5 comments about Discovering The Mind Of A Woman: The Key To Becoming A Strong And Irresistible Husband Is....

1. I have been married nearly 30 years. Three years ago my wife and I went through a Christian program for relationships and applied biblical principals that have transformed our marriage. This book Discovering the Mind of a Woman says what I have been living for the past three years. The bottom line is that God's principals work and this book explains these principals in a concise and biblical way. By letting go of my ego, and pride and getting rid of any sin in my life that God shows me I can die to my carnal nature and put on Christ every day -actually on a moment by moment basis. For me it was like having blinders taken off my eyes. By resolving bitterness and being Christlike by agape loving my wife like Christ loves the church I am experiencing a transformation in my relationships with God, my wife and our children. This is a must read for every man that is looking for a closer walk with God and strengthened relationships of all kinds.



2. This book is a must if you are married or looking to get married. THe truth of this book will open your eyes to what kind of a man and husband God wants us to be. THe truth will slap you in the face at times and release some of the bad habits we have grown up with thinking that they are just the way we are. Very enlightning and redeeming.
   Doug McGrail



3. This a life changing book, it gives amazing insight into the mind of a woman. If you want to save or simply just improve your marriage, this book will help. God will truely bless your efforts as you open up your heart to what God reveals through Ken Nair. Only real men need apply, as it takes the greatest courage to confront yourself.



4. I found this book review online today that sums up my feelings about this book. It has been the major contributor to a family member's marriage breaking up. The wife has been unwilling to acknowledge responsibility for her own well-being and feels that blaming her husband for her unhappiness is truly biblical based on this man's teachings (who, by the way, has no training in either theology or psychology but purports to be an "expert"). I have read this book so know that Nair has some good things to say, but the bottom line of his message is extremely hurtful to a couple where either one has any basic psychological problems and won't acknowledge that these problems might exist.
   
   Discovering the Mind of a Woman
   by Ken Nair
   This is one of those marriage books which scores points on the big issues and loses them in the details. Nair's central thesis is right on the money: "Christlikeness is God's first priority for every man" (p. 6). He then takes this thesis and attempts to work it out in the dynamics of marriage. Again Nair's broad strokes are good, since a Christlike man will make every attempt to understand his wife (1 Peter 3:7) and lead her spiritually (Ephesians 5:25-27). The Christlike husband will put his wife's needs before his own and love her as Christ loves the church. All of this is excellent--and if this is all Nair said then we could highly recommend Discovering the Mind of a Woman. However, he says much more.
   
   First, Nair is very careless in his use of Scripture, often ripping verses out of context or simply creating strange interpretations (pp. 37-39, 71, 89, 112, 118, 196, 217, 220, 238). He often speaks of dying to self (pp. 14,17), a concept not taught in Scripture (he is confusing this with denying self which is something very different). The author is far too stereotypical throughout--seemingly basing most of his views on men (and women) by his own experience. He dabbles in psychobabble (pp. 148, 174) and has a faulty view of God's leading (e.g. p. 5). This latter issue leads to the main flaws in the book. Nair believes:
   
   1. That God speaks through the wife to her husband (pp. 45, 49, 64, 79, 166, 176, 213, 232).
   
   2. If the Holy Spirit is in control of the man's life he will be able to read his wife's thoughts (pp. 113, 119).
   
   3. The husband controls his wife's emotions and behavior. She has no choice, Nair claims, but to respond to the husband's behavior. If he behaves sinfully then she will respond in kind--she can't help herself (pp. 79, 84, 89, 132, 138-139, 155, 176, 241). Even weight gain is the husband's fault (pp. 97-98).
   
   In addition, Nair projects a truly unfortunate and distorted understanding of the sexual relationship in marriage (chapter 13).
   
   Bottom line, men, by all means live Christlike. But that can be learned through Scripture and much better resources than this book. Nair presents far too many unbiblical teachings in Discovering the Mind of a Woman to be of any real profit and the distortions he presents are downright dangerous.
   reviewed by Gary E. Gilley, Pastor-Teacher, Southern View Chapel, Springfield, Illinois



5. Ken Nair gives it to men straight. Men who care about their commitment to Christ and their families will take his work to heart and to practice, transforming themselves, their families and communities. I have seen my father and my husband apply these principles and I am endeared to them for it. However, I don't find every man jumping up to read and apply it. Buyer beware... it's only for real men!

5 comments about Discipline: The Brazelton Way.

1. The advice in this book sounds very nice and gentle and compassionate but the problem is that it works only on children who are obedient and fairly submissive by nature. Lots of kids figure out the game after a while. What if your child refuses to stay in "time out"? What happens when you have taken away all the privileges? (and little kids just don't have that many). What about older kids who just laugh at this kind of approach?You'd better go buy another book because Dr. Brazelton doesn't address real discipline problems.



2. This is the most useful book on parenting I've ever read. It is clear, straightforward, practical, and respectful of children and parents. Thank you.



3. Discipline teaches our children right from wrong and to care about doing right, to think of others before themselves. Too bad we can't raise the current generation of adults all over again. Hopefully today's parents, with the help of this book, will do better.



4. I read the book as soon as I got it home. We were having discipline problems with out almost 4 year old and with a new sibling in the mix we didn't want to make drastic changes again in his life. I often read the book when I'm frustrated by my childrens actions and it helps me to understand their way of thinking and how to make the correct discipline choices to fit the exact situation. Thanks Berry Brazelton!



5. I really liked this approach to discipline in theory, but it just dosen't cut it in the real world. I have a very headstrong toddler and he walked all over me with these approaches. I really like Is it a Big Problem or a Little Problem?, which I am currently reading. It has many more real-life solutions than the Discipline book did.

5 comments about The Excellent Wife: A Biblical Perspective - Study Guide.

1. I'm personally involved in a Bible study that revolves around this book. I am closer than ever to my husband. I feel that God has used this author to reach out to women to clarify HIS plan of marriage, unity, and Holy Submission.
   
   Submission to my husband does NOT mean I'm a weak, spineless jelly fish who has no input into my life.
   
   Submission is recogizing my husband's authority and keeping our marriage together with team players!
   
   I would HIGHLY recommend this to ANY wife whether a newlywed or a golden oldie!!
   
   When this book is PROPERLY used, and kept in it's intended context, the woman doing this Bible study has only to benefit from its words.



2. A perfect in-depth review of the book to help burn God's plan for wives on our hearts.



3. This is a very good book with great principles. Some of the content is a bit far fetched at times, but overall, it really gets to the "heart issue" of being a wife in the sight of God. I would recommend it as a group study with other women though. Great book!



4. Looked through the Bible Study since I didn't order the book with it (it is on its way). Looks like it is going to be great bible study.



5. This guide will definitely help you in your relationship with your husband, and God. It challenges you to
   delve intp the depths of your re;ationship and view it through God's eye. I have found it to be most revealing within myself and challenging my spiritual growth.

5 comments about On Chesil Beach: A Novel.

1. While very well written, this book was a total snooze. It took McEwan a very long time to get to the point, but then the story was rushed at the end.
   
   Not recommended unless you have read this author before and enjoyed his work.



2. Ian McEwan is the only contemporary fiction writer today with the talent and the craft to transform what in lesser hands might pass for a rather slight novella into a tremulous, gorgeously detailed work of art. "On Chesil Beach" may be less ambitious in its scope than McEwan's earlier masterpieces such as "Atonement" but it is no less satisfying for the effect it strives to achieve. McEwan isn't a writer who grows on you. His writing strictly eschews sentiment, so the reader expecting to be moved should look elsewhere. His words - razor sharp, cold and brutal - either hit you like an ice pick on the forehead or leave you with an unpleasant aftertaste.
   
   It is also his favorite thing to use copious amounts of page space to display in slow motion every flicker of thought or emotion running through the minds of his characters. In "Saturday", the opening night scene of the protagonist observing the descent of an airplane from his bedroom takes up more pages than one would imagine. We get plenty of that kind of thing here.
   
   Ironically perhaps, the thwarted lives of Edward and Florence must seem the saddest story ever told. Born into an age when sex expects to follow love in marriage like hand in glove, the quiet desperation consuming the couple as they head for the bridal chambers on their wedding night, each not knowing what to do, yet willing himself/herself to do the right thing by the other, becomes the subject of this deceptively slight novella. McEwan is in his usual commanding form, wielding his arsenal of killer sharp precision words to devastating effect to achieve just the right nuances. He reveals a comic side in an unexpected scene when Edward deliberately conjures up Joseph Stalin's face in his mind's eye to avoid his first calamity. An unbelievable sleight of hand ! As the narrative lurches fatefully towards its inevitable conclusion, McEwan uses flashback to plug the gap in the couple's back story for us to make sense of their present dilemma.
   
   The wasted lives of Edward and Florence seem a needless cruelty today. McEwan, writing at the top of his game, succeeds in evoking pathos and sadness without the usual mawkishness that accompanies such sentiment. A brilliant book. Most definitely, my choice for the Booker last year !



3. As always McEwan writes very well but as often his material is uninteresting and even dated. The only saving grace of the book (which is more like a novella), and the only reason I even finished it, is that you can read it in under two hours. McEwan seems to have fallen prey to the unfortunate fate of many famous authors (and rock stars); he is too isolated from the realities of daily life that he is lacking in good ideas on which to use his outstanding talents.



4. McEwan's books are like an Irish Ballad: beautiful, haunting, forlorn and difficult to forget, Chesil Beach is no exception. It is difficult not to finish the novel swiftly after reading the first sentence: "They were young, educated, and both virgins on this their wedding night, and they lived in a time when a conversation about sexual difficulties was plainly impossible." The novel continues with another of McEwan's trademarkes, weaving together unspeakable sexual intimacies with everyday happenings followed by the private thoughts of his characters. If one was disappointed at Atonement's ending I would suggest not reading Chesil Beach. But becoming well acquainted with McEwan's characters and seeing how their tragedy is a product of their time period is a process that will only broaden one's understanding of humanity.
   
   One marvels at McEwan's command of the English language. It is good to see that in this age of haste there is an author who can remind one of life's subtleties; like the nervous tendency to brush aside a hair that isn't there. Somehow, McEwan manages to put into words those tiny moments that we all experience yet never consciously consider, and make them relevant, even central to the novel's theme. For this, McEwan's acuteness to words, I give his novella five stars. It is from these intricacies that the story is built and McEwan's moral of hindsight and failure hopefully help the reader appreciate all the imperfections in their own life.



5. On Chesil Beach is another short novel by the fine English novelist Ian McEwan. As he has done so often before the novelist has the ability to focus on the defnining moment in a relationship. He does this with lush prose used to tell this poignant tale of lost love, impatience and lost opportunities. This feeling of "what might have been if only..." resonates with this critic and the hoardes of eager McEwan fans who enjoy intellectually sharp tales well told by a master of the craft.
   Edward is 23 and his longtime fiance Florence is 22. The two are honeymooning at a hotel near Dorset in the English West Country. Both of these bright young people are sexually inexperienced virgins. Edward comes from the home of a dysfunctional familiy. His father is an underpaid schoolmaster; his mother has mental problems; his siblings bore him. Edward gets a first in History and meets Florence in Oxford. He is smitten with her big boned beauty and interest in preventing nuclear warfare. The two decorously begin a prim and proper romantic relationship. Some kissing and fondling occur but no sexual intercourse.
   Florence is an outstanding musician who graduates from the Royal Academy of Music. Her string quartet is on the way up the musical ladder. She is very prim and straight-laced. She fears intimacy with a man even though she loves him very much. Florence comes from a wealthy family but Edward has no trouble ingratiating himself with her well heeled flock.
   On Chesil Beach occurs on their first night together as husband and wife. They suffer through a routine meal knowing their initiation in sex awaits in the marital bed. A terrible incident occurs when Florence provokes Edward into an early orgasm. This situation leads to their ultimate estrangement. Years later Edward will look back and realize if he had only been more patient with Florence their lives would have been happier. Edward knows that he has never loved anyone as much as Florence but it is too late to revive his relationship with her. Like all of us we all have regrets as we grow older.
   The novel is filled with flashbacks to the pasts of Edward and Florence helping the reader to understand what motivates these two characters We also return to the more formal era of the early 1960s which McEwan introduces through the means of hotel guests commenting on the news on the hotel's televison. This era of propriety now seems so distant in our anything goes amoral society.
   McEwan has a few brief sex scenes but they are tastefully and sensitively presented. He has a keen eye for the beauties of nature and also is keen in his love for and appreciation for classical music.
   This novel is short but one which will stick in your mind for years to come. Edward and Florence are two of McEwan's best characters. Romeo and Juliet were not the last star-crossed lovers in fiction as this smart novel shows us so well!

5 comments about Grandmother Remembers a Written Heirloom for My Grandchild.

1. I love this book. I've filled out four for my grandchildren and intend to buy more for the other grandchildren.



2. For anyone who enjoys sharing your life experiences and leaving a legacy for future generations, this item is for you! As you complete the pages, plan to spend some time down "memory lane"!



3. This book provides many topics on which a Grandmother can write: family tree, anecdotes about the grandchild's parents, tales of the grandmother's growing up, family traditions, what Grandfather would want the child to know and much more. The illustrations are sweet and probably best for a Grand daughter. There are spaces for photographs, and "fill-in-the-blanks" so the writer is not at a loss for what to write. I look forward to writing in the book and will do so gradually as my Granddaughter grows up



4. This is a great book for grandmother's to write about themselves for their grandchildren. Includes lots of places for pictures that adds interest to the narative.
   I have given this book to all my grandchildren and now buy it as gifts, especially for first time grandmothers!



5. This book is truly beautiful. It is manageable to complete and the prompts lead to the stories of real life. It is very upbeat. My mother completed the book some time ago. Sadly she passed away last month at the age of 91 years. She had 2 children, 6 grandchildren, most of whom are grown, and 5 great grandchildren. While my family has always enjoyed the book, we are especially grateful to have it now. We have asked a national photo print shop to make bound copies for all the grands but there is some concern about copyright. We have attempted to contact the publisher and are awaiting permission. We are keeping our fingers crossed.

5 comments about Joint Custody with a Jerk: Raising a with an Uncooperative Ex, A Hands on, practical guide to coping with custody issues that arise with an uncooperative ex-spouse.

1. Each piece of advice worked the first time. I think it was because I was breaking the old patterns when I responded and she was caught off guard. By the next time we communicated she had a new way to shut me down. I stuck to the plan for a month, then gave it up. I would have needed to go to counseling after every confrontation. She has the ability to mutate faster than a super virus. I was amused but not helped by Joint Custody With a Jerk.



2. Once I saw this book at my x-wife's apartment it became clear she was working a new program. I bought and read it and understood what she was trying to accomplish. What I found amusing was that, I always felt she was the jerk. It would have been easier on both of us if she had just been straight with me. This book would be valid if both parents had a copy. So it should only be sold in sets so both parents are headed in the same direction. Aggravating information on lying, blocking and refusing to be flexible should be removed from the text. A professional mediator could correct the problems with this book and make it really helpful. For now, it does not rate much consideration. Not recommended.



3. This book will help you learn to deal effectively with difficult spouses or any other antagonistic people in your life.
   
   If you are going through a divorce, I highly recomend this book



4. They attempted to put a positive spin on the book by being cute. It did not work. It starts in the right direction but sometimes becomes more game playing. Take the good parts and ignore the rest.



5. This book is terrible. They bend so far over backwards not to insult men that they insult women. It tells you basically, yes he is a jerk but YOU must bend over backwards to accomodate his jerkiness. It adds to the current family court system that says that you can do whatever you want and the person pooped on must be the one to give in to the selfish one, the one who is morally wrong. That is right. We live in the west. Morals are relative.
   
   Don't buy this book unless you want more frustration.

5 comments about The Lolita Effect: The Media Sexualization of Young Girls and What We Can Do About It.

1. I see there are a number of other positive reviews up already, but I wanted to add my two cents. Durham's argument is powerful and extremely accessible. I admit that I had never taken notice of a lot of the extremely harmful and negative trends in modern media that Durham points out, and I had certainly never drawn a connection between the exploitation of women in pop culture and some of its truly insidious effects (from teaching girls to undervalue themselves to inadvertently making themselves vulnerable to sex crimes and exploitation). Since I finished reading the book, I have started looking at the world in a slightly different way.
   
   For me, the most helpful component was the conversation strategies at the end of each chapter. It seems like negotiating these conversations with your children would be difficult, but Durham provides real and usable dialogue starters and ideas for prompts. The book is a real tool as well as a major piece of news.



2. To those who may find the cover art hypocritical.
   
   Might it be the cover is to grab the attention of someone who might not otherwise read the book? And NEEDS to read the book? Yes, maybe it sell more books, but to reach those who need the message, you need to reach the basic instinct first. They see the cover of the book, pick it up, read a bit of it... and maybe, you can get someone who hadn't thought about this before, to start thinking about it. Even if the book gets put back on the shelf, the idea has now entered that someone's conciousness. Let's face it, a book with NO face on it is not going to grab the attention of those who truly need thier eyes opened to the issue.



3. This book is repetative and condradicting in and of it self. The stats given are from all over the world, and very few from the US.



4. I really had the intent of buying this until I read a good amount of it in the local bookstore. Sounds like it would be a interesting read. But right off the bat I had trouble w/ the book and the author.
   It bugs me that the author is against "Sexualization" of young girls and then sells a book w/ a very young attractive blond girl on the cover w/ her head tilted slightly back and mouth open in a moaning fashion. It seems she's against Sexualizing young girls EXCEPT for when it for her.
   Another issue I have w/ her message has to do w/ the same reason why Sensitivity Training in big companies fail. They fail because they call too much attention to the behaviors. Now a black person or a little person or whoever sitting in a meeting knows that everyone around them IS actually thinking about all those things their not supposted to say. Same thing here. The author goes around to schools and teaches these things to kids. Now I'm not saying kids shouldn't be taught to watch out for B.S. in the world. But at a couple point in the book I got the feel that she was actually trying to make kids see everything her way. Kids who saw innocent things as Innocent thing were now being taught that they are sexual in nature. I don't know if I'm making that as clear as I wanted -- but hopefully you get the point.
   Anyway, IMO save your money. Let your kids be kids. Spend time w/ them. Love them when they're younger so they'll be better when they're older. Teach them to question the world and watch out for B.S. And leave this feminist book alone. I'm tired of these books that come out and try to say that men in socialty have more power then women. Read up on human evolution and natural history and you'll see just how wrong that really is.
   UPDATE
   I picked this book up again to give it another chance. NOW I don't even want to give it one star.
   She has some wild idea in her head that us (Men) are taught what to find attractive. On the back of the book and in sections inside the book she almost says "boys are taught that only attractive is sexy" Now those aren't her exact words. But trust me I'm really not far off!
   Not just men but people all over the world in every culture are attracted to HEALTH People. There's a reason most people aren't attracted to mates that are too old or fat or unhealthy! If we choose mates that are unhealth then the human raise would have died out a long time ago! Doesn't anyone else get that? We (men and women) do not have to taught what is attractive. Attraction isn't a choice! Never has been! Never will. We don't look at a girl and say
   "Hmmmm She's blonde. Has good skin. Of mating age. Has a great body. Mmmmm YES! I'm going to be attracted to that!"
   But the auther doesn't seem to think we have instincts. I'll tell you what, let's take a young boy and hide him from all women and images of women till he's a teen. Then show him a picture of Roseanne Bar and a picture of Paris Hilton. Then ask him which is more attractive. And I promise you after he's done killing you for locking him up, he'd run away w/ the picture of Paric Hilton! I'll bet a million dollars on that! Because she is more naturally then Roseanne.
   Then the author throws in a chapter on Violence and sex! Horror movies and such. What does this have to do w/ a Lolita Effect? Sex and violence are different things. She's trying to make the same old stupid go-nowhere point that images of violence will lead to rape. How stupid is that? There is NOTHING in all of science to support such ideas or claims.
   The author also twist the movies around to try and make her point. Maybe she was hoping that no one who saw those movies would read her book. OR (and I'm really scared of this one) she really believe what she says and thinks everything always lead to sex. IMO if that is true she need to talk to some one.
   It really felt like she was trying to make the point that in Rob Zombie's remake of Halloween that young Michael Meyers kills his family cause his mom is a stripper. Is she out of her mind or just twisting the facts?
   There are even parts in the book where she's talking to young kids. Then a boy will make a point against what she just said. Rather then say to the kid "hey, you're smart! You're right, not everything you see on TV is bad" she just trys to brush it off as "WEll these kids don't get it".
   
   I dislike this book more and more, everytime I read through it. Don't buy it!



5. Is this book a bad joke? Is Durham really blaming Victoria's Secret, Barbie dolls, Peek-a-Boo Pole Dancing Kits, and media images supposedly inciting girls to act out "Lolita" fantasies for global teenage pregnancy, sexually transmitted disease, HIV, child prostitution, sex tourism, sex slavery, deaths from pregnancy and childbirth, intertribal rape in Africa, and Islamic honor killings? Can she be serious?
   
   Durham's illogic is scary. And so is her gross misinformation. First, contrary to Durham's claim that media images are causing increased "teenage pregnancy," teen pregnancy rates actually are plummeting worldwide, especially for the youngest ages. In the U.S., the most recent National Center for Health Statistics reports show pregnancy rates for girls under age 15 have fallen to their lowest level ever recorded, as are birth rates among all teenagers. There was a slight increase in births among older teens in 2006 after 15 straight years of decline, hardly evidencing a "Lolita effect" and still leaving the teen birth rate near the lowest levels measured in 80 years of records. United Nations tabulations show similarly falling teen birth trends in most other countries.
   
   Second, FBI and National Crime Victimization reports likewise show rape, sexual violence, and violent crime against both younger and older teenage girls are at their lowest levels since tabulations began 35 years ago. The best information indicates girls today are safer and less likely to get pregnant than any past generation we can reliably assess. I realize the news media and interest groups constantly try to profit by scaring us into thinking sex and violence are rising, but we should expect PhDs like Durham to do original research and provide accurate information.
   
   Third, Durham wildly exaggerates surveys of teenage sexual activity, comparisons with the original reports she cites show. A lot of the scary numbers and trends in "The Lolita Effect" seem to be copied secondhand from unreliable sources or simply made up by someone.
   
   I understand that Durham and others are deeply offended, often rightly, at many aspects of popular culture. But that doesn't justify her wholesale butchery of facts to manufacture the misimpression that girls today are more dangerous and endangered and to downplay serious threats that do exist.
   
   The most offensive aspect of this book is Durham's suggestion that sexual violence, rape in African tribal wars, murders of girls by Islamic fundamentalists, maternal and infant mortality, and impoverished and abandoned children forced into prostitution are rooted in young girls acting out Lolita fantasies. Despite feminist pretenses, Durham resurrects primitive 19th century notions that girls are weak, self-destructive ninnies corrupted by the sinful culture they seek and in need of more restriction and supervision. But isn't it really the men who rape and exploit girls who should be held responsible? Why isn't this book titled, "The Humbert Effect"?
   
   The reader has to wade 200 pages into this book before Durham mentions (briefly) some real causes of girls' victimization: domestic violence, epidemic poverty, repressive anti-female customs, brutal tribalism, and war. Durham also admits (briefly) that sexual exploitation and violence against girls was worse in the past, long before MTV, MySpace, and pushup bras. But "The Lolita Effect" is a conventional, puritan book that spends pages berating the sins of fictional media without bothering to show they have anything to do with real-life dangers. Durham rhetorically affirms girls' right to sexuality but then righteously disapproves of even their mildest sexual expressions.
   
   I worked in child abuse prevention and youth programs for years and now analyze the rampant misinformation on young people. Books like this one manufacturing silly, sensational pop-culture panics obscure real, hard-to-confront dangers to girls like poverty and family violence. They also create unwarranted fears of and for girls, who in reality and are handling pop culture and modern life remarkably well and are not as stupid and corrupted as Durham thinks.
   http://www.YouthFacts.org

5 comments about Player's Handbook Volume 2 - Advanced Pickup and Seduction Secrets For Men Who Love Women & Sex (and Want More of Both).

1. This is one of the best books on seduction that i've read. It has good tips you can use right away and not a lot of fluff. Tommy is entertaining in his delivery, so it's a quick read, too.
   
   So you picked her up... Now what?
   
   This book has some good stuff on what to do after you get her home. It's great to have confidence in the bar or club, but a lot of these books fall flat when it comes to maintaining a relationship, even for the night. It's easy to talk to women for 10-20 minutes and get a phone number, but the real skill is how you manage the relationship afterward. And Tommy will tell you how to now only manage a single relationship, but multiple relationships at one time, as well.
   
   Good tip on the audio book. I thought it was great and it gave me an idea of who this guy is who I'm trying to emulate. The print version has a lot more stuff in it though. There is some pretty graphic "bed technique" that he doesn't give in the audio. Why that is, I don't know, but it's definitely here in the print version.
   
   Get this book and you'll be out on the town (and back to your place) by this weekend!!



2. I'm not a big reader, so I got the first one (Player's Handbook Volume 1 - Pickup and Seduction Secrets For Men Who Love Women & Sex (and Want More of Both)) on CD and thought it was great. Couldn't find Vol 2 on CD, so I got the print version.
   
   With that said, I found reading this really enjoyable!!
   
   Pickup and seduction stuff is great, but what I liked best about this one, and have found the most useful, is Tommy's advice on how to give oral sex to a woman. Good stuff I had not seen anywhere else and which had my last date questioning where I had learned it. Now she is like putty in my hands (or mouth). And she keeps coming, errrr RETURNING back for more. ;)
   
   If you guys are into that stuff, and any real man SHOULD be, get this one. You'll use this stuff night after night, I promise.



3. Kept hearing everybody talk about Player's Handbook Volume 1 - Pickup and Seduction Secrets For Men Who Love Women & Sex (and Want More of Both), so I got it and enjoyed it. Finally picked up Volume 2 to go with it.
   
   I really enjoy Tommy's writing style. So many of these dudes take themselves way too seriously. And the fact that Tommy doesn't lets me know he is for real. He doesn't care whether you, or the girls he dates, like him or not. He's not out trying to prove a point. He's like, "This is who I am, I'm not going to force you to get with me or like me-- either we do this or I'll move on to somebody else."
   
   That's a true player. These other dudes spend half their books trying to convince you how cool they are. Nicknames, funky outfits, or the like. Tommy is bare bones stuff. Yes, it's simple, but isn't pickup at its most basic level simple? Why complicate it with a bunch of noise.
   
   I like this book and am looking for more like it. And I can't wait to get more from Tommy Orlando!!



4. This book reawlly takes the basic stuff--seduction, picking up women,, etc.--and boils it down to the nuts and bolts. There's no gimmicks and no corny lines. It's all about how to date the women you desire to date. A must read for any guy wanting into the game. Also suggest: Chicks: A User's Guide to Dating, Love and Sex.



5. A must read for any young man that is looking for the "Cool" edge. Volume 1 and 2 are are great reference to the cool guide for men.

5 comments about Safe Baby Handling Tips.

1. A co-worker brought this book into work one day and we all had a good laugh. I ordered it shortly after reading it. Everybody I have showed it to has laughed hard and really enjoy it. Several people asked where I got it and plan to order their own copies.



2. I gave this gift at a baby shower and it was big hit...everyone passed it around and was laughing at it and wanted to know where I got it.



3. OMG--this book is sooooo funny! My niece recently had a baby, my sister purchased it for her, and I recently visited them & was able to read it. I laughed so hard; I was crying & my ribs hurt!! :)



4. Brilliantly written with a sense of humor that goes beyond the normal chuckle! Purchased both books by the author as a gift for a pregnant friend. Can't wait to hear the erupted laughter from everyone that comes in contact with these books!!



5. your friends will think you are serious until they read this. the "chicken leg" illustration is the best...

4 comments about Sex Begins in the Kit Creating Intimacy to Make Your Marriage Sizzle.

1. 
   I didn't care for this book. I have read much better material than this. I was disappointed. Way too much time on birth order and other things.



2. Kevin Lehman presents us with a challenge. Good book to pick up and read every now and then



3. I love this book! I think every married couple or couple thinking of getting married, should read this book. It really helps you to have realistic expectations. This book is wonderfully informative but also very entertaining and fun to read. Having seen Kevin Leman deliver this message in person, the book is a wonderful reference to go back and read from time to time. BUY IT!



4. I would definatley recommend this book to any prior to getting married or for any couple definatley to have handy.......