5 comments about After Goodbye: How To Begin Again After The Death Of Someone You Love.

1. One reviewer said this book was little more than "fluff". I believe that lots of people look too much to external sources for the "magic bullet" to make them quit grieving.

   In my grief (widowed) I have found that this book was one that really got it right, and one of the biggest things to give me support was just being able to read someone who understood what I was going through.

   Menten, while I don't think he was a widower like me, somehow does a fantastic job in getting it right.

   I would highly suggest this book and will give it to other widows/widowers in the future.




2. I think this is a marvelous little book. Ted Menten puts everything in perspective pertaining to grief. I cherish this little book.



3. This tiny book evokes tears, smiles and nods of understanding as Ted Menten's vignettes hold our hands through the process of grief. As a counselor myself, it is evident that this author has spent many hours in the company of grief. The beauty of his book is that it embraces and validates what only grievers know: you don't get over things and move on, but you move on holding your loved one forever in your heart.



4. thank heavens there are lots of books out there on grieving. This one was NOT for me, but I am glad to see that it has been helpful for others.



5. Enjoyed this little book and found it helpful to me following my husband's death. A portion of it was used at the memorial service and I had many requests for the title and author, so it obviously struck a chord with others as well

4 comments about So You Wanna Be a Sexy Bitch: Raise Your Game from Overlooked Nice Girl to Skilled Chick Everyone Wants to Get With.

1. This book is tons of fun.
   Gives great, REAL LIFE advice.
   Tons of confidence boosters....LOVE IT!



2. This is an excellent book, all the way around. It has real advice, too, things that you can acutally apply in the real world to get more of what you want. It's about being a confident woman and sexy at the same time. Loved it!! I also liked Good Sex: A Woman's Guide to Losing Inhibition.



3. it was alright,it was more like a refresher of things i already knew. just pick up a cosmo,its more informative than this book i.m.o



4. I've been told I suck at flirting, and I know that. So I hopped on here to find a guide, and this book was reccomended.
   
   There are, in sum total, 10 tips for flirting in this book. The advice on how to attract a man is the same stuff your mother told you. Dress sexy, love yourself, turn your feet towards him, and smile coyly is basically it.
   
   The rest seems to be a manual for a woman recently married with very little knowledge on sex.
   
   It all seems to center on spicing up positions and role playing with your long time partner.
   
   As a newly single gal, I found barely anything I can use in this. Everything about STDs and positions, BDSM and roleplay I already knew from being, well, a 27 y/o female in today's world.
   
   I would only reccomend this to a young woman in her early twenties, married for less than 2 years, who grew up learning nothing about sex, maybe in one of those high schools with those worthless abstinence classes.
   
   For that demographic, this is the perfect book. But for the rest of us women, there ain't nothin' in here you haven't already read in Cosmo.

3 comments about Cosmo's Naughty Notes: 100 Sexy Stickies to Tease, Tantalize, and Turn On Your Man.

1. These post-its are perfect for sooooo many many things. You can use them as qeues for your partner to know to expect something later on or RIGHT NOW!
   
   There are so many different occassions that the messages are pre-written for. There is one for getting a raise at work, holidays, not feeling well and even some blank ones for something truly naughty that the writers of Cosmo couldn't even think up!



2. I am living overseas, and this product arrived WELL BEFORE the anticipated date so i was happy :) As for the product itself, the notes dont really tear out that easily, but with a little work they're fine...and naughty ;)



3. O.k. - this is probably not a fair review since I have not seen this item first hand, but from the description above I have to ask myself, "Can't you do this yourself?" Really, if you are into your man and know a little bit about what he likes, why not buy a pad of blank sticky notes and write your own? Geesh ladies - use a little imagination! LOL!

5 comments about Stealing Your Life: The Ultimate Identity Theft Prevention Plan.

1. It's a fallacy that our elected officials take forever to get things done. Two examples where Washington acted with speed are with the National Do Not Call Registry and the Sarbanes-Oxley Act.
   
   The National Do Not Call Registry was slated to take effect on October 1, 2003, but various marketing associations challenged its legitimacy and even if the FTC had the jurisdiction to enforce it. Notwithstanding, President Bush speedily signed the bill authorizing the no-call list to go into effect in September 2003 and the United State Court of Appeals upheld the constitutionality of the registry in February 2004.
   
   On June 25, 2002, WorldCom revealed it had overstated its earnings by more than $7 billion by improperly accounting for its operating costs. Senator Paul Sarbanes then introduced Senate Bill 2673 that same day where it passed 97-0 less than three weeks later. The House and Senate formed a Conference Committee to reconcile the differences between Sarbanes's bill and Representative Michael Oxley's bill (HR 3763) and on July 24, 2002, the Sarbanes-Oxley Act of 2002 was passed.
   
   The bottom line is that when politicians really want votes and PR, they can act swiftly. The frustration is exacerbated when politicians choose to do nothing when it comes to identity theft. In Stealing Your Life: The Ultimate Identity Theft Prevention Plan, Frank Abagnale details the frustration that consumers face (and will face in the years to come) when their identities are stolen, the ease at which the criminals carry out such crimes, and the months and often years of effort required to regain ones identity.
   
   Abagnale's tenure on the criminal side long ago gives him the advantage that he knows firsthand how criminals think and such an outlook is pervasive throughout the book. Looking at the current state of identity protection, he states that he is personally horrified at how easy identity theft is. In fact, he calls it "a crook's dream come true". The book details incident after incident where criminals and criminal gangs obtained credit in someone else's name with ease.
   
   What makes this worse is that the book shows how we haven't even scratched the surface of the identity theft problem. Everyone, including the FTC agrees that current identity theft figures are quite low, due to the fact that so many cases go unreported or undetected.
   
   The book notes that lenders often miscategorize a good deal of identity theft because it looks like delinquent bills, as opposed to a crime. Only later does the victim realize what has been going on and complains, at which time it becomes apparent that fraud was involved. But by that time, the money has been written off as a credit loss and then appears as negative information on the victim's credit report.
   
   Like many other books on the subject of identity theft, Stealing Your Life: The Ultimate Identity Theft Prevention Plan covers the main issues, and makes numerous suggestions on how to control your identity. What is interesting about the book is that Abagnale also focuses on why identity theft is so popular for today's criminals. One of the main reasons it that the person committing the crime has the odds significantly stacked in their favor. The book quotes a Gartner study that found that identity thieves have roughly a 1 in 700 chance of getting caught by law enforcement, which is a figure any criminal would jump at.
   
   The books 13 chapters are written in an easy to read and compelling style. The early chapters detail the prime causes of what makes identity theft such a problem and astutely notes that a large part of the problem is that financial services companies are conducting business today by doling out credit like candy and do almost nothing to ascertain that people really are who they say they are when applying for credit. In addition, issuers of credit in their haste to rack up more business frequently accept a social security number from an applicant at face value, without demanding proof. The book lists many examples of where children and dead people have been given credit.
   
   In chapter 6, the book lists 20 steps one can take in the hope of preventing identify theft. The author notes that since the punishment for identity theft, and the recovery of stolen goods from identity theft are so low, the only viable source of action is prevention by the individual. All 20 steps are fundamental, from protecting your social security number and examining your financial statements, to using a shredder and more.
   
   Chapter 8 lists one of the more important points of the book, in which Abagnale writes that all credit and personal information should be opt-in based, as opposed to the prevalent opt-out requirement. Such an approach is what one would hope Congress would mandate, but does not have the tenacity to do. The problem is that if a consumer does not opt-out, they are giving the financial institution permission to share their personal information with the hundreds and often thousands of affiliates they share data with.
   
   Companies obviously prefer opt-out, which shifts the burden to the consumer to take action to keep their information from being shared. With opt-in, the burden shifts and the financial services company has to prove that consumers granted their consent to have their personal information shared. National opt-in requirements would significant stem the flow of personal information, which is in part why identity theft is so easy to carry out.
   
   Aside from a glaring error in chapter 12 where Abagnale erroneously writes that true authentication is impossible on the Internet and occasionally hawking companies he has financial dealings with, Stealing Your Life: The Ultimate Identity Theft Prevention Plan is an interesting and entertaining book on a subject of the fasting growing crime in the USA.
   
   The book details what happens when an apathetic Congress and financial services industry do almost nothing to protect their constituents, and the thieves who have never had it easier. These identity thieves are able to acquire gigabytes of personal information without ever having to leave their workstations. When you factor in that the odds are in their favor of never being prosecuted, it leaves nearly every individual at risk for identity theft.
   
   With Congress dropping the ball and doing nothing, Abagnale shows that it is up to each individual to take responsibility for protecting their own personal information. Stealing Your Life: The Ultimate Identity Theft Prevention Plan is indeed a great place to start such an approach.



2. The truth is -one can't appreciate the vast amount of time it takes nor the physical and mental angst that comes with finding out you've been violated, and essentially stolen...until it lands in your own life! I applaud Mr. Abagnale for speaking out and using his wealth of knowledge and life experiences to shed light on this growing and alarming crime.
   Typical and common myths that leave many people vulnerable include:
   
   "I don't have to worry about identity theft because I live in a small town like Mayberry, RFD!"
   
   or "I only use one credit card so I don't have to worry about it."
   
   or "I only use cash or my debit card."
   
   Or even... "I don't have to be concerned about my credit -I have excellent credit!"
   
   The reality is -data breaches will continue to happen as "hacking" gets more sophisticated, and criminals will continue to be at least one step ahead of us at all times. Once upon a time, our personal information was just that -ours and personal! Not anymore! Give Me Back My Credit!



3. Got this book from the library, read it and then ordered copies for each of my three grown kids. It's a little scarey at the beginning, makes you wanna crawl in a hole and avoid the world. However, it does give a number of good ideas on ways to protect your indentity later in the book. Enjoy



4. There is excellent knowledge in here. Identity theft feels less likely after we made most of the changes suggested. Highly recommended.



5. Frank offers good practical advice here. This is not an incredible book by any means but more of a guidebook with examples of how to protect yourself. I think Frank a little short with the structure here and could have kept me drawn in a little bit better.

5 comments about The Journey from Heartbreak to Connection.

1. THe clarity and empathy in this work saved my life.



2. I just wanted to comment on another reviewer's words before I give my review. The book does zero in on getting past abandonment to establish a healthy romantic relationship, but the things that made you an abandoment victim may or may NOT have had anything to do with with prior romantic situations. See more in my review that follows:
   
   I got involved with a woman who has abandonment issues that stretch back to her disapproving/abusive father, all the way up through two abusive ex-husbands. All she's ever known was abandoment (at least from an emotional perspective). Abandonment, according to this book, can cause a person create all sorts of obstacles to true emotional intimacy because they're afraid of being hurt again. Thanks, in part, to this book, we're getting past many of our respective issues (I was dumped by an ex-wife) and learning how to love each other without reservation. If you've been emotionally OR physically abandoned in your life (even if it was just an alcoholic or "absent" parent), you could be what the book calls an "abandonholic." Get this book... it's full of good stuff to help get you out of a truly destuctive mindset.



3. I read the author's other abandonment book first. This one is so much better. The publisher needs to start printing it again.
   
   As I read this book, I felt like she was reading my mind. How I long for my ex, even though they treated me badly. How I yearn for them. How I criticize myself. One of her principal arguments in this book is that your amygdlada, your emotional brain, is responsible for these feelings. You have to take it from the amygdala and put it into your cognitive brain. She has numerous exercises to do this.
   
   What spoke to me most about this book was the information about abandoholics. People who are addicted to the unavailable, and when someone actually likes then, the fear engulfement and push the person away. She explains the cause of this and has exercises to open yourself up to more mutual love.
   
   An excellent, excellent book. I'm not done yet, but I'm what the author says, that these experiences will take us to a richer life, are true for me.



4. No exaggeration, this is some holy stuff! Like the two prior reviewers indicated that Anderson does mainly zoom in on romantic relationships however it makes sense in a way since non romantic abandonment issues do seep into romantic relationships. I hope that made sense. At any rate, she takes note of many little things that people may feel during the break up process that we take for granted and she guides us through the motions. I think she shouldve focused more on self esteem issues though and immediate gratification as being a cornerstone for this dilemma. Other than that, this book is timeless...I hope Im not exaggerating.



5. This book was well worth the extra money I paid. It is a wonderful encouragement for those of us who have gone through abandonment more than once. I highly recommend it to anyone who is hurting, and needs encouragement, and help.

2 comments about The Multi-Orgasmic Woman.

1. I am writing a book about women and sex myself. In the process of researching for the book I constantly read books on gender, sex, and sexuality. This is the first `how to have better sex' book that has captured my imagination. It is well written, well organised, underpinned by the best of Western and Chinese sexual knowldeges and best of all, if you follow the suggested practices it does make a difference. I thoroughly recommend it.



2. Lots of good info, but not into the chi excercises they want you to do to accomplish the full multi orgasmic female that I can be.

5 comments about 101 Ways to Help Your Daughter Love Her Body.

1. Few parents with teen-aged daughters escape the frustrations of dealing, at least on occasion, with a daughter who feels she should look like the image on a fashion magazine. At this trying point in a girl's life, a great many insecurities can arise ranging from peer pressure to lack of confidence and self-esteem about appearance. Through the media, i.e. television, movies and fashion magazines, teens are often programmed to think only thin is acceptable and unless we have a the face and body of a fashion model, we will never be accepted and never be noticed.

   This book is an excellent source for working with your daughter to help her understand that true beauty lies within, not on the surface. Each of us has our own unique beauty and style and rather than try to cultivate what others have achieved, we should be individualistic and cultivate what we have been given. This is a book where Mom's and Dad's can both play an active role in dealing with the often frustrating day-to-day problems of a teen-aged daughter, and by doing so, helping her feel more confident, happy and healthy, both emotionally and physically.




2. This Author is Fantastic and an inspration to us all as mothers and as women!
   Way to go Elaine you've hit it out of the park on this book! I recomend it to all mothers!

   Your Friend Desiree A Make-A-Wish Volunteer whom you have inspired even more! ;-}




3. I read about this book in People magazine and thought it sounded good. Wow! I want to buy this book for everyone I know who has a daughter. Starting from babies and moving through each stage of a girl's life, this book gives sound, quick advice in a very easy to read format to help girls love their bodies. There is also a great section for Dads too. If you have a daugher. Get this book. It is a must read.



4. I have never rushed to my computer upon finishing a book to write a review, and I hardly think a book that's been profiled in PEOPLE magazine needs my help, but I feel compelled to RAVE about this inspiring and hugely helpful book. There are so many of us who understand that bulimia, anorexia and morbid obesity, while frightening problems, are but the tip of the iceberg of the eating disorder that seems to have ensnared all modern females. The notion that a life-long battle against the body is a given MUST be combatted, and authors Richardson and Rehr have pulled out some brilliant tools to help us win--or, rather, stop--this war. With language that reminds us of a smart friend at our kitchen table, they shine a flashlight in the corners, tackling issues that other books on this topic ignore. What to do with the heavy girl whose mother is thin? How does adoption affect body image? How can we emphasize to our daughters what's important, without denying the pull of pop culture? I came away from this book with not only incredible insight, but at least a dozen practical ideas I can use right now with my daughters ages 7 and 10, who are both already struggling with this issue. I thank my lucky stars that these two women met at their daughters' schools, and got around to talking about more than playdates and homework. Any mother with a daughter needs this book!



5. This book should be read by every mother who has a daughter. Who knew we could have such an impact on our daughter's self image. What an awesome responsibility!

5 comments about The Secret Psychology of How We Fall in Love.

1. I found this book to be very interesting, it provided insight into the male mind,and how women should behave during the different phases of courtship, so that you can build a friendship & emotional bond. It also provided examples of red flags & when we should run! It explains the process of how we mature emotionally; the different levels of maturity. (I found several men I've dated in the past to be at the "Reptilian" or "Emotional" stage at best.) It provided advice on how to be more emotionally mature, and how to handle stress/anxiety, etc. and the characteristics we each need to achieve first before we can move on to have a nice, lasting relationship. The diagrams in the book weren't useful to me, and often the explanations were repeated several times, but overall this is an excellent book if you really want to understand the psychology behind how we all think. Definitely not one of those "fluff" books on how to 'snag' a man!



2. what a great book!if you want real help finding the right man,this book is for you.the author includes tests to use on men to see if they're right for you.he gives the reader a "roadmap" that relationships should travel if they are to be sucessful.if you're a fan of sex in the city,there's a section that will blow your mind.he attaches a "type"to each of the four women and explains how all women fall into one of those types.then he explains which type of man is your best compliment.i learned real tools not just the same b.s like most other dating books.



3. This book is incredibly insightful!
   All my friends borrowed it and I ended up buying it for 3 friends!!!!



4. I haven't received this product yet, so cannot give a proper review. Has this item been shipped or sent to the wrong person? It has been over 3 weeks or over a month now since it was ordered. Thank you.



5. I bet there are many more women like me that weren't taught the ins and outs of the courtship process as shared by Dr. Paul in this enlightening and easy-to-read book. Yes, I've read and heard about boundaries and have worked on them for the past 15 years as I became aware of my childhood issues and what needed to be healed. But the way Dr. Paul explains how boundaries come into play within the context of our love relationships, makes it so much more clear and makes me realize why relationships fail or make it. Being somewhat analytical, I also love the way Dr. Paul has identified the three phases of the process two people go through and gives insights about men that I've never considered before. Wow! I learned a lot and I love this book!

5 comments about The Family Jewels: A Guide to Male Genital Play and Torment.

1. When we hear or see the term CBT we think "torture" and that usually makes us all cross our legs. But Haberman's book is really focused on creating intense or simply pleasureable sensations for male genitals in ways that do not involve intercourse. The book has four main divisions: anatomy, safety (please don't skip over this one), basics & toys of CBT, and finally a collection of nine short stories to demostrate the first three sections. The stories aren't really arousing, they are more instructive. If CBT is something you've thought about but know little about, this is a great place to get information. Read it with your partner and you can figure out what he is interested in.



2. Let's get all the cliches out of the way first. "The Family Jewels" is a gem. It is precise, finely cut to spec and invaluable. In fact, the first time I laid eyes on it, my first thought was, why didn't anyone think of this before?

   Hardy Haberman has filled a void in the SM literary canon that not only give tips to the experienced edge player, but to beginners as well. There are also a few chunks of anecdotal scene evidence to add the touch of hard-on reading that any book of this nature needs to keep the entertainment value at a maximum.
   
   You may not be familiar with Mr. Haberman, who considers himself a "Pain Technologist." He specializes in CBT and has an unusual fondness for clips, clamps and clothespins, as well as more exotic SM play. I recommend this book to anyone with even a passing interest in learning about esoteric genital play.




3. I Purchased this book for my Mistress. She read it entirely in one sitting! She very much enjoyed the look on my face as she described what she had read.



4. My wife loved the book and has found it very informative. She was not aware that she knew so much through our trial and error methods, but now more errors....just more fun.



5. I found this book to be easy to read, well organized and very informative for the beginner. It covers safety issues and guidelines, as well as offers suggestions for play. Im glad I purchased this book!

5 comments about Sexual Ecstasy: The Art of Orgasm.

1. My disappointment with this book was that it simply re-prints information from Margot Anand's book "The Art of Sexual Magic". So if you already own that book, you should look for something else. Otherwise, the information in it is good. I had just hoped it was something new.



2. This is a good book with helpful direction and good illustrations. It could have had a few more color pictures but overall a good book. Can definitely get your man interested in exploring more of your body.



3. Perhaps it's me, but it wasn't what I hope.
   Sure, the book have its points, and in a way explain the basis for the neofit... but, I don't know, I really expected something diferent than a semi-tantric introduction to the Art of Orgasm.
   Anyway, as a reference... bad choice. For peak into other point of view about sex could be interesting.



4. Outstanding, the ideas and techniques presented are workable and enjoyable for both partners.



5. Less complicated than her other books, Sexual Ecstasy is a strait-forward book, well written and well illustrated. I am Enjoying it a great deal.