5 comments about Birth Order Book, The: Why You Are the Way You Are.

1. I took this book to work with me and shared it with a group of managers. We found that the book was surprisingly accurate in the the way that we each demonstrated our management styles. The first born's were very organized and process driven, while the middle-born manager avoided confrontation and tended to be suspicious. We did have one manager who didn't fit the birth order characteristics. He was a middle-born who was very outgoing and was always the center of attention. Proof that the profiles are just guidelines that can give you some insight into personalities, but not absolutes.



2. People are fascinated with any system that explains personality and behavioral differences. Birth order is an enduring system for understanding those differences, especially so when the explanation is as clear and as well illustrated with compelling examples as this. Dr. Kevin Leman does an admirable job of covering the bases, including a chapter devoted to parenting, and one devoted to compatibility in marriage. The insights he shares from his personal life history as a last born bring a special poignancy to the work. Extremely helpful, especially if you remember that birth order provides a prediliction, not a fate carved in stone! I provided additional information on this topic in Letters to My Granddaughters.



3. Absolutely amazing that someone took the time to figure this out .I never realized that we fiut into these little pockets. I was the last born out of five and it placed us in the position that we fit like a glove . after we read it we just looked at each other and laughed.



4. This book was recommended to me and I enjoyed it reading it. The book is helpful in understanding some of the differences between siblings and more importantly, helping parents accept the differences. Whenever I read a book about children and parenting I always wonder why it isn't a required course in High School. One word of caution, after reading this book I have been constantly guessing the birth order of everyone I meet!
   
   While I liked the book, I thought the author spent too much time defending his theories and trying to sell his other books.



5. Kevin Leman is an excellent author and this book is proof of that. It helps you make so much sense of not just yourself but all those around you. Also, there were many concepts he shared that I had never even thought of in birth order. Overall, it is a great book and I highly recommend it!

5 comments about The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family.

1. This book is exactly the survival kit for victims of narcissists that I have been loking for. Enlightened, clear, simple, straight to the point.
   
   (I would have appreciated a few words on what kind of personality disorder individuals may end up caught up in the narcissist's net, and more practical tricks on how to deal with them from the specific point of view of the ones who get most easily hurt: bordeline and dependent.)
   
   (Also lacking, the whole sexual sphere: where does NPD cross sexual perversions, where it only appears to do, where it does not, and how to manage all that in relationships. A major theme in love, after all.



2. Having escaped a marriage with a narcissist/psychopath, I've read a number of books on the subject. This book wins hands down. I gave it to my friend, and she swears it taught her how to deal with her difficult boss.



3. I highly recommend this book to anyone searching to understand the narcissistic relationship they may be in. I have been at a loss to understand my own and how I could have fallen into this type of relationship. I think this book was written about our marriage! Now, after gaining insight into the narcissistic / co-dependent narcissist relationship, I understand totally how we "clicked" in the beginning and how after a few years he became dominating and I became the doormat. Now, armed with this information, my husband and I are on a wonderful journey together to separately heal each of our hearts from the past so that we may come back together in a healed, strong, equal and respectful marriage. I pray this is a journey many of you out there experience as well. God bless.



4. The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family ASIN:0972072837
   
   The author begins with a wonderful introduction explaining a narcissist and where the termilogoy originated. A wonderful comparison with the story of Dorothy and The Wizard of Oz. This book is well written in a style which is easy to understand.



5. Read twice...Excellent book. You learn how to stop "double binders" in there tracks, GOD willing. Learn how to reintroduce a "one sided" conversation without coming out "victimized". Incredible book. Peace

5 comments about Supernanny: How to Get the Best From Your Children.

1. This book would be great for someone with children under 2, however they should let you know that in the write up as I have children over the age of 8 and wanted something age appropriate.It was a waste of money. Would make a great baby shower gift though.



2. We are first time parents & really want to make good choices with our daughter! We are hoping to be proactive instead of reactive!



3. Great techniques to help parents that are at the end of their rope, and just do not know what else to try to get their child under control. My wife and I have a handsome 2 1/2 year old son that we love more than anything else in this world. We were past the point of being frustrated when it came time to take him to the grocery store, or out to a restaurant. He wouldn't ride in the cart, hold our hand and walk, or stay in his seat, but as soon as we tried the techniques offered by Jo Frost's books we saw an instant change in our sons behavior. He sat in the shopping cart the entire time at the grocery store, and was not miserable while sitting in the cart either. He was laughing, and we actually enjoyed our trip to the store with him for the first time EVER.
   If you are shopping for these books, stop shopping and buy this book, and the other book by Jo Frost. You will then actually start to enjoy your children, instead of feeling like it is a miserable never-ending chore. A+++ book. BUY IT NOW!!!



4. This book has alot of good information about improving the quality of life with you children!



5. An even better resource than the Supernanny show. Parents and grandparents (like me) will find it helpful.

5 comments about The Trouble with Boys: A Surprising Report Card on Our Sons, Their Problems at School, and What Parents and Educators Must Do.

1. A wealth of information, ideas and resources for those who are concerned about the issue and working to make it better. My only minor quibble is the title which could be read to mean the problem is the boys. However, make no mistake, the tenor and tone of this book strikes the stark opposite conclusion. The problem is not boys rather what we have been doing to them. It is a balanced approach which I think hopes to avoid the polemic politicized rancor and ire this topic inspires among gender feminist groups like the AAUW and similar advocacy groups that utilize resources and strategies to undermine efforts of those hoping to improve the lives of boys. If interested in the politicized nature I would recommend locating and reading reports by the aforementioned. Ms. Tyre goes beyond and gets down to the nitty gritty and presents ideas to consider, practical solutions and includes numerous resources to tap into. I was most interested in the research surrounding teaching by phonics. A good solid book for those of us committed to effecting change for the benefit of boys, and moving beyond the peripheral and unfortunate efforts to make this a political platform.



2. This book is a follow on to the author's Newsweek cover story about the widening gap between boys and girls academic performance in the United States. She makes the case that, just as we rallied in the 90s to help girls catch up to boys in math and science, we need to do the same for boys in reading and writing. The book cites a great deal of research from schools across the United States to show how this phenomenon is taking shape. It's really interesting stuff. Essentially, education in the US uses teaching methods that favor girls. At times the book is a little like a text book, but it offers startling conclusions that any parent with school-aged children needs to understand.
   
   Another book I came across this week that I really enjoyed and recommend to parents is The Emotional Intelligence Quick Book.



3. This books makes you think about how the US school system has swung the pendulum so far in the direction of girls that boys get lost. Hopefully there can be more balance in the future.



4. Here's a great companion to Michael Thompson's Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys. While this "report card on our sons" was hardly "surprising" to this community college teacher, Peg Tyre provides lots of facts and figures to support the growing realization among educators that too many young men are not reaching their potential. In too many classrooms, girls are productively engaged, earning good grades and getting what they need from their education while boys are either absent or disengaged and failing. Tyre's examples are illuminating, her breadth of information is convincing and her conclusions are reasonable. The style of language is quite engaging and accessible, so that the facts and figures area easily understandable for parents as well as teachers. Well, done, Ms. Tyre! Here's hoping your elucidation of this problem will prompt more work toward its solution. Wouldn't it be great if those boys would read it and see it as a wake-up call?
   Janet Gingold
   author of Finch Goes Wild, a novel about a middle school boy who turns his life around



5. Many very good reviews have already been written, so I'll try to share something new. I was interested in this topic because I'm an elementary school teacher and am very interested in finding ways to help my struggling boy students. When I was working on my master's thesis with this very topic, I e-mailed Peg Tyre. At the time, she was working at Newsweek and had just written one of the articles about boys' underachievement that would later lead to this book. She was very helpful with my question and led me to additional resources. Because she is the mother of two boys and her articles were always interesting and well-written, this book intrigued me.
   
   Tyre devotes a lot of time to describing why there is in fact a growing problem with the underachievement of boys, and she is effective in doing this. A large portion of the book describes how in some universities there is already a kind of affirmative action for boys because so many more girls are being accepted, and schools are changing their policies just to try to maintain some kind of balance.
   
   A somewhat funny (and sobering) part of the book was when she mentioned the saying from the 80's that a woman is more likely to be killed by a terrorist than find a suitable man (I'm paraphrasing). Although this isn't true, it is true that increasingly more women are being admitted and graduating from college than men. Since these women tend to not want to "marry down" and look for equally successful partners with at least somewhat equal earning power,(men with a college degree)it's getting harder for these women to find men with college degrees, and it's even worse news for men who didn't go to college. (The percentage of unmarried men who didn't go to college has gone up considerably). I don't articulate this as well as she does, but I wanted to mention it because I never considered how a disparity between the numbers of men and women in college could have that kind of long-term consequence.
   
   *She describes the importance of boys having mentors and gives many interesting anecdotes of this, including a high school that assigns men from the community to mentor its students, a "Dad's Club" that helps with projects around the school, and the importance of having boys see their Dads (or other men) involved with literacy.
   
   *The impact of No Child Left Behind and its effect on school curriculum is described. It's scary to me that there are elementary schools being built without playgrounds. When I have to sit for most of the day in an inservice, it reminds me of how hard it is to be a student with a lot of energy. The importance of movement is discussed.
   
   *While Tyre does describe some recent brain research, she is careful not to jump to conclusions with it. In fact, she mentions that neuroscientists don't believe we know enough about gender and learning to come up with brain-based gender-specific instruction.
   
   *The impact of single-sex schooling is discussed. I disagree with an earlier review who said that Tyre seems to suggest that you should send your child to a private school if you can afford it. I thought Tyre mentioned several times that most single-sex schooling has been inconclusive in raising student achievement. She described an inner-city school in Baltimore that became a single-sex school (for males) but without careful planning and it was a disaster and became a hotbed for violence. However, she also mentions how for certain populations single-sex schooling could work well.
   
   There is a lot more that I didn't even get to, but earlier reviews mention some of those points. This book is well worth your time.

5 comments about The Pocket Parent.

1. I love this book so much, I got rid of most of my other parenting books and just use this one. The cool thing about it is it's indexed so that the main things you need to get advice on are easy to find as problems/challenges happen. Potty training? Flip through the book and find the header and there you are. Hitting. Sleep. Easy and fast.



2. I love this book:) I wish I have it when I had my first born although he is 5 now but I am encouraged to buy this book after noticing that my second child is strong will and stubborn than her brother, all my strategies with my eldest won't work on her so I desperately need help. Thank goodness with this book it saves my sanity! I like that you don't need to read it from the beginning to end instead you can just look at the topic you need, most likely work like a dictionary but with really useful advise and example. I highly recommend this book, a must for every mother or parents.



3. This is a book of parenting advice, not problem solving advice. I was looking for creative ideas for how to keep my toddler from screaming when I wash his hair, or, as another reviewer noted, how to get him to quit picking his nose. I think most people who would be interested in this book are beyond the diaper bag stage, and I don't know in whose pocket it would fit. The book does contain good advice about setting limits, respecting the child, and modeling appropriate behavior - pretty standard stuff for 21st century parents. I will use it as a reference book, but you won't see me whipping it out in the middle of Wal-Mart.



4. This book was very simple. I got it for that very reason, I have a 2 year old who is running the show and a new baby -- I needed help quick! After reading it by skipping around to various needed chapters, I learned that it had a quick underlying theme that is consistent throughout the book. Once you get that, it becomes less helpful. It was a good message and has been helpful in teaching me to avoid arguments with my 2-yr old, but I found that I am left wanting more information about all these issues. I like the book recommendations in the back, though, they recommended age-appropriate children's books that help kids through difficult situations, like potty training, family deaths, new baby, etc. I will open this book again, if we are faced with difficult situations and want to find some helpful books that will help our kids through the crisis.



5. This is the answer for parents who do not have the time to read huge books on crisis control when it comes to energy draining toddlers climbing the walls of parental tolerance!
   
   The book covers the classic problems of toddlerhood and provides simple solutions. The index leads you to a right on message that can be read in just a couple of minutes. And for those who have more time to spend, there is a list of books for further read on each subject.
   
   We have other books that are more in depth but tend to just collect dust in our household. Finding time for books is hard when pressed for time, but this one we use A LOT and would even take with us on travel.
   
   A highly recommended book in deed!

5 comments about Sex and the Perfect Lover: Tao, Tantra, and the Kama Sutra.

1. I used to read other sex books with my wife but she surprised me one day and bought Sex and the perfect lover by Iam... was a complete different thing all together, far far the best one I've seen. It's simply Amazing. My wife seduces me with the techniques in the book and I please her through the advice in the book. A reference book for your bedside table we have learn how to have fun and intimacy together, without just merely have sex put us on ground now. We have learnt how to have fun and intimacy together, without just merely making love.
   Everyone wants to have a great sex life and some may even think that they know everything as I did! but this book will take your sex life to new heights.
   I'm the one now that insists that we read one chapter every night, and then practice!
   I am right now ordering several copies to give as a gift to my friends.



2. M. Iam seriously addresses intimacy issues and provides a step-by-step deep relationship-nourishing format that begins with the art of exploring the pleasures of the Kama sutra from the vantage point of the couple's balanced physical, mental and emotional energy. In addition to initiating and maintaining the purely sensual aspects of love-making.
   
   Everyone should read this book. I have read a lot of relationships and sex books. This one, by far, is the best for me. Was almost like a total
   pleasure, I am giving it as a gift for special occasions and recommending it to everyone I know.



3. Sex and the Perfect Lover is a guide for those who wish a relationships with love pleasure, and intimacy, This is by far the best book I have ever read. The style of the book is easy, clear and perfect to understand and the illustrations of the kamasutra are excellent. The exercises and illustrations are creative, playful, and unusual, such as rewriting a recipe in sexual imagery to create an appetizing and erotic plan.
   I've shared it with some friends. I'm definitely going to give a copy of this book to my friends.



4. Extremely well done. I've read just about everything out there as a psychiatrist and as a person with special interest in human sexuality. The author has created a user-friendly book that is easy to read yet thorough. This book is one of the best.



5. The Romantic's Guide for its creative tips and ideas on building passion through romance.
   This book reminds us that in order to achieve Ecstasy we need only to look within. Containing enough information to keep any couple or individual engrossed for years, Sexual Energy Ecstasy is a priceless investment.
   Magnificently written and illustrated. Any couple who adopts their techniques will expand their relationship far into the joyous state of Sex and Love. I'd recommend you as the best gift that you can give.

5 comments about Emily Post's Etiquette, 17th Edition (Thumb Indexed).

1. In a time when Blackberry email seems to prevail, it is refreshing to find this excellent source for etiquette in today's world. It has something for everyone, in every situation. I have gifted several women in their 20's and 30's this book -- often as an engagement present -- when they first become aware that a thing called 'etiquette' existed and voiced many questions. No longer can we depend on each generation to pass on the 'right thing to do' to their offspring, in a time when families often don't even sit down to a meal, together, on a daily basis. The book covers a full spectrum of circumstances and certainly takes into account an appropriate place for, yes, even the email fans. It is an excellent source for everyone at every age, and has kept up with the times so as not to be left on the library shelves as a historic keepsake.



2. I was pleasantly surprised at how easy it was to look up topics and find answers to my etiquette questions. This book covers so many topics that I had not ever thought about. And it is current with all the new technology (text messaging, cell phones, etc).



3. 
   I was not disappointed with this purchase. It's really a veritable encyclopedia of social standards. There is a large (large) section pertaining to wedding etiquette, but plenty of useful, pertinent, information pertaining to other arenas of social interaction. The material is presented in a pleasant, straightforward (not condescending )manner. I especially like the thumb indexing.



4. I recommend this book for everybody: children and adult, mother and father, employee and employer.
   
   It's for any occasion in social life: relationships, communication, celebrations, Job, Travel, Leisure...



5. i thought that i got this item right on time. i was given an estimated date and it came on that exact date. the condition of the item was great. no problems!

5 comments about Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love.

1. I've been reading a number of books on couples counseling as part of working through longstanding problems that have emerged in an 8-year relationship. This is by far the best book on the dynamics of adult pair-bonded love (attachment bonds to use Johnson's term) that I have ever read. I'm buying extra copies to give friends who I know are having problems in their couple-relationships. This should be required first reading for every couple in trouble. Maybe even required reading for anyone considering a committed relationship in or out of societally defined marriage.



2. Hold Me Tight is an entertaining and enjoyable read. Johnson offers couples in couples counseling an adjunctive support system in addition to the therapy hour.In addition to being immensely helpful to couples. It is a book that all couples - and all people who want to be part of a couple - should read. The perfect companion for this book is I Love You. Now What?: Falling in Love is a Mystery, Keeping It Isn't



3. This book is easy to read, and most will recognise themselves more than once in the featured couples. The author has developed a very effective method for dealing with problems that haunt most couples. There are many "conversations" to have with your partner to excercise the skills outlined in the book. I highly recommend to any couple, especially those that have the same arguments over and over that never get resolved.



4. As a therapist in private practice who specializes in working with couples and an EFT trained therapist, I have found Dr. Johnson's new book an easy read as well as an effective tool for couples to work through together.
   
   Dr. Johnson has said that taking EFT and putting it into a framework that couples can use together on their own was very challenging to do. This book is a testimony to her hard work, one couples can benefit from, if they read and do the exercises.
   
   In the book, Dr. Johnson takes the readers through a straight forward explanation of the negative cycles most couples find themselves in. She handles the explanation of adult-attachment brilliantly and relates the concept to what happens in relationships when we get our feelings hurt. Next she has the reader re-work a difficult moment in their relationship and through this demonstrates her principals and some key interventions that are used in therapy with an EFT therapist.
   
   While buying and reading the book along with completing the exercises may not be equal to actually working through therapy with an EFT therapist, for those wanting a solid relationship check up or tune up, or those wanting to work on their own, Hold Me Tight is an easy and effective way to go. If you are looking for a self help couples book, you won't be disappointed.



5. She provided a program to growth and help couples develop the relationship, through her seven topics.
   She guides people in exploring emotions and pain, and helping couples create new communication. Also recommend other book: I Love You. Now What?: Falling in Love is a Mystery, Keeping It Isn't is the right math of this matter.

5 comments about Make Every Man Want You: or Make Yours Want You More).

1. I am giving this book a tentative 4-star rating because I really wish I had gotten this book instead of some other bad book that came better rated than this one. Even though I have yet to read it (I am now going to buy it in-store), by visiting Marie's free supplemental website I can really see how her tips and methods can work... her theory of telling one's-self, for example that "this is it" and "this is what I want" in life, at every challenging situation or mind-numbing social event, I have already learned to make the best of whatever situation I am in, instantly making myself more relaxed, positive, outgoing and most importantly potentially charming (and dare I say irresistable) to the opposite sex.
   If you are skeptical like I am to spend money on a product like this that might not work, might leave you discouraged or waste your time with tips you could come up with yourself, visit her website and see for yourself rather than taking these comments at face-value. Also know however that some of her tips are "common knowledge" meaning, you can probably find versions of her advice on other websites or wikis. Like every self-help thingy, you have to take the author's advice with a grain of salt; no book is going to be a "cure-all", nor will a title (especially as provocative as Marie's) really, truly be the most appropriate category for the material inside (even Marie admits in the preface that she used the title just to catch your attention). With Marie's book and a little bit of practice (!) I really think I can make some improvements to my social life!



2. I realized that my girlfriend was unknowingly following Marie's advice when we'd met, and for all of the time we've been together. That is why we have such a perfect, fun-filled relationship and are known among our friends as the "perfect couple."I also recommend my favorite book about love I Love You. Now What?: Falling in Love is a Mystery, Keeping It Isn't



3. I enjoyed reading this book, the title really grabs you. It was upbeat and easy to read. And what a concept, get your own life and men will be more drawn to you!!



4. Found this to be a fun and easy to read book, excellent advice for any female who cares enough to read & improve their dating skills.



5. I have been reading numerous (6-7 ) dating books these days because I am back out dating after quite some years, and , although I got something useful from every one, this is the best of the bunch. I agree with Maria that we are better off without tricks and manipulations , which are often offered in other books. I have been really psyched and inspired by this book, there is a lot of enlightenment and intelligence behind it, and she spices it up with interesting exercises for the mind, so we may change our old patterned thinking. What I also LOVE about this book is that the advice is helpful in all areas of life . This level of maturity and coaching is impressive from a somewhat young author. High Marks !

5 comments about The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize it and How to Respond.

1. After YEARS of living with a verbally abusive man (40 to be exact) I read this book.. I saw myself in this book and him as what he was.. For years I was on antidepressants, anxiety meds and suffered from high blood pressure.. I could NOT understand why I couldn't cope.. I picked up this book,read it all the way through... and THEN started taking up for MYSELF... whenever he contradicted everything I would say, whenever my joy or my accomplishments were met with a blank stare Or
   whenever he would emotionally check out.. I would stop him.. Put my hand in his face ...say STOP this is crazy making annnnd I know where you are coming from.. Now things are POSITIVELY changing..
   
   I have only read one negative review of this book and that was Probably from a man who engages in this counterproductive and abusive behavior himself. Those men Like my husband are threatened by a book like this for exposing them for the bullies they are.. A marriage / relationship should be a partnership, not a GAME of one upmanship.. I asked my husband just today.. does it make you feel better about yourself to contradict EVERYTHING I say.. Verbal abuse is hurtful, hateful, scarring and should not be tolerated by any one especially women who have give their lives,, sacrificed their own happiness for the ones they love. It should NOT be tolerated, and at the very least the women should be given the love and respect of all the men in their lives,,they should NOT be demeaned or degraded by the men who claim they love them..THIS BOOK IS A WAKE-UP CALL and should be read by women and ALL the men who engage in this sort of behavior.



2. When I was considering buying this book, I read the reviewer who said she read it on a Monday and filed for divorce on Friday. I thought WOW, that's a pretty powerful book! It took me a little longer to leave - 4 months. If you even think you are in an abusive relationship, I cannot recommend this book enough. Verbal abuse might not even involve yelling or name calling - it can be very, very subtle. The main thing is to look at how you feel in the relationship - not at what your partner is telling you you should feel. A marriage isn't a prison sentence. This book was right on target in describing all of the different types of verbal abuse and how the partner of a verbal abuser feels. It also had some great suggestions for how to move forward.



3. My husband of 20 years was cleaning out some old books to give away and told me that I could look through them to see if I wanted any before he packed them up. I found this book by Patricia Evans in the pile and wondered why he had the book. I took it out of the pile and started reading it and couldn't stop until I was finished. I recognized my husband's behavior and our personal dynamics in it. I had tried everything over the years to stop his anger outbursts and name-calling -- everything -- and couldn't figure out why an intelligent, aware person like me couldn't help him understand how much it hurt me. I thought he wanted to stop, and he must have had some inkling of his problem, because he bought the book at some point. But he didn't read it. After reading this book myself, I know he doesn't really want to stop and he can't stop. Wow. My worldview is totally different now and I feel empowered to do what is right for me.
   
   The next day (today), I ordered this book for my sister (whom I suspect is in a verbally abusive relationship) and my daughter-in-law, who is studying to become a therapist. I want them both to get as much out of the book as I did. It positively changed my life.



4. This book is a great start for someone trying to understand what verbal abuse is about and why it happens. After being in a 10 year relationship and not being able to figure out why it wasn't working - this book helped to explain a lot.
   
   It is written in a way that easy to read and understand - gradually introducing terms and phrases that are used throughout the book.
   
   It has not only helped for me to understand a past relationship but will help for me to recognize verbally abusive characteristics in people that I may meet in the future.
   
   Thank you.



5. I didn't know what was wrong with my marriage, but I knew I was unhappy. At least once a week I found myself telling my husband, "Don't talk to me like that. It makes me feel bad." But he didn't stop. It just got worse.
   
   These kind of relationships are poison because you are being emotionally abused.
   
   Day by day you grow more and more less confident and uneasy...but you can't understand why.
   
   Please, if you think you are being mistreated...you probably are.
   
   Read this book so that you have a better understanding of what is going on in your relationship. Seek professional help, go to the nearest women's shelter if you need help or affordable counseling.