5 comments about ESO: How You and Your Lover Can Give Each Other Hours of Extended Sexual Orgasm.

1. The one thing that I came away with in this book, that was very useful, was "Albolene". It is absolutely the finest lubricant in the world. Get the unscented kind as suggested in the book. The rest of the book, is indeed, really only good for women. But Albolene is great for everyone! Get it from your local store.



2. I have a good background in biology, psychology and biochemistry. I do public speaking on a variety of topics and personal growth coaching in several areas including human sexuality. I have read a lot of books in my areas of expertise and many of these have been in the areas of evolutionary psychology, sexuality and relationship. Some of these have been academic and others have been of a lighter nature.
   
   This book fits into the category of a light read on a topic that is important to everyone i.e. sexual satisfaction and achieving satisfying orgasms. While I found that this book had some exaggerated claims, it also had a lot of good information that was well presented.
   
   This book is particularly useful for women who have difficulty achieving orgasm, but it is interesting for me as well. It really does include a lot of good tips for making your orgasms more powerful. However, it doesn't focus much on the intimacy aspects of relationship.
   
   I personally believe that the biggest aphrodisiac is genuine love, compassion and high regard for our partner. As long as this book does not become an end in itself or a substitute for intimacy, I think you will find it useful and informative.



3. This is one of the best technical manuals that detail the intricacies of sexual pleasure. It effectively addresses the methods of pleasing women, who are complicated by nature. It also focuses on the entire environment that impacts a couple's receptiveness to experiencing sexual intimacy by providing tools to increase and facilitate communication. Each time I loan this book to friends, it is NEVER returned! That is the most significant statement I can make about what others think about its content!



4. Reading the other reviews I felt it was important to offer another perspective. While I haven't given public speeches, when it comes to my own body I'm an expert. I've spent more time with it than anyone else and over the years have learned quite a few things that I'm sorry to say I don't have techical terms for. Just what I know.
   
   This book and "The ESO Ecstasy Program" (the first book I read when it first came out), might give certain impressions to a casual reader. But the working beauty of this program is when it is put into practice.
   
   And I don't mean towel exercises. To limit these books that way is like saying diet pills work or don't work. Only a comprehensive diet and exercise program with monitoring by a health professional (like your Doctor) can do that. This is the same thing to me. The book (a professional on paper) is nothing without practicing the art itself.
   
   I found the book focused more on communication techniques (lacking in most relationships - talking about our inner thoughts and understanding them doesn't come naturally for everyone) than exercises but putting those into practice with communication and time produces results.
   
   Not fanciful results either. The descriptions of what is possible in the books comes from years of practice between the two authors. While it's possible to follow the program and see outstanding results in 30 days (the new editions timeframe, the original book it was 90) as well.
   
   I always recommend this book along with "The Lover Within" by Julie Henderson, for anyone in a long term relationship that wants everything possible from it - not just what you see and hear about on TV.
   
   As a tool for taking that next step in intimacy I've not found a better resource. It's not for the casual reader, nor have I found much success sharing with short term partners.
   
   Good stuff. Just because it sounds amazing doesn't mean it's not. :)



5. The book is most geared towards men who ejaculate too quickly, women who have trouble reaching orgasm or couples who have lost that 'spark'.
   
   This is written for heterosexual couples. There is a single chapter of exercises that singletons can do on their own, but nothing that I saw about how same-sex couples should adapt the exercises when working through the book.
   
   There is a LOT of guff about 'Communication Exercises', 'a complete round of Appreciations and Resentments', 'Execute Planning Agreement' and 'Brief Sexual Interaction - A Rationale'.
   
   The book feels even more clinical thanks to its irritating 'can-do' attitude which seems to be at the heart of all American self-help manuals. It advocates a formulaic approach: 'Follow these specific exercises in the allotted time and magic WILL happen.'
   
   There is little mentioned about prostate massage and it is presented only as a way to enhance the traditional orgasm, not as a means to achieve the Super-O.
   
   It does not touch upon the fact that if men change their attitude towards what 'counts' as an orgasm and expand their options as to what can drive them to that point, then yes, men can experience different types of orgasms and in multiples too.

5 comments about The Survivor's Guide to Sex: How to Have an Empowered Sex Life After Child Sexual Abuse.

1. I am a survivor of Childhood molestation from birth to 14 by 3 different men. Then when I was 16 I was gang raped by 3 other men. Needless to say I hated sex, even the word made me sick. After 4 years of marriage to my wonderful husband I needed to do something to aid in my recovery. I read this book, followed the exersises and now I actually WANT SEX, ENJOY SEX,and am healing a much distressed relationship I had with my husband. And I say with all my heart, if you are ready to take that step, make the effort, THIS BOOK WILL HELP YOU! If you arnt ready than you can still try it and see if it makes you want to be ready. Trust me it is worth the money and the effort!



2. First of all, why do I say this book is not for devout Christians? Well, Ms. Haines does not hide that she is a former manager at Good Vibrations, a VERY sex positive adult store in San Francisco. She is very blunt in her discussion of the sex act (she uses the 'f' word often). And is not disdainful of alternative sexual lifestyles (BDSM, polyamory, GLBT), but seems to rather encourage them. Her opinion seems to be that to recover your sexuality, you must be TRUE to your sexuality, whether that means you are gay, kink, or trans, then so be it, but OWN it. I, personally, found this to be refreshing, and helpful, however, many devout Christians will find this offensive and disgusting.
   
   Her chapters are nicely laid out, and the exercises at the end of each chapter are well thought out, and truly make you think about your own sexuality.
   
   Her tone is upbeat, and she notes that you should pause occasionally to check in with yourself to make sure that you are ok, and ready to continue.
   
   All in all, I love this book, and can see myself reading and re-reading it many times.



3. Don't believe the "Usually ships within 10-12 days". I ordered my copy last May, and am still waiting for it in September. Periodically, I receive e-mails to tell me that the delivery date has been delayed by a few weeks. I wonder if I will ever receive it.



4. I purchased this book in the hope that it might encourage me to become more comfortable as a sexual being. It has, instead, only served to INCREASE my shame and avoidance of all things sexual. Ms. Haines' solutions are simplistic, her logic flawed. While I do admire her for striving to include people of all sexualities, including GLBTQ persons, polyamorous relationships, and those who practice S/M lifestyles, as those elements are rarely touched on in sexual healing materials, it is thoroughly insulting to suggest that people who do not wish to incorporate such elements into their sex lives are in some way "less than" those who do. Am I any less deserving of healing than someone with a broader range of sexual interests? Logic dictates not. Ms. Haines unequivocally says yes.
   
   I feel worse about myself and my circumstances having read this book than I did before buying it. If a sexual trauma survivor is already well on the road to healing his/her sexual self, has a decent idea of his/her sexual needs and desires, and believes that they correspond with the aforementioned foci of this body of work, this book may well be beneficial in making those needs and desires realities. For anyone taking their first tentative and terrifying steps into reclaiming themselves, I would avoid this book like the plague.



5. If you are a survivor of sexual abuse, primarily as a child, and you have not read other books on the subject, this can be a good first book. It introduces you to the concepts of alternative sexuality as normal, lays out guidelines to help you determine what is healthy sex for you, and offers some basic information about sex and sexuality. However if you have read other books or gone through a few years of therapy I don't think this book has much uniqueness to offer. If you are looking a solution, no book can offer you that, only lots of work and time can help things but there is no magic solution. Unfair? Completely since something that took a predator only minutes to do can take you years to recover from but then life isn't fair.

3 comments about Attract Love: Brain Wave Subliminal.

1. Ever listen to something that builds in textures and layers which is so beautiful that by the end you feel like your heart will burst open with tears of awe and joy? That's what this was like.



2. I am exploring and experimenting with the subliminal world and the jury is still out. I will say that I would buy more of Kelly Howell's products.



3. i purchased this cd 15 days back .
   I read about kelly on website and decided to try it .
   music is wonderful and it really takes you deep , though for first two three days I felt bit uncomfortable after listening to it , may be because of theta waves , kind of vomitting feeling but after 3 days of listening I started enjoying it .And while I listen to second part with head phones I feel as if my heart is opening up , I can feel burst of energies coming out of it , though it has happened twice lets see what are future experience .
   
   rajesh

5 comments about Men Who Can't Love.

1. I was driving myself CRAZY trying to figure out what I had done wrong because my boyfriend of 2 years had just sent me roses for our 2 year anniversary and 11 days later broke up with me and was seeing someone else less than a week later. I read this book and oh my gosh I could not believe that this book should have been written by my boyfriend because everything was him to a T!!! If you are stressing about what you could have done differently stop doing that and read this book. You will then see that it wouldn't matter what you had done or not done it wouldn't have mattered AT ALL because it is his problem not yours. It does hurt to know that you fell in love with someone that you couldn't have had from the start and you spend so much time trying to be everything he may want you to be and it is all in vain. READ THIS BOOK!!!



2. i read steven carter's book over five years ago. it was the first book i read when my relationship with my boyfriend started going south. at first, it seemed to have all the answers. he displayed the behavior described in this book.
   
   looking back five years, i feel this book really sent me down a dangerous path. turns out my boyfriend was not "commitmentphobic" he was psychopathic.
   
   calling what i endured a "phobia" is irresponsible. a phobia can be overcome. a phobia is harmful only to the person experiencing it.
   
   sometimes these relationships can be WAY more complicated and dangerous than a fear of spiders or high places...
   
   many many people diagnosed with dangerous personality disorders cannot commit. it's way more complicated than carter would have you believe.
   
   carter, in my opinion, simply gathered up stories from suffering women and reprinted them in a book. he provides no insight, no advice, no alternatives to his "commitmentphobic" theory. he is no licensed professional, and actually, even licensed professionals have difficulty identifying a narcissist, socio or psychopath.
   
   my gut tells me he did his followup book about narcissism because so many women contacted him about commitmentphobia and suggested narcissism to him. a little search on the web and viola! carter had his new book on narcissism - probably a weak attempt to repair the damage he did with his phobia theory.
   
   this book is a waste of time and dangerous. it will provide no answers. don't trust carter with your mental health.
   
   it took me five years to find the answers, after following carter down the wrong path. i finally found the answers i needed in two books - "the sociopath next door" and "without conscience."
   
   people with serious personality disorders aren't all serial killers. experts say 1 in 25 people is a sociopath. it just means they have no conscience, and can do anything without guilt.
   
   if your partner emotionally tortures you - i recommend you take a look at these books. "commitmentphobia" makes a joke out of something that could destroy you.



3. I should have known better. The profile of the commitmentphobic that I spent more than 7 years with was a never-married man who had had 4 children by 3 different women when I met him. He had never even been engaged to any of them! No commitment. This book opened my eyes to commitmentphobia. Before reading this book, I did not know that this was a true phobia. I also learned from reading this book about the different stages of the commitmentphobic relationship. Ours fit it to a tee! Be careful of the man who sweeps you off your feet. It is also critically important to honestly examine your own self to find out what attracted this kind of man to you in the first place. The advice in the book was invaluable. In sum, it says that the only thing any self-respecting woman can do with a commitmentphobic man is to get out of the relationship as soon as possible. He will try to come back! This is the "curtain call" stage of the relationship where he will try to go back to stage one and begin the whole saga over again. My commitmentphobe went so far as to break down and eventually give me an engagement ring, buy an expensive home, fail to move into the new house, and then refuse to set a wedding date. He simply could not do it -- just as the book says. He provoked me to leave -- a commitmentphobic's strategy that the book describes in detail. I consider this book an answer to my request for healing. Just knowing what I was dealing with has helped me tremendously. My worst-case commitmentphobic man now approaches the ripe old age of 60 and still has never been married! This is an important book to read as many woman don't know that they need to protect themselves from these kinds of men who will linger in your life forever in a relationship that is going nowhere -if you let them. Read the book and be set free.



4. I was distraught over the end of a relationship I thought was fantastic...four months of bliss and connectedness, he said he wanted to be my best friend, move closer so it would be easier to spend time together, he adored me, he was smitten. Then, let's take a step back, and a week later, he never returned my phone calls.
   
   I was an emotional wreck for several weeks - crying constantly, talking about it and looking online to see what I could find out about this behavior. I thought there were things I should have done, things I could have done to prevent this - I was really beating myself up. I found several books on Amazon and ordered them, in order to learn what I had done to destroy the relationship.
   
   I have to say this book has given me such clarity and peace of mind. Men Who Can't Love explains this pursue/panic behavior the best, and I am so ready to move along and not willing to waste any more time on a man who can not get past feeling trapped by love. A man who does not exhibit commitmentphobia may move slowly, but he will keep moving in the same direction.
   
   Just remember that he's just as afraid to commit to yes as he is to committing to a no, so don't get pulled back in. Put yourself first.



5. I just finished this book and sat right down to write this review. This book is very well-written. It is laid out in an itelligent fashion from beginning to end. One reviewer here mentions that there are too many personal testimonites, but I didn't think so. In fact, I don't know how the author was able to come up with so much content for the book WITHOUT doing so. The author has a very firm grasp on this topic. Expertise doesn't begin to describe it. I allowed myself to underline and make notes - related to my own recent relationship with a commitmentphobic man. I only dated that guy six weeks but I saw a lot of him in this book. I can't even believe some of the things the author said... stuff that might as well have come straight from MY mouth.
   
   My biggest OMG moment came on page 275. "Even at the Bitter End, he is giveing mixed and distorted messages - he seems almost incapable of giving you an honest, straightforward statement of either his feelings or his intentions." I know that quote sounds slightly elementary (like you could have composed it yourself) but that is EXACTLY what happened in my situation.
   
   Again, I only dated my CP for six weeks. The author pointed out TWO things that Steve did that were so incredibly specific... we're talking the Princess and the Pea here. This author can spot a CP from a billion miles away. When Steve and I would cross the street at an intersection, he would walk a lot faster than me and not hold my hand. Then he would stop, turn around and call me a slowpoke. The other example blew me out of the water. The author said that there can be tell-tale signs in a man's home that he doesn't want to get too close or eventually marry. One thing that really bothered me was that he never cleaned his bathroom. His house was the house he grew up in and I don't know how many years previous his mother moved out. The toilet had streaks of black all around the inside bowl. It was mold. His shower was worse. I couldn't even look at it. The book said, "he has a bathroom that no woman in the world would want to use." I just about DIED. Yep! This book nailed Steve in his little six-week buttocks. Even he couldn't escape the radar of the CP Expert, Steven Carter.
   
   This book is worth WAY more than the cover price. It has helped me a lot. More importantly than getting over this relationship, this book will help me to recognize future CP's and spare me untold amounts of pain.

No comments about Kama Sutra 365.

2 comments about The Art of Sex Coaching: Expanding Your Practice.

1. This book was so wonderful in helping me define my work as a sex and intimacy coach. It took a very broad brush approach and probably a book could have been written on each of her chapters but it was also wonderful to have so much information and so many references in one easy place. I'm sure I'll return to it many times throughout my work.



2. Patti Britton's "The Art of Sex Coaching: Expanding Your Practice", invites coaches and clinicians alike to recognize the importance of discussing the sexual concerns and experiences of client's in an open, supportive and non-judgmental manner. Dr. Britton provides detailed descriptions, and causes, of common sexual complaints presented by both single and coupled men and women, while offering sound interventions to remedy these complaints based on her MEBES (Mind, Emotion, Body, Energy and Spirit) coaching model. It was also refreshing to see that Dr. Britton included a chapter that specifically addresses the sexual concerns of gay, lesbian, bisexual and trangendered individuals and couples.
   
   The Art of Sex Coaching also draws from the work of several other sexuality expects such as Betty Dodson, and Joseph Kramer among others, and invites the reader to develop a framework for intervention that best fits their own style of working with people seeking assistance in addressing sexual concerns. Britton also draws limits between what her model can and cannot do, recommending that those who practice coaching be cognizant of the distinction between coaching related to sex and sexuality, and sex therapy.
   
   For clinicians who do not normally work with issues of sex and sexuality, it's important to understand that some of the suggestions provided in "The Art of Sex Coaching", may raise some anxiety, such as when Britton discuses taking a field trip with a client to a sex shop, or when she is discussing "hands on" vs "hands off" models of sex coaching. However, the information provided in Britton's work is easily adaptable to any out patient therapy setting and within the ethical framework adhered to by the clinician. Besides - if one only reads materials that are comfortable, one never has the opportunity to use discomfort to grow. Overall "The Art of Sex Coaching: Expanding Your Practice"- is packed with information and well worth the read!

4 comments about Getting Your Wife or Girlfriend To Become A Swinger.

1. This is the only book about swinging you will every need to buy. Don't waste your money on anything else. This book covers everything from how to convince your woman to swing to how to get into swinging and all the insides and outs of the lifestyle. I did not but the hard copy but bought the ebook. Happy swinging.



2. A couple weeks ago I had my first swinger experience and it was beyond hot - better than I could have imagined! It wasn't until afterwards that my husband spilled the beans and told me that he had read this book a couple months before and started applying everything he learned. If you would have told me a couple years ago that I would be enjoying our sex life this much, I wouldn't have believed you! This book is a MUST read - if it worked for me, it can work for anybody!



3. I felt much more confident and comfortable with the idea of swinging after reading this book.
   
   I never thought in a million years it would happen. Wow!!!
   
   The authors explain every step of the process. After finishing the book, we had our first experience and it was amazing. The book helped us avoid all the mistakes that new swingers make.
   
   The book guides you through:
   - Getting Your Girl To Want To Become A Swing
   - Avoid All The New Swingers Make
   - Finding Other Swingers
   - Protecting Yourself
   - Make You A Wise Swinger
   
   The best investment I ever made. Highly recommended read for those who want to stop fantasizing and start living it!



4. I think all these other reviews were written by the author or publisher. This book is an overpriced piece of poppycock

1 comments about The Spirit of a Man: A Vision of Transformation for Black Men and the Women Who Love Them.

1. I am a 21 year old black man, who for so long knew that there was more to life but could not figure out what it was. Months of searching lead me to realize that I had to become more spiritual. I went on to read numerous books on spirituality and self-improvement, but after learning these principles I had no way of applying them. This book showed me how to apply what i had learnt and also taught me a lot more things about life and my relationship with the Creator. This book is a must for every black man or woman who is at the entrance of the tunnel, sees the light at the end, but does not know how to walk through. Iyanla took my hand and I'm sure she'll take yours. After she has lead you to the light, you learn the ultimate lesson: you have been and will always be able to lead others through this tunnel.

5 comments about Conscious Dating: Finding the Love of Your Life in Today's World.

1. This book contains two absolutely marvelous concepts that really grabbed me. The big one was "Be The Chooser." It's not a new idea, but it was phrased in a way that helped me understand, very simply and solidly, exactly what it means to be proactive in looking for a good relationship. Another one was the clear explanation of the difference between dating for relationship practice, dating to find a life partner, and the big mistake of "dating to mate." and how to tell which you're doing and which you should be doing.
   
   Other than that, this book isn't all THAT new and different. After all, there aren't many relationship books that have something genuinely new to say. But it is approachable, accessible, and totally reassuring, which is a huge plus in a universe of how-to-find-love books that start with the assumption that if you're still single, there's something wrong with you that needs to be fixed. Thank goodness for a book that starts with the assumption that it's perfectly fine not to be racing down the aisle with the first likely suspect.



2. Hooray for David Steele! It's about time we learned that the most important person to please in a dating relationship is ourselves. Terrific voice and wonderful guidance as he explains how to determine your non-negotiables en route to finding the person you really want--and deserve!



3. Kudos to David Steele! Conscious Dating lays out the steps to move singles from dating bondage to dating freedom! This book is packed with common sense advice articulated in a warm and caring manner. This book empowers singles to "Become the Chooser."
   
   If you're feeling lost or disenchanted with the dating scene, Conscious Dating is a beacon of light!



4. If you want to change your life, find the love of your life and are prepared to radically change the way you date to do so, then you have to read this book! There are a lot of books on the market with similar themes - this one is different as it is very comprehensive, makes sense and it works! If the concepts worked for me, they'll work for anybody.Though be warned - if you are not prepared to do the work, you won't find this a quick-fix and you will be disappointed. But if you are through with game-playing, and open to some expert advice, just spend the fourteen bucks, will ya? You won't regret it!



5. This book is mainly directed at woman around 30+ and more imporantly people that have been divorced or widowed. It has mini stories every couple of pages with real life examples of his teachings as well as exercises at the end of each chapter. Most, if not all, of the examples given in his chapters involve woman, in one case a gay man, that have been divorced or had a bad breakup and their struggles.
   
   This book is written in the "self help" format with a therapist understanding. The description also talks about places to find singles, but the actual book gives little to zero notice on the topic.
   
   If you're a guy looking for a tutorial on talking to women this is the wrong book for you. This book is geared towards older adults looking to "get back on the horse".

5 comments about Before You Say 'I Do': Important Questions for Couples to Ask Before Marriage.

1. I received the book through Amazon's Marketplace, at a reduced price. The sender the very courteous and the book was sent in a timely manner and in very good shape. Thanks Larry! I've already glanced through the book and, wow!....I'm impresssed with the content. I'm looking forward to sharing those questions with my new-found friend. Yes, I'm liking him in that way :).
   Thanks Amazon...and thanks again Larry. Kudos to you.
   Camilla



2. This has been a great tool in getting my boyfriend and I to talk through different issues before marriage. Some of the questions we've skipped over simply because we knew the answers already. Others we've asked before, but it's always good to get a refresher! Other questions were ones we've never thought of before, which are exciting to ask.
   
   I would recommend this book for any couple who is seriously thinking about marriage because it gives a bunch of ideas for you and your special someone to talk about to get to know one another better. It's also a good tool to help determine whether you guys are really right for one another. There is also a section of questions to ask family and friends, which is nice.



3. If I had read and answered the questions in this book before I got married the first time, I most likely would have not married my first wife and it would have saved us a lot of heart ache. This second time around, not married yet, I am going through all the questions of this book and they are very poignant and practical. Every couple contemplating marriage needs to buy this, read it, answer all the questions together. It will give them a better picture of the realities they will be facing as a married couple and it will cause them to reflect and ponder the real issues perhaps causing the poor thinking due to infatuation to subside. I highly recommend it.



4. As a part-time minister who helps couples design and compose their own wedding ceremonies, I found this book helpful - as a 'tickler' to me in my interviewing and working with couples as well as a book to recommend to couples who are thinking about getting married. In my day job, as a therapist, I see too many couples who did not take the time to ask themselves and each other some of these important questions before deciding to marry.
   This book can be helpful if given without judgment in the spirit of friendship and support.



5. The cool thing about this book is that it isn't corny. After we went through it, I realized that I knew the answers to most of the questions but it was good to revisit them and then be able to say Okay.... I am ready to get married. Plus your partner will be nicely surprised to know how much he has been sharing, you actually remembered about him.