4 comments about 101 Sex Positions: Steamy New Positions From Mild to Wild.

1. There are a lot of books on sex positions out there, but this one really captured our attention. My wife and I found ourselves pouring over the book, passing it back and forth in a crowded Borders cafe pointing out to each other our favorite pages. The photography is excellent and very hot...and we found plenty of things we will be trying.



2. This book is informative, but don't expect 101 positions. The book has many variations of the same position, which gives it the 101 positions. I was a little disappointed, as there really wasn't anything I wasn't expecting to see in terms of positions that I wasn't aware of. But all in all, if your in a funk and need a memory jogger this is a good book with good pictures demonstrating the positions without being smutty feeling. The pictures allow you to thoroughly grasp the positions without focusing on the male and female organs that would take away from the real intent of the book.



3. This was a great book. My husband and I had a lot of fun with this. I recommend it to other couples looking to experiment with their sexuality and their love for each other.



4. I bought this book for my boy friend's birthday, he loves it!
   It's full of pictures in good taste.... it gives us great ideas in the bedroom. We also read it together for fun, we eat popcorns while pointing out how flexible people are in the book. ha!

5 comments about How to Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days: A Day-by-Day Guide to Saying Good-bye and Getting On With Your Life.

1. I relied on someone else's review when I decided to purchase this book, and I'm very glad I did. The authors don't sugarcoat the whole breakup experience, but they do offer realistic ideas on how to approach each day and mark progress. They don't demonize the other party, which is helpful, and similarly, they don't idealize what led to the split. I found myself looking forward to reading each day's blurb and contemplating the associated exercises. While I am still very sad about my breakup, I know there are better days ahead, and that having spent the time following the heartache constructively analyzing myself and the circumstances will prove beneficial down the road. If you are in a similar situation of feeling overwhelmed by a recent breakup, I highly recommend this book. And good luck to you.



2. I thought this would be an easy read. Boy, was I wrong. Well, it *was* easy to read because it is very clearly written, and very direct and focused. It took me longer than expected to read because the SUBSTANCE of the book is so compelling. The chapters and exercises really hit home and provoke a lot of contemplation and action. I have already ordered a copy for a friend and highly recommend this book to anyone who has either recently lost a love relationship, or who hasn't really recovered from the hurts of one or more past relationships, recent or not so recent. This book basically says, YOU are in charge. YOU do the work. YOU need to recognize where you are and what you CAN do about it. This book does not permit you to wallow unnecessarily in the stages of grief but instead encourages you to recognize what IS and what ISN'T and to CHOOSE to deal with your situation constructively and actively. Spot-on!



3. I'm a therapist and feminist who knows first-hand the suffering some women voluntarily subject themselves to at the hands of selfish and narcissistic men who have an unhealthy vendetta that they project on kind-hearted women. So when a client of mine brought this book to me, written by two, dare I say it, men, I had my doubts. What do men know about issues of the feminine domain, like the emotional pain of a breakup. The male tendency is to control and subjugate. So with low expectations and admittedly high prejudices, I held my nose and read it. After the third page, I stopped holding my nose and, was mesmerized. I could not believe this was written by men. The sensitivity, effort and imagination is like nothing I've ever experienced in a book. My favorite element of this book was that of 'aha' moments. About half-way through when I was reading about remembrance, I realized that a lot of my own male-bashing issues stemmed from the fact that my father was killed in the Gulf war 17 years ago when I was 13. I was so devastated and broken-hearted, of course but suddenly, I realized I was angry at him as well. A cold chill swept through my body when at 29 years-old, I finally realized that my ultra-feminism/projected anger at men stemmed from the anger at my dad for dying. Seems like a simple case of abandonment..but not to me. I was far too angry at men to see the simple roots of my self-imposed barriers to my own happiness in relationships. I've waited for about a year to mention anything about this book but when I saw a recent very hurtful diatribe against this book, I said to myself. "I made my dad pay for dying in defense of our country and living his ideals. This time I have an opportunity to support a book and the two decent men who wrote it." 'Heart' is an invaluable contribution not just because of the excellent and often instantly liberating content, but because it reveals the best of the loving hearts of men. The dad I never knew, I now know because of these dads.



4. Thank you, thank you, thank you! Not only did I NEED this book, but I purchased one for several of my girl friends also. Highly recommended for heartache recovery...it puts you on good footing, with great ideas for starting deep soul repair.
   
   Thank you once more.



5. This book is full of wonderful suggestions for moving forward and mending a broken heart. It is practical and empowering!

5 comments about The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict.

1. Books with lots of blurbs
   but no sample of the writing
   make me suspicious
   I want to see a chapter or two
   and the Table of Contents



2. This book along with its companion book "Leadership and Self Deception" have altered my life. The concepts discussed, while simple in concept are fundamental in terms of human nature



3. An excellent book for self-improvement, self-analysis, and self-awareness. Helps you to recognize where you make your decisions from and the affect it has on yourself and the people in your life. I'm eagerly looking forward to more books from the Arbinger Institute!



4. I have purchased and given away many copies of this incredible book. I am re-reading it again with my young son and have given a copy to my ex-husband along with a sincere apology for so much of my behavior and attitude towards him since we began to pull apart. The companion book 'Leadership and Self-Deception' is also amazing. Both should be required reading in schools and in every other organization.



5. The 'box' is a wonderful toy to help us view our common ways of getting into and out of negative perspectives. Simple awareness and identification of a way of being allows us the choice to move on.
   
   Thank you Arbinger.

5 comments about It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken: The Smart Girl's Break-Up Buddy.

1. This book is amazing. I bought this book after a six month relationship suddenly ended, and not by me! I was suffering so badly from a broken heart I thought for sure I would die!I had a huge support system but nothing would snap me out of my funk. Amazingly, after reading only half of the book,I felt so much better! Every question, scenario and fantasy you have in your head when you are in mourning is answered in here. It's to the point , comforting , funny and empowering. I highly recommend this book if you are dwelling on a broken relationship and wasting your time on the jerk who left you.



2. I can't tell you how many times I've read this book over and over again. It's a gem, and there is truly nothing like it. Funny, fast-paced and realistic, this will get you through even the most devastating of break ups... and you'll have fun doing it! Very empowering. Simply a must-have. :)



3. This review refers to the audiobook version. This book is narrated by the authors--a smug married couple that sound like a high-energy pair of camp counselors, all grins and thumbs-up, like in that Adams Family movie sequel. With its unrealistic scenarios and failed attempts at humor, It's Called a Breakup Because it's Broken is crammed with cringe-inducing moments. The speed-talking authors blurt out pun after painful pun, never expressing any actual compassion in their voices. You, the listener, are consistently and overenthusiastically referred to as a "superfox!" There is an actual list of things to do instead of calling your ex, which include such gems as: "have coffee with a friend" and "put on your favorite CD and dance around in your room in your underwear..." And if you haven't felt patronized enough by that, the authors' advice to the broken-hearted who are going through a period of heavier-than-usual boozing is: join Alcoholics Anonymous! I'm trying to listen to this to the end, because after all I've paid for it, but 75% of the way through, I can bear no more. In short, It's Called a Breakup Because it's Broken is poorly written, badly narrated, and god-awful corny. This book will only ADD to the pain of your breakup.



4. This is the most amazing book for anyone suffering from a breakup. It addresses every type of situation so that nearly everyone can relate. My roommate gave me this book to read after my boyfriend of a year and a half dumped me. I went from feeling at the lowest in my life to feeling empowered and determined. I can't say enough good things about the book!



5. IT'S CALLED A BREAKUP BECAUE IT'S BROKEN? Good title, eye-catching cover (albeit there's too much 1960's little girl hot pink for my taste), and hyper-girlish fonts throughout the interior of the book. The authors state they've written the book for women in their 20s, but their "hip" tone indicates they're aiming for teens. Their clichés? Enough already! A few can be funny to read, a gazillion can be only annoying filler. And if you're looking for well done humor, this book doesn't have any. Why? It tries too hard.
   
   Yet, I will give the authors credit for their much-repeated advice to stay away from the person who broke up with you. They also state that your former love does not want to hear from you, so don't contact him/her. That's hard to read, but it is the truth. They think you should do whatever it takes to keep yourself from calling, texting, emailing, and so on, and I agree with them. So, if reading their book might keep you from making a fool of yourself, it may be worth buying.

5 comments about The Complete A**hole's Guide to Handling Chicks.

1. This book is luke warm reading at best. The guys who wrote it are probably complete losers. I expected to read the book and be laughing the whole time, usually it put me to sleep. Look for something else to read besides this nonsense.



2. This is a book that will make feminists' faces turn red with anger. It's incredibly NOT politically correct. Very much in the Tucker Max school of humor, which means it's also incredibly funny. Don't take it seriously but if you like your humor rough and ribald, this one's for you. Recommended.



3. This is one of the best books I have ever read. It was something I read in high school over 5 years ago and when I lost it in a move I had to buy more because. Great buy!!!



4. As a female college student I not only loved this book but found exactly what kind of guy to avoid. There were so many pages of this book that are simply laugh out loud funny. It makes a great gift for that guy in your life you just can't figure out a gift for. I would recommend this for practically everybody. Feminists might find this offensive, but other than that...its simply a must read!



5. It's a certain philosophy, but not for most guys. If you want actual tips and techniques, read Secrets of the A Game by Logan Edwards.

5 comments about What to Expect the First Year.

1. While the American Academy of Pediatrics book is good, this one is more user friendly. It's divided by age, you can skim what you need without having to read the whole thing in one go.



2. I expected to find everything in here, How much milk I should pump to feed my baby, how many times does a 3-months-old has to eat, for how long?? But I couldn't find those answers... I don't know if the book is too big to read and when you have a baby you have too little time... or the writes expect you to read it while you are pregnant.
   Although it has some useful information, not sure if I will recommended to a friend.. I think all the information you want to know is in the Internet.



3. I have given this book as a baby shower present a number of times, and it always appears to be greatly appreciated. You can only use so many onesies, and this is a gift that will keep giving and giving.
   
   It is in encyclopedia format, thus it serves as a good quickie guide. Most new mothers won't have the time to read a book page by page, and with this layout they will not need to.
   
   This is a very practical, outside-the-box gift. Highly recommended.



4. This book was essential to helping me get through the first year. It has so many tips and supports available. I had it at my fingertips many days!



5. I dislike this whole series of books. The author spends too much time making her beliefs sound like facts in some areas (like against co-sleeping and for "crying it out") and then pandering to both sides (like bottle feeders and breastfeeders) in other areas in an obvious attempt to sacrifice the best baby advice for coddling to readers who may not have gone the path that's best for baby and don't want to feel bad about it. The advice is more along the lines of my mother's generation than the current practices and research that is so much more baby-friendly. I like Dr. Sears' "The Baby Book" much better.

5 comments about Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends, 3rd Edition (Rebuilding Books; For Divorce and Beyond).

1. When I was going through my divorce, I was devastated. My psychologist, Maria, recommended this book. It was so helpful to me, that every time I have a friend or colleague who goes through an emotionally wrenching breakup, I buy them a copy. This is what everyone needs to know to get back on track and get on with their lives.



2. It's been about a year since I read this book but it came at a time when I really needed it.
   
   Close to two years ago my husband left. We had been together for 12 years and had just had a baby. I was devastated. I was crushed. I was lost. I ordered this book based on the reviews and started it when it first arrived, however, I didn't get very far. It was too difficult to face that things were really over between us. At the time, I wasn't ready to begin "moving-on."
   
   A few months after my split I met a wonderful guy. I was VERY concerned that I was rebounding or that I wasn't "ready" for a new serious relationship and that's when I pulled out this book and read it from cover to cover. Because of some counseling I had, I had already worked thru a lot of the building blocks discussed in this book but the book really helped me thru the rest of them. It helped me to see some really negative things about my previous relationship that I hadn't been ready to face. It also helped me to become a "whole" person without a romantic relationship.
   
   Overall I really liked this book and thought the ideas expressed were very helpful to someone going thru a divorce. The only caution I can offer to future readers is that the book probably won't help you unless you are truly willing to face the facts and move on. If you are looking for a book that will console and comiserate with you - this is not your book. If you are looking for a book that will truly help you work on yourself and help you *deal* with your divorce then you should find this book extremely helpful. Again, you need to be "ready" before you will gain anything from this book.



3. This book was recommended by a professional I'm seeing for grief counseling following my divorce. It has reiterated many of the ideas we've discussed in my counseling sessions and has amazed me that at times it seems the author was "reading my mind". I highly recommend it for anyone whose love relationship has ended. It's easy to read; each chapter is unique but tied to the others, and seems to cover all the emotions.



4. Decent book. It was recommended to me by my shrink. A little too much feelings drivel for my taste, but a good reference for organization and perspective when dealing with such life events.



5. Ordered for a friend who doesn't do computers. I know nothing of the book but she does.

5 comments about Taking Charge of ADHD: The Complete, Authoritative Guide for Parents (Revised Edition).

1. There are a lot of books from so-called experts.
   
   The reality is that the best book out there is Barkley's ADHD and The Nature of Self-Control.
   
   However, that book is meant for professionals.
   
   This book is the parent version of the book.
   
   It is meant to deliver the best facts, pure and simple.
   
   I say that as someone with ADHD for all my life and an educational psychologist for almost a decade.



2. I'm a year into the search for help for my 8 year old son with AD/HD. Reading this book at first was a drag....I have been on the internet and learned a lot about the whys and the hows. However, what was very helpful were the parts about how to handle social situations and others reactions to the situation. It's hard to explain over and over why your kid is on drugs to your friends when they don't "see" the problem. At least this book gave me some vindication that I am in fact doing the right thing. I guess you could say it's a good security blanket.



3. As a parent of a child who is seriously affected by ADHD, I find this book an excellent resource. My child's disability goes way beyond simple attention difficulties, and Barkley addresses this when he describes ADHD as a developmental disorder of self-control. When your child is affected to the very core by ADHD, medications do become a very plausible choice to help him have some quality of life. My son has many strengths, and we have chosen to use every available resource to bring those strengths to the forefront. I think Barkley's book is a solid, fact-based resource. My hope is that someday we learn enough about the brain to understand ADHD even better.



4. Finally, a book that doesn't talk down to parents, but lays all the facts, research and myth busting information on the line. "Taking Charge of ADHD" helps parents get a solid understanding of ADHD before jumping into the strategies for success, something most other books skip. With a better understanding, parents are better able to approach their child with an individual plan for success. The behavior changing strategies work and the information on medication is research based and solid. The book does not, however, discuss ADHD with primarily inattentiveness in much detail, other than providing a description of it. But for hyperactivity issues this book is a comprehensive and successful resource for parents.
   
   Review by Patricia Dischler, Author, "From Babysitter to Business Owner: Getting The Most Out of Your Home Child Care Business" and "Because I Loved You: A Birthmother's View of Open Adoption." [...]



5. This has been very helpful and insightful. I recommend to anyone dealing with a child with ADHD.

5 comments about Having an Affair?: A Handbook for the "Other Woman".

1. Regardless if whether you are thinking about doing it, in the middle of doing it or have ended one... you need to read this book. Ms Symonds uses wit, humor, common sense and an extremely tender heart to counsel those of us who have been through the roller coaster of being the other woman. She uses a no judgement approach to illustrate the pros and cons of this type of relationship. For anyone who is going through this - you'll feel better after reading this book!!



2. I would recommend this book to not only the intended audience (the other women/mistresses) but to married men (MM). They should get a clear picture of the treachery and manipulations that "other women" will stoop to, the same women who say they are happy with the few crumbs they receive from their MM, but in truth want what almost every woman wants- a committed relationship, where her needs and his needs are met exclusively.
   
   I also think that every wife should read this book, so that they can apply some of the tips and tricks for mistresses in this book to their own marriage in order to keep things exciting. Some helpful mistress tips that could easily become marital tips are- Always look your best, when you call him always ask "can you talk", don't just start "yabbering," greet him at the door in sexy outfits. All good ideas for a better marriage, right?
   
   I thought Sarah was harsh in her description of wives in general; generalizing that all wives are indifferent, uncaring, money hungry people (was the author projecting?) and her description of being married (she has never been) which seemed akin to living in a dungeon in some mid-evil castle.
   
   What I did like was a glimpse into a world that shows you how many-a-mistress thinks. How they justify their actions and absolve themselves from any blame or guilt associated with the affair.
   
   Finally, a spreadsheet of deceit that lists Sarah's perceived pros and cons of having sexual relations with a married man, a few top pros? "Feeling completely relaxed in your ancient ugly pajamas (which you never let you MM see)." "Not having to have sex if you don't feel like it." Is that really true? I suppose a mistress will just tell her MM - I have a headache? So book contradictions aside - get this book and read it, hopefully it will save you pain, but regardless it will teach you a lot about people!



3. The author did make many good points about a woman's involvement with married men. However, it is clear she is under the impression women only use men for money and gifts. Not all women involved with a married man expect to be spoiled with gifts. If I wanted to have sex for money, I would simply be a prostitute, which is more or less what the other women this book would really relate to are! Some "other women" or having affairs because they are using the man for sex, or simply enjoy his company and do not expect to be financially compensated for sharing themselves with their "MM."



4. What about 2 individuals, both married risking the same thing? Both with children, both with spouses they love but in need of something more. 2 people who want to feel alive again and who have spouses who no longer want intimacy. This book is mainly for single woman and married men.



5. I loved this book. I really learned alot. I finally realized what really goes on when their is an affair going on. All women should read this book even if they never had an affair. Great Book!

5 comments about Don't Make Me Count to Three: a Mom's Look at Heart-Oriented Discipline.

1. This book is the best parenting book I've read...it combines the reality of imperfect mothers with the awesome responsibility and priviledge we have to raise our children so that they love and honor God.
   
   Yes, it's directed at Christians, and it hits right where it should: sound biblical direction and applications for everyday problems.
   
   More than anything, it encouraged me to study the wisdom of the bible for myself, so that I can model and pass that on to my son and future children.
   
   This will be my parenting philosophy from now on, and this book will be my handbook, second only to the bible!



2. This book has been an answered prayer. The concepts are clear but a lot of work. My kids are worth the investment and I am encouraged by the results so far.



3. This book has helped me a lot to deal with my child. Contrary to what some will say, the author does not recommend spanking for everything. There are times when it is necessary. A great book for everybody, Christians and non-Christians!



4. This book was a life saver for me. I have three young children and I times feel lost on not just how to discipline them, but how to train their little hearts in the way of the Lord. This book has many wonderful scripture references to give all of us moms confidence. That this wonderful call of motherhood is a great job indeed & we can do it, the way God has entrusted us to.



5. Plowman does an excellent job of explaining how to use scripture to teach and guide your children. She gives everyday examples that make it very clear and practical. I have found that speaking scripture to my children is a very liberating way of disciplining them. God has already given me wonderful truths to speak to them and plant in their hearts. Since I don't have to come up with my own words "in the heat of the moment," I find myself more calm and patient as I teach them.
   
   At the same time, this book has actually reinforced my belief that I should not spank my kids. Plowman discusses "biblical" spanking (as chastisement, when God's will has been violated) and when it is inappropriate (your will has been violated and you're angry). Honestly, I am unable to spank without feeling angry -- that action just does not match a calm and restrained demeanor. And I don't think it's a lack of faith on my part. I am not a biblical literalist and I believe there are other ways to apply "the rod" of discipline than actually hitting my children.
   
   I agree with Plowman that my job is to point my children to Christ by helping them see their sin and discovering God's mercy. I agree that I fail my kids if I tell them what not to do without giving them the truth about what God wants them to do. My children have responded to this and are more loving and obedient -- without spanking.