5 comments about Daily Sex: 365 Positions and Activities for a Year of Great Sex!.

1. the positions n this book are very basic. this book is entertaining if you're really bored or if you are new to love-making. otherwise, it's corny and i read it to laugh.



2. We found some of the position a litle boring, but several made it worth purchasing the book. The positions are drawn and not photos, which is something we were wanting. Worth adding to your library.



3. This book is fun for spicing up the relationship. We really enjoy reading the descriptions which are sometimes comical. A variety of ideas but positions repeat with just slight variations. On the other hand, anything that brings more sex into your life can't be that bad.



4. This book gave me a lot for my money. 400 pages is a good-sized manual, and 365 positions--more than enough for the average couple. I liked it because it wasn't all about intercourse. There are other fun things to do in bed besides that. If you want to find out everything you need to know about one of them, try reading The Sensuous Couple's (Flip Over) Guide to Seismic Oral Sex! Another hefty book that really delivers on the information. It's a flip over book, which means that one side is all about fellatio, then flip it over and the other side is all about cunnilingus. I loved the two-books-in-one concept. Buy these two books together and you and your partner will be spending 24 hours a day in bed!



5. The book seems like it was slapped together. Repetitive (a lot of positions simply have their names changed) and poorly illustrated.

5 comments about The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know.

1. Well written information, its subject matter is helping me work through some needed understandings. The book is very inter generational and inter-racial in concept. The book is very male but opens doors for men of western culture who have thinking minds but have been taught to hold these thoughts and never express them. It is well worth the time and effort to understand "why we do what do and the way that can help improve those efforts."



2. This book and the techniques it describes is dangerous. I know people who have actually hurt themselves ***physically*** and ***psychologically*** by doing Mantak Chia's techniques. Be very very careful.



3. I gave this to my husband, reaching middle age has its issues, high blood pressure, menopause, teenagers, and his father's deaths. My husband who never reads at home, read this book. It is a quick, an easy read, he did put it out of site from our 13 year old son.
   
   My husband was already familar chi since it is related to martial arts. The breathing he knew also, but other parts of the books held different concepts of interest.
   
   I left to visit my family for at the beach for a couple of weeks, since he was facing very stressful weeks at work and dealing with estate issues. I did not think he would look at this book. To my delight and enjoyment upon coming home he had. Our lives have changed.
   
   A man having multiple orgasms changes the whole sexual encounter for both parties. It is just amazing. I could not be happier we have opened this door, it is the best gift I have ever given my husband. Menopause is a forgotten, that I am aging is forgotten for I feel sixteen again.
   
   The issues of middle age are less of an issue and our enjoyment in each other has increased in everything we do together. We have reconnected on every level, have private jokes, our teenager feels leftout, which is now it should be.
   
   I have a lover and my best friend!
   
   The book is well written & a quick an easy read.



4. This book has allot of good information arranged in a logical progression and in easy to understand language.
   
   I highly recommend this book for someone that wants to know about "dry orgasms" and multi-orgasms for males!
   
   Hlaser99



5. An excellent, no-nonsense book that has enhanced the life of at least one 83 year old man I know.

5 comments about Squirms, Screams and Squirts: Going from Great Sex to Extraordinary Sex.

1. While there are things I would like to see expanded in this book and a poor choice of Wikipedia for some of the information, it is a good book that looks at sex as something far more than penis-vagina intercourse. The focus of this book is on making sexual intimacy primarily about female pleasure with the idea that penetration then may follow and indeed sexual encounters increase when the woman is very well pleased with her partner (male or female). The language of the book is more appealing for men I strongly suspect but then men are the target audience. As long as the reader does not see the book as a step by step list of activities he must do and considers the questions and underlining goals, he'll get good use of the book. Sadly as a scholar the use of Wikipedia instead of peer reviewed studies of human sexuality or anatomy automatically knocks off a star for me in the review.



2. An enlightening and expansive perspective for male or female readers. The sensativity and integrity of the writer are evident. The intention is to create a fun, relaxing and satisfying experience for both participants. The friends I have gifted with this book are thrilled and have shared it with their friends.
   Margaret



3. I have to admit I was somewhat disappointed in this and very pleased at the same time. When it arrived, with other books I should mention, my wife took the tried and true stance, similar to the past 20 years, of "not again". She did not want to even look at the books. However, this book is designed on how to please the woman only and directed entirely to her pleasure. Which I must say is 99% of the way it should be anyway. So, my wife thought I should read this book only and return the others. I read it and was disappointed a little. I got 75% of the way through before it began to teach me anything I did not already know and I realy don't know anything.
   
   I did like the chapter on shaving very much. In fact for the last few years I have been shaving my own face with the old shaving cream and brush and can attest to the closeness of the shave and it is best for sensitive skin, but I digress. I think only 2 of the 12 or 13 chapters had any information that was useful, but Oh how useful they were. I was able to try something new one evening and she said "did you get that from the book?" With a grin on her face and a shortness of breath not noticed in a few years.
   
   I of coarse gave all the credit to the book. She then thought we should read it together and look at the other books as well. So, even though I think only 2 chapters had anything new they have served both of us old married folk well and that would be why it gets 5 stars. Not because I learned stuff from start to end, but because the book in general did what I was hoping for, renewed some fire into a couple middle aged, slightly pudgy, people who needed a spark.



4. This is a great book if you're looking for the mechanics of producing pleasure in the female body. However, if you see people more holistically, as the union of body, mind, and spirit or heart, or a relationship as something more than a context for sex, this isn't the book for you. The author reduces sex to an almost clinical attempt to cause pleasure in the female body--almost as if it's a machine. For example, at one point he recommends the use of rubber gloves--a recommendable practice to avoid infection, to be sure, but what couple really wants to make their bedroom a doctor's office, unless it's only about physical sensations? Also, there's an obsessive emphasis placed on producing a bed-wetting female ejaculation--who cares about this subject if your sexual/personal relationship is otherwise complete? The author does talk some about relationships and romance, but their only purpose seems to be getting her in bed and ultimately getting the machine going, rather than being ends in themselves. He even discusses how to talk to a woman to get her to open up to more experimentation and expanded mechanics. It all depends on what you want.



5. This is a good read. What I appreciated is that it looks at sex in a way that "connects" mental, emotional, and physical. It's not just info like "touch her here" or anything.
   
   Got this book as I was reading up on the subject of female ejaculation. Combined with Player's Handbook Volume 3 - Make Her Squirt! A Quick and Dirty Guide to Female Ejaculation and Extended Orgasm, which is more "hands on" (no pun intended), I was able to put everything together and make things happen...if you know what I mean.
   
   What I love about both books is they're "real world" information, rather than just technical stuff by people with PhDs or something. Zzzzzzz...
   
   Bottom line-- this is a bargain for what you'll get out of it. Seriously, it's worth 1000x the price.

5 comments about The Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think, Date, and Mate--and What Women Can Do to Come Out on Top.

1. Okay. For the record most of the Manual is pretty fun to read, and actually gives some pointers that a lot of women could use. Strangely daft women who are desperate and find men to be such a tricky elusive species maybe, but some women nonetheless.
   
   Santagati is of course a rarity..he's got the rugged middle aged Marlboro man good looks that suited him well when he was a 20something model and was making us all swoon over GAP ads back in the 80s. So maybe he can call the shots with his lady... but the average Joe in his sansabelts and pudgy backside is going to get kicked in the neck for telling his lady to wear something sexier. The push up bra, the high heel, the tight skirt. Come on Steve, we're not all wired like that...And some of us don't want men to respond to us in THAT way...like those who have gone to school for decades and have big jobs and run companies and families and real estate empires? Yea, them. The breadwinners. So, we'll pinch our toes and IPEX if and when we want to thank you very much...
   
   But this is not news. Men are visual and they like to imagine you naked. No! Really?
   
   My favorite line from the book is the one about cooking him dinner...don't make him something that will give you bad breath or gas...
   
   good advice Steve. All in all, no harm done, but it does have the air of a kinda pushy bossman feel about it. I was left wondering...What have you done for ME lately?



2. To everyone that gave this book a bad review--jeez louise. You must be living under a rock. It seems as if not ONE of you understood what Steve was trying to get at. You're too ignorant and naive to get the point that he's making.
   
   This book has opened my eyes and within days I'm seeing a difference in myself. It gives you a different outlook on the games that the sexes play on/with each other. I cannot even believe that some of you didn't get this.
   
   Way to be really, REALLY uptight everyone. You know that the things he said are beyond true. Just open your damn minds!



3. The Manual, by Steve Santagati is a very shallow book with no substance or essence. I have read many self-help books and books on relationships, and even books on the biological differences between men and women. This book reminded me of someone who didn't have any sincerity or genuineness. Everything in this book is actually common knowledge shared by everyone, like when he says you shouldn't sleep on the first date with a man. It is hard to explain, but I didn't like the his attempt at being humorous at inappropriate times. The author reminds me of someone who takes but never gives, and by referring to himself as a "bad boy" has no strength of character or integrity that would make me pursue him. The author seems to feel that women find "bad boys" more desirable and I took his little quiz and it actually determined I prefer nice guys.
   I bought this book, as well as, some others for my younger, single girlfriends. I myself am 54 years old and have been married for 26 years, to a nice guy. I never liked "bad boys" which is another word for men that are always searching for their next girl in the sack, and have no love in their heart for anyone but themselves. I would not waste my money on this book.



4. What better way to find out about those guys you are dating, used to date, or are about to date than by reading a dating book written by a guy! Just the cover alone is great fun... and inside we get a peek at the psyche of men... or at least one man who's "been there, done that" with the ladies. So treat yourself to a fun read - always taken with a grain of salt. We women think we can "change his ways," "tame the bad boy," and all else - and most of us can't. A bad boy or any boy.... stays the same.... UNTIL one one "wonder woman" comes along somewhere in his life... who does! Or at least for a while. The book is a worthy read for any gal out in the dating world who wants an up close look from "his" point of view. Okay, so he may be a bad boy... but you can either choose him... or lose him... for a different kind. It's up to you. But the book is informative, fun, and a fast read. Go for it!



5. I would caution any woman against taking the advice in this book as "gospel".
   
   This book seems to speak to those perhaps in their twenties who are probably more interested in conquests and playing the field than in quality, long-term relationships.
   
   If you do follow this book's advice to the letter, you may very well attract a "bad boy", so unless that is your goal, be careful what kind of bait you are putting on your hook.
   
   There is one salient point in this book worth mentioning. The author explains the value of being unpredictable for purposes of maintaining interest and intrigue.
   
   If you religiously follow "the Rules" or any other code of set behavior, you may well become predictable. Throwing in a curve ball here and there can make the game interesting and keep things going for the long haul.

5 comments about Just Do It: How One Couple Turned Off the TV and Turned On Their Sex Lives for 101 Days (No Excuses!).

1. Cute book, but it had some flaws. Unlike "Julie and Julia" this read like it was straight from some blog. Near the end (ahem), the author inserted (sorry) emails from his wife that weren't all that relevant to the story and felt like a lazy way to fill space.
   
   The big problem I had was that the authors seemed to make use of hot and cold running childcare. Free care from his parents, who would fly in for weekends, then eventually a paid nanny. The kids never seemed to mind being left, never cried, showed very little resentment. We could take out a 2nd mortgage and do the same thing, but my kids would have thrown hissy fits every time. Of course, the Browns could write off the cost of each sitter and hotel because it was an expense related to the book. The rest of us have to make do.
   
   Interestingly, they were back to once or twice a week after the "marathon" ended.



2. I bought this book because I read it was more a light-hearted memoir, not a "how-to" for spicing up marriage. Douglas Brown and his wife, Annie, are a couple I could relate to-- dealing with life, work, children, while trying to manage "adult" time. They seemed to be a laid back, traditional couple, who really love their kids. I think I enjoyed learning about their family as much as I did the purpose for the memoir. Of course, it was fun reading about their trials in "sexploration." There were several "LOL" moments, particularly when struggling through sex during sickness and snot. Brown's knack for humorous writing made this a joy to read.



3. This book is the true story of how a busy couple with two demanding young daughters managed to have sex every day for 101 days, and in the process strengthened their marriage and rediscovered each other. Sound intriguing and possibly a tad titillating? I thought so too! Unfortunately, this book was about 280 pages too long. Let's be honest... myself and most people reading this book want the sordid details and perhaps a warm fuzzy feeling when the couple grows closer and rediscovers why they fell in love in the first place, but what we get instead is many scenes of childrens' misbehavior and illness, descriptions of chores facing a mostly stay at home mom, and many mentions of yoga. The titillation factor is definitely approaching zero - there are more descriptions of foot massages than erotic massage, and the author's attempt to describe their love-making gives me that same awkward feeling as when my parents kiss a little too long in front of me. (Don't take me there!) I also wonder how accurately the author gauges his wife's satisfaction - almost all the chapters have a happy ending for her (wink, wink, nudge, nudge) unless someone is physically ill.
   
   The point of this book is that couples, especially parents and professional couples, need to make their relationship and time together a priority. And physical intimacy can lead to greater emotional intimacy. However that story could have been told in a more concise manner. I would have preferred to skip the descriptions of target lingerie and discussions of how the author styles his hair to appeal to his wife. (If you have the hard cover edition of this book with the picture of the author and his wife you will see that he has a very, very high forehead - based on the picture I don't think some of his hairstyles would have been very flattering. Indeed I found my mind wandering while reading this book and returning to pondering the size of the author's forehead.)
   
   This would have been a great magazine article, but there was not nearly enough insight to hold my interest for 300 pages.



4. I wasn't sure what to expect when I picked up this book.
   
   I was afraid that the only thing that would leap out at me was the unflagging author's...*ahem.*
   
   But it's not that kind of book, and that certain, ah, shall I say, instrument is actually incidental and serves more the function of a literary vehicle of sorts (that you can't help but cheer for as if it's Herbie the Lovebug at a Nascar race).
   
   This is a literary romp that celebrates--above all else-- the love and devotion that this intrepid couple has for one another, and how they work together--to their mutual benefit-- to succeed in their challenge to turn a sad trend of sexless marriages that they heard about on its head (and sideways, and upstairs, and downstairs, and outside, and in another state...).
   
   And here I thought that bachelors got all the action.
   
   And it even serves, ultimately (and somewhat surprisingly, to be sure), as a wholesome morality play, and indeed conducive to Family Values:
   
   The secret to their succesful marriage is not consistent, mind-blowing sex on a daily basis, because that, quite naturally, doesn't happen everyday, anyway (though the smile on these happy campers grow wider when it does happen, to be sure).
   
   The secret--that's apparent from the beginning--is the love and respect these two have for one another.
   
   Though the copulating in and of itself does create a real renewal of romance and bonding that is conducive to any relationship (they find themselves touching each other more and more as the story progresses, between the daily quota), and despite the endeavor having mechanical aspects to it when the adventure traverses a plateau and becomes almost routine, it is the couple's emotional devotion off the bat which shines through, for each other, and their children, and which ultimately subordinates the sexuality of the mission.
   
   Quite simply, this is a racy--if not risque'--love story of a monogamous, middle-aged couple who decide to embark on an adventure--a rather prodigious sexual feat, actually, under oftentime stressful circumstances-- that makes the honeymoon of their youth just a preliminary warm up by comparison.
   
   In the process, the likeable couple cement an already well-glued bond for the longer haul, which is a very good thing.
   
   And they prove that today's 40 is indeed yesterday's 30 (if not 20).
   
   Indeed, as a cultural indicator, this book is at the vanguard of the changing demographics that are raising the bar on our traditionally youth-centered culture upward as the boomers age (and refuse to go quietly into the night), and *Just Do It* is to Mr. Brown's generation what the 60+ and still-rocking Rolling Stones (who were rather recently touring and looked great) and 60+ Sylvester Stallone (who rather recently proclaimed "I Am" by robustly reprising his alpha male roles as Rocky Balboa and John Rambo, and looked great) are to theirs.
   
   And, coinciding with all of that, and apart from the politics of it, is the presidential campaign of John McCain, who is the oldest presidential nominee in American history, and yet is enjoying strong support from many (especially from his boomer generation) who don't consider him--or themselves, for that matter-- "too old" at all.
   
   That's not a delusion. Indeed, like Rocky Balboa against the young champion Mason "The Line" Dixon-- but in reality, not fantasy-- McCain is going toe-to-toe with the much younger Obama all the way to the closing round.
   
   All of that reflects the cultural bar raised by retiring boomers entering seniority with an excellent--and unprecedented-- quality of life for their age group, and extended lifespans, and that demographic seachange has produced a book--not fiction, but nonfiction-- written by a 40-something (one generation behind the boomers) who could very well have been telling the rollicking tale of a pair of concupiscent college students on Spring Break that lasts for a hundred days.
   
   The book has energy, and the energy is youthful (and contagious, if sales to other married couples are any indication).
   
   Mind you, these are middle-aged adults with full-time jobs, mortgages, and school-aged children, yet behave like teenagers in love.
   
   And it is that--the unflagging energy and determination--that leaps out of the pages, but not just of the characters themselves, but the energy, determination, and agility of the writing itself (among *ahem* other agile things).
   
   This writer was dealing with a sensitive subject, sharing the most intimate aspects of marriage, and yet he remains decent and respectful--both to his wife and children, and to the reader--throughout, which is not an easy task when considering the subject matter.
   
   It is not blandness. On the contrary, it is *Tom Jones* with Albert Finney in its serial libidinousness, but it demands discipline and a deft ability and sensitivity with language to narrate the exuberant and repetetive indulgence of the primal urge without ever once entering the realm of [...] (the actual field trip to the porn convention in Las Vegas notwithstanding), and that in itself is a writing accomplishment which is probably overlooked in the whirlwind of the plot.
   
   Think about it: A novel about a man copulating with his wife for 100 days straight and presented in such an inoffensive and even playful way that it could very well make a priest chuckle, at least here and there. (They are, after all, happily married.)
   
   And yet, one senses, by the very exuberance of the mission, the reverberating, primal urge driving it, the courage needed to write such a book, and the control required to tame the language that's chomping at the bit while writing it, a tension within this author that wants to break out of convention and let loose, exuberantly and courageously, and with an adventurous imagination that is now primed for fiction.
   
   This is a first novel. Watch this guy. A word to the wise: Get your hands on the first printing of the first book of what is the golden ring of a budded author newlywedded to the literary world.
   
   And if the honeymooning debut is any indication, this groom will not only do his duty and deliver, but is just warming up.



5. This was a boring story did little for my sex life.It didn't really cover how they really did it ,if they really did do it.It was more of a story about a married couple and their kids.Don't waste your money.

5 comments about The Mistress Manual: The Good Girl's Guide to Female Dominance.

1. This book is EXCELLENT for beginners and good for dominants who have a little more experience. I would also recommend for subs to read most of this book, it would be helpful in deciding and telling your significant other what you want and what you would like to try. VERY good book, in depth, and it reads very well.



2. I was very pleased with this book, especially after my husband had read it and to my surprise, my pleasant surprise, showed a great interest in the subject. He came out, if that is the correct expression during dinner a couple of weeks ago.His inhibitions loosened by the wine, he said, if I was interested he would like to try out some of the techniques in the book. Boy oh boy was I interested. My glass stopped half way to my mouth and I just looked at him and he just smiled shyly. That opened the flood gates, I gulped down my wine and dragged him up to bed. We never finished dinner that evening, but we had our fill of something better. We have progressed further in our love making and now and our fifteen year marriage has been elevated to another level. We have not considered seeking out others to join in the fun, but if John suggests it, I am open to experimentation. Its amazing what a book can do for a relationship, I bought him a copy of the very excellent and fantastically sexually charged 100 Percent Erotica by Suzie Van Aartman not long ago and the explicit but tasteful erotic antics really turned us both on tremendously, I can highly recomend both of them



3. I was a bit doubtful when purchasing this book. But it turned out to be a well written, informative guide to Domestic Dominance.
   
   It's difficult to write a BDSM book that will be liked and praised by everyone. Kink is, after all, a very personal and intimate thing. However "The Mistress Manual" is a book I would recommend to every girl and woman who is fascinated by the subject and want to find out more about it.
   Unlike many books on the topic, "The Mistress Manual" does not focus on describing all the fantasies connected to Female Dominance. Nor does it claim to be the ultimate guide.
   However it's full of useful tips and advice, not to mention some of the technical aspects of BDSM.
   
   To the author I say: Great job!
   TO all the potential readers: This is worth your time.



4. This is a spiritually uplifting book for both sexually dominant females and curious males as well. It explores the physiological nature of what it means to be a female dominant. For those who are interested or are committed to this form of sexual expression, spirituality and freedom of thought this is a well written book with a true understanding of what female dominance is, means and offers to the unbridled spirit of ultimate expression.



5. This book was just what I was looking for. Easy and fast read. It gave me the information I was looking for. Some nice ideas and suggestions.

5 comments about Don't Call It Love: Recovery From Sexual Addiction.

1. Easily, I could say that Patrick Carne's books on sexual addiction has saved my marriage and my husband's life and maybe my own as well. My first read was "Out of the Shadows" and it softened my angry heart after hearing my husbands confession of being with around 100 women over the past 5 years of our 17 year marriage and all sexual encounters were UNPROTECTED sex. I found out the hard way. How could all these powerful, crippling emotions that I was feeling be tamed?? How could I ever forgive this scrum of the earth!! READ this book and you can do the impossible!!
   It answers my questions without having to continually confront my husband with the aweful thoughts of how he could be such a hypocrite all our married years!! What was he doing? Is he comparing me to his many different women when we had sex? Will he do it again? Will he always lie?? Is he really a good person deep down?? etc. All the questions have been answered and then some and I saw my own behaviors make the situation even worse without my knowing. I was a coaddict and codependent at different times. In only 4 months of my recovery and 18 months of his recovery we are happier than I ever thought possible!! This book takes you step by step as to what you can expect with building a healthy relationship with a recovering sex addict!! It is very detailed and gives advice from recovering addicts! It speaks in easy to understand language. It recognizes problems that can arise and gives you answers as to what to do if they happen to you!!
   This was my fifth book on looking for answers to sexual addiction..Out of the Shadows was first, Secret Wars..second..Love, Sex and Infidelity, His Needs/Her Needs, and finally, with MUCH relief to my quest..DON'T CALL IT LOVE!! AFter reading this book I don't feel the need to read anymore on the subject of sexual addiction. I have more hope than I ever thought possible. The communication, Openess and honesty are first and foremost in reestablishing our relationship that was always crippled from the start of our marriage because he thought getting married would fix his problem!! It doesn't! It affects everyone around you and even the children!
   If you are a sex addict or spouse, family member, friend, etc. of a sex addict..READ this book!! You will not be disappointed at all!! No book has done such a good job at laying it all out there and still keep it in healthy context for anyone to read! I saw my whole marriage and all the frustration of it take shape and form and how it brought out the worst in each of us..Now it is bringing out the very best in us with the 12 step program and this book!! Patience and understanding is most helpful and if you don't have it now you will get it from this book!! Good Luck to you and God Bless!!



2. I had already read Out of the Shadows by Patrick Carnes but Don't Call it Love was even more a amazing. It was painful to read trying to understand the sex addicts torment as well as the co-addicts. But on the other hand it was also refreshing to know that there is life after sex addiction and recovery is not only possible but necessary. I would recommend this book to anyone in recovery, it has helped me immensely.



3. Key strategy- work to FINISH THINGS! Addicts do not finish things,ENDING THINGS (projects,relationships) adds substantially to recovery. They prefer to "keep options open." Thrives in unfinished business. Starting more than they can finish leads to a comfortable CRISIS. Addicts avoid completing their conversations; important feelings and facts are not communicated. Conflicts not resolved/ PAIN ACCUMULATES. Increase PAIN AND COST/ TO STOP the addictions. In childhood they (addict) needed something didn't receive- trust, security, safety, non-sexual affection, both parents together? A since of normalcy (what they would feel in life in a committed relationship. (Need trust mot to worry, to simply live life normally) THEY HAVE A RESPONSIBILITY TO THOSE YOU HAVE HURT. THIER NEGATIVE EMOTIONS ARE TRANSFERRED TO CHILDREN AROUND THEM. Addictive sex feels shameful, illicit, stolen, exploitive, and joyless. Healthy sex = adds to self-esteem, is mutual, intimate, fun, and playful. Fighting (disagreeing)= act of trust / focus on issues. Give the outcome to God. Horniness = loneliness. When in doubt, don't have sex. Secrets will separate you from others in recovery. Get a pet to have healthy touching needs met. Avoid the feeling that you are a victim (having control over your body, thoughts, opinions, and feelings that you think someone in authority wouldn't approve of you having. You have to answer only to yourself. Be gentle w/ yourself about old tortuous conflicts. They are not about you. They never were! You are safe with your thoughts; they are yours. Recovery = burst of creativity, brings awareness of abuse. NURTURING- Learning how to care for themselves and to allow others to care for them IS an essential RECOVERY TASK. Intimacy = shared enjoyable experiences! FIDELITY TO YOURSELF is the ultimate act of faithfulness to the other. Trust yourself. It's as hard for your partner as it is for you! Admit mistakes. Share Spirituality. Have fun together = common experiences. Sustain from sex w/o intimacy. Talk before, during, and after sex. Compliment your partner. Respect boundaries. Pay attention to feelings. See sex as a legitimate joy! Take care of your body. Express attraction. Work on friendship and companionship. Fast-forward the realtionship so you will know it will be even better in the future.



4. Excellent book. I felt so alone and didn't know where to turn. This book helped me see that others are stuggling with the same behaviors that I am. Behaviors that may have endagered my life, but that I am at least able to stop now. Hopefully I'll live through this and become a better person. The person that I believe God wants me to be.



5. this book is a masterpeice for the 12-step program. Even though it is not listed as an " official" SLAA literature, it's been helping many addicts and will help many more. Strongly recommended!

5 comments about He's Just Not That Into You: Your Daily Wake-Up Call.

1. This book stopped me from picking up the phone several times, and I'm grateful for that. A must-have for any woman on the dating scene.



2. I had fun reading this. Made me laugh. Made me think how some guys treat women. Some of the quotes and advise were actually good. Everything was numbered. A lot of the stuff was repetitious...just worded differently. I enjoyed reading this.



3. Loved the book but if you're using it because you already know the answer and are just trying to "leave that man behind"...then check-out burythejerk.com for the newest in relationship closures!



4. I get the point of this book, but I much prefer the kinder and more dignified "Ditching Mr. Wrong" by Nicholas Aretakis, which also covers how to move on, begin dating again, quickly assess your new man, and form a wonderful relationship. "He's Just Not That Into You" doesn't help you form a new, worthwhile relationship, and that is of course the desired result of this whole dating game. "Ditching Mr. Wrong" is a fun, interesting and more informative read.



5. Ladies, listen up: There's a better book for single gals--by far--than this one. Check out Ditching Mr. Wrong, by Nicholas Aretakis. I recently had to read a stack of dating books for a writing project, so I've had a chance to compare every relevant title out there. In Ditching Mr. Wrong, Aretakis betrays the "secret handshake" between guys and lets gals know what tricks and traps to avoid when single men are on the prowl. If I had a 20-something daughter, I'd buy Ditching for her instead. The viewpoint in He's Just Not That Into You is, in my eyes, a tad misogynist. Ditching, on the other hand, shows women how to quickly vet a Mr. Wrong so she doesn't waste her time. It's also chockfull of fun tips, quizzes, and checklists. It's a high self-esteem book and exceptionally practical--much more so, in my opinion, than He's Just Not That Into You.

5 comments about He Comes Next: The Thinking Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man.

1. I have the same thing to say about this book as I did his companion piece, "She Comes First": I LOVE the cover. Using a piece of fruit to represent male genitalia is wonderful, and so well done. Not as pretty as the papaya used in the female version, though. What's between the covers works just as well. It is an insiders version of what constitutes male pleasure, and enables women to participate in that life as well. If one bought both of these books, all it would take to complete a couple's sexual pleasure library would be the new title, Was that an earthquake? The Sensuous Couple's (Flip Over) Guide to Seismic Oral Sex. This is a flip over book that has everything you need to know about cunnilingus in Book One, then flip it over, and you have everything you need to know about fellatio in Book Two. It's like having two books in one.



2. This book is wonderful, It's not a step by step, "how to" guide, but rather a look in to the male brain. It's fantastic that this book was actually written by a man as apposed to a woman. Great read, very easy. I couldn't put the book down. I finished faster than I have finished any book, in a very long time.
   *Oh just a footnote here: Ian, the author of this book, is a very sexy man.



3. I bought Passionista as well as He Comes Next, thinking they would have different content, but they're almost exactly the same, nearly verbatim.
   They're interesting, not really as helpful as She Comes First. Reading one is sufficient.



4. We bought the set she comes first and he comes next each of us read the one about the opposite sex. After 14 years of marraige talk about fabulous
   things to learn. Wow just like being with new people again. I have loaned them out to others and have since bought this for friends who's sex lives are struggling. Would recomened to all people.



5. I bought this book as a pair with 'She Comes First'. As a guy, I think this book will provide women with a great understanding of the male view of arousal and pleasure that most guys probably wouldn't verbalize but will definitely appreciate them knowing. The author provides great, detailed techniques, activities and ideas to for extending and enhancing his pleasure (and yours) throughout love making. The only reason I didn't rate it a 5 was that it didn't seem provide as detailed tips/techniques for oral s*x as She Comes First; so if your looking for a book that really details techniques to please your guy in that area you might try a different book.

5 comments about Stop Wondering If You'll Ever Meet Him: A Revolutionary Approach for Putting the Date Back into Dating.

1. I am a pretty skeptical person when it comes to relationships and I was very pleasantly surprised by the depth of the content in this book. I felt like the authors were speaking directly to me because so many of the mistakes I've made are covered in this book. Not only do the authors identify the mistakes, they offer a solution which is refreshing since so many people write books about the problem, but then leave us hanging. This book has made a huge impact on how I view relationships and I feel hopeful about my dating future!



2. Of all the people in the world to give me this book, my ex-girlfriend, whom I am still friendly with, gave it to me. As a favor, I read it. And to be frank, I thought that it was fantastic. Maintaining a conversational approach, the authors identified the patterns of behavior that I have commonly fallen into, which have hurt my relationships in the past. Though I consider myself to be the last person to recommend a dating book, I felt compelled here to express my opinion about it. I am not saying reading this book will get you a date, but I think that it might give you new insight in how you go about dating. It has for me.



3. I've read a ton of dating books and they usually fall into one of two categories. There's the "wait till your married" to have sex category or the "how to be a hot [...] (or pick up artist)" category. Neither of which is realistic and neither of which works. This book gets it right with (finally!) a sane and easy to follow approach to dating. Since reading this book I've been told I'm more self assured and confident and attractive. None of those things is true. It's simply that now I know what to do when it comes to dating. I only wish I had read this a few years ago!



4. This book completely changed how I view the dating process. Everything about dating is viewed in a new light, and to have the perspective of both sexes really helps. It's very honest, and not formulaic like most other dating/relationship books I've read. The authors feel like old friends.....friends that have my best interest at heart. And it works! Using their simple, step-by-step approach, I found the man of my dreams, and we are happily dating and progressing.....Thank you, Ryan and Jessica!



5. After I read How To Be Wanted: Use the Law of Attraction to Date the Man You Most Desire and Live the Life You Deserve, I went on the lookout for more books that really deliver a punch. This so happens to be the one. It's got some really good stuff any woman who wants a man/relationship needs to know. A must, must read!!