5 comments about Man Magnet: How to Be the Best Woman You Can Be in Order to Get the Best Man.

1. As with all these types of books you take what you want and leave the rest. I thought this gave some excellent validation to some of those "best woman" ideas that sometimes get lost when we get tangled in an emotional web. I don't know about it being the criteria for getting the best man but it sure reinforced the best woman that I had somewhat forgotten about



2. Good read. Author talks about some good points that you can immediately implement. I'd recommend it for any woman who wants to get more dates and attention for men.



3. Every woman should read this book. Ladies, it's back to basics time. This books repeats everything your mother told, or should have told you, when you first started dating. There's a reason for this... the advice is great and it works. If you want to regain control of your dating life, feel good about yourself and stop waiting by the telephone, buy it. Also, I would highly recommend another great book that could be helpful for many women - How to Cope in a Love Triangle: The Smart Woman's Guide Both books are worth the read!



4. I just finished reading this book and it is full of practical advice most I agree with. Like this book says it is all about confidence and liking who you are and making the best of yourself. I plan on reading it again



5. I have read a number of books recently to do with relationships; books written by either women or men, to give me a better understanding of how men think and feel and how I can improve my relationships and my attraction factor.
   
   Man Magnet was not only an easy and fun book to read, it really opened my eyes to why I've attracted certain types of men into my life over the years; some good, some not so good. If a woman really wants a better knowledge of how to attract (and keep) the right guy, then read Man Magnet.
   
   Below is a link to another great relationship book I read recently that I found very helpful and insightful.
   
   How To Keep Your Man: And Keep Him For Good

5 comments about Shacking Up: The Smart Girl's Guide to Living in Sin Without Getting Burned.

1. This book is absolutely *essential* for anyone shacking up. Whether or not your family (or your significant other's family) objects, this book offers helpful hints on cohabitating for you and him. It is written from a young, insider point of view by a magazine author and an attorney knowledgeable in this area. This is NOT a boring book on cohabitation trends, but rather is an exciting exploration into issues to come as you embark into living with your significant other. I appreciated the authors' depth of knowledge and ability to relate.



2. If you are in love with your man, skip the first hundred pages, which simply asks the reader: Are you sure you want to be with him? Assuming the answer is yes, you can move on to the actual shacking up part. This has some good info, but is drawn out for far too long. You can pick this book up in the store and skim the few useful chapters to get the main ideas. I gave up reading this book towards the end. I also read Unmarried to Each Other, which I enjoyed. Check out that book instead.



3. I would wholeheartedly recommend this book to any young woman who is considering moving in with a man. Shacking Up offers new insights and perspectives of "Living in Sin", and you can almost hear the authors speaking to you as a best friend figure.
   
   Stacy and Wynne Whitman really do give a 360 of living with your guy, describing the good, bad, and the ugly, without holding back. It even gives you advice for what to do if the relationship does solidify into engagement/marriage or if there is a breakup and you (or him) are left without a place to live. A big bonus is the section that advises how to best break the news to strict or old school family members.
   
   This book has real world legal advice, anecdotes, interviews, quizzes, and checklists, to keep you on top of things. Shacking Up is the ultimate guide, and with a little tough love tells the reader how not to be a stupid naiive girl in this delicate situation.



4. Personally, I threw this down at page 34: "If we weren't willing to take any chances whatsoever, we'd probably still be living with our parents, working at our local libraries, and hiding our hard-earned money under our mattresses."
   
   The tagline may be "The Smart Girl's Guide..." but this book seems to have been written for morons. I agree with the other negative reviews - it's extremely basic, and assumes the man is not wholeheartedly committed and that the couple is just rushing into this uninformed and fly-by-night. If you are actually a smart girl, read a different book, don't bother being patronized by these babbling bimbos.
   
   And working in a local public library IS not a risk-free, easy-as-pie to make a living.



5. This is a good book to read if you are thinking about shacking up. It is a very necessary book, because I have come across so few like it: informative about living together but modern and hip. IT IS A GOOD BUY!

5 comments about Babyproofing Your Marriage: How to Laugh More and Argue Less As Your Family Grows.

1. Very disappointed. I was looking for a book that would offer solutions instead of telling me how having children will make for a poor marriage. After reading the first two chapters, then you have read the book, the rest was just filler material. The book had an overall negative message.



2. I decided to give this book a read when my hubby and I found out we were having twins and though we each have an older child we brought into the marriage and have done the whole parenting thing before, we've never parented infants and very young children together and frankly I value our relationship with small children and without. This book was humerously written with lots of quotes and dialogue from men and women experiencing problems in their relationship as well as folks who are finding successful answers to relationship problems. I especially appreciated the chapter on sex which is a big issue in many relationships after baby comes along. Mom is exhausted and feels as sexy "as a loaf of bread" and dad maintains a pre-baby sex drive, what's a couple to do? Definatly keep this book around for inspiration and even a good chuckle when your to-do list is longer than the day is long.



3. I read this book upon the recommendation of a friend, more to see what was so funny than for the actual advice. The book lived up to it's rep as a funny page turner -- the anecdotes and quotes from both men and women gave both me and my husband quite a few chuckles. In some places, I found it to be a bit heavy-handed with its statement of the obvious, but mostly it seemed to present a fair picture of how men and women differ on certain child-rearing issues. I agree with a previous reviewer that this book can create a rather bleak picture of child-rearing, particularly for those contemplating kids. But it is the reality for quite a few couples and better for people to know that going in. This book actually made me appreciate how good I've got it most of the time. While I found myself nodding emphatically at much of what was said, other times, after laughing and then cringing, I would think gratefully of how much my husband does around the house and contributes to our joint child-rearing efforts. The tips offered this book are not for everyone, but the advice is mostly sound and it does work. My husband and I had actually come up with the same solution to ending the scorekeeping battle before reading this book, and it worked like a dream. No more battles on who has it harder, or who does more. We sat down and agreed on everything that needed to be done and who was going to do it and also added in who was going to get child-free time when. I couldn't complain that I was cooking all the meals because it's what I agreed to do. And in the same vein, my husband no longer complained that he had to give our daughter her bath every night because it's what he agreed to do. Our arguments (which were frequent) over the issue of who does what and who does what more often were completely eliminated.
   
   I recommend this book to anyone looking for some laughs on post-children marital relations and some helpful advice. It is a bit skewed towards women, and bashes on the men a bit, so I'd advise women to read it and mark pages for your husbands to read. It goes over easier.



4. I read this book when my son was 19 months old so maybe i wasn't feeling the adjustment i felt when he was just born. I know that a new baby can put a strain on a marriage especially due to lack of sleep ... but i couldn't relate to this book. My husband helped.. and continues to help.. so i just couldn't relate enough. This is for the far end of the spectrum with husbands that hardly do a thing. i could not finish this book because i was bored. Maybe to people who can relate to this book it would be great! but not for me...



5. Wow! Where was this book four years ago?! Our twins are four years old now and this book, though mostly geared toward new parents, has greatly improved my marriage. Both my husband and I have read the book and both of us had numerous revelations. Several times husband looked over at me and said, "you really feel that way?" Yup. Our communication is better, intimacy is better, and I am so grateful for the women who got quotes from lots and lots of couples and put this book together to let me know that I am not alone, unusual, and will get through parenthood.

3 comments about 52 Ways To Have Fun, Fantastic Sex - A Guidebook For Married Couples.

1. This book is a great sourse of practical information on fun ways to spice up your sex life. Nobody knows all the tricks to spice up a sex life but this book gives you some great tips and practical ideas to get you started and your sex life souring. Well I had a lot of fun.



2. This is a good book for young, innocent, newly weds. This is not a good book for expirenced couples that have lost their spark. I was expecting something more adventurous, and not so basic.



3. We've only been married 5 months so it was helpful. Probably wouldn't be if you'd been married for a while.

3 comments about So You're Getting Married.

1. This book is good for couples who are getting married. For first time marriage, the author provides wonderful insights into lives after marriage, expectations, how to communicate with your mate, and suggestions to handle touchy issues like in-laws, etc. For couples who have gone through unsuccessful marriage in the past, this book also explains the typical causes that make a marriage goes sour, and how you can free from your past and build a lasting relationship with your mate. Although this book is written from Christian perspectives, it can serve as a good resource for everyone who wants a lifelong marriage.



2. This book helped me and my fiance. As I was reading it I found that there were some things that we just never talked about and this opened the line of communication. Which made our relationship stronger.



3. Unlike many self help books, this book is written very concisely and gets to the point making it very easy, enjoyable, and quick to read. The biblical references and examples are very helpful too. This book has helped me tremendously. I think anyone getting married at any age for the first time should read this book.

5 comments about How to Marry the Man of Your Choice.

1. That which is rare is prized. This author's utterly horrific attitude toward virginity disgusted me. If a man can't wait for marriage, he is not worth having!! Don't listen to her drivel. The best way to get and keep a man is to be happy and mature. Take care of yourself (looks, health, and character) and be others focused. Don't waste your money on this thing!
   
   P.S. This book was one of several that I read before giving a dating lecture to teens. I would highly recommend "The Shy Single" and Dr. Phil's "Love Smart" if you are seriously interested in this subject.



2. I found this delightful piece of literary history stashed away in a huge thrift store this evening and bought it for pennies. I brought it home to my roommates where we had a rollicking good time reading and analyzing the pages filled with sage advice. This book has already been a huge sucess to the four of us. As we sat in our living room, my roommate was proposed to! This book boasts quick easy results and stands to deliver its promises. Highly, highly recommended.



3. This should be the single girl's bible! I read this book about 20 years ago and it changed my life! I couldn't hold a boyfriend to save my life. I just didn't have the skills. When I read this book and learned to ask questions of men and listen and truly make them feel great to be with me, I met a wonderful man about one year later and today we have been married 15 years! Thank God I read this book before I settled for some of the other men I dated. I made a TRUE catch and it was all because of this book. Maybe everything in this book isn't 100% correct but the communication part is right on the money. Buy this book and you won't be sorry! GOOD LUCK TO YOU!



4. Women need to get this one. I've read every "how to catch a man" book out there and this is the only one you'll ever need (well, other than DrPhils Love Smart, which is only second to Margaret Kent. Louis and Copeland's "How to Succeed With Men",don't buy that one, it's absolute garbage. How To Marry the Man Of Your Choice rates high because it is psychological.It takes you into the minds of men, their behavior and the nitty gritty of what they expect, what makes them tick, and most importantly why they marry. "The Rules" is all about behavior guidelines. If you don't know the psychological workings of men, you won't be having much success. All the other dating self help books are philosophical, or full of junk science,and they never work. Margaret Kents book rates high for me because it comes with a master plan-which is what single women need, not another book on their plight. Two thumbs up.



5. Read the book and learn how good solid relationship progresses. How to help initial attraction grow into love and commitment.
   I did it in 2000, met my husband in 2001, got married in 2001, still crazy in love, more every day.

5 comments about Power Persuasion: Using Hypnotic Influence to Win In Life, Love And Business.

1. I am utterly amazed. Much of this book is just a rewrite of Unlimited Power by Tony Robbins therefore other than as a quick recap on NLP, I see little use for it. The author should have at least given credit to Robbins rather that just simply trawling out his lines, virtually word for word....Even the example taken from Brian Tracy on the 3% who wrote down their goals has not been credited to Tracy........Waste of time



2. that David Barron has some excellent audio and video products. I was really expecting great things from David when I purchased this book, based on some of the other quality items I have of his. But there is nothing new hear in this very brief book that hasn't been covered more extensively in other NLP and sales related books such as Donald J. Moines' "Unlimited Selling Power," a must have for any sales person.



3. David Barron and Danek Kaus in "Power Persuasion" have provided an amazing strategy for helping you make your dreams come true. They provide step by step instruction, using many of the most powerful persuasion tools and techniques available. The book will show you how to influence people by developing the magical art of persuasion.
   
   I am eager to put into practice some of these skills in my business and social relationships to encourage others to believe in themselves helping them to attain the realization of their goals
   
   The authors use military linguistic patterns in examples to illustrate how to use lead questions and statements in a conversational style to produce logical choices based on perceived anticipated benefits. I enjoyed the challenge of learning to use "weasel words," "embedded commands," "modal operators," and "metaphors" in the process of influencing others.
   
   You will be amazed at the new positive behavior you experience as you work through the suggested exercises. These exercises are designed to stimulate your imagination, your communication, and your persuasive skills. You will learn how to develop the use of your subconscious mind, how to improve your sensory acuity, and how to recognize when you have established rapport in a relationship.
   
   Put this book on the top of your "must read" list. You will find it to be one of the most powerful instructional tools available today.



4. Reviewed by Paige Lovitt for Reader Views (12/06)
   
   "Power Persuasion" was written by David. R. Barron and Danek S. Kaus. Barron is a communication and persuasive expert trained in Hypnosis, Neuro Linguistic Programming, and Social Influence. Kaus is a former clinical hypnotist. He has trained doctors and nurses on how to use hypnotic medical techniques. Both authors apply their expertise into this book. They give you the techniques that you need to use to influence, friends, loved ones and business associates. They say that this book will "Give you the tools to help make your dreams come true."
   
   Persuasion is defined as, "that seemingly magical ability to influence other people and yourself." The techniques offered here will give you a better understanding of how the mind works. Whether or not using these techniques is right or wrong is based upon your intentions of why you are using them. The authors do not recommend that you use these techniques for improper purposes. The goal is to do good for oneself and the other party involved.
   
   Every chapter offers exercises to assist you with perfecting each technique. These are not skills which will be acquired overnight. The exercises are very interesting and seem fun. The goal of this practicing these techniques is to have fun and maintain your sense of humor. You will also need to set specific goals so that you will know exactly what you want. You will improve on your body language and conversation skills. Some of the techniques for these skills are derived from Neuro Linguistic Programming. These techniques will also help prevent miscommunication.
   
   I found this book to be very interesting and easy to understand. I look forward to seeing how well I progress as I practice the exercises. To progress, I will be reading "Power Persuasion" many times. I see it as an invaluable tool for improving on my communication skills with others. The techniques presented including mirroring and matching will help in my communicating with people that have limited English skills. I encounter these people daily. In addition to becoming an expert at persuading others, I also feel that I will be able to recognize when others are using these techniques on me. All things considered, I highly recommend this book.



5. This books is fantastic on persuasion. It is precise and clear on getting to the point quickly. I have it kept on my desk when wanting to use persuasion in my work or any other area of my life. Great book. When would now be a good time to purchase this book.

5 comments about What's Your Dosha, Baby?: Discover the Vedic Way for Compatibility in Life and Love.

1. While reseaching information on Ayurveda & Dosha's, I came across Lisa Marie's whatisyourdosha.com, which turned out to be very interesting. With an easy quiz, you can find which Dosha fits your personality and get a basic understanding of what it is all means.
   Her new book, "What's you Dosha, Baby?" is a wonderful guide to understanding how you fit within this Dosha and how it works within your lifestyle. Most highly valued is the information on compatability with anyone in your life. Other suggestions cover best forms of exercise for you mind/body type as well as foods best suited. It is a wonderful way to introduce oneself to this ancient pratice/belief way of living.



2. When I got this book I had just hoped to get informed about the various ways to improve life by learning new principles of mind & body. However, after reading it, I'm amazed by the wealth of information I got. Deepak Chopra has rightly said on the front page of the book that Coffey brings the timeless wisdom of Ayurveda to a contemprary audience and shows us how to discover more about ourselves and our relationships. I totally agree with his words and word like to congratulate Lisa Marie Coffey for coming up with such a profoundly amazing book!



3. When I first picked up this book, I expected to learn something about Ayurveyda, my "dosha", and considerations regarding my health, diet and well-being. This book was very informative in this regard and presents the information in a way that westerners can understand. I was pleasantly surprised to read further that Ayurveda has something to say about relationships. By understanding the nature of each dosha, I can apply the understanding to all of my relationships. This book is an enjoyable read and I learned something new.



4. Who would have thought that the ancient Vedic health science system from India could give rise to a highly effective and hip Western guide to creating successful, harmonious, and exciting relationships!
   
   WHAT'S YOUR DOSHA, BABY? does that and more. Take the quiz and learn your dosha. Take the quiz and learn about the dosha of your significant other. Bring greater harmony and joy to your relationship than you could have dreamed. The principles apply across the board - business relationships, the sister you never quite understood, the relationship patterns you'd like to do differently and with more satisfaction.
   
   I'm giving this book to everyone on my holiday list.



5. Lisa Marie does an amazing job of taking ancient knowledge and putting it in easy to understand language. This book is a quick read with a wealth of information that is easy to understand and apply now!

5 comments about Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others: The Fascinating Research That Can Land You the Husband of Your Dreams.

1. This to-the-point and without-fluff book gave me wonderful insight on how to spot a player and other poor marriage candidates. I also learned: choose a younger guy/ in the marriageable age of under 37 or better- under 35 (I'm over 40), don't instinctively dump him on the second date/ before getting to know him (I'm *really* glad for that!), accept that sooo much of his attention will be directed toward his kid while she gets used to me (some of this I would not have tolerated before), don't EVER clean his apartment (who knew?) and bring up marriage after 18 months if he doesn't bring it up first. But I believe he will. :)



2. Great book, wish I had read it two years ago! I started dating a man who said periodically that he was never getting married again, women, men always mean it when they say that. Take their word for it. About eighteen months later (which Molloy recommends as the right time to discuss the C word) I told him I was apartment hunting, and my boyfriend asked to me to get my things and move out. I dropped the bomb on him and said that one reason I was looking for another place to live is that I don't know where he stood on marriage, I told him (above his protests) that I believed I was good enough to be a wife, and not a cohabitant or concubine. I realize that common-law marriage is recognized in Georgia, but why should I settle for common-law marriage by default? Any man who has no intention of marrying you (even after you browbeat them like some of the women in the book did) but thinks its alright to live together, to me that guy is never gonna have your back, so my instincts have been right on track. As the authors said, "Women who marry refuse to settle for less than marriage" (including cohabitation.) Ladies, the truth will set you free. He told me if I was willing to wait, even two years, he might "consider it" He then said I didn't have the patience to continue, to which I replied, "You want me to keep giving you free domestic service and sexual favors for two more years? Don't you know how incentive works?" He's 2X divorced and well into his 50s. I could be dating younger and trimmer men with less baggage, I thought, boy was I smart to pick up and leave, and not stay years on end as a man's personal slave! Women 30 and up need to get this book! Remember if you are good enough to live with you are darn sure good enough to marry. Always let the man know that, and don't shack, even though Molloy never mentions cohabitation, it is the kiss of death to committed relationships...Good luck.



3. Well, I didn't utterly LOVE this book. But as a Romance Coach and one who purports Online Dating etc. naturally, I have read this book.
   
   It is worth a read.
   
   Interesting enough it is one of the few dating books which was actually RESEARCHED.
   
   However, the author shows his research background because he does not know how to engage his audience, who would clearly be Unmarried Women, and likely those over 35.
   
   The one point he makes which I think is utterly fabulous is his noticing that women who marry are often those with a gaggle of girlfriends with whom they regularly go out where all are making an effort to meet men and marry.
   
   This is SUCH sound advice.
   
   Fun too!
   
   Take it.
   
   Read this book. It's worth a read. I can safely recommend books where I can leverage at least a few of the ideas. Not CHOCK full of ideas for getting more dates like I am, but some good ideas. Those books are worth reading.
   
   This is one of those.
   
   Enjoy!
   
   All the best,
   
   April Braswell
   Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach



4. I was in a relationship that lasted four years and went absolutely nowhere and I could not figure out why. After reading this book, I realized that there were red flags from day one and I did not know enough to clue in on them. I decided to put this book to the test. First, I decided that my life would not be complete if I was not married so I dated with the idea that I was looking for a prospective husband. If, after a few dates, it was evident that the relationship would not lead to marriage, I moved on (I was 27 and didn't want to waste time in relationships that were not going to give me what I wanted). Eventually after a few months, I met my current boyfriend and the material in the book gave me insight into our relationship. The chapter regarding "age of commitment" was/is especially helpful to understand when a man of his educational and professional background would be ready to commit. Right now I am planting the seed regarding marriage. I actually came right out and told him that I want to marry him! It's still too early to tell if this tactic will work but he was very receptive to what I was saying. So I guess we'll have to see...
   
   The bottom line is that I felt this book was intuitive and really helped me. I think it will be relavant to most single women, even those over 35, considering that so many couples are getting married at an older age. I just bought myself a second copy on Amazon. I loaned out the first copy and never got it back. It is definitely the type of thing I'd want to refer back to.



5. This book is so well researched, as the author constantly reminds you, that is quite hard to argue with the evidence and theories presented. I found this book very enjoyable reading because it was so packed with statistics and real life examples. The book is full of help, advice and information on what exactly motivates men to marry women,and this subject is divided in to the various stages of men's lives, the various kinds of men and their various baggage, and the kind of women that men marry.
   It is fresh, original and informative.
   It's not a manual on how to get a man to marry you, but it will help you look at your man's marriage potential with a new perspective.
   Check it out ! You will learn something new! I also highly recommend another great book How to Snag a Guy and Keep Him Hooked: 99 Ways to Make Him Ache for You

5 comments about Should You Leave?: A Psychiatrist Explores Intimacy and Autonomy--and the Nature of Advice.

1. I listened to the audiobook, and frankly I had to re-wind a few times to understand what Dr. Kramer was saying. It was almost like having an insider's view of what psychiatrists think, the thought processes they go through when deciding what techniques to use with patients. This book takes patience, but if you have the patience to re-wind or re-read, it is highly worth it. It was interesting to hear him talk about directive vs. non-directive approaches to therapy and when each is most applicable. I would have liked to see him include more examples of couples with children having problems. It seemed like a lot of his examples included childless couples. Also, a lot of his examples included those high on the socio-economic scale, which may turn off Johnny Lunchbox and Susie Middleclass.

   I wish he would have included more about Rogerian therapy, and it's non-directive nature. I also would have found some more references to religion interesting. All in all...it was a good book. A lot of thought went into the work, and I can certainly tell Dr. Kramer majored in English in college. Perhaps he would be better at writing fiction..just a thought.

   Jeffrey McAndrew
   author of "Our Brown-Eyed Boy"




2. "Should You Leave" is Peter Kramer's contribution to the "Self-Help
   and Relationships" genre. There is cleverness working on several
   levels as he goes from one anecdotal narrative to the next as so many
   other books written by psychologists have done. But Kramer's goal is
   not to give advice, it's to make the reader stop and think about what
   advice is in the first place. He also builds on the themes he first
   developed in "Listening To Prozac" and goes into the problem of how
   undiagnosed depression can poison relationships and bring people to
   the edge of divorce. The only real criticism you can level at this
   book is that it was written because of the success of "Listening To
   Prozac" and doesn't really have a strong reason to exist, other than
   to provide Kramer with the opportunity to meander though several
   themes for no other reason then that they are of interest to him as a
   therapist. In the end he pulls off the rather clever trick of writing
   a "Psychological Advice Book" that's a treatise on the nature of
   psychology and of advice, but no real advice is provided, just a lot of
   shrewd observations and food for thought. Do you think that's just a
   little too clever? If so then you can skip this book, but if you're
   still interested, good for you because you're in for a treat. This
   book has better and more insightful psychological writing then you're
   likely to find in any other dozen books on the subject. I have no
   trouble recommending it.



3. I bought this book because I wanted to preview it before giving it to two close relatives who had asked me for advice about ending marriages. I survived 19 years in a miserable marriage, ten years single, and now 5 years in a wonderful marriage, so have seen all sides. This writer believes that there is never a good reason to leave any marriage. His entire premise, repeated chapter after chapter is variations of the same conclusion: If you want to leave your marriage, it is because you are suffering from (pick one: depression, commitment phobia, hypomania, or narcissism etc.) He says that if your marriage is miserable, it is your own misery infecting the marriage and you will surely be jhust as unhappy in the next so you may as well stay and be miserable or happy where you are. He raises other possible reasons for a person to end a marriage only for the purpose of belittling and dismissing them one by one. I pity anyone in a bad marriage who reads this book for an honest discussion of when you decide it's bad enough to leave. His answer is: "Never." There is growth in divorce. There is life after bad marriages. If more people knew what the good ones felt like, they wouldn't stay and wonder "should I leave?" for nearly so long.



4. If you are of a couple, whatever your situation, this book is a tour-de-force of elegantly insightful writing that will open your heart and mind. Dr Kramer's advice is of a subtle intelligence that will surprise and delight the close reader. Embrace this book and live with it for a few weeks. You will be rewarded.



5. As the author himself admits, this book is an "odd hybrid of fiction, nonfiction, and self-help." No doubt this book contributes a wealth of vignettes, theory, and what borders on advice. But, at times the mix seemed to be a bit too much. In addition to the high-density content, the writing of this book was often quite cumbersome and clunky.
   
   Nonetheless, this book does provide quite a few insightful comments about evaluating whether to stay in or opt out of a relationship, including: "You are not far from where you ought to be; Whom you have chosen speaks to who you are; There are limits to how different things will be if you exchange this partner for another; Change enough; Change yourself; Use the relationship as a place in which to grow; Expect discomfort."
   
   Appropriately, every so many pages I asked myself "Should You Leave?" this book. But, the more time and energy I invested in this book, the more I tried to stick it out, discomfort and all. I suppose I used the author's advice of using the "relationship" (with the book) as a place from which to grow. But I have to admit, I felt much relief when I finished the last page and could take what I learned and finally leave.