. The author has a divorced man remarrying another woman. This is not Biblical. Marriage is until death do you part and if you get divorced and remarry then you commit adultery against your biblical spouse. God would not give us permission to sin. Adultery goes against the ten commandments.

5 comments about Imagine a Woman in Love with Herself: Embracing Your Wisdom and Wholeness.

1. I am enjoying this book, although I am reading it at a slow pace. The chapters are divided by sections of the poems and there are meditations in each chapter-which I find helpful.



2. Honestly, I don't even know why this book was written. While reading it I thought this sounds so odd....we should be heading towards equality and the whole part of "out of balance" is rediculous...eating ice cream and spending time with your mom and fantasizing about sex...ummm last time i checked that kept a lot of ppl i know away from medication and a lot of stress. I did not like this book at all and thought it to be a complete farse....seriously children dont masterbate when they are little....yeah they are sexually aroused but they dont go exploring there bodies and think the way Reilly is describing...its too profound and the world girl-child sounds too robotic...creepy almost like the movie Donnie Darko.



3. a beautiful combination of poetry, story telling, personal insight, sharing and comraderie amongst women. every woman on earth should read this, cherish it and share it!



4. This book really got to my core as I read it! Its not a long read and it was almost disappointing to complete it so quickly but I knew I would end up re-reading the book many times. It is a beautiful novel that often left me teary or grinning. Thank you for such a wonderful piece!



5. This book is beautifully written. Reading this book alone, or using parts of it in women's groups, is very effective. It can teach a woman how to fall in love with herself.

2 comments about Raising Confident Girls: 100 Tips for Parents and Teachers.

1. Straight forward, easy to follow tips on how to help girls grow to their full potential. There are not a lot of wasted words. This book's format is simple and to the point. It is written for ordinary people who just want some common sense advise on how to help girls be happy, healthy, and strong.



2. Parents who wish for confident girls will find the "usual" list here, all centering around developing respect and confidence in girls. There are some glaring omissions, however. (Nothing on boundary setting, questions that girls may have about development.) Some of the recommendations may be wrong in certain settings (e.g., "Don't impose your views" makes no sense if the child is not safe). This is child-centered, laissez-faire parenting, suitable for middle-class, well-educated, physically safe families.

   Some of the 100 tips parallel exactly the 100 items for boys in the author's book for boys (e.g., Support the school).

   This book is better than Will Glennon's "200 Ways to Raise a Girl's self-esteem."

5 comments about I am me I am free - The Robots' Guide to Freedom.

1. Unique, articulate and lovable David Icke is successfully searching for truth and knowledge and has fantastic gifts of wit and humor, openness and honesty. It is PURE PLEASURE to read his books, watch and hear him talk. Doesn't matter how much you agree with him, he WILL enrich and inspire your life!!



2. The above is the subtitle of the book and exactly what the book is about. "Robots", the name first brought to the world by Czech writer Karel Capek. Robots represent the herd mentality of the human race as mentioned in the first chapter: "The nail that stands out from the rest is the first one to be hit." Add a little bit of religion, "We still believe too much and think too little" and politics, "Humanity has given its mind away and allowed the few to run the show", corruption in governments, exploitation of millions by financial institutions, indoctrination of kids, child abuse, mind control, and you get the picture.
   
   You may not agree with everything, but I assure you that you will see eye to eye with a lot of things David Icke says. The book is an "early" Icke, circa 1996. It was written during the period when the author was still SEEKING the answers (today, he KNOWS them). Some of the past reviews dealt with subjects that might be considered either "extreme" (shapeshifting reptilians controlling the world; world leaders - including former Canadian prime minister Pierre E. Trudeau - killing, torturing and raping human slaves), or "personal point of view" (extra-marital sexual relationships flooding us with new knowledge and energy that allows us to evolve to a higher-level of consciousness). A subject I would consider as "radical" deals with AIDS (claims re HIV/AIDS transmission are nothing but lies). Could any (alternative) doctor or healer out there read and comment on this?
   
   By the way, Mr. Trudeau had the privilege to share his bed with the world's most beautiful and distinguished women (Leona Boyd, Barbara Streisand and Karen Kain among others), had a 30-years younger charming wife and had to chase women away so he could get at least a few hours of sleep every week. Why the heck would he be interested in a hamburger when he had steak in his own bedroom?
   
   The book is brilliantly written, both in form and substance. What is absolutely amazing is the clarity and openness with which the author presents his view of the world. He doesn't want to please anybody. He doesn't want to convince or convert anybody. He doesn't camouflage his thoughts and words. That is very rare, indeed, in today's society where people turn off their cellphones, switch off the lights and shut the doors when they want to talk about the world. My compliments to his courage and honesty. "I am me I am free" is a mind-opening and thought-provoking read for those who want to see another point of view.



3. "I am me, I am free" is an outstanding book that will rattle your belief system, drop kick your social and religious dogma, but nurture you with a new perspective on the world.
   
   Whether you take his teachings as gospel or continue to exist in this matrix, the book will leave its mark on your conscious. You will not be able to see the world the same again.



4. The Information in this book is simple and yet extraordinarly powerful insightful and lifechanging but only if your willing to put the information into practice. you must read this book with an open mind!!true happyness is within ourselves not any Relegious dogma or whatever society has forced down our throats!!Mr.Icke teaches us to be different to be ourselves.HIGHLY RECOMMENDED BOOK!!!



5. Forget harry potter, forget politics, this is your time to evolve!
   This book will change your life and set you free. You'll be able to see the reality as you want it to be not as they want it to impose it on you!
   It's time to escape from our own-made prison, it's time to wake up and use our eyes for our very first time!
   
   We give and receive love, unconditionally to EVERYONE, we are ONE, WE ARE GOD!

5 comments about 8,789 Words of Wisdom.

1. I love this book! Daily I read just a few pages to inspire me and sets my mood for the day to do things more wisely. One sentence quotes from Proverbs, to saying heard you heard growing up. This is a fun book to keep in your car to read in traffic or in a bathroom setting. A great gift for those that might be feeling down.



2. It's a great book to pick up and scan through. I think it would be even better if the book was on a disk I could put in my Car CD player. With maybe some meditative music in the background I could just let the words of wisdon sink in on my way home from work. Could someone let me know if that is already a work in process?



3. I think Barbara Ann Kipfer is just awesome please go ahead and buy all her books, you won't regret it.



4. Trite and disappointing. Reads like a box of fortune cookies. Small thoughts masquerading as deep thoughts. The blurbs are so similar that it's nearly impossible to tell one page from the next.



5. An invaluable book... delve in anywhere; and if one quote doesn't "speak to your condition", you're bound to find a dozen others that do. It's witty; inspirational; kind; meditative - and I've bought so many copies as gifts that I reckon I'll soon be 'on commission' for sales! (That's a jest). It's my travelling companion on whatever part of the globe I may be.

5 comments about Leap!: What Will We Do with the Rest of Our Lives?.

1. Very helpful to the baby-boomers...While written from a woman's point of view, it touches issues that must be common to men and women both.
   
   A must read!



2. I would've given this book a "zero star" rating if that was available. It was new-age blather, and there are already lots of sources for that. It mainly consists of interviews with folks who were either rich or famous (or both), not a lot of relevance for the average person who wants to figure out what to do with our remaining years. When she went on the two-week volunteer session to India, and her fellow volunteers described the author as "spoiled, needy, demanding and condescending", they nailed it. I'd just add narcissism to that list of her traits. It seems this was her own quest for self-fulfillment, with little to offer us in terms of helping us find our own self-fulfillment. Very disappointed, could not recommend this book.



3. I really enjoyed this book. This book gave me a new meaning to life. Always look forward to tomorrow, and at the end of the day, nothing really matters for everything is temporary. So enjoy every moment of your life!
   
   By giving real life examples, the author demonstrates that it is never too late to start anew. Some people achieve more in their old age, so never give up, regardless of your age. She starts off by citing herself as an example. After writing several bestseller books and many successful TV scripts, the author found herself without a job. Her books, scripts, and magazine articles were being rejected. She thought that it was the end of the world. But it was not so. We are all given second, third, fourth, and fifth chances. And if need be, we can be given many more chances. The author soon reclaims her previous glory, and this book `Leap!' is now on the New York Times bestselling books 30 years after her last bestselling book, `Loose Change'.
   
   The author draws on the experience of famous people such as Carly Simon (who ends up having a hit after many in the music industry gave up on her); Jane Fonda (she demonstrates that there is life after the smash hit `Barbarella), Iman (a model from Ethiopia who ends up being a sensation in New York and ends up marrying David Bowie); and many others. You will also hear stories from writers, professors, psychologists, and spiritual leaders.
   
   The chapter on spiritual leaders was my favorite one, for I found it very controversial. One Indian guru says that organized religions are bad, for no one can tell you the path you should take. Every person should find his own path that leads to the truth. No two persons can take the same path. Put in other words, "truth is a pathless land, and it cannot be approached by any path whatsoever, by any religion, or any sect. The spoken or written word is not the truth...if an organization be formed for this purpose, it becomes a crutch, a weakness, a bondage, and must cripple the individual." (p. 244). To find the truth, we must be absolutely and unconditionally free! I found this concept interesting. This same guru abolished his own sect, despite the objection of his followers, for again, he was against organized religions and sects.
   
   Another guru leaves all his worldly belongings and lives a life of spirituality and begging. He neglects his body so much that he does not feel the bugs eating at his body. Is this the way to attain the ultimate truth? Which path will you follow?
   
   Who are we, and who is asking the question? Are we our body, or our conscious; or maybe both? When we reflect on our life, who is doing the reflecting? Who is observing our life? Who is the observer? Is the observer our conscious? I found those questions very intriguing. To find the answers to these questions is worth living every minute of our life, and this is what this book is all about!
   
   I am by no means old, but I do constantly think about death. As the author explains, some Indian gurus recommend we meditate on death on a daily basis. We will all die, and we better accept this fact at an early age. Knowing that one day we will die should give us power. With death looming over our head, we are actually motivated to enjoy life for we know that one day it will all end.
   
   By thinking about dying, I actually empower myself. Whenever things don't go the way I want them too, or whenever I am sad, lonely, or depressed, I think of death. I say to myself, "One day I will day, and none of this will matter." This thought is enough to put me back on my feet with zeal! Thinking of death is not such a bad thing after all!
   
   It is never too late to enjoy life and start new careers. As the author explains, some people start new careers in their sixties and seventies! Others acquire new hobbies such as learning new languages.
   
   The strange thing is that some people opt to end their lives rather than get old. Dying is one thing, getting old is another. It might be easier to accept death than a long life of suffering and inactivity due to old age. The author discusses this and offers real life examples.
   
   The book ends with two pages entitled, "Reading Group Questions and Topics for Discussion." This is the first time I see this in a book (other than in text books), and I think it is a great addition for reading groups. Some of the discussion questions you will find:
   
   1. Why was `surrender' painful for the author? Did her understanding of surrender change? (None of us should ever surrender. It is never too late to start anew. There is always light at the end of the tunnel).
   
   2. Have you considered having plastic surgery or decided against it? Did reading the author's report on a face lift affect your thinking? (After reading her chapter on plastic surgery, I don't think I'd ever recommend it to any healthy person).
   
   3. The author explores whether we're `hard-wired' to seek a romantic partner. What is your experience? (I personally think we are `hard-wired' to seek our other half!)
   
   4. Davidson discovers a great range of sexual behavior after fifty, from those who give it up to those who discover new sensations. What intrigued or disturbed you about her reporting on sexuality? (The chapter on sexuality was intriguing and I learnt things I never knew. I am sure many readers will find that chapter both informative and enjoyable. The passages on the G-spot were quite informative).
   
   5. The author says we're a society of workaholics, but the imperative is not merely to work but to align yourself with your purpose. How would you go about doing that? (Life is not all about work. What's the point of having a career and being successful if you are not happy? Our goal should be to attain happiness, not success. Success might be a by-product of happiness).
   
   6. If you knew the world was going to end in two days, what would you do? (This is one of the most important questions in this book. Whatever you think you should do, DO IT NOW!)
   
   7. Is there such a thing as `rational suicide'? (I am personally against suicide, but if I was terminally ill (God forbid) and saw the suffering of those around me as a result of my hopeless state, would I contemplate suicide to end the misery of my loved ones? If one commits suicide as a selfless act, would that be `rational suicide'?)
   
   8. What's the purpose of a `life review'? (A `life-review' will make you the observer, separating you from `the you'. You are no longer `you' but the observer).
   
   Note: If you purchased `Leap!' you may download the free workbook, which has exercises to help you define what's right for you in the years ahead. Go to saradavidson.com and click on `Free Workbook."
   
   To sum up, I think the back cover of the book summarizes the importance of this book: "Davidson holds up a mirror for readers, allowing them to see not only themselves and those around them but their potential futures...and the possibilities are boundless."



4. Sara Davidson's LEAP carries one through from one sketch to the next. The
   inspirations that come from each sketch motivates one into thinking about
   the "rest of our lives". I have
   recommended this book to several friends who will connect. It actually gives
   a door opening to those who are still to reach the "age of what will I do with
   the last 20 years or so of my life. Don't miss this book!



5. This book should be subtitled "What will We (The Rich, Self-Indulgent, With No Obligations) Do With the Rest of Our Lives?" I am a baby boomer, but I have 2 kids in college that I am still partially supporting, elderly parents and in-laws that will soon need my help, and a husband who has a job he loves and doesn't want to leave. I can't drop everything and run off to India or Costa Rica to discover myself. If you have the time and money to do that sort of thing, then maybe this book is for you.

5 comments about Don't Be That Girl: A Guide to Finding the Confident, Rational Girl Within.

1. As a therapist, I bought this book mainly out curiosity and as a possible reference for clients. The book starts out well enough, suggesting that a woman who is not "that girl" is confident and doesn't need the approval of men for her sense of self. However, the "labels" are difficult to apply to real world situations. Probably many people have met these "criteria" at some points in their lives. I don't think women really need more categorizing and labeling- it's already done enough in multiple other industries and women have enough collective anxiety already about this. Also, it subjects women to relentlessly question their motives and behavior- "gee, am I a bitter girl because I broke it off with someone who was verbally abusive?" "Am I now an agenda girl because I've waited 3 years for him to propose and really want to get married?" "Am I a yes girl for not asking him to propose and it's been 4 years?" I think women have enough to deal with in their lives, and feel this book is oversimplified if one is looking for real advice. If one is just looking for a lighthearted read to not take too seriously, this book is fine. And no, I'm not suggesting money on therapy instead! There are plenty of other good books out there. Perhaps if Dr. Stork had done a psychiatric/ER residency I may have given it more credibility. Seeing a patient a few times in the ER in crisis isn't the same as working with them long term for years on end. It's easy to apply labels when we aren't aware of the whole story.



2. I found this book interesting and somewhat humorous. It had alot of tips and advice that women could use in their dating experiences and I would recommend it to other women.



3. This book explores the reasons that some women seem to be serially unsuccessful in their dating relationships. It suggests that men recognize particular behavioral attributes in certain women, which sooner or later raise a red flag, causing these guys to run for the hills. The author identifies eight specific "types" of women and how their actions, words and attitudes work together to doom their every male-female relationship. Fortunately, by identifying these relationship-sabotaging behaviors, the reader is not only able to determine if they fall into any of the offending categories, but also what they need to do to alter their habits and general outlook to avoid continuing to be "that girl." Overall, it is an interesting read, and one I recommend for anyone who seems to have a long history of being "unlucky at love."



4. I bought this book for a single friend who was struggling dating, and she really found it informative with a little bit of humor mixed in. I've seen Dr. Stork on T.V. and just really thought he pointed out things from a male point of view. I highly recommend it.



5. THIS BOOK...ALTHOUGH FUNNY AT TIMES...WAS A WASTE OF MONEY. IT HAD ABSOLUTELY NO PURPOSE. ALL HE DOES IS POINT OUT THE KIND OF GIRLS GUYS DONT WANT, MEANWHILE AS YOU READ YOUR SELF ESTEEM LOWERS AND LOWERS, PAGE BY PAGE. EACH CHAPTER IS ABOUT "THAT" GIRL THAT YOU SHOULD NOT BE, HOWEVER, HE NEVER DISCUSSES HOW ONE SHOULD NOT BE "THAT" GIRL. AT THE END HE JUST STATES, JUST DONT BE "THAT" GIRL....WOW!!! THANK YOU!!! LOL HATE IT PLEASE SAVE YOURSELF THE MONEY.

5 comments about Complete Life's Little Instruction Book: 1,560 Suggestions, Observations, and Reminders on How to Live a Happy and Rewarding Life.

1. H. Jackson Brown, Jr. is among the best advice givers in today's world of literacy. This book is the best gift for anyone starting a whole new lifestyle. I recommend this book to all young adults, especially those who will soon go on to College. For the game of life is always a hard game to play for young and old alike, and we can ALWAYS use a little or a lot of motivation every now and then.



2. I first found this book on a bargain shelf at my local bookstore and picked it up for just 4 or 5 dollars. It really was a good buy.
   
   It really is not a book that one would want to pick up and read but rather a book that you would want to have lie on your desk at work or on your coffee table at home so that visitors (or clients) can pick it up and turn to a random page and find any assortment of good philosophical sayings.
   
   Each time I pick it up I find myself smiling at the fact that it gives something new each time you open it. With over 1500 entries, it really does give advice on everything. It gives advice on the things that we ethically know, but not necessarily are written down anywhere.
   
   I bought a second copy not long ago for a friend of mine for a Christmas gift. It's a simple little thing that can make a big reaction.



3. I purchased these books for a group of college students that worked together as a staff. Some graduating, some still studying. I can only hope they do take the time to read it (here and there - not all at once) and it helps each one of them be better people. I believe this book has the ability to create role models and help people to treat others with kindness.



4. I loved this little book! This is the result of a dad sitting down to write out a few words of wisdom and advice for his son who was going off to his freshman year at college. The first list was 511 entries, and then, he mailed his son a new collection every two years.
   
   There's some great advice all through this book! And no long stories attached either. Short and straight to the point, each numbered piece of advice is no more than a few lines long. The suggestions cover a broad range, some are serious while others are funny or trivial, but all are honest and good advice, and many are just interesting. Like #841: "When your dog dies, frame his collar and put it above a window facing west" -I've never heard of that before.
   
   I highly recommend this little book as a gifts for anybody in your life and for anything from birthdays to graduations or just because. Would also make a good coffe table or bathroom book too.



5. I enjoyed reading each and every single advice contained in this book. Some of them are quite simple, even obvious. Some are more complex and profound. Nonetheless, everyone deals with those little details, the small things that can be a huge problem, or a great blessing. Awesome choice for a gift...you can hand-pick some of them to make them more giftee oriented or even write a Hopscotch in the manner of Julio Cortázar famous novel. Hope this helps. Worked for me.

5 comments about Living with Your Husband's Secret Wars.

1. I read this book for a friend and it was nowhere near as good as Breaking Free (by Russ Willingham) that my husband and I read to address the same problem. From what I gathered, Marsha Means has never herself experienced sexual betrayal, just the fear of it. She has some basic info on codependency in the book, but I would argue that the wife chapter in Breaking Free is just as practical without all the scary stories with no resolution. If your husband wants to change, read Breaking Free together and leave this one on the shelf. You might find yourself loving your husband through his not-so-secret wars, not just living with him.



2. I thought this book would be one where forgiveness was better than judgement. Unfortunately, despite how well it is written, it throws the book at any offender who may so much as appear to be sneaking. I think that it really needs to focus on communication, wound healing, and loving so much the multitude of minor infractions are forgiven, and any few serious ones are dealt with the hope of reconciliation. Many adults, whether male or female, are growing up seriously in need of serious help. Divorce should never be the first or middle option..... it should be the last. That is tough love.



3. This book was AWESOME! Through all my pain I searched and compared every book out there side by side, on a tight budget I struggled to find the right one that pertained the most to me and my situation. Every book seemed to touch on different areas of the wife's pain, but this book was everything I wanted and more, not only that, but it just overall gave me the tools and knowledge I needed to work through my pain, as well as the gift of hope. To have something to reach for. It is a must read, I usually dedicate about a week to a book, but I just couldnt put it down, I read it cover to cover today, I recieved it last night!



4. I purchased this book shortly after discovering that my husband had a sexual addiction. For me, the book was too basic. If you're upset because you found an "off color" magazine in your husband's nightstand, then this book is for you. If your partner has a true sex addiction, this book seems juvenile and rediculous.



5. Interesting ideas and intense - is geared for women but makes good reading if you can get your husband to read also.