5 comments about I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye (Updated Edition): Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One.

1. I bought this for a friend who had lost her husband. She thanks me all the time for the book. She said it was well written and helped her a lot throughout her grieving.



2. I liked this book and would recommend it for anyone who has lost someone suddenly or for anyone who wants to understand what that person is going through. The authors speak from personal experiences and offer different perspectives on how people experience sudden loss. The book goes into the stages of grieving and then discusses how others are affected when they loose a parent, child, partner, sibling etc... The book includes exercises for dealing with the grieving process. There is also a workbook available with more tools for dealing with this type of loss.



3. This book touched on a lot of helpful topics following the loss of a loved one. I gave the book as a gift to my mother when my father passed and she found some comfort and guideance from this selection.



4. I highly recommend this book to anyone who has to make sense of living through this difficult time. It follows a timeline from the death time and assists the reader to make sense of what has had to be dealt with. The advice is practical yet lovingly given. The book covers all the situations that may have to be encountered; in my case the suicide of an adult son. I found the information helpful and comforting. As a family we have used it and found it invaluable for us all as we adjust to the sudden loss of a loved one. The authors have rendered 'normal' our responses to such a tragedy. Within that, we are not alone.



5. I would buy again from this seller!
   This is not my kind of book.
   I should have researched the contents.
   The Seller is AWESOME!!!!

5 comments about Taming Your Gremlin (Revised Edition): A Surprisingly Simple Method for Getting Out of Your Own Way.

1. Rick Carson does a great job of providing a practical approach to managing one of the most common challenges for people of all ages and stations. If you are looking for detailed clinical case studies you will be disappointed with this book. On the other hand if you have a sense of humor, or did at one time, this book will entertain as well as inform you. When you apply the concepts to your own life you will be even more pleased.



2. This is a great book for readers who are willing to engage in some potentially serious self exploration with a real sense of humor. In the end there is no right or wrong way to "do" self exploration. The important thing is that we do it.
   
   Carson offers some excellent strategies, insights and suggestions for raising awareness around the self talk (Gremlin) that holds us back from achieving our full potential. I particularly enjoy and appreciate the reminders to simply observe our own process -- to remain mindful and in the current moment context.
   
   Fun illustrations engage our childlike (and sometimes childish) desires to bring the Gremlin to life, encouraging curiosity, imagination and play while downgrading the potential power of the Gremlin itself.
   
   This is definitely not for everyone, but as a coach the question I would ask is: what is it you are resisting and why? The information is solid and has the potential to be life changing. Sometimes that which we resist has the most to offer. And sometimes it just isn't a good match. Open the book and see what happens for you.



3. I have read the book several times and keep going over the chapter on awareness. It is the most helpful information in the book and very practical. Mr. Carson presents the "gremlin" as a means to convey these ideas, so take it with a grain of salt.
   
   In truth this book has led me to search for others on the same subject and as such has been tremendously valuable.



4. The voice that keeps you awake or wakes you up at 2am is that gremlin described. I have started using the taming technicques and wish I had learned how to notice, decide and choice options years ago.



5. This book was specifically recommended to me by a lifecoach I've been working with. Like many people I frequently get in my own way. I related to the idea of "Taming your Gremlin", believing that the gremlin is that part of my brain or habit that tells me what to do and what I had better not do all the time. The lifecoach calls it the Saboteur. This book explores the problem of our powerful and deeply internalized voices that tell us what we can and cannot do,what we do and don't deserve to have in our lives. This author is clear,direct and amusing in his approach. The book describes common situations and scenarios, offering advice and guided exercises. Illustrations, imagery and anecdotes are used to connect readers to concepts that might otherwise be somewhat abstract. I haven't completed the book or gone through all of the exercises yet but I plan to keep using it for a while. It is handy to pick up when you are anxious, stressed, feeling stuck or stymied by your own fears. It can definitely be helpful to increase awareness and offer simple and effective strategies to deal with these deeply ingrained thoughts and habits.

5 comments about Life Without Ed: How One Woman Declared Independence from Her Eating Disorder and How You Can Too.

1. Thanks to this book I can finally say I'm on the recovery path. I have suffered from an eating disorder for eight years and never thought I would live a "Life Without Ed". When I purchased this book I thought it was going to be like all the others, useless in helping me to gain control over and move beyond my eating disorder. Boy was I wrong, it helped me to look at things in a new perspective and changed my way of thinking completely. By separating myself from my eating disorder I was finally able to disobey and fight back. For me, knowing "Jenny" was just a page away helped me to do what was necessary in recovery. I am and forever will be grateful to what this book has given back to me. I highly recmommend this book to anyone as a tool to "Divorce Ed" and get back what they rightfully deserve a "Life Without Ed".
   
   Sandy Peterson



2. I love this easy-to-read story of triumph!
   I provide this book for all of my patients and their families to read at the outset of treatment with me to help them understand the mindset of someone struggling with the chains of ED!
   Thank you Jenni for sharing your wonderful story!



3. this book changed my life...its one of the greatest book, it help you realize that you are not alone and the "feeling" in each moment! i love it!!!!!"!



4. When my daughter was first diagnosed with anorexia, and before we had even worked out her treatment plan, I jumped online to find info...Life Without ED was the first book I found and ordered, and before I could even read one page, my daughter claimed it, read it, and to her, it was a god-send. Jenni is so real, honest and vulnerable as she shares about her battle with and victory over ED. My daughter felt like she was reading about her own life in many way..she finally knew she wasn't the only one! and it encouraged her that there is hope. Once she started treatment, it was the ONE book each of her treatment team wanted her to read...and she already had! For anyone living through this wicked disease, this book is required reading and will keep the hope alive. Also a must for supporters, family, friends of those suffering from ED.



5. This book was a good look into the mind of a person with an ED but it's not one of those books I need to keep and cherish - or mark up and highlight or refer back to. My husband read a few chapters and gave up - too much the same. I keep trying to finish it, concerned that I will miss something important if I don't. Our daughter has her own copy and I think for her it is important - it helps her verbalize her feelings and really gives her somebody that she identifies with. But even she, a month later, has not finished the book. Perhaps down the road I can loan it out to someone to save them some money.

5 comments about Reinventing Your Life: The Breakthough Program to End Negative Behavior...and Feel Great Again.

1. I keep some of these on my shelf for patients and they really enjoy reading it as an accompanyment to therapy. I even gave one to my teenager hoping she might avoid some of the relationship traps that I see in the clinic and to help her understand the behaviour of her friends. A good book for everyone.



2. Ever wondered why you are never happy with anything you do? Why it is you always think you could have done something better? Ever wondered why your bosses always get angry when they don't get what they want, or why they can't accept `no' for an answer?
   Now, I'm not one for self-help books. You're not likely to see me browsing the `self-help' section at my local book store. Not that I don't see their value. It's more that having studied Psychology for five years I reckon I should be able to work that stuff out for myself...
   
   On a more serious note, I don't believe in quick fixes and magic seminars that sort out all your life's problems in one weekend. But I'm a great believer in empirically-based and research-driven frameworks to anything, including self-help.
   
   And that's where this book is different. Unlike other self-help books, Reinventing Your Life is comprehensive. It doesn't just deal with depression or obsessive compulsive disorders; it deals with a wide range of personality problems.
   
   OK, so now you're thinking, that sounds heavy, a book for real `nutters'. Well, no. Reinventing Your Life is suitable for all of us. It helps us figure out why we do the same things over and over again even though they're really bad for us (like falling for the wrong man, attracting friends who use and abuse us etc). Reinventing Your Life also helps us figure out why the people around us keep doing what they do, even though their actions and attitudes are bad for them!
   
   The book's main premise is that the behaviours of most people are strongly, but unconsciously, influenced by lifetraps. Lifetraps are patterns that begin in our childhood and continue reverberating within us throughout our lives. When the lifetraps are really serious they result in personality disorders which require formal therapy. But here's the catch, even if they aren't that serious, they can still have a significant impact on our lives without us even knowing it!
   
   What I like about this approach is that even though it's based on serious academic work, it's written in a very accessible style. Each chapter is dedicated to one of the eleven lifetraps and begins with a short `women's mag' type quiz. Don't let that fool you. These quizzes are serious and have rigorous validity and reliability. Each chapter then goes on to describe how the lifetrap presents in its more severe forms - reading this of course made me feel better because I could see even I'm not that bad! It also provides some good strategies for you to work on if this is your lifetrap.
   
   And, if you think you are absolutely lifetrap-free, then read it to figure out why all the people around you are so crazy!



3. My therapist introduced this book to me several years ago, and it is uncannily accurate in pointing out which childhood experiences skew behaviors in our adult lives. Very highly recommended.



4. My past months pick for best books are the two SKBF Publishing's best selling which was recommended by anther reader and I am glad I listened
   1) Rumi & Self Psychology (Psychology of Tranquility)
   2) Sara's Therapy: The Way to Purity (A session by session therapy for self growth)
   3) Seat of the Soul



5. I have used many different practices and therapies myself with Dr. Young's Schema psychology as the model of what has been my ever pervasive problems. This book is a very elementary introduction and is very well centered on the practice of self-understanding. I would recommend this book as a starting point in self-understanding and/or therapy.
   The most important point I have to express is that schema therapy stands out over other models of psychology. It seems like those psychologies where you tend to "type" yourself. To try to understand my withdrawing/defective patterns I have found personality typing psychologies that seem to say that "you are just this way and must learn to deal with it." Schema psychology says that "yes you have these tendencies and a personality but they need not keep you away from a complete life." I say read all you can on the subject and find a therapist if need be.

5 comments about Happiness Is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual.

1. The book seems to focus on excepting things that you have the ability to change to improve your life. If you really want ot improve your life, make the changes that are neccessary.
   
   Missing tile syndrome... Please.



2. This is a great book! I have purchased several copies and have passed them to some unhappy people (ie: Mother-in-law). Explains how to understand how to be happy.



3. There are some thought-provoking areas which could be helpful. However, the book contained more intellectualization rather than insight, and at times, served as a platform for the author to showcase his achievements and knowledge. Prager makes several bold statements and generalizations regarding religion, relationships, and life in general, which I did not agree with. Especially with his opinion that ALL men are constantly battling their insatiable lust to be with other women. But like I mentioned, some of the concepts and perspectives are helpful. I just take what is useful and disregard the rest.



4. Current events make that happy mindset a bit harder to find. Dennis Prager agrees that happy is not easy nor even necessarily fun to achieve. His bestseller "Happiness is a Serious Problem" contains timeless wisdom; it is no less relevant today than when it was published 10 years ago.
   
   This "Human Nature Repair Manual" can be used in an aphorism-a-day sort of way but has none of the saccharine qualities found in that sort of self-help book. Prager himself notes "...the chapters of the book can be read in any order. Each...is largely a self-contained unit." The advice within is practical, spiritual but non-denominational, and written in the same, sane, soothing voice that Prager brings to his radio show.
   
   No sense paraphrasing that which works so well, so consider these bits of wisdom as you contemplate whether or not to order this book:
   
   "[T]he Buddhist teaching is of universal importance. If we understand expectations to mean certitude that something will happen, that we can take the good we have for granted...then expectations lead to unhappiness....and undermine the most important source of happiness-- gratitude."
   
   "...[I]deally, we should awaken every day and be as happy about our good health as if we had just received the wonderful news that a [suspicious] lump was diagnosed as benign."
   
   Need a guidebook for gratitude? Seeking sufficiency in life? This is your book.



5. Dennis Prager has synthesized the true essence of happiness. Myself, going through a lot of soul searching as a real estate broker and the tremendous difficulty of that found this book to be just what Dr. Prager ordered. In short, our happiness is not based on our surroundings, happiness is a choice, a decision, and a blessing. Be happier - read this book!

4 comments about How to Be an Explorer of the World: Portable Life Museum.

1. I really enjoyed reading this book. Each exercise seems like sound advice from a caring friend. Reading Keri's blog, or any of her wonderful books is a great place to soak up inspiration.



2. I bought this book without really looking inside of it. The cover was colorful and it was in the journaling section of the bookstore. That seemed like enough to me.
   
   I could have saved myself some money if I'd taken a minute to skim through it. The majority of the book is about picking up things you find on the ground and starting collections with it. She goes on at length about how if you are bored with your surroundings you just aren't looking hard enough. I have to disagree. Sometimes a location is just boring and telling me I'm not trying hard enough isn't going to change that reality.
   
   This book will probably be appreciated by fans of her other books, but for those who aren't familiar with her work, if you are looking for eye candy or deep thoughts, this isn't the place to find it.



3. Smith's newest book is the most recent installment in her passionate, ongoing process to distill life and the art process (indistinguishable to most artists) down to it's bare matter. If you can embrace playfulness, open courageously to the idea of art as life, are willing to turn off the television and look around you, love to challenge yourself to learn to BE and create from essence as opposed to trend or fancy, Explorer is for you.
   
   As an author, she seems to live her life exactly the way she writes (as one can easily pick up when visiting her blog The Wish Jar Journal).
   
   As an artist, she is apparently very well read on the subjects of art and life and willing to push beyond art school rules to find her own voice among so many artsy voices that seem to blend together these days. For an insightful, modern perspective on gathering the fodder to create amazing experiences, I was not disappointed with this book.
   I completely disagree with other reviews which state that this book is not for deep thinkers. I find her simple, freshened concepts to be timely and revolutionary, just what artists have been missing from our creative processes.
   I also recommend Wreck This Journal and Guerilla Art, also by Keri Smith.



4. this book is cleverly written and has some wonderful ideas for exploring your world. most all of them are ideas I have never seen before and want to try in my sketchbook. there are examples too. I highly recommend this book for the artist, journaler or someone that just wants to see their world with FRESH eyes!

5 comments about Living a Life of Inner Peace.

1. The cd itself is good, good information if you are on this path, but Tolle's laughing in the background is a little off putting. It is more of a snort than a laugh, so at first I wasn't sure what he was doing. If you can get past that though it is good.



2. We really believe that people are born very special no matter what is their background; the pollution of life, ego, Maya, we our selves changed our natural of being in peace. We can feel peace every where " in the sky, birds, children, " but not in our selves because our ego just want to shut it down , once again in a moment of silence we remember that we are alive, no matter what are the circumstances . we are here, no matter how much we think we are suffering.. this CD taught me how to let go ? yes , and accept my self the way I am , also I have to thank God that I really have everything, I don't need more I just want peace.. In some how you feel this is not easy.. if so,this CD will make it so easy with the real examples that touch every human life, we are not suffering from life , life is great, our ego what made our diamond become less in shine and now is the time to polish this natural Diamond. Buy it you will love it.
   
   Zoooz



3. Been going through all his works, text and audio cds, and he's a breath of fresh air, smart, wise, funny and very relaxing. Highly recommend it.



4. Its hard to pick which of Eckhart Tolle's books or CDs I like better but this one says everything in a short 2cd format. I have several of his works but this one is the one I keep with me if I travel or I'm driving--it keeps me on track. Thank you.



5. I may be a bit bias towards anything that Mr. Tolle has to say but nevertheless I found this audio book to be another source for me to use to soothe my soul and quiet my mind.
   The quality of the CD may surprise you as it is just a recording of a seminar however it's the wisdom that comes from ET that I crave.
   Yes, in my opinion ET can't have enough products out there to help people become aware and conscious and still.

4 comments about 101 Sex Positions: Steamy New Positions From Mild to Wild.

1. There are a lot of books on sex positions out there, but this one really captured our attention. My wife and I found ourselves pouring over the book, passing it back and forth in a crowded Borders cafe pointing out to each other our favorite pages. The photography is excellent and very hot...and we found plenty of things we will be trying.



2. This book is informative, but don't expect 101 positions. The book has many variations of the same position, which gives it the 101 positions. I was a little disappointed, as there really wasn't anything I wasn't expecting to see in terms of positions that I wasn't aware of. But all in all, if your in a funk and need a memory jogger this is a good book with good pictures demonstrating the positions without being smutty feeling. The pictures allow you to thoroughly grasp the positions without focusing on the male and female organs that would take away from the real intent of the book.



3. This was a great book. My husband and I had a lot of fun with this. I recommend it to other couples looking to experiment with their sexuality and their love for each other.



4. I bought this book for my boy friend's birthday, he loves it!
   It's full of pictures in good taste.... it gives us great ideas in the bedroom. We also read it together for fun, we eat popcorns while pointing out how flexible people are in the book. ha!

5 comments about The Voice of Knowledge: A Practical Guide to Inner Peace.

1. I have read and enjoyed previous work of Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements, The Four Agreements Companion Book, and The Mastery of Love. This last book I've probably liked better than the other ones. I'm not sure why. Maybe it's because it's a lesser known book or that it was a bit less mystical than the other ones.
   
   In any event, I found The Voice of Knowledge to be a very insightful piece of work. It was easy to read and had a section titled, "Points to Ponder" which helped summarize the major points in each chapter. I also bought the The Voice of Knowledge Card Deck which has all of the major points contained in 48 beautifully illustrated cards. Some examples included: The truth is perceived with our feelings, All of the drama humans suffer is the result of believing in lies, mainly about ourselves, and Heaven is here, but we need to have the eyes to perceive it.
   
   Ruiz's work is vital to my deeper understanding of human behavior. It is important to me as a relationship/personal development author to give really good advice in terms of awareness, skills, and strategies. And this the, The Voice of Knowledge, helps to keep me on track so that I can be of better service to those who trust in me for sound advice in their dating, love, relationship, and communication areas of their lives.
   
   This is a highly recommended book for those with a higher awareness and seeking deeper understanding of the invisible forces in our lives.



2. I didn't know what to expect when I received this book, which was a recommedation, but since I've listened to it, I have become a big fan of Dr. Ruiz. I listened to the book twice now, and will probably listen one more time just to pick up all the fine points. It will open you up to a lot of new ideas, and possibly some important solutions.



3. I got this book as a gift and I enjoyed reading it.
   The message is clear, that we must not let our negative thoughts control us as they may be very well false. Those negative thoughts coincide with the idea of the negative introject studied in psychology.
   
   The one thing that I did not like about this book was that it kind of got new-agey, where the author shuns the idea of external evil. Yes, a lot of evil comes from lies within, but I wouldn't agree with him that the reason why the world is in strife is because of that. Read Political Ponerology by Andrew Lobaczewski to learn that some people have no empathy, and tend to rise to the top of positions of power.
   
   But, I agree that we should not be discouraged by these people, and fight for truth. So I give the book 4 stars.



4. I read this book thoroughly, as I have all of Don Miguel Ruiz's books. The contents and voice in this book is truly powerful. I have begun to experience a Self-Love and Peace I could not of imagined. I practice the Four Agreements daily, and have agreed to follow the powerful, spiritual, ancient suggestions Don Ruiz clearly depicts. I highly recommend this book to anyone who wants freedom that comes from being and loving your authentic self.



5. To be honest I never would have bought a book that said Toltec on the front cover. My daughter had me read it. I found it to be so profound that I bought 4 more to share with family and friends. I really, really felt such a big change in me and everyone has noticed it. Some chapters go in to Toltec that was kinda weird but the gist of it was awesome.

5 comments about Surviving a Borderline Parent: How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds & Build Trust, Boundaries, and Self-Esteem.

1. At last, a voice and a reasoning to make sense of the chaos, drama, physical, emotional violence of my parents and my own inner dialogue as an adult from this toxic environment. If you are willing to do the work and wish not to repeat the family dynamics, this is the book to guide you.
   One of the best resources written on this subject; gets to the heart of the issues from all aspects and provides a mental and emotional reprieve from the pain.



2. I read this book, and kept notes beside me as I touched on how some of the content was relevant to my mother... and discarded what didn't really relate. (kinda like going to a Chinese Buffet).
   
   Obvious at times, the book talks about the pattern of our parent's life and our life as their child... the pattern that has always been there, ebbing beneath the surface. The clinical names for episodes in our lives, the specific scenarios, and suggested lines of thought... all stretched your mind toward a better SELF AWARENESS and UNDERSTANDING of a loved one in your life who is ill.
   
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   I especially liked the boundaries portion.
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   Pontificating and understanding is a good personal step... but don't cuddle up with the pain and emotions here in this book. This shouldn't define who you are...
   
   After a couple of months... I re-read the book... thinking of my siblings, and what traits and flaws each of us developed as cooping mechanisms to survive such a self involved parent.
   
   After another couple of months, then I re-read the book... thinking of myself... and my own child (currently pregnant).
   
   What do you do with the knowledge depends upon your strength of character and personality... knowledge for the sake of knowledge or righteousness or even indignation would only exacerbate the family situation. A quiet knowing and goal to always improve yourself is all that you can expect of a self help novel.
   
   I recommend the Tao of Pooh. I recommend looking at the patterns within your own life and taking responsibility for them. And if you are a person who draws strength from your church community... I recommend that time and energy as well.
   
   GOOD building block book... but don't fall down the rabbit hole.



3. I generally do not mind when a primary author does not have a specialty in a subject, especially when they have a coauthor who does. In this case, the writing is down-right poor in many cases and just ok in most. The author clearly has no personal history or professional experience with the subject, relying entirely on other texts and resources. There are topics that are so poorly explored that one is left feeling like these authors cared more about getting a publication out than really dealing with a reader's experiences or the subject matter. In some cases, section headings were unrelated to the paragraphs that followed.
   
   The reader is encouraged to get the book through the library, look up the references and then go get those books. Topics are dealt with in brief and unfulfilling ways. The lists of what to do and what to think about are ok, some poorly thought out, and then there is no real discussion about what to do with all the thoughts and ideas once you have made the endless number of lists.
   
   Do not buy this book until you have seen a copy from a library. There is little in here to really produce a solid understanding of the condition. Yes, there are some helpful suggestions, but these authors clearly have had little personal experience with the BPD person. Frustrating, not helpful. There are better resources. But some may like the lists, of course some of these lists requires superb memory of your childhood and dialogue with parents. For many of us children of BPD people we have frozen memories and have only senses of what was said.
   
   Idealistic treatment ideas, they might work for some. Much better work out there on the subject.



4. I would give this book five stars for research alone, but all of these books regarding Borderline Personality Disorder seem to be inter-plagiarized amongst themselves with the same research and facts and only a smattering of examples of adults who still suffer the consequences of growing up with a Borderline parent.It is both laughable AND nauseating to read how we should be "calm" while in the throes of being pummeled, beaten, slammed against walls, having our hair torn out, being shoved onto the floor and the relentless SCREAMING. I TRULY would like to see any of the authors of these books act in a "calm" fashion while being repeatedly smashed to bits on a daily basis. I am sorry to find out, 41 years too late, that my mother suffers from BPD; it took 41 years for me to become friends with a young woman who diagnosed my mother. After that, I frantically purchased this book and two others and the "coping" suggestions are completely ridiculous. The only thing/s the authors get correctly is that we are guilted into never leaving these horrible parents. In MY case, my mother has repeatedly threatened to kill me, jeopardized relationships with boyfriends, bosses and landlords, and screamed at me until I felt certain I would go deaf. Yes, I have remained calm, but having my head slammed repeatedly against walls, banisters and doors, as well as my integrity, emotions, feelings and reputation being equally pummeled by a nonstop barrage of insults, accusations and commentary has made me an extremely unhappy woman, and a very damaged one at that. I cannot even sleep due to my mother's abrupt appearances either at my home or place of work, if I hang up on her when she is insulting or screaming at me on the phone, she rages a personal vendetta about me to anybody who knows me and worst of all, is that when I was younger, I reported her insane behavior to my neighbors, doctors, school nurses, school chums, teachers and even the police and NOBODY DID A THING. 30 someodd years ago, there WERE no Social Service agencies in place to remove me from her dangerous dungeon and worst of all, if I had the audacity to complain about her relentless abuse, these people would question my mom, if they did anything, and this would make her so enraged, the beatings and screaming would escalate. My older brother only was her target for a few years and all he simply was doing was defending himself verbally. She kicked him out of the house at age 19 and ironically, as she has refused to work for 15 years now, I tried to help her by paying all her bills, ruining my credit twice, filing bankruptcy and never being paid back the nearly $50,000.00 I kept outlaying for all her ridiculous bills and debts. Whenever I complained, and justifiably so, that I had my own bills to pay, she bashed me so hard and screamed so loudly I truly prayed every single night I would go deaf, or simply die already. Yes, I also rented five apartments in my name after we were homeless and living in motels together, she refused to live in any of them; I even bought a house which she demanded I buy and refused to live there, so I immediately put it back on the market until it sold, I lost thousands of more dollars DUE TO buying that house, gave her back the profits when it sold, because of her repeated violence and threats to kill me (she'd given me money as a downpayment and never even told me she HAD any money and when I'd complained that she should have paid me back, I got bashed to bits), and her latest accusation is that I KEPT MONEY from the house when it sold, when it was absolutely not true. It is true that people with BPD come up with bizarre accusations, but what is most troubling of all is that these three books I have purchased TRULY did NOT touch base upon the fact that the violence is instant and savage and relentless in nature. They say violence "can occur", well, I have never seen anything the likes of what this horrid woman pulled on me my entire life and thank God I no longer live with her, but she still makes repeated threats against my pets, job, relationship with my boyfriend and I never know what this insane woman is going to pull next. She always is well-behaved around my brother, so I don't see how this can be a disorder when she can control her vicious rages, screaming and violence while in the presence of my brother, but the moment she sees me, she goes off on her un-ending screaming, insults, accusations and that painful hitting. I finally hit her back once, when I turned 30 and she practically murdered me from simply trying to defend myself. Yes, I have written letters to her doctors and positively all of them must be quacks, because NOBODY finds anything wrong with her. I have had horrendous Jewish guilt trips laid on me my entire life to keep taking this vicious woman's crap, abuse, insults, screaming, punching, hitting and hair pulling and she is crafty and manipulative enough to lie about me to everybody who knows me, thus these people question me relentlessly about how I can let my mother "suffer". This woman has her Social Security to live on, yet after supplying some 300 links to rentals from CraigsList, refuses to rent a place; instead, she either flies back and forth to my brother's home, or else she stays in motels for months at a time. She complains positively 24 hours per day and never has a kind word to say to me. So I say to the authors of these three books, you couldn't BEGIN TO KNOW what it is like to live with somebody who hates you so ferociously and thinks nothing of breaking your hands, giving you fat and bloody lips, black eyes, who tears out your hair, and slams you against walls, kicking, punching and screaming at you. Your suggestions are beyond ludicrous. You couldn't possibly have been put in the position of trying to placate these insane people, who REFUSE TO SEEK HELP!



5. I didn't love this book, however there isn't anything wrong with it necessarily, it just wasn't my style. It was well written and gives you what it says it will. I'd also recommend the book by Sarah Shikitao-Brown, Tao Cycle Therapy: Natural Happiness via Self Directed Cure for Chronic Anxiety & Depression [Updated 2008 3nd Edition] Her book is about the root of these issues, not just the cosmetics.