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Posted in Personal Transformation (Saturday, September 6, 2008)

Written by Esther Hicks and Jerry Hicks. By Hay House. The regular list price is $9.95. Sells new for $5.80. There are some available for $5.80.
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5 comments about Manifest Your Desires: 365 Ways to Make Your Dreams a Reality.
  1. Yet another wonderful manifestation from Abraham through Esther Hicks with partner Jerry. A joyful start to my day each day -- moving more and more toward my personal Joy.
    Holland K. - San Francisco


  2. A great read, clear, concise, enlightening, practical, and I couldn't put the book down!
    If you are serious about making positive changes in your life and manifesting some of your long overdue dreams than you must read this book. If you want to improve your relationship or attract the real person for you I also recommend I Love You. Now What?: Falling in Love is a Mystery, Keeping It Isn't and from the same authors The Astonishing Power of Emotions: Let Your Feelings Be Your Guide


  3. Always enjoy the Hicks' books. This one again dealing with fulilling your dreams following the principle of the Law Of Attraction. However, very similar to their other books but still a good read to reinforce the principles within yourself. Another great book, Living The Secret Everyday: My Secret Workbook gives you yet another perspective and also reinforces with use of their recipes (exercises), workbook format and journal. If you are a follower of the Law of Attraction, this is a must read!


  4. I absolutely love this book! It captures the essence of all of the Teachings of Abraham books, which is conveniently and beautifully put together in this beautiful book. I start and end my day with Manifest Your Desires.


  5. This is a momentous day in history....well, my personal history. This is my 316nth review for amazon. So? So, you say? Well, let's put it together, shall we...my name is John and I was born on March 16...still saying, "so what?" Have you ever heard of John 3:16...

    "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son,that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life."

    Who is the one and only son? Is it Jesus or is it you...is it me...is it everyone of us? I believe that there is only one of us and we are all reflections of that Divine Source and the only reason why we are here is to remember that we are co-creators with the Divine and this little gem of a book can help you in that remembering process.

    Sometimes when we look at life from a year's perspective, we can be blown away by the sheer enormity of it all. But when we take that year apart and realize that it comes one day at a time, we can take small, gradual steps and those "tiny steps" can reap some huge rewards in every aspect of our lives.

    "Abraham" asserts that we are here to feel good. I believe that we are. If you asked me that a mere fifteen years ago, I would've thought you were crazy. The sad thing is that most of us - if not all of us - constantly delay our happiness. We say to ourselves, "When I finish college, I'll be happy...when I get married, I'll be happy...when I make more money, I'll be happy...when I write 316 reviews I'll be happy...when I go into the 'next life' I'll be happy..."

    We've been so conditioned to think that happiness is outside of ourselves, but this little book of precious and beautiful reminders insists that we can feel good and be happy now and those good feelings and that happiness is "setting us up" for even more good to flow into our lives.

    We have dreams and desires because at some level those dreams and our desires are ALREADY ours...all we have to do is claim them as so. C'mon, you know that it's true. You know on some level that you really have had a hand in creating your own experience...who else could've done it? And today is the day that your life is going to get even greater.

    I have a real feeling about you.


    WE've been conditioned to believe that God only had "one Son" and He did...YOU...You are that "only Son" of God and the only way that life is going to change is when you resurrect your True Self and roll back the stone and come out of yourself and be your-SELF. We are here to enjoy this life and the nxt one and the next one after that, but whatever life we're in, we can only live it moment by moment.

    This book will help bring you into the moment and after a year has gone by you can look back and say, "Whoa...I did all of that?" Of course you did...when you align with Joy, all things are possible because you, my child, are Possibility Itself!

    Peace & Blessings, everyone...
    john, 'the Light Coach'


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Posted in Personal Transformation (Saturday, September 6, 2008)

Written by Jack Canfield and Janet Switzer. By Collins Living. The regular list price is $16.95. Sells new for $9.89. There are some available for $8.70.
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5 comments about The Success Principles(TM): How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be.
  1. Jack Canfield has gone the extra mile to provide us with an exceptional plan. His writing style and technique ensures that we all beleive we can achieve. Page after page I've highlighted text. Page after page I've read about Jack Canfield's thoughts and ideas and those pages include individuals stories which support those ideas. This book is a handbook on personal growth and self development. Take the leap. Buy it. Read it and continue to refer to it.


  2. If someone really USES it and really does the exercises (which I need to now that I have finished the book), this book could be life-changing. The way the processes and excercises are peppered with amazing success stories from real life, and fantastic quotes...I highlighted like crazy. But now it's time to take action!

    I'd give this book ten stars if I could.


  3. I pick this book up almost every day and read and re-read all this helpful information. The more I put it into action, the more wonderful things happen in my life. There is so much information to learn from Jack Canfield. I tell everyone I know about it especially other artists and creative people. So exciting to have a book that will help me be who I truly am in my life.
    Catherine www.catherinefoster.com


  4. I have never written a book review EVER. But this was the best self-help motivational book ever and I have read dozens and dozens. this is the first and last inspirational book you will ever need.


  5. As a corporate director of HR for a fortune 500 company, I am continually searching for material I can share with the management staff. This book was an excellent fit in our learning resources center.

    While achieving success is rarely accomplished with shortcuts, this guide provides what I believe are important guideposts that will keep you on the right trail. Many people fail to achieve success because they leave the trail for other pursuits.

    It is really surprising in the business world at the number of people who really do not know what they are trying to achieve. Indeed, I would dare to say that most people don't have a clue as to where they are going. They are simply meandering down the path hoping for few problems and a warm place to sleep at night.

    This book stresses the importance of people deciding what they really, really want to do in life. My only negative critique is that the book seems to define success in financial terms (which is par for the consumer American nation). As the wiser amoung us know, success takes many forms of which money is only a small part.

    I enjoyed the book and intend to share the wisdom therein with other managerial types within my organization. I believe the advice is solid and obviously, the author is "qualified" if for no other reason that his huge publishing success.

    I hope you find this review helpful. Michael L. Gooch, SPHR - Author of Wingtips with Spurs


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Posted in Personal Transformation (Saturday, September 6, 2008)

Written by Martin E. Seligman. By Vintage. The regular list price is $14.95. Sells new for $8.43. There are some available for $6.50.
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5 comments about Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life.
  1. This is one of the most interesting books I have ever read. I'm not talking just psychology or self-improvement books...but all books...period. The science behind it, the practices outlined, the insight, will change your attitude and your life. It is unlike any book in its genre, and I can't for the life of me understand why it isn't required reading and a guide book for therapists...but I guess that would make therapy effective! :0. Not really providing a lot of information here...just read it and see for yourself. I have read all his books. This is the first and the best. If you're interested in Positive Psychology or shaking off depression/anxiety or knowing more about yourself and others...start with this book. It is not only a great read...it works. I credit it for changing my life for the better, and I no longer take medication. I would also check out the author's program of study and website and UPENN which is http://www.authentichappiness.com.


  2. I thought this book gave one a great understanding to where we have been and where we could go. Here the author explained how through our experiences and relationships we are pessimistic. He reinforces that most people are negative in their thoughts and teaches us to be optimistic. I have also reviewed Living The Secret Everyday: My Secret Workbook which is a wonderful book proposing this same theory of positive thinking through The Law of Attraction. Read this to learn about the principles of The Law of Attraction and apply it through the exercises given to live this optimistic and happy life.


  3. I absolutely loved this book. It helped me to start working on my world view. Although I was a very optimistic person because of a bad marriage and harsh relationship, my attitude went down. This book helped me to realize that we can make a difference in our life. I am still work in progress and we have to be patient about it but I believe world would be better place by having more optimistic people around us.


  4. Although it's a struggle to wade through almost half a book of how research was conducted, I gave this book a five star rating because it really has changed my life. I honestly thought there was nothing I could succeed at and also believed my children would probably fail at everything too. But I've learnt to rewrite my internal script and delibertely think like an optimist and there's been an instant positive response from the children. We have a much happier home and a bright, bright future. If you ever get even a little depressed you should read this book and do the exercises.


  5. Dr. Seligman tries to convince us that pessimism is the source of all our problems and optimism is the panacea in this book. It's basically divided into three parts: the first part deals with research in learned helplessness, the second about the advantages of optimism, and the third about how to change from pessimism to optimism.

    Seligman defines optimism as not letting negative thoughts distort reality. But what if negative thoughts are reality and positive thoughts are distortions? When I realized that was true and I've been distorting reality with optimism (after I had read the book and had been applying the refutations for a couple weeks), I realized that the book had been inapplicable. He then says that even if the negative thoughts are true, what are the implications of them? He seems to think the only implications are minor things not worth bothering yourself with, but that hasn't been my experience.

    To put it succinctly, it's a nice book, well-written and well-researched, but it fails by presenting depression and pessimism as not only the same thing, but something that can be cured in a one-size-fits-all kind of way that just didn't work for me.


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Posted in Personal Transformation (Saturday, September 6, 2008)

Written by NLP Comprehensive. By Harper Paperbacks. The regular list price is $15.95. Sells new for $9.01. There are some available for $7.99.
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5 comments about NLP: The New Technology of Achievement.
  1. I am giving this book two stars- but I begrudge it the second one. It has to be two because it DOES contain the information I bought it for. But I wish I could in good conscience give it one single star- or fewer- because on nearly every page, there's something that makes me want to reach through the book and slap the writers.

    I don't enjoy books that effuse with frothy enthusiasm so trillingly that it undercuts the information it's supposed to deliver. And I don't enjoy books where the authors seem to be addressing me and my curiosity about the topic in a sugary voice as if I am a Kindergartner.

    So I am not enjoying this book. At all.

    I wish that before I'd purchased this book I'd seen the dedication page. It reads: "Dedicated to the joyful heart and soaring spirit of every child reaching for a greater world, especially in yourself."

    Now, friends- I sincerely hope your heart is joyful and that your spirit soars. But that sugary prose in the dedication would have tipped me off about what was ahead- and I'd have run for the hills. To get to the information, you have to deal with the authors achingly precious hopes for this book to change your life.

    Ever have a cappucino that was all foam with only a little sip of coffee at the bottom of the cup? Remember how you raised the paper cup to your lips and there wasn't anything to swig? Remember the sense that you'd just been ripped off?

    Yeah. It's a lot like that.

    If you like non-fiction delivered to you like a bed-time story, maybe you'll like this book. But if not-- don't buy this book. Run very fast to the next selection.

    If I can stop even one person from buying this book, it was worth my time to write this review.


  2. This is a great book on how to improve your performance in any area of your life. I've only just started applying some of the ideas and already I notice that I am able to focus better when I study and dragging myself out of bed in the morning is not as difficult as it once was.


  3. This book is great in that it not only explains some of the basics of NLP but it also includes 43 different exercises to do while you are reading the book. Most of these exercises can be done quickly and have been, for me, generally quite effective. These exercises are not easy to find online, so it's nice to have them compiled in one place here. For the price of a paperback it's hardly a question as to whether or not you should buy this book, especially if NLP is something that interests you.


  4. I do like the author and have heard him on tape and CD before, but this CD set was originally a tape set (we repeatedly hear "on this tape" spoken), and should have been re-done instead of edited.

    Some (only some) of the basics of NLP are included here, and if you've ever opened a book or heard a tape about NLP, you probably already know all that's offered on this CD.

    Three of us here listened to "NLP," and we all found the constant reference to "tapes" annoying, along with the voices of two people who do a lot of speaking on the second CD. They both sound like they're trying to do cartoon voices, and my husband couldn't stop laughing. Yes, the voices are that distracting.

    The author co-wrote a better introduction to NLP years ago, called "Success Mastery With NLP." It's usually available used on tape. Having used NLP since 1976, I really do recommend it as a more useful introduction to the subject.


  5. Even though this book meets my criteria for having `fluff', this is still one great introduction book to NLP. The language is down to earth, the exercises are well explained and the authors give a lot of thoughtful advice to beginners.


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Posted in Personal Transformation (Saturday, September 6, 2008)

Written by Esther Hicks and Jerry Hicks and Wayne W. Dyer. By Hay House. The regular list price is $14.95. Sells new for $5.00. There are some available for $4.33.
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5 comments about Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires.
  1. If you want to know more about your subc.I heartily recommend these CDs

    The Power of Your Subconscious Mind
    The Master Key System
    Thought Vibration or the Law of Attraction in the Thought World
    The Science of Getting Rich
    The Science of Mind
    Think and Grow Rich: Original Version


  2. Never have I read a work with so much repetition. It's as if the goal of the first 21 chapters was to see how many different ways one could phrase the same thought.

    Chapter 22 offered a fresh perspective that I have not encountered elsewhere.

    To be fair to the work, perhaps my experience would have been better had I not read "The Secret" and "A New Earth" prior to reading this one.

    I fully embrace the power of positive manifestation. And there are wonderful books on the subject. I don't feel this one of the best, but I am pleased for all the readers who have been inspired by Abraham's message.


  3. As a literary work I give this book 2 stars. It's super repetitive. So repetitive that while listening to the audio version I thought my Ipod was broken and skipping at one point! If I had read the book rather than listening to it while i did other things I probably wouldn't have enjoyed it, or even finished it.

    The information contained in this book, however, is fabulous! 5 stars!

    The reason why I give it 5 stars is that Esther and Jerry hicks are the first people that I know of that recognize when you are in a low place emotionally you need to take baby steps towards feeling better first in order to accomplish what you want. You can make those steps very quickly in the end, but you can't get from one point to the other without experiencing the middle. If what you want is too far away from where you are you won't have it right now, or even tommorow, but if you make the shift to the next level closer your goal will be closer to you.

    This is a very practical point that most self help and self improvement books miss out on entirely, and in my opinion why they don't work for most people. If what you want it seems too far away, you won't allow yourself to have it!

    Whether you believe in the Law Of Attraction or not, whether you believe in Abraham or not, you can gain something from this book. I'm still not sure if I believe in these things, but it doesn't matter right now. I don't really believe in magic, I don't know that I will ever "manifest" anything!

    The point is that while the information is presented in a way that seems way out of left field and new-age to most people, it is actually very practical and common sense. The creative visualization practices presented in "The Processes" will work for you if you approach them with an open mind and a goal of just feeling better.

    So my advice, if you are interested in these ideas, than listen to the audio while you do your busy work. It definitely won't hurt. If you combine it with more action oriented information ("Think and grow rich") you will have a winning combination to achieve whatever you want in life.


  4. For those of you who don't get the significance of the connection between Amway and Abraham I would urge you to do some honest, open-minded research and come to your own conclusions. For a time I believed that "Abraham" was the real deal. I bought their books, CD's and DVDs. I attended one of their workshops. But after discovering contradictions in the material I began to ask questions. After having done my own research I have come to believe that "Abraham" is nothing more than the re-packaged, spiritually-dramatized version of the Amway motivational seminars that Jerry Hicks gave in the 1970's and 1980's. Yes, it is wonderful, positive material that is lovingly, wittily delivered. It makes people feel good. And if that's all you need - I highly recommend it. But I, for one, need more than that.


  5. Loved the authors approach explaining the Law of Attraction aand the examples and exercises in the back of the book.. To reinforce and more information and even simpler exercises with a journal I recommend Living The Secret Everyday: My Secret Workbook


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Posted in Personal Transformation (Saturday, September 6, 2008)

Written by Eckhart Tolle. By New World Library. The regular list price is $17.00. Sells new for $8.85. There are some available for $6.99.
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5 comments about Practicing the Power of Now: Essential Teachings, Meditations, and Exercises from The Power of Now.
  1. i haven't read PRACTICING The Power of Now as i am in the middle of reading THE POWER OF NOW. but i believe it will be very helpful in keeping me in the present for longer periods of time, which is the goal after all.


  2. I read this after New Earth and I can't believe the peace that really exists. I've tried some of the exercises and meditations and the feeling is beyond me. It's very challenging to keep it up through everyday life, but certainly is something I hope is with me forever.


  3. The teachings of this book are a tremendous help in turning my life around and being a happier human been.


  4. This is a wonderful stand alone tool or a complimentary tool to the Power of now book. Powerful and insightful. I always have it near me.


  5. This is a wonderful companion piece to "The Power of Now". Meditation is a great stress reliever. And not worrying about where you came from or where you are going is the key to enjoying the present moment. great book.


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Posted in Personal Transformation (Saturday, September 6, 2008)

Written by Jon Kabat-zinn. By Hyperion. The regular list price is $12.95. Sells new for $7.28. There are some available for $7.28.
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4 comments about Arriving at Your Own Door: 108 Lessons in Mindfulness.
  1. Watch Video Here: http://www.amazon.com/review/R1KY4RUSMO5PFN *****
    This little book is lovely as a gift for someone, especially yourself. It contains excerpts from Jon Kabat-Zinn's masterpiece "Coming to Our Senses", a tome about mindfulness and meditation. In this video I open the book, show you the layout and read two different quotes. I've kept the video to about two minutes in length. This is a book that anyone interested in living more serenely and more alive can enjoy, whether or not you've had the pleasure of reading the main book that it was excerpted from. Highly recommended!
    *****


  2. A thought provoking, meaning filled book. The type of book you can carry with you and read a passage when you can or placed somewhere in your home so it reminds you to pick it up and read a passage every day. Makes a wonderful gift.


  3. I have only just received the book. I can tell it is going to be a keeper!


  4. This is a small book filled with great wisdom though there are just a few sentences in each lesson. You learn about mindfulness easily.
    I have been reading this book loud to my husband this summer and it has created a mindfulness bond between us.
    I do recommened this little book.


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Posted in Personal Transformation (Saturday, September 6, 2008)

Written by David D. Burns. By Plume. The regular list price is $25.00. Sells new for $12.50. There are some available for $4.92.
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5 comments about The Feeling Good Handbook.
  1. Cognitive therapy is a tested, effective treatment for depression. It can be used instead of medication, or to add to the effects of antidepressants. This book is clear and well written. It has helpful worksheets and exercises to reinforce the information. This book can help you break the negative habits that cause and maintain depression.


  2. Abstract

    The following study investigates the text, The Feeling Good Handbook, by David Burns. Specifically addressed are issues regarding the cognitive-behavioral model of twisted thinking, moral relativism, and the denial of objective truth. It was found that the text provides an inadequate definition and application regarding moral and objective truth issues. Recommendations for revision of the model are included.


    A Critical Analysis of the Feeling Good
    Handbook: Its Usefulness in Counseling Practice

    In addition to the popular text Feeling Good, which became a national bestseller, and The Therapists Toolkit, a resource developed for mental health practitioners, David Burns released The Feeling Good Handbook, a 729-page (including index) guide to cognitive-behavioral therapy techniques. Semantically speaking, the text is well written, in simple (approximately 8th grade level) English, and is specifically marketed as a self-help text, though its usefulness for counselors is evident in that throughout the text the reader is often asked to assume the roll of the counselor, and after Burns describes a therapeutic technique, the reader is asked in a presented milieu, to implement that technique (for example, responding to a hypothetical client in a vignette empathetically).

    In beginning to review this text, it is noticed a review can be accomplished in two ways. One, the text can be analyzed in respect to how it communicates the points it attempts to make (presentation), how it facilitates the ability in the reader to implement what is learned into his/her life or practice (application), and it can be reviewed in regards to how accurately the book delivers the ideas of cognitive therapy, mood therapy, empathetic response, etc. In all these aspects the book veers well--quite well--for even Albert Ellis (who holds a reputation of not being impressed with others' therapeutic approaches) critiques the text as "Clear, systematic, forceful."

    The second approach to analyzing the text, the approach that will be taken, involves an investigation of one can trust as a suitable methodology the tenets from which the text is written, the tenets of cognitive therapy. It will address where the tactics disclosed by Burns are believed to be useful, and when it is hypothesized they would falter in a counseling practice.
    Understanding Your Moods

    Burns begins discussing moods by stating the fallacy clients often share, which is "I just can't help the way I feel" (Burns, 1999, p. 3). He then states a grounding premise of cognitive behavioral theory, which is that one's thoughts create moods. Quoting Ellis, the acronym A + B = C is stated. In this formula, A is the presenting event, B is the thoughts of the client, and C is the way the client feels. This formula is to show As do not create Cs--that is, what happens to a person does not effect that person's mood. The thoughts the person maintains affect the person's mood.

    However, in reading the text, it is found that the true formula used in the text is not A + B = C, it is B = C, A = 0. The point being, the book extremely minimizes the effect of A. A, in essence, is described as a force that is prone to trying to manipulate one's B to produce unpleasant C's, but is in itself generally insignificant. More clearly, the situations, trials, relationships, and anything else external a person confronts merely challenges a person's thoughts. If the thoughts can be changed, or maintained as healthy thoughts, the person will always report a pleasant mood (C).

    According to Burns, "sadness and depression result from thoughts of loss," "Anxiety and panic result from thoughts of danger," and "Guilt results from the thought that you are bad" (Burns, 1999, p. 5). To Dr. David Burns' credit he does state the following, which he titles a disclaimer: that there are times when negative feelings are appropriate and healthy, and that "learning when to accept these feelings and how to cope with a realistically negative situation is just as important as learning how to rid yourself of distorted thoughts and feelings" (p. 7). The reader must ask him/herself at this point, if Dr. Burns believes this amazingly astute point (i.e. equal importance), why then is only one line spent addressing that As are relevant, while 728.5 pages are spent denying their relevance?
    False Sincerity of the Empathetic Response

    A rebuttal to the statement that Burns' methodology denies all relevance of coping with a negative situation would probably include the premise that such is accomplished with the use of the empathetic response. The problem with this premise however, is the use of the empathetic response validates nothing. The therapist agrees to none of the truth that the client speaks. The empathetic response simply makes the client aware that the counselor is aware of his/her hurtful thinking.

    Reading the text a reader might be perplexed with the question, when is there objective truth in thinking? More specifically, can not hurtful thinking (i.e. I have been a terrible father) be accurate? And if it is accurate, who is to say disposing of this accurate--though hurtful thought--is in essence better for the client than allowing the client to maintain this thought until the client changes his/her behavior so that the client can display another more healthy, and accurate, thought, (i.e. I am no longer a terrible father). However, by Burns' model, the man who states he is a terrible father, even if it is true (by all ability to quantify what a terrible father is), will be handled in the following way.

    One, the client would be empathized with: "You are telling me that you are not a very good father, and you are clearly upset with that." Two, the counselor might disclose an "I feel" statement: "I would definitely not want to feel like I was a terrible father. That must be a horrible feeling." Three, it would be suggested to the client that he has twisted thinking which include "Should Statements" (You are wrongly telling yourself you should not be a terrible father), "Labeling" (there is no such thing as a terrible father, just persons who act the roll sometimes), "All-or-Nothing thinking" (surely you have done something that was not terrible--for example you are in therapy), "Overgeneralization" (Being a terrible father is a general simplification. Burns states "there are no Jerks in America" only persons who act like jerks from time to time), "Mental Filter" (you are pretty upset over this whole fatherhood thing. Lets think on things you're not terrible at), and the list goes on.

    Burns' model provides no basis for determining what is "twisted thinking" and what is thinking that is the downright painful truth. He states, there are no Jerks in America--just those that act like Jerks. But if a "jerk" does not exist, then from what basis can one state an action as jerk-like? Furthermore, in the 700 plus pages of text on how to handle clients, not once does Burns confront a client because his/her thinking was pleasant but skewed. Therefore, it is a safe conclusion that--though Burns may briefly claim otherwise--to Burns pleasant thinking is correct thinking.

    This is further evidenced in text when Burns addresses confrontation. Choices of words include "it was unpleasant when" or "I felt uncomfortable when" (Burns, 1999, p. 156). Both are notoriously relative remarks. There is no claim to objective truth; there is no "what you did was wrong," or "I was treated unjustly." Such relativism can be no more apparent than in the following excerpt:
    You may have difficulty with this idea [that there is not use for shoulds]. You may insist that there's nothing wrong with using the word "should." You may think that it's your duty to clean your desk or to study hard. You may feel it is something you should do!

    There are actually [only] three valid uses of the word "should" in the English language. One is the "moral should." You "should" not intentionally take advantage of someone, because this violates your moral code. The second is the "legal should." You should not drive at 90mph because it is dangerous and you'll probably get a ticket. The third is the "laws of the universe should." Things "should" happen because the forces of nature make them happen. For example, if you drop a pen, it "should" fall because of the force of gravity (p. 179).

    The enormity of the errors in the thinking above is staggering. First, the only two claims of truth presented above are (one) that it is wrong believe one ought to believe there are moral shoulds or shoulds caused by one's duty, and (two) that the English dictionary agrees with David Burns. Both claims are false.

    It is very possible that someone could have a duty to study. A physician being paid to study the effects of a rare disease infecting his/her patient, for example, is an explicit instance when there is a definite "should" due to duty. One would concur that the situation would not have to be so dire (matter of life and death) to still constitute a legitimate should. Though Burns--in the quote above--states that one "feels" shoulds, and does not know them or objectively understand them (lines 3-4).

    Next, Burns' first definition of a true should is logically meaningless, in that he states it is truth that one should not take advantage of someone (a valid should) because it violates the person's moral code. Therefore, Burns is saying, as long as one is not violating their own relative moral code, he/she can take advantage of anyone and not be violating a "should." Burns' second definition, regarding the legal should, is quite depraved in that he states speeding violates a legal should (true) because one could hurt him/herself or get a ticket. In reality, Burns is not addressing a legal should at all for legally the should would remain constant whether on not the violator injures him/herself, or receives a ticket for the violation. What Burns is really stating in his example is the claim that one should not partake of behavior that may cause As that could instigate unpleasant Bs.

    Lastly, Burns demotes the laws of physics, to the shoulds of physics! If one drops a pen according to Burns, it should hit the floor. According to the law of gravity however, if one drops a pen, it will hit the floor.
    Discussion

    Cognitive-behavioral therapy is effective. Burns does a fantastic job of describing how to implement cognitive principles into one's personal life, even into one's counseling practice. The ideas are useful for healing. However, the theory is weak in that it does not provide the practitioner, nor the client, correct direction regarding what is twisted thinking, and what is true--though painful--thinking.

    Final Note: Telephone and Online Counseling may be a good way to provide quick and effective care to clients. Learn to provide Telephone and Online Counseling with this very well done book: The Therapist's Clinical Guide to Online Counseling and Telephone Counseling: The Definitive Training Guide for Clinical Practice


  3. If you just want to read "Feeling Good", do not buy this handbook version of the book.

    The author uses imperative statements and not so subtle naratives to coerce the reader into doing the exercises. The objective... teach in simple practical terms Cognitive Behavioral Therapy methods for reprogramming out thinking.

    Plan to read a few pages and then work on some exercises and ponder over your beliefs and values.

    This is not a book for speed reader rabbits. It is more for the the thoughtful, consistent tortoise.

    Michael P


  4. I bought this for myself over a year ago and cannot say enough good things about it (this purchase was for a dear family member). This book has opened up my eyes and the dark clouds that surrounded me for years...


  5. I had read this book years ago in a different version. At the time, I found it a very helpful point of view. Now cognitive therapy is not so new and I am accustomed to realizing that my attitude toward unfortunate situations are in my control, whether the situation is or not. The exercises are helpful to put your events in perspective. Even if you think you know the things that are suggested, putting your own problems on paper and practicing the steps, is more enlightening than you might expect. If you have not encountered cognitive therapy before, this book, the ideas that are outlined, and the exercises, if you will do them, are essential for your well-being. You may not feel "good," but I bet you will feel "better."


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Written by Beth Moore. By Thomas Nelson. The regular list price is $21.99. Sells new for $8.44. There are some available for $5.21.
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5 comments about Get Out of That Pit: Straight Talk about God's Deliverance.
  1. I was in a 'pit' when my cousin gave me this book. Not only did it help me to see I wasn't alone in my situation, but that God truly is the way to a better life. I've given this book to several people overcome by life's struggles and hope it helped them as much as it helped me.


  2. As usual, Beth Moore gets to the point and gives real advice. She never "talks down" to you, she has been there too, and she is so positive in her outlook it becomes contagious. I highly recommend this book.


  3. I found it to have a strong biblical foundation. Beth Moore is refreshingly open and candid and non-judgmental but also challenging. I would have given it five stars, but the book seemed to run out of steam at the climax -- it just didn't come together in grand fashion like the first 3/4 of the book. But I'm really glad I got to read it, and I will be re-reading parts of it. This is my first Beth Moore book, and I will be reading others.


  4. I have been going through this book with a ladies devotional group and have really enjoyed the message of this book as well as the take aways from this book. It is always nice to have a book that you get so much out of that you want to pass on to others- this is definately a book like that! It has great study questions and prayers to follow with to help you glean important reminders from the book!


  5. Great book! Beth Moore did a great job on this one like all the rest of her! Anyone feeling "stuck" should pick this one up! Very uplifting and encouraging!


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Posted in Personal Transformation (Saturday, September 6, 2008)

Written by Eckhart Tolle. By New World Library. The regular list price is $17.00. Sells new for $9.98. There are some available for $7.75.
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5 comments about Stillness Speaks.
  1. I have just read 'The Power of Now', and had actually read 'Stillness Speaks' before that. I would recommend buying 'The Power of Now' first if mindfulness is fairly new to you. The Power of Now provides more of a foundation for the mind, before going beyond mind and into presence. 'Stillness Speaks', on the other hand, is condensed snippets that are like immediate portals into stillness and sanity for those who have some familiarity with mindfulness/meditation already, as I did. That said, I found 'Stillness Speaks' an immediate and refreshing facilitator of stillness/presence/being for me....and it continues to be this each time I pick it up. A homecoming to 'sanity'. It cuts through mental noisiness, reminds me of my depths and that life is here and now.

    In 'Power of Now' Tolle suggests we listen with more than the mind, almost like listening with the body when we read. I instantly recognised in this description my primary mode of reading spiritual texts, and you may too; and I find Tolle's writing very nourishing when read in this subtle way. If my mind is too dominant and I'm in resistance to the moment, however, his writing appears to lack depth or interest, and the way appears barred to me! This suggests to me that his writing does indeed come from a place of being, and not from an egoic, mental level. While I'll read others for more mind-food, I'll continue to dip into Tolle for soul-food and instant peace.


  2. I keep this wonderful little book at my bedside and wouldn't think of traveling without it. The subjects (chapters) indicated in the table of contents make it easy to find concise help for issues that may cause anxiety and/or frustration in one's daily life. It's a real treasure!


  3. I really enjoyed this book - it definitely gave me a fresh new perspective on life.


  4. This is a book, of amazing depth; each paragraph is a meditation; if you contemplate each, the meaning will open up; try it, you'll be amazed.. well actually you'll be THAT in which amazement arises... if you get the point.


  5. I wish that I had what he has. Such a beautiful soul. A wonderful book to take along wherever you go, to quiet the mind.


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