5 comments about The Secret Language of Relationships (reissue) (Secret Language).

1. The book is very informative. Very detailed and easy to follow. It is well laid out and easy to read.



2. Been eyeing this book for a LONG time and I finally got it. No regrets. Brilliant info and creepy that it's sooo right on.



3. I had read The Secret Language of Birthdays by this author and loved how dead on it was. I was so excited to get this book, but skeptical once I read the reviews. It's fun to pick out some qualities and try to fit them into your life and relationships, but the book gives alot of the same information as the other titles in the series. Whatever you do, take it lightheartedly, don't base your life decisions on what's written on the pages. It's fun to look over with friends at a party.



4. This book is about all kinds of relationships. It's a good conversation starter, as well as interesting to read on your own.



5. Item was delivered timely and in excellent condition as advertised! A pleasure to do business with!

5 comments about Raising Boys: Why Boys Are Different - And How to Help Them Become Happy and Well-Balanced Men.

1. I bought this book because it became clear to me that I do not understand my 3 year old son and I realized it would only become worse as he grew older if I didn't at least try to figure out what is going on from his perspective.
   
   I think that this book really tells it like it is. He doesn't sugar coat it. I also think the person who took offense to his saying boys should stay out of daycare until 3 years old did not read the book very carefully. He does not say that mothers should not work, he says boys should not be put in institutionalized day care settings but that good home based day care or staying with a family member is acceptable. I've read this in other books as well that boys just don't do well in daycare they really need one on one close time with a single, consistent care-giver be it mom, dad, grandma or a home day care.
   
   This book also says many times how it is not trying to put women down or trying to set back the women's movement, it is just trying to show how boys are different. I have already noticed this with my children. I have two girls and a boy and I quickly picked up that my son is 6 months to 12 months behind his older sister in his speaking, reasoning and his ABCs. I talked to his preschool teacher about it and was relieved to find out it is normal for boys to be behind girls and the teacher said exactly what this author says, boys catch up somewhere in middle school but until then they are 6-12 months behind girls emotionally and academically. My son has a September birthday and I will be holding him out a year to start kindergarten at 6 instead of 5. I have already seen it in his preschool class how boys are treated, unwillingly as defective girls. Girls take to things like circle time and learning while boys would rather vroom cars and build block towers. I agree whole heartedly with the author that boys acting out in preschool is because they are anxious or stressed out. Girls withdraw when stressed, boys act out, often aggressively.
   
   If you are ready to hear what this author says then buy the book. He is very strong on dad being a big part of a boys life and goes as far to say if dad is working 55 to 65 hours a week he won't cut it as a dad. This is hard stuff to hear, but if you want your son to grow up to be a good man it will take sacrifice on everyone's part. If we want our daughters to marry good men we need to make sure that we are raising good sons.



2. This book was funny and easy to ready. More importantly it was extremely insightful. I loved it. As a single mom, I need really appreciated the candor and no-nonsense approach the author took.



3. The sections on toddler boys were good, but it deteriorated from there into Biddulph suggesting that parents shop for "good" porn for their 14 year old boys! Thanks, Steve! Good advice. I guess you never heard how Prince's (the artist formerly known as Prince) mother did that. Look how good he turned out, right?



4. WOW.... was referred to this book by a friend. Can definately say it was worth the purchase. After having a girl when our son came along I was getting so frustrated. He was so different to her. Raising boys brought a lot of insight into why they are different but more importantly the stages that boys go through. It all made sense as I read. It has provided vital information for the future and how best to try to keep him out of "trouble".



5. my girlfriend who has 5 and 2 years old sons suggested that I should get this book in order to understand a nature of boyhood. I also have 2.5 year old son and 7 months old baby. My eldest son is now in a "terrible two" stage. This book helps me understand why he does what he does, why he does the opposite of what I say, etc.
   I told my husband to read it too, so he can be more patience and understanding.

5 comments about The Dance of Intimacy.

1. Harriet Lerner has great insight into human relationships and gives helpful comments as to how to interact in a positive manner with others.



2. I have three women's support groups and I have used Dr. Lerner's books as guidelines for our discussions - an amazing in depth understanding of the human psyche.
   This, as well as all her books, should be required reading by all high school classes. Maybe we could have a different outcome from our future citizens.



3. This book is OK, but slightly out dated. There are some really good points and is very easy to interpret into your own life.



4. This book uses insightful examples of how our relationships with every member of our nuclear and extended families can affect us. I really enjoyed her style and felt that she acknowledges the limitations each of us may have when it comes to making changes in our interactions with key members of our families. I thought her reiteration of the fact that timing and gradual change are key factors and unique for all of us. Wonderful book that has really changed my life for the better.



5. It's a great book that encourages women to appreciate the self, improve their self-esteem and be more alert of their individual needs in conjuction with their relationships.

5 comments about A Mother's Legacy: Your Life Story in Your Own Words.

1. this is a fantastic book. if you know a mother who is going through a rough time, this is a great way for her to share her life with her family and friends. i have terminal cancer, and have bought this book for several other women who are going through treatment. everyone thinks this is a great idea.



2. I ordered this book for my mom, and recieved it today. I read all the questions, and it's really pretty neat. But now I'm contemplating whether or not to give it to her for no apparent reason or to give it to my sister for her birthday. I think I might have to order about 5 more of these so I can send them to all the extraordinary women in my life. :) I would definatly say this is a great buy as a gift!



3. I like this book overall. It is nice to write down stories from my life and know that one day my daughter will read it and know me better when she is ready and willing. However, my only complaint is that the book seems to have a lot of references to religion such as favorite scripture or church activities. For someone who is not at all religious, it feels awkward.



4. I was looking for an "All About Me" type of book for a friend who has advanced cancer. She is the mother of two, and I thought it would be a nice way for her to share some things with her children. When I read the reviews of the book, I decided to get 3. I got one for her, one for a friend expecting her second child, and one for my mother-in-law as a mother's day gift.
   
   I think this is a wonderful gift for the women in your life, and eventually for their children, grandchildren, etc.



5. This book is just wonderful! I bought one, then decided to buy 4 more so that each of my children could have one. I started answering the simple questions and thought, "How am I remembering this?" It will be nice to send one to each of my children and keep one here for my husband. I think every mom should get this book, start writing and give to their children after they are adults.

5 comments about Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child.

1. This book cange my life in a lot of fields. I have read of self help books, but this book really helped me to understand so much i my life, and why other behave the way the do. I give this bokk five stars, read and bekome a new person :-)



2. Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child
   
   I cannot think of another published work that deals effectively with healing the wounded inner child, like this book. Methodical and delibrate, Bradshaw explores territory unknown to our present conscious, but quite familiar to our subconscious. The earliest of memories, whether peripheral, non-descript "gut" feelings or vivid, clear, sensory-engaged recollections, can be stirred up with the meditations and mental exercises outlined by Bradshaw.
   
   Those that are considering purchasing this book, and are reading the reviews to help your decision process, probably already discussed this with a trained spiritual counselor to truly do the work necessary, to undo years of damage in early childhood that somehow manifested itself into inappropriate social behaviors (misplaced anger or rage, attention-seeking, sexualized friendships, marital infidelity, covert sex, pornography), defense mechanisms (disassociation, projection, passing blame or guilt) and addictions (chemical, sexual dependencies). Emotional wounds sustained at such an innocent age really cannot be healed properly until an emotionally healthy parent, particularly a fully-functioning, fit mother, can teach proper coping skills that later fully develop and become integrated into adulthood. Some of us have not been as fortunate to have a parent, much less two, that offered appropriate emotional guidance. Those that need innerchild work done, are those that were raised by damaged parents and damage is passed onto their children as abuse, whether sexual, emotional, physical, and/or spiritual. Proper intervention is required to recalibrate the wiring in emotionally unstable adults and get them up to their appropriate EQ.
   
   In doing the innerchild work, I caution those that try to accomplish this in solitude. The person in meditation may not know how to cope with the unearthed emotions (typically strong feelings of shame, guilt, and fear of unknown origin) unless a properly trained spiritual counselor provides enough guidance and tools to cope with the unpleasant, repressed feelings. It is also important to conduct the tasks in the order Bradshaw has outlined - Start at the infancy stage, do the meditation, and work on the emotions that surface, if at all. The best indication of how much damage was done to an individual is if the first task meditating at the infancy stage evokes a surge of unknown feelings. Then the work needed to get healthy requires the entire process suggested by Bradshaw. Skipping a chapter/exercise is not an option if the goal is to get emotionally fully integrated and healthy.
   
   In closing, this book is really a new beginning to properly train and socialize a wounded adult back into society, the workplace, family life. Essentially, the process is likened to that of an infant learning to crawl, stand, walk, and explore the world around them, with the loving and caring guidance that lacked in childhood. Bradshaw also includes a section on forgiving and releasing resentment and bitterness of the perpetrator(s) of the emotional damage. I've witnessed miracles of healing because of the innerchild methodology, in lock-step with spiritual rebirth. Many times, the latter is overlooked when in fact the two complement each other in the healing and deliverance of an addicted, depressed adult. The spiritual aspect is alluded to, but not expounded upon, by Bradshaw. However, this omission does not affect the overall success of the process. I still give the book Five Stars and would recommend this to anyone in need of deep healing.



3. This isn't a bad book - not at all! It's very helpful at helping one realize how events in childhood affect, no - form the person we are today. It has some very good exercises for getting in touch with one's inner child . .. I liked it, and found it useful. Worth the money and the time reading it -



4. Recommended by a trusted friend, the book has some valuable content; however, the author quoted a prayer he learned as a Catholic priest, only to follow it with his opinion that Mary was not a virgin. At that point, I closed the book and returned it to the library. To think I actually considered purchasing copies for my adult children...



5. Creating Love: The Next Great Stage of Growth
   
   My Spirit and soul awakened to Bradshaw's "Creating Love". How could I escape the truth when it was staring me in the face. He tells us how to demystify love and begin a new life in all of our relationships. He writes with such great respect, dignity and loving kindness.
   
   I will gratefully bless him for the next 40 years!!! Thank you, John Bradshaw; for the FREEDOM to find me, awaken me, take care of me, love me and show me how to create love with other's.

5 comments about Fly Away Home.

1. This story is quite bizarre and depressing. I'm keeping it for the collector's value. Thoughtful and synmpathetic. Problem: Sadly, there's no way a homeless father and son could live in an airport for more than a day or two in the post 9-11 era. Even the most ignorant security guard team would discover them and kick them out.



2. I'm now 20, but I remembered reading this book when I was much younger. It's come into my mind more than once, and I'm glad to've finally found the title of the book again. You see, this is the kind of book that'll stick with you for a very long time. You've read the plot summary, so you know that this isn't exactly a regular children's book in its mood, but if it is possible at all for a children's book to truly change the way a child looks at the world in such a way that the impression remains, this is such a book. The illustrations are beautiful and hazy and dreamlike, though the story exists not in a fantasy world, but in a very mature reality. The story is pretty unique, but the feelings of comfort and love are threads that any child could stand to learn from. I highly recommend this as a much needed book for any child's collection.



3. This book is more true to life then may people would like to a admit. As a school teacher, I have been using this book for years to share the plight of the working homeless. I have also worked in the homeless shelters of Boston and can't tell you how many people are struggling just to get on their feet. This book is sad, however you would been amazed how much empathy and new awareness an older child has after reading is wonderful piece of literature!



4. This is a wonderful book about homelessness from a child's point of view. The child likens himself to a bird trapped in the busy airport where he and his father live very carefully as to be undetected. A job for his father will free them to fly away from their temporary home like the bird that finally flies away when an automatic door opens one day.



5. I am nearly 20 years old and I still remember seeing this book read on Reading Rainbow when I was very young. This book was an excellent introduction to the idea of homeless children for children with homes and would definitely make a child who is homeless not feel alone. I am going to be a social worker and play therapist, and this book is on my list for books to get in the future. People should remember though, that books like this are like books that bring up the idea or life of a child who is abused. If your child is healthy and well taken care of it might be confusing and a bit frightening, but it is not so psychologically damaging that some children learn about the different--and sometimes sad lifestyles of other children. This teaches them that they need to be compassionate and friendly to children who are homeless because they need a friend. Personally I don't think this book is anymore damaging than a "save the children" commerical picturing half-naked, starving toddlers climbing among trash. But in conclusion, I think this is a very good book, so much so that I remember it being read to me on TV.

5 comments about Wife for Hire.

1. A friend recommended I read Janet E's book. I was reluctant, simply because she's so overrated (too commercial, I thought). Boy was I happily surpirsed! A fan for life!



2. Janet Evanovich books are so much fun to read. Wife for Hire is so funny, and can be read so quickly it feels as though you have just watched a little television show. She is quickly becoming my favorite author. Highly reccomend.



3. Amusing, lightweight fun. Almost a novella, but the printer and publisher have stretched it to book size. If it had a bit more depth or plot to it, I would have given it another star.
   
   Local bad boy Hank inherits an apple orchard and wants to turn over a new leaf. In order to realize his dream and go organic he needs a loan, but the whole town knows his history and he can't raise the funds. He wants to look responsible, he needs to be taken seriously...he needs a wife! Not a real one of course, just to get the loan, so he hires Maggie from New Jersey as a "pretend wife" for six months. She wants time to write a book from her aunt's diaries, so it seems the perfect business arrangement. Of course, they fall madly in love, but she isn't sure if she wants to stay at the end of the agreed term. It is all terribly predictable. In essence, a bit more of a teenage novel than one written for adults. It also seems a bit dated. Hank needs to grow up and take responsibility for his actions to be taken seriously, so who would think he had achieved stability just because he pulled a wife out of the hat? Okay, it is a ludicrous plot, so you have to disregard that to enjoy the juvenile, slip on a banana skin, style fun.
   
   In the characters you can see the prototypes for later Evanovich stalwarts - Elsie Hawkins is definitely Grandma Mazur, packing a gun, after a hunk (all about 80+ and dying from the excitement) and she even drives the same car as Grandma Mazur later inherited from a relative in one of the Plum books.
   
   A couple of weeks after reading it, I am finding it hard to recall much of the story and the names of some of the characters, which says quite a bit about it.
   
   Janet Evanovich's work all has a similar feel to it. That is not necessarily bad, but it means it doesn't matter if you skip a book or two because you will get pretty much the same dialog and situations in another book. This was originally written for a publisher of Romance books, so of course it has the predictable happy ending, which you knew from page one.
   
   You'll read it in a couple of hours, tops. There are a few laughs in it, and it is not nearly as contrived as the later books in the Plum series, but nor is it up to the standard of the first few Plums. These early Evanovich books are being republished as there is money to be made from the Evanovich name. Janet has her whole family employed at Evanovich Inc, which means she has to squeeze everything she can from her back catalog and current publications. If people are prepared to buy it why not? It probably also accounts for the tacky merchandise she hawks as well.
   
   To be honest, if it had been written by an unknown author it would have never have been republished. Fans of Evanovich will probably buy it, and although it is an okay book, I doubt if anyone else would, and she wouldn't get new fans on the back of this book. I wouldn't pay the publisher's list price for it.



4. Generally I find Janet Evanovich's books to be very entertaining. I love the Plum series and recommend it. This book, however is just OK. I think that Evanovich jumps in to the attraction between Hank and Maggie way too soon. I really think that there should have been some time in there before their relationship started to blossum. It would have made the book a lot more interesting. I do have to say that parts of it are hilarious. I think that the housekeeper, Elsie Hawkins is a very strong character. She reminds me a lot of grandma from the Plum series.



5. You could sort of figure out some the plot but the characters did not
   seem to understand what was happing. You just knew if the guy hired
   the woman to pretend to be his wife that he would evently marry her.
   But the author kept that the story going.

No comments about Skim.

5 comments about The Unwritten Rules of Friendship: Simple Strategies to Help Your Child Make Friends.

1. My 6 year old son and I read this book together. It was very helpful to him. The book is written in "kid friendly" stories. They are easy to understand and make it easy for the parents to explain.



2. Finally a book with some answers. Up until now, they all seem to describe the problem, but offer little in the way of solutions. This one has really been helpful.



3. Very well thought out, expertly written and easy to apply in a myriad of social situation that may have you and your child puzzled.
   I found it to be very helpful and have been able to apply its lessons.
   It could even help adults a little in hindsight and will certain benefit your child.



4. This is a great book. I haven't finished it yet, but it has already given me many ideas. Unlike so many "self-help" books out there, this book actually gives you small, specific steps that you can take to change certain behaviors that others might find annoying (such as practical ways to teach someone about "personal space").



5. Great book with really practical, usable advice. Wonderful those who struggle a little, or a lot with social cues.

5 comments about Wise Words For Moms.

1. I'm so glad I bought this chart. I can't think of anything I would add to it. Plowman includes 22 relevant and specific behaviors along with the reproof, encouragement, Scripture, and "heart-probing" questions for each. There is absolutely no basis for the reviews that say this product promotes "child abuse." I can't find anything in it that suggests physical discipline of any kind. I would highly recommend this chart to anyone, even those who don't agree with Ginger Plowman's book, "Don't Make Me Count to Three."



2. Wise Words for Moms is not really a book, but more of a list (cheat sheet) that is created to hang like a calendar for mom's to take a peek at quickly when dealing with her child's behavioral issues. A very wise older mom recommended this to me a few years ago and I have found it invaluable in dealing with my children's hearts and not just focusing on their bad behavior.
   
   It is 3 calendar-like pages with various common behavioral issues listed down the first column. The second column has questions that mom's can ask to probe the heart of the child concerning that behavior. The third column is a "Reproof" column which has a few verses from the Bible that we can quote or read to our children so they know what God's Word says about the behavior. The fourth column is an "Encouragement" column which has a few verses we can use to show them what God says they should do instead. The last column has additional Bible references we can use to go deeper if necessary.
   
   It is well worth the price for us moms who need to be able to get at something quickly without a lot of reading when we are a volcano about to explode!



3. It is obvious that those that have chosen to leave negative and nasty reviews have NEVER read this book or any of her books. There is NOWHERE in the book that she promotes "beating" children or babies. She uses scripture to get to the heart of the issue with children and realizes that there are some issues that require CONTROLLED spankings. I just told my husband this morning that the book, "Don't make me Count to Three", is the BEST book I have ever read on training a child's heart. I just wish it was out in audio form so he could also benefit from her God-given wisdom. Please don't allow the negative/nasty reviews keep you from something that could change you and your child for the better. If for no other reason, BUY THE BOOKS and see it for yourself. If you are looking for a CONTROLED Biblical way to train your child's heart and not just his behavior, I promise you wont be disappointed!!



4. This calendar style chart is easy to reference and gives a scriptural solution when dealing with all common childhood issues, including blaming, complaining, fighting, giving up, disobeying, lying, revenge and arguing. I highly recommend this affordable product to anyone interested in Biblical Parenting.



5. This is a chart meant to be a companion to her book "Don't Make Me Count to Three" It contains practical applications for what scriptures to use in certain situations. It is meant to get to the HEART issue and address what is driving the behavior instead of just correcting the outward behavior. It also encourages using the scriptures to tell the child not only what actions to put off, but also what to PUT ON. This way you are not just telling them "STOP THAT" or "WE DON'T DO THAT", but you are telling them what their behavior actually means and what to do instead. Thereby equipping them with tools to help them actually CHANGE instead of just STOP. It's true that her BOOK (not this chart!) does advocate controlled, loving use of spanking when appropriate, but this chart says nothing about spanking. It is simply a reference guide for Mom/Dad to use when training their child and teaching them why their behavior is wrong and what the better way is.
   
   I would guess the string of negative, similar reviews in February came from a group of people who agreed to come on and post negative reviews. Especially since most of them talk like this is a book, not a chart. I'm guessing several of those people haven't actually read this chart. Because even if you disagree with the book, I find it hard to see disagreeing with the use of these scriptures if you are a Christian.