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5 comments about Ask Barbara: The 100 Most Asked Questions About Love, Sex, and Relationships.

1. I've been wrestling with some issues and stumbled upon this book by Dr. D Angelis. I once watched her often but drifted away years ago. Her book is a great starting point for anyone wanting to grow beyond their normal comfort zone. She has a "meet you where you are approach." I feel most speakers know alot and can talk alot but can't relate it to "my life." Dr. De Angelis does and does with a compassionate thread throughout the book. This book has a question and aswer format and references itself to other questions within the book so that it doesn't lose you in the topic. Great book! You won't get confused.



2. I read De Angelis's other book which is hilariously bad. Her method for expressing emotions is to use bold face, italics, exclamation points. Sometimes she uses all of them in a single sentence. Her advice is vague and commonsensical: "Judge a Man by the Size of His Heart, not by the Size of His Wallet" or "Look for a Man with Good Character." Philosophers have debated for ages on what "good character" actually is. De Angelis pretends like the debates never took place. Falling in love is complicated business, and De Angelis evades the complexities for the shallower waters of vague cliche and trite observation.



3. I have bought other books by Barbara De Angelis and found her advice pretty acurate. I bought my first book by Barbara about eight years ago. Other books by Barbara De Angelis include: "Secrets About Men Every Woman Should Know" and "Are You the One for Me?"

   For this book,"Ask Barbara: The 100 Most Asked Questions About Love, Sex, and Relationships", I found helpful for those questions you are afraid to ask.

   I particularly like how this book is broken down. Whether you have questions reguarding intimacy, compadability, or commitment. Even if you are starting over and are hesitent about a relationship. "Ask Barbara..." pretty much covers it all. The sections in the book are easy to follow.

   Barbara De Angelis is my all time favorate author when it comes to the subject of relationships. This is do to Barbara's no nonsense easy approach to the subject matter.

   Whether you have issues or questions reguarding love, sex, or relationships; I can not recommend this book enough.




4. After going through several relationships that went sour as well as a divorce I decided to buy this book. I wasn't sure how good it would be under I started reading it. I have to tell both men and women in relationships or single this is a must to read. It will make you feel refreshed and ready to find the one true love we all are looking for. Dr DeAngelis touched on every aspect of a relationship and then some. I will recommend this book to all of my friends that have not found the true love in their lives .Thank you for the inspiration that I so needed in my life!!



5. This is an extremely detailed book, outlining what the author perceives as categoric "roles" we fall into, i.e. "Puppy Dog", "Cleanup (Wo)Man", "Collector", " etc. And as we all do in our lives, seemingly to follow rigid paths of habit, De Angelis' lesson plan is to break that mold through rigid application of the rigid difference. I think for many self-help devotees this process will work, however I was distracted by such lessons, homework really, to "approach a stranger in a supermarket on Friday night, between 7:00 & 10:00 PM..." with a script of memorized dialogue, "How do you cook that item you are holding". True, it forces one to approach the situation with fear, curiosity and adrenaline, but I think it must better suit to therapy for shyness, not personal exploration into why we choose the wrong mate. But, if we do habitually choose the wrong person based on unconscious reasoning, De Angelis is brilliant in requiring the student to face their personal re-training alone. For the few that attempt it (and most will not), the results are statistically astounding.

   Other sections, I believe, are quite right on and direct. I think there's great value in some of her concepts. I particularly love the one about deliberately wearing mismatched clothing to provoke discussion with persons one meets in a social setting. Throwing an artificial spin to a meandering interlude can, in my opinion, create a great swirl of new interests. I was intrigued by her precept that religion, and not immorality, is the basic cause of sexual dysfunction. The elementary references to Catholic teaching were convincing, but it remains to be seen how much sway the average reader will give such concepts.

   Overall, I thought the book was good, if slightly skewed to younger persons, and the dating scene. But youth, like hope, schwings eternal...or should anyway.

5 comments about Overcoming the Rating Game: Beyond Self-Love, Beyond Self-Esteem.

1. The book is insightful, and well-written. I reread it any time I'm feeling a bit depressed or down. Outlines the basic princliples of rational-emotive therapy.



2. I now believe that most emotional disturbance is a result of this thing called "self-esteem/worth/" and their evil twin "ego". Social fears can be attributed to the idea that we will somehow be magically diminished in some way as human beings if people disapprove of us. This book is a great start in demolishing that foolish idea. Another great book that covers this subject is "Overcoming the Myth of Self-Worth" by Richard Franklin.



3. This is the best book I have ever read on Self-esteem.The essense of the book is not how to develop self-esteem but how to get rid of it and develop self-acceptance.Paul Hauck gives numerous examples on ill effects of self-rating.He points out self-esteem is sickness.But Hauck doesn't mean to devalue the value of achievement and enormous benefits it begets.He urges us to develop achievement confidence instead of self-confidence.This book can eliminate the inferiority and superiority complex we all suffer from.Excellent book built on REBT framework which can change one's life for good



4. This is a very informative book on self rating. After reading this you'll know a great deal about self acceptance, self love and self esteem. The book is quite short, but that's a good thing, because the author doesn't beat around the bush, he goes straight for the meat in as few words as possible. The one thing that disappointed me a little was the lack of exercises. Throughout the entire text he presented on exercise, saying that that is all you need, but in my opinion, a few more would be nice. As a result, I'm thinking about getting a few more self-esteem books by other authors as supplement.



5. I found the following messages of the author especially valuable:
   
   1. We are succeeding always as long as we are learning.
   2. Doing badly is a valuable experience for learning.
   3. Doing things correctly tells us what we want to repeat.
   4. After much discipline and hard work, our performance will come closer to our potential ability, and this process is defined as success.
   
   So in stead of measuring myself against others, I should measure my performance against my potential.

4 comments about Marriage Takes More Than Love.

1. I WAS STRUCK BY THE WAY WE ARE DESCRIBED: MEN AS MICROWAVES AND WOMEN AS OVENS. PRETTY MUCH TO THE POINT. HELP ME TO NOT PUSH MY MAN INTO BEING WHAT HE IS NOT. WISH MORE MEN WOULD READ IT SO THEY COULD UNDERSTAND THAT WE WOMEN WORK DIFFERENTLY AND THAT IT IS OKAY AND VERY NORMAL NOT TO BE THE SAME. GOD HAS CREATED US SO WONDERFULLY- WE SHOULD BE COMMITTED TO ENJOYING THOSE DIFFERENCES. JACK AND CAROLE GO A LONG WAY TOWARD HELPING US SEE THESE AND OTHER TRUTHS.



2. I read this book before I got married. This is one of the best marriage book that I have ever read (And I read a lot of them :)). Mostly because my husband's character and personality is similar to Mr. Mayhall (discipline, perfectionist, detail oriented, introvert) while mine is similar to Mrs Mayhall (people oriented, flexible, and unorganized). This book has helped us to celebrate our differences; appreciate, respect, complement, and learn from each other.



3. This book presents a lot of good (and great) advice for couples. However, the usage of Bible verses and "God this, God that" can easily be off-putting. A more appropriate title would be "God in Marriage" or something similar. If you're a very religious Christian in need of "refreshing" marriage advice, this is the book for you. Otherwise, skip on by.



4. MARRIAGE TAKES MORE THAN LOVE CAME QUICKLY & IN GOOD SHAPE. THE BOOK WAS NOT THE LATEST VERSION BUT STILL A GREAT BOOK ON MARRIAGE.
   
   IN HIM, DR. CARL

3 comments about A Garland of Love: Daily Reflections on the Magic and Meaning of Love.

1. As a single mother, it is sometimes hard for me to remember to love those who are most important to me, including myself. I use this book to give each day a theme, to remind myself what is important, and to not forget the little things along the way. Daphne Rose Kingma has written a book that is as much a collection of affirmations as it is a daily hug, and who doesn't need a hug each and every day?



2. This book was published in 1992, when I was in my early 20s. I read it from cover to cover repeatedly. It taught me so many good pieces of wisdom. I had forgotten about if for a long time, when I discovered it a few days ago. I love it all over again. Daphne Rose Kingma did a wonderful job of saying alot in a few words. Thank you so much Mrs. Kingma. I will relearn your wisdom from a perspective of being 11 years older. This book is very worth the cost and effort of getting it. I am sure it will teach you new wisdom to.



3. How would you receive a daily inspiration on Love for a lifetime and beyond?
   
   As refreshing as a Spring-time breeze, the author has compiled a beautiful book with daily reflections on the many facets of love in our lives. I have used her sections on a daily basis, by lightly contemplating on the current day's theme. Inner silence and focus on her poetic descriptions has often revealed to me, some amazing and incandescent insights! It has a remarkable healing effect that goes deep into our very essence as Soul.
   
   The diverse and meticulous nature of the prose spanning a whole year of entries is a tribute to the loving heart this writer has. Thank you Daphne, for bringing the passion and meaning of love's many guises to a warm reality and profound practicality in my life. I highly recommend it as a graceful contemplation to open your heart to love in your life.

5 comments about Sex & the Erotic Lover.

1. This book is a clear, systematic and organized approach. Mabel Iam helps with this book many couples become better lovers that prevents true insights and emotions to develop a real relationship.



2. Mabel Iam is an author unlimited fervent about love, sex and spiritual grow. You can tell and feel these characteristics in all her books.
   "Sex and the erotic lover and Sex and the perfect lover and the kamasutra" have helped me and my girlfriend. Its tips are easy to follow with her recommendations to experience pleasures together and reach orgasm at the same time. NOW, we are happier and more confident couple.



3. I do not normally review more than one book by the same author, unless there is a really good reason for doing so. In the case of Sex and the Erotic Lover there is.
   
   This book is a wonderful complement to her earlier Sex and the Perfect Lover and the more recent The Love Diet. What I really like about her work, and why I recommend it so whole heartedly, is that in all three books Mabel has demonstrated that she sees pleasure, sensuality, sexuality and spirituality as a seamless whole. There is no reason at all why things that are enlightening and enlivening should not also be fun. Having unselfconscious fun and being able to laugh at ourselves are sure signs that we are on the right road toward getting our life in order.
   
   So many sexual problems are the result not of physical difficulties, but of energy and fatigue, attitude, expectation, upbringing and needless guilt. Of course, that is not the whole list, but it covers the lion's share of the issues that can cause much needless unhappiness. And Mabel has some good advice on how to deal with them.
   
   As an indication of some of the material in the book, and Mabel's approach, she has a list of "Ten Revelations for Being Happy." You can read the whole list in the book, but in short, they are:
   1. Faith
   2. Attitude
   3. Exercise
   4. Live for the here and now
   5. Goals
   6. Smiling
   7. Forgiveness
   8. Gratitude
   9. Relationships
   10. Love
   
   That looks like a pretty good start!
   
   This book, like her others, is highly recommended.



4. I like books about sex that are helpful and exciting. But I also like insights into human nature and not just the obvious visceral activity. This book is plenty smart going deeply into why we are the way we are and not just the what. It had me saying Ah-Ha as much as it had me saying Oooo, cool



5. All I'll say is, this purchase was/is well worth it. You won't need any artificial drugs, just this book, your imagination and a willing partner. You both win!

5 comments about Practical Intuition in Love: Let Your Intuition Guide You to the Love of Your Life.

1. I consider myself a very intuitive person and I thought I would find this book helpful. However I was unable to follow through. This is an example of one of the exercises: Write down a list of all the positive qualities you think you possess, do not be humble or modest. Send the list with a stamped, addressed envelope to 20 people and invite them to comment "true", "very true", "extremely true" - these are their only choices. Do this once a year. If you are the type of person that enjoys doing these kinds of exercises, then you might get something useful out of this book. I don't argue that the results of the exercise would be useful if only you could bring yourself, and others, to do it. If I could think of 20 people who would still be talking to me after I sent them such a list, I could only anticipate that most of them would add ridiculously funny comments. Mostly I think this list would make my friends squirm at the thought of my own narcissm. The book is centered around self-help exercises, many of which suggest using a friend to help. Some are useful, and some results were surprising, helpful to me. But I can't help thinking I have missed the "big aha" because I would simply not follow through on doing some of the exercises. It also gets rather tedious reading through hundreds of other people's results in doing the exercises. I would rather have something I could work through alone, in the privacy of my own home and my own emotional state of mind!



2. This will be brief.
   Although I like Laura Day's other works,
   I found "Practical Intuition in Love" to be very vague, even though I have read it several times. Perhaps it just didn't communicate with me specifically.

   A book I prefer, which is similar, is the out-of-print but WONDERFUL "Finding Each Other" by Mary Olsen-Kelly and Don Kelly. You can get it on the internet very inexpensively. Go look for it!




3. I love all of Laura Days books and I have read them all. I find them all to be helpful and I really enjoyed this book. I highly recommend it. Weather you are single and looking or in a relationship with someone even if you are happy in your relationship I would recommend this book. I found it really useful. The only thing is that in some exercises she tells you to take a few days to work on so if you are busy it might not be so great for you but otherwise I found it an easy read and I really enjoy the exercises in the book. Also even if you are a man I recommend this book it's for males and females so dont shy away from it and she gives so many examples in the book from both females and males. I've just started to read the one by kathy freston.



4. This book is very good in helping you understand yourself better. Great book if you are in a relationship or not...Enlightning..She has many exercises which will help you tremendously.



5. When I first picked up this book I had the following flash: A man in an Italian neighborhood, the date July 17, and the image of two childhood loves down the street from one another who eventually separate because the girl's dreams were too big to stay. This was in 2001. In 2004 I reunited with an old neighbor of mine whom I loved as a teenager almost 13 years earlier. He was Italian. He now lived in an ethnic neighborhood. We got together. I landed a dream job in New York City that required me to eventually relocate to California. We separated. July 17 was his wedding date to his former spouse. Two years later, I was 3000 miles away and then was called back East for a few months on a contract. The contract was in the same building that he now worked for. Prediction after prediction came true. We kept meeting up over and over again. My right brain saw it from the get go with my first notes from this book.
   
   I don't know if this was a sample of one potential who could have been the love of my life ... but it certainly was odd how much my subconcious was programmed towards these events. Practical Intuition in Love's excercises revealed some kind of data because the coincidences were startling. These impressions were gained when I was in an emotionally neutral state which is the best for accurate intuitive impressions. There was something to Day's excercises because time, space, distance, have never erased nor cooled my feelings for him. I still love this person nearly two years (at the time of this writing) after my career took me elsewhere. My advice at this time looking back ... get your ego out of the way... if you want true love to stay.
   
   Another good book is: When God Winks on Love
   
   Practical Intuition in Love: Start a Journey Through Pleasure to the Love of Your Life

5 comments about The Bridal Wave: A Survival Guide to the Everyone-I-Know-Is-Getting-Married Years.

1. This book was excellent; I just went through all this with my best friend a few months ago and it really put into perspective what I've been going through. I was really missing our old friendship and feeling sorry for me: why am I not married/in a serious relationship, etc. It made me look at things on a much more positive side. Besides that, the anecdotes are wonderful! I got it from the library but it made me feel so good and had such great advice for getting through this with your dignity intact and without winging out at the reception! that I am going to buy my own copy!!



2. Well I happen to be friends with one of the authors' "current boyfriend" mentioned in the book. I bought it mostly to support her but I figured I might as well read it so I could come up with something nice to say about it. This is not the kind of book I would normally pick up. I thought it would be kind of...you know...self help book for the twenty/thirty something single girl. But I started to read it and I could not put it down. It was well written, funny, sarcastic, didn't take itself too seriously, and an amazingly apt description of what is happening to my group of girlfriends right now. I bought copies for my remaining three unmarried friends. Yes, there are only three (plus me), and that's from two different social circles. I thought this book was fantastic and I really appreciate having it around right now. It has provided some much needed perspective during a somewhat rough time in my life. Reading it, I feel like I know the authors and I really really like them. Every woman going through a "bridal wave" should have this book as a reminder that you aren't the only one out there not getting married. I would also recommend this book to those women who ARE making the choice to wed...it gives a nice perspective of both sides and has the potential to save a lot of valuable friendships.



3. This book is hilarious!! I laughed on just about every page! It is sooo true and sooo funny. I really enjoyed this book and related to it to a "T". I am 25 and caught in the middle of the bridal wave and this book really tells it like it is and gives great ideas that help get through these times....and makes it seem not so bad because there is a better way to handle this situation. This book is great for any single who feels that everyone around her is getting married but her and that she feels like shes being picked last for the kickball team, or someone in a relationship that is chomping at the bit waiting for her boyfriend to propose while watching her friends "flash the ice" and make that trip down the isle. I LOVED reading this and I think everyone else will too!!



4. When you pick up this book, you certainly know what you're getting. It's entertaining and comforting though not entirely earthshattering. I found this book to give some good pointers in dealing with your "IGBN" friends and found an interesting statistic: 88% of people marry at least once in their life. Obviously if there's a book on this topic......well then I'm not the only one!



5. I read this book in a single sitting! And laughed SO hard. The authors get what you're going through, give excellent advice, and bust your gut. It's the perfect prescription for the blues.

5 comments about Stripped Bare: The 12 Truths That Will Help You Land the Very Best Black Man.

1. In this little black book, LaDawn enlightens African American sisters on finding a quality black man and keeping him. It is a realistic relationship guide that teaches the reader how to be the kind of person who will attract the man that you deserve. It is full of personal anecdotes and scenarios from a variety of sisters that will make you laugh, but these stories are oh so real! In this handy little "up-in-your-face," "sister-girl" book, you will learn how to let go of the past and stop dating unavailable men, as well as learn to date outside the box and make your relationship a top priority. This book does teach you how to land the very best black man--for you!



2. I love how simple and easy this book is to read and comprehend. I've bought several copies for a few of my girlfriends. LaDawn breaks down these truths to the simplest forms and debunks the myths that society and the media has gotten women to buy into. I deifinitely look forward to reading her others books.



3. Ms. Black writes in a forthright, down-to-earth manner. It is refreshing to read a book that gets to the point without "educational" pontification which makes one decipher what is being discussed.
   
   Women, we have issues. Women, we can deal with them armed with the stuff of publications like this.



4. I am not a big fan of Relationship help books. They tend to pacify the readers, and are very predictable. This book written by Ms.Black offers a different spin on relationships advice, it points out how we must possess the same qualities that we are requiring in a mate. It has precise points, and a mechanism for positive and eteneral change for women's attitudes and attributes.



5. i am looking for a great guy period and while the title says black guy these tips are universal! it is all about inner peace and knowledge and being bold enough to go after what you want. the book is funny as hell and well worth a happy hour discussion with your girls. ladawn has been through it all and she gets it -- love should be fun, passionate, satisfying and at times funny.

1 comments about Smoldering Embers: Hot Erotic Stories and Sex Tips to Light a Couple's Fire.

1. A great book for both men and women. It's hot, sexy, explicit and
   romantic as well. My husband and I both enjoy it. It has a little
   something for everyone. The stories are fun and the tips are
   effective. It definitely lives up to its name and "Lights Our Fire")