5 comments about Love First: A New Approach to Intervention for Alcoholism and Drug Addiction (A Hazelden Guidebook) (Hezelden Guidebook).

1. I found this to be one of the best books to help a person struggling with a loved ones addiction. I have read many, many books, but this book has to be one that I recommend to everyone with this type of problem in their life.



2. This book really opened my eyes to drug and alcohol addiction. With great care the authors help the reader understand what addiction truly is, and then arm the reader with pertinent information and tools to help the reader rethink how to approach a loved one who has an addiction. Great book.



3. This good book of course stresses love. And if it were an ideal world, we would all just love the afflicted alcoholic/addict -- but in this imperfect world, we are all just human. And us family members get so angry when we are so chronically made to feel crazy by them. They are under the influence, but we go through their stuff, stark raving sober. I got that phrase from the book that has given me and my patients literally hundreds of ways to cope on a daily basis----and get better---- when we live with their addiction, whether or not we are in a position to accomplish an intervention. That book, "Getting Them Sober", is endorsed by Dear Abby and Dr. Norman Vincent Peale and Melody Beattie (who says it is "the best book for the still-drinking alcoholic". It has changed my patients' lives overnight.Getting Them Sober: You Can Help! (Getting Them Sober)



4. The subject of alcoholism was approached so lovingly in this book that it brought tears to my eyes. What a wonderful way to encourage the alcoholic to seek treatment. I could relate to so many instances when I had tried to get my partner, who I love dearly, into rehab, without success. I would highly recommend this book to anyone seeking information and answers on this very misunderstood disease.



5. This book gives great insite into the problem of dealing with alchol.
   It helped me a great deal.Hazelden is known to be one of the best resorces on the subject

5 comments about I Love Dirt!: 52 Activities to Help You and Your Kids Discover the Wonders of Nature.

1. I LOVE DIRT!, with its enticing cover photograph of a small child headed down a dirt path into the woods, will call to the very audience for which it is intended--adults (parents, grandparents, and teachers alike) who love children and who want to feed their spirits in the best way possible, with time together outdoors in nature. With a foreward by none other than Richard Louv, author of the acclaimed LAST CHILD IN THE WOODS, this book is a compendium of ways to spend that time together in every season. No adult who wants to take a child outdoors need ever again be at a loss for ideas.
   
   Rather than just a book of games or crafts, this book, by an award-winning children's author and elementary school teacher, focuses on meaningful experiential learning experiences. The timeless activity of gathering leaves in the fall grows to become a lesson on gravity. Rather than just watching birds, Ward invites children to keep a journal as Audubon did, sharpening their observation skills as they do.
   
   The trim size invites adults to tuck the book into a pocket, purse or backpack. And you'll want to read it with a small stash of post-it flags at hand, to mark each of the appealing activities you'll want to try out with the children in your life!



2. I love the outdoors and sharing it with my kids, and I loved Richard Louv's book Last Child in the Woods. So I was eager to read this new paperback that contains 52 easy ways to experience nature with one's kids and educate them about it.
   
   I was really impressed by this book: short chapters divided into four seasons, with suggested activities to experience and concurrent teaching points about biology, physics, and the environment to help the little ones understand what they are seeing and doing.
   
   Over and over again I caught myself thinking, "What a great idea... yea, that's a good one... gee, I didn't know that... I'm going to have to try that one out!"
   
   A great book to read for any parent, grandparent, or anyone else involved in young people's lives. Go get a copy!



3. While some think it is so obvious to teach your kids the things in this book, we as a culture forget about a lot of it and this is a nice, cute, compact little reminder to get outside. There are a lot of basic concepts with this like look for colors in nature, look for birds in the sky, but this book does go beyond that and how to help your kids do more than look for birds. It ask, do you see a flying bird, what about a bright bird, a dull bird, that sort of thing. Things that people don't always do.
   I think this is an inexpensive, innocent reminder to parents and grandparents to do more than say, "go outside and play", but to go play too. And to do more than play, to learn life lessons by what is going on around you.



4. The book is organized around the seasons. It is designed to provide one nature experience per week of the year, that is, a focused, narrow-topic nature activity is laid out for the family to do.
   
   In my opinion this is for use with children under ten years old. The reason why is it not good for children over ten is that some of the activities are too babyish for older kids (go play in a puddle etc.). The shallow/introductory information is suitable for preschoolers and elementary grade kids. Kids aged possibly nine and ten may ask more questions than this book supplies.
   
   The book basically gives activities to do with young children outside. If the adult knows not much about nature, this book provides talking points and ideas of what to do. Encourage the child to touch the water, swish in the water and see what happens and so forth. There are suggestions to have children do things and then to discuss what happens. Factual information is provided that is good if the adult doesn't know a lot about nature.
   
   The educational talking point claims to fulfill a learning objective. Each objective is at the end of each chapter, such as "stimulates awareness of one's surroundings" and "stimulates caring and stewardship for all living things". I'm not quite sure why the author felt that the parents needed those learning objectives spelled out. Perhaps she intended that public school teachers would use this book and would need that information so they could fit it into their curriculum or into the No Child Left Behind's objectives?
   
   Conversely if the parent or grandparent already knows this basic information then the book's information could be too simplistic and not very useful; it could be considered dumbed down and unnecessary for some adults.
   
   Some of these things end up feeling staged to me. For example if the parent intends to discuss where animals go during the day, but the child doesn't take that bait and run with that topic, you are out of luck with your plans (and this book is all about planning). I sure hope the parent doesn't come down hard on the child for 'not following the plans'. Also if the parent prepares to do X with the child but they want to spontaneously explore other things (which is good in my opinion) the adult may feel frustrated that they prepared or ill-equipped to answer questions about Y.
   
   The people who are more spontaneous in general may feel this book is too limiting, but those people may not feel the need to buy a book of ideas! For me, this book is too limiting and unnecessary, but everyone is different, so perhaps this book is just what you desire.
   
   This is a unique book. If this helps some parents get outdoors with their kids and have the children spend more time in nature then this book will have done its job (even ithe parent doesn't fully use the book as intended or if they don't get to do everything outlined in the book).
   
   It is a very good idea to get kids outside more and outside exploring nature with their children. Hooray for that!! I applaud the author for writing this book which seems to be trying hard to give parents some tools and ideas about how to explore nature with their children (and throw in some education in the process).



5. This book does NOT provide activities. It's a list of conversational pieces one could have with their children about nature -- mostly just questions. I gave it 2 stars, since some of the questions were good ones. However, I was expecting actual activities I could do with my kids. I judged this book by the cover... and was disappointed.

5 comments about Child of Mine: Feeding with Love and Good Sense.

1. Child of Mine: Feeding with Love and Good Sense
   
   A must read for any parent! I was fortunate to read this book before my first child arrived. I followed Ellyn's division of responsibility in regards to feeding and I have had zero feeding issues with my first daughter (now 2 ½ years-old). I watch my friends struggle with the whole "take another bite" and "mmmm, yummy, yummy" routine and I am proud to say I have never resorted to these tactics. My daughter eats like a champ. You can bet I am following these guidelines with daughter number two (5 months-old). You need to get rid of your preconceptions and learn to trust your child!



2. This book was recommended by my daughter's pediatrician after I started to worry about her gaining enough weight as she was born extremely premature. It is full of useful, practical advice and common sense on how to encourage good feeding habits in your children. I found this particularly useful as I don't want to pass my own bad feeding habits onto my kids. Only after reading this book did I realise how important feeding is as I was originally only concerned about what I fed my baby and not how I fed her.
   She is thriving and enjoying learning to eat by herself and we are much happier and more relaxed parents now that we are following Ellen Satter's simple advice for feeding children.
   All new parents should read this book.



3. I bought this book because I work with families who are struggling to parent their children effectively. I needed information to assist their parenting skills. This book had the most comprehensive collection of data, including lactose intolerance that I have found. It is easy for me to understand and therefore will help me with my work journeying with these parents.



4. Children are resilient but this book presents ideas which can make a big positive impact on their relationships with you, other people, and food throughout their lifetime. Admittedly, in my case, she is preaching to the choir, and I am simply thrilled with how she weaves seemingly disparate results of various studies into a comprehensive view of feeding as an activity which is important emotionally and developmentally. She doesn't talk about eating in isolation but rather links it to playtime, sleep and wakefulness etc. She addresses both the average child and children that she describes as vulnerable to well-meaning but misguided parents (e.g. preemies, small babies, fat babies). While many books include growth charts, this book is the only one I've seen which explains in detail how babies normally progress through these charts and how to interpret deviations from the norm.
   
   Having glanced at one of Satter's older books, her writing style seems to be more concise now which is good because the book is already hefty enough even though it only elaborates on the more contentious topics. The organizational flow is good and she repeats her main messages often so that it is possible to read the chapters in isolation.
   
   Although it is current only to sometime around its print date (2000), the general info relayed is consistent with the more recent changes in the pediatric practices I've experienced and the other books that I've read. She hasn't updated the breastfeeding chapter, preferring instead to refer people to say "The Nursing Mother's Companion". It seems very even-handed about how it presents both breastfeeding and formula-feeding. Making that choice secondary to the feeding relationship itself.
   
   To sum it all up, she has done her homework and she is providing a valuable public service in presenting her life's work in this book. I initially had a library copy and am now purchasing multiple copies for myself and as gifts to friends who present concerns to me that are answered by this book!
   
   p.s. on a more humorous note, it reminds me of the intent of the book "Good Owners, Great Cats". In this case, if you improve the parenting, the kid will shine!



5. there're some useful information , esp. psychological ones. However, i don't like this book myself.

5 comments about Permission Marketing : Turning Strangers Into Friends And Friends Into Customers.

1. Seth Godin consistently churns out great business publications and "Permission Marketing" is no exception.
   
   In a nutshell, it involves allowing your customer to feel more in control of the sales process. By asking for, and obtaining, permission to contact the customer you are increasing your conversion rate as well as gaining intelligence to deliver relevant offers to your client.
   
   I think I read in a book called, "Life By Design," people have something called a reticular activator, which is basically a hyper sensitivity to the things they are interested in buying.
   
   If somebody is in the early stages of buying a Plasma TV, for example, then they would be more receptive to receiving a newsletter regarding state-of-the-art plasma TVs.
   
   It's a great read, especially in the days of ICANN SPAM rules and regulations.



2. The permission marketing concepts are essential for all marketers. And of course no one writes a more entertaining read than Godin.



3. Not done reading it yet, however, so far it is just what I expected and great for Realtors!



4. Nutshell review - A good read written in a easy to read style. Good insights and ideas. Worth reading.



5. This book changed my career - ever since reading it I've pushed the surf company that I work for to adopt the marketing tactics that are so eloquently laid out in this book. We have just gotten to a level now where we're ready to begin implementing those concepts and a lot of people at work are very excited about the prospect of increasing our sales.
   
   The entire concept of permission marketing seems like a natural way to rise above the noise of traditional interruption marketing techniques and Seth lays it out in a manner that's not only informative, but it's also fun to read.
   
   Another aspect of this book that I like a lot is that it's such a trip down memory lane - Seth goes into the histories of a large number of Web 1.0 Internet startups and talks about their attempts at using Internet marketing. The fact that this guy was able to make so many nuanced observations back in the early years of the World Wide Web is a credit to his foresight and natural marketing capabilities. I highly recommend this book to anyone running (or in my case, helping run) a small business.

5 comments about The Pregnancy Book: Month-by-Month, Everything You Need to Know From America's Baby Experts.

1. Overall a decent book, with a good mix of medical and personal information. However, it's not my favorite. For a single book, I prefer the Unofficial guide; however, my main recommendation would be to go for the _Girlfriends Guide_ / _The Mayo Clinic Guide to a Healthy Pregnancy_ pair.
   
   The book suffers greatly by forcing *all* the information into a month-by-month format. Plus, some of the information is placed into a very questionable month. For example, the information on traveling while pregnant is in month 6; given that, as the book says, the best months for traveling while pregnant is months 4 - 6, if one really reads it month by month one is going to be really pissed to learn it's too late!



2. This book has been the most helpful, though I didn't get it until 1/2 way through my pregnancy so I don't know much about the early info. The month by month format can be helpful, but is also less organized that way. Don't try to read about your month in one sitting or you'll be on information overload! There is some bias, especially regarding labor and delivery, but still very helpful. Great resource for your first pregnancy.



3. This is the best pregnancy book I have. My coworkers have a baby bag that they pass around to the prego mothers. This bag had 5 different books on pregnancy but none were even close to The Pregnancy Book. When I was experiencing something new or had concerns I could turn to this book and find the answers. It cleared up a lot for me.



4. I read the rest of the reviews of this book and of one of the others by the same authors (The Birth Book). I am fairly disappointed in both books, and wish I had purchased other titles.
   
   Both books are written at about the 8th grade level, and are, frankly, rather cloying in their tone. The authors seem to have very little respect for the intelligence of their audience, which I find irritating. Some advice offered in the 4th/5th month chapters includes "If you're having trouble getting your husband to be interested in you or the baby while you're pregnant," one chapter chirpily suggests a range of options, such as "encouraging him to exercise with you, since he's investing in his future Little Leaguer" or "the fifth month is a great time to get maternity lingerie and set up a photoshoot!" (*gag*)
   
   Periodically, the authors drop the third-person, instructive tone, and incorporate first-person perspectives from unattributed women about this or that. I'm not sure if this is meant to seem real and unforced, but the lack of any names after these comments makes me wonder just how real these responses actually are. Then, again, the authors also occasionally diverge into chirpy little he said/she said segments. For example: She says "Oh, we had 'laying on hands' time every night starting the fifth month with all our kids. My husband would touch my stomach for twenty minutes and talk to my stomach, so he got to bond with the baby early!" He says: "at first I felt odd talking to someone I wouldn't meet for months, but now I wouldn't trade this SENSUAL experience for anything in the world."
   
   It's a sad thing when the authors feel they need to couch an *emotional* experience like that one as a "sensual" one. Sensual, while it can certainly mean simply 'of the senses,' tends to mean 'sexual' in American society. Dropping this word into such an unsual setting almost comes off like, well, using sensuality to sell any other idea, from beer to cars or anything else. Do they think so little of their audience, that *sensuality* is the only thing that will sell us on emotionally bonding with a child to be? Sheesh.
   
   To be fair, there *is* some good information in each chapter, if you have the patience to mine for it. The stretches and exercises offered, for example, in the 4th/5th month chapter are decently illustrated and explained.
   
   I will probably finish reading mine, and then donate it to the library.



5. I agree with the other reviews that say this is better than "What to Expect When You're Expecting"- this book is more concise, speaks directly to the mom-to- be, and is worded in a way that is concise and joyful. It has places for pictures, comments, feelings, tracking your information from your doctor visits for each month, and it breaks down the info for each week. It also has pictures of the baby's development, which I just Loved to study for each week, and suggestions to deal with pregnancy symptoms. Wonderful, and will definitely recommend to my friends as they concieve :)

5 comments about The Power of a Praying® Parent Deluxe Edition.

1. As parents we are to continualy pray for our children....too much evil in the world.



2. Power Of A Praying Parent is a much needed guide for parents. When this guide is followed and used consistently the power behind praying scripture over your child(ren) is overwhelming. Don't doubt what God can do through you when you pray for your children.



3. This is a good companion book with the praying wife. I love both books and use them regulary in my quiet time.



4. The Power of a Praying Parent - A Book of Prayers by Stormie Omartian is an excellent tool for all parents to have. I purchased the book to give to a couple that was expecting a new baby. A gift for the baby would have been good, but this book was better to assist and keep the parents motivated to pray.
   
   Parents are not perfect and no one can ever have too much information. That is why no matter how much you read the bible, attend church, and watch christian television...it is always good to have something new, fresh, and scriptual to keep you on your toes along this parental journey.
   
   The book contains prayers that concern various areas of parenting. A scripture is paired with each prayer. A space for your personal prayer notes is also included. The prayers, scriptures, and personal notes can be used to encourage yourself and others as needed for a lifetime.
   
   A great book to supplement this book with is "Single Parent Support - A Collection of Inspirational Scriptures" on Amazon.
   
   I give this book 4 stars and highly recommend it for all parents. Parents come in all fashions (married, single, widowed, grandparents, god-parents, foster parents, teachers, aunts, uncles, adoptive, etc.). So get this book and be encouraged.
   
   Reviewed by:
   Pamela Jarmon-WadeSingle Parent Support: A Collection of Inspirational Scriptures



5. THIS BOOK IS WONDERFUL. SHE HELPS YOU TO PRAY FOR THINGS THAT YOU MAY NOT THINK OF FOR THE FUTURE OF YOUR CHILDREN. I ALSO RECOMMEND "THE POWER OF A PRAYING WIFE." THAT BOOK AND THE PRAYERS IN IT ARE EXTREMELY POWERFUL. I HAVE SEEN AMAZING CHANGE FROM READING IT.

5 comments about The Girlfriends' Guide to Toddlers.

1. I thought this book, along with the girlfriends guide to pregnancy and the first year was a refreshing escape from the typical child rearing/advice books in that it expressed many of the not-so-popular thoughts and feelings that real Moms have, but can't always say. A real imperfect Mom being real about her imperfections!



2. This book is very easy to read. I don't always agree 100% with the author but the information in the book is presented with an engaging and humorous tone and lots of common sense. This is not a technical book though (for one like that I'd suggest Toddler 411) but is good to have along side a more strictly informational book. Helps keep things in perspective.



3. It is so refreshing to read a real down to earth view of kid's. We all have flaws and this hits on them in a humorous way, while helping you cope. Vicki Iovine did it again, thanks.



4. Just like the 1st book, gives you a good idea of what to expect with a good twist of humour. Cant go wrong.



5. This book made me feel more normal...it is very funny! :) Phew, I am not the only one!

5 comments about Calling in "The One": 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life.

1. You don't just read this book - this book gives you a step by step practice to open your life to love. I think I've personally sold 30 of copies of this book just because I can't stand seeing my otherwise successful single friends over 30 languish, feeling alone and unlovable. I've seen amazing transformations - from alone to alter-bound in a couple of months after finishing this book. I've given it to my massage therapist who ended up moving in with her formerly unavailable boyfriend. My love-addicted gay friend is now happily engaged. I could go on and on... Anyone who doesn't understand why they never go out on dates, why there are "no good men/women out there," or why their relationships never work out, needs this book!



2. this book is fantastic. i bought it at the suggestion of the bodhi tree bookstore sale person who said it was the most popular relationship book in the store. orignially i bought it for a friend who had asked me to recommend a book about relationships. but as i paged through it at home i realize i wanted to buy it for myself, too. i am single and i do want to meet 'the one'- but i am not at the place where i'd buy a book about finding him. but this book is not really about finding the one as it is about becoming that which you seek to find. if you are looking for love you need to be love- and you need to love yourself fully and completely. if you are looking for security you need to find security in yourself first rather than look for someone who can make you feel secure. if you are looking for trust you need to trust yourself first before you can trust anyone else. it's all very basic psychological stuff- but even the most psychologically savy can learn a thing or two from this book. especially when it's your blind spots that are causing you to not be open to love. even freud couldn't see his own blind spots.
   
   this book does take a commitment though. the 1 star reviewer who said it was too demanding and too psychologically hard to bear was right in a sense. but the point of the book is to show you that the reason you haven't met mister or miss right isn't because you just don't have any luck- it's because there are blocks in your psyche that are deep issues that need to be dealt with in order for you to be fully open to love. that is not easy work. in our fast-food/short-cut culture where people are learning speed reading so they can get through a book in 10 minutes- this book could feel like getting stuck behind grandpa driving in the fast lane. but there is a point to the intensity of the lessons and the necessity of a commitment to doing the lessons each day for 7 weeks.
   
   it is inevitable that those who read this book are going to perceive it in their own way as a result of experiences in their own lives. so someone who hates it has their whole history backing them up for hating it. i would say check it out and see for yourself. of all the relationship books out there- this is the one that makes you take the most responsibility for yourself and requires you to truly know yourself. in my opinion that is the only way one can find 'the one' and be able to create a healthy, lasting relationship with him or her. you may meet 'the one' before you truly know yourself- but those relationships are typically the ones that don't last and end in divorce. relationships are not easy. they take work. if you want to do the work in order to reap the rewards- read this book.
   
   (as a side note- i have recommended this book to 6 people now and they each had their own reactions to it. they all have had resistance come up in some form or another to doing the lessons or committing to the reading each day. some were not ready for the work- others were. it's all about where you are at right now in this moment. also- this book is written for women- but i would recommend it for men, too. incidentally i recommended it to my ex and he and i are doing the lessons together. the author recommends you get a friend to support you on your journey and highly recommend it as well.)



3. I intially picked this book up as a guide to bring love into my life but got so much more. The exercises, which are necessary for the success of the book, are enormously empowering, healing, comforting, inspiring, revealing, and fun. This is the only dating/self-discovery book that I have found that has the reader feeling like they are actually participating in changing/(bringing love) into their life and seeing/feeling immediate results. It differs from many other well written books in that although others are well written; they lack the specific tools for the reader to feel like they can actually control their lives. I could not wait to read this book every day. Life changing!



4. This is an amazing book that not only tells you of the magic of creating the love of your life, but also shows you how to manifest it as well. With concrete exercises and examples, with stories that illustrate them, and with spiritual and inspirational wisdom to help you along the way, this is book that will help make your dreams of love and partnership come true.
   
   Michael Z, Author, The Wisdom of the Rooms A Year of Weekly Reflections



5. I have been using this book for over a week and I am really enjoying the exercises and journaling! I find this book to be incredibly eye opening and inspiring! I am getting alot out of this,it is worth every penny! I feel it is increasing my confidence and helping me to make better relationship choices! We all have unhealthy patterns or "types" we need to break away from and this book is helping me to put everything in clearer perspective!

5 comments about The Power of Nice: How to Conquer the Business World With Kindness.

1. Both myself and my husband read this book and have now purchased it for both our daughters to read. It is a twist on the corporate world, and it hit the nail on the head for why I always struggled with the dog eat dog mentality I encountered. It is a great read for everyone and puts a cooperative spin on working together for every age and career.



2. It's nice to be nice, and it works to be nice if you do it right. But don't try to be too nice, because it may not work. There is a good discussion about the reason in The Key To Career Success.



3. The information in this book seems obvious, but I never thought that reexamining my notions of what it means to be nice would cause me to change my perspective so drastically. It is an elementary concept, and most people know a nice person when they see one, but rarely do people discuss the concept or what change of character is required to come off as a nice person to others. Intention is always in the back of people's minds, but in the heat of the moment, it becomes difficult to make the wisest or nicest decision. Its hard to weigh the benefits of preventing yourself from making a reactionary blunder. But with the help of this book, the guidelines that most of us already have some subconscious notion of are clearly laid out.
   The anecdotes that this book is comprised of are thoroughly enjoyable and illustrate a great picture of how beneficial approaching everyone with kindness can be. The book also does a nice job of tempting the reader with the idea that being nice will reap personal benefits while at the same time, reinforcing the notion that being nice doesn't have to have selfish motivation. It is simply a good habit to have; it will boost your self-respect and the well-being of all.



4. I was first introduced to this book by an associate who said it described me perfectly. I didn't realize what a compliment this really was until I ordered it from Amazon and read it.
   
   If you are not a nice person, this book can really revolutionize your outlook. It lays out the case to be nice to others in a logical manner and provides a lot of thought provoking reasons to embrace this concept.
   
   If you are already a nice person, you will get even more out of this book. Lots of great advice on sincerity and how to still get what you want out of any relationship. You simply can't go wrong.
   
   On top of this, the book is both easy and fun to read. It's a GREAT conversation starter and wonderful source of quotes for classes and speaches.



5. You may not be familiar with the authors' names, but you are probably familiar with their work. They are the founding partners of the advertising agency responsible for the Aflac duck campaign. One of them wrote the "I want to be a Toys R Us Kid" jingle earlier in her career.
   
   Their message is that being nice (but not phony) in personal and professional encounters builds goodwill, which can lead to big and small rewards. Many examples are included in the book.
   
   One memorable story is a reprimand delivered in a motivating tone. Two employees had missed several meetings with a client, who became upset. "I began the meeting by telling them some positive truths first. I told them that they needed to understand that they were very important to the client. He looked forward to their meetings, so when they canceled on him it was a very big deal. They responded with surprise - they never realized how much they mattered to the client... By the end of our conversation, they actually felt empowered. And they haven't missed a meeting since."
   
   Some notable benefits of a "nice" work environment:
   - people who are in a good mood are more likely to help others
   - positive feelings make employees behave more ethically
   - workplace jokes and humor stimulate creativity
   - cheerful employees are more productive and make customers happy.
   
   The authors cite various researchers throughout the book. They seem to be especially impressed with Prof. Daniel Goleman, author of the books Primal Leadership and Emotional Intelligence, as they have quoted him seven times.

5 comments about Love Busters: Overcoming Habits That Destroy Romantic Love.

1. Extremely practical guide to save a troubled marriage. Well worth the read and thoroughly recommend - even for the sake of improving your marriage.



2. If you are thinking about buying this book or any other relationship book - do not delay! Dr. Harley's books (including His Needs, Her Needs) have been very helpful to my marriage following a crisis. He makes excellent points that somehow seem to reach both of us and explains things in a way that both of us understand without either one feeling hurt or attacked. It is a terrific book, and I believe anyone who reads it and adopts it in their marriage will see improvement.



3. This book is written so it is very easy to understand,no overload of hard to understand words. It has great ideas and solutions for marital problems. You will find much help in it. I can't wait to read HIS NEEDS, HER NEEDS: BUILDING AN AFFAIR PROOF MARRIAGE.
   I can highly recommend this book!



4. After 8yrs of dating and 4yrs of marriage, our relationship had become...well, boring. Our date nights, if we had them, were typical dinner and a movie. Something was definitely missing. A church marriage counsellor recommended this book along with The 5 Love Languages. It is a must read for BOTH spouses. Do not expect results with only one partner reading and/or applying it!



5. This book saved my marriage. Everything that I had been trying to say for years was finally said by an expert and not me. My spouse was able to read and understand through the book and he was not able to argue about what the book said, like he would have done had it been only me saying those things. I also learned a lot about my own destructive habits (lying was one of my big ones... "Are you mad?" "No, I'm not mad, everything is ok" when in fact it wasn't).
   
   My suggestion is that you read it together, or have one person start reading it and writing comments into the book as you recognize yourselves in it. Then when the other partner starts to read it they too should write comments into the book as well. Later you should both go through it together to read the added comments and use those as talking points.
   
   I also feel that if your marriage is in really bad shape that you read this book first because you HAVE to stop the "love bank withdrawals"... they are causing your marriage to go bankrupt. Once you have a handle on your withdrawals then your deposits (His Needs Her Needs) will finally be able to accumulate to the point of causing positive change. You can make as many deposits as you like, but everyone knows from life even that if you don't control your withdrawals that you can easily overdraft your account.
   
   If you are struggling in your marriage, READ THIS BOOK!