No comments about The DIVORCED PARENT.

4 comments about Broken Families Broken Homes: Protecting Your Family from the Epidemic of Divorce.

1. This is a must read for any man who is getting married, having an affair, unhappy at home, fantasizing about other women, raising children,or using drugs or alchohol. It is a must read for clergy, marriage counselors, or any person giving counsel to men, women or couples on marriage. The author comes accross as giving a lot of advice, however the advice is powerful, hard hitting and will cause you to think about being a better person. Rick Douglas hits the nail on the head about our elected leaders in this country and what needs to be done to begin a cure to this epidemic of broken homes and families. I suggest that any women feeling a victim of husband or ex-husband behavior needs to read this. It is easy to read with no hidden meanings or agenda.



2. A tremendous read for every person! The author really brings out cutting edge points on the divorce conundrum. This book needs to make it's way into every home in the country. This is a must read for every politition on Capital Hill as it spells out not only the damages caused by divorce on a personal level but the damages caused by divorce on a social scale as well.



3. A totally cathartic experience for me. I realized my marriage was,unfortunatly, not unique-not the only one to go through these devastating ills. The author lays out clearly the things that chip away and erode a marriage. Truth is no couple imagines their marriage will be temporary. The issues this seemingly "regular guy" talks about are the exact things that led to end of my marriage. I wish my first husband would have read this before he decided to cheat, before I couldn't forgive and before my kids had to start their life in a broken home. I recommend this book to all married people and those considering marriage. It is a frightening reminder of how easily we can crush something so precious, and just how far reaching the effects are. A great wake up call to America and a must read for any man you love and want to be happy.



4. In today's society, one mired by mass marketing geared toward instant gratification, microwave dinners, the commercial promise of the good life and the drive through divorce Mr. Douglas has worked diligently to lay down a road map to avoid the pitfalls of the all to common broken home. In what could be referred to as the "me first" era the author explains the incredibly destructive effects such thinking can have not only on our personal relationships but those of our children and our children's children. Mr. Douglas espouses upon his belief that popular culture, the media, and even our politicians are to blame for the shortcoming of our commitment as a nation to the sanctity of the family unit. In the classic sense, we have all become a product of our environment one in which jealousy, adultery, divorce, and gross miss use of power have become all to common place. (Perhaps so much so that they have become almost the accepted or expected norm). An interesting read that I think anyone can learn from.

1 comments about Boys Without Dads: When Dads Abandon Homes.

1. Before the Americans settled here, there is quite an extensive history of English bastardy from the practices of warlords building their armies by producing bastard children, loyal only to them, but not a part of their family as we know it today. Although leaving a family does not subject children to this same outcome, the dynamics of "children alone" may be much the same when they are left. The same might be considered true of children of divorce, or in cases where Dads are gone constantly, and especially in cases where unwed mothers have children so that a child does not, and cannot, know who his or her father is. Such children have no role model at all and are forced to take by observation and interaction what they can learn in order to fill that intellectual and psychological void. The emotional void is likely never filled for there is simply no way of doing so. When they become men, such loners are especially dependent upon the emotional attachments they make with their mothers, usually, if that is possible, and certainly with the spouses who become their wives, requiring often an unreasonable level of trust and loyalty because of the substitution requirement of having had no Dad, and even sometimes, no Mother who was reliable or caring. These neglected and forgotten children are not well represented in our culture since there are so few of them, and people often do not think about the fact of their existence, how they exist, and/or what encouragement and motivations they require to thrive. Very, very few books, if any, are written on how to deal with bastard children, particularly bastard males who have the most extraordinary uphill battle of children without fathers (or parents) since they must invent themselves as they go along. There are huge gaps between what we surmise is the nature of family, and what are the actual practicalities of what exist in the human marketplace, over the wide world. One might suggest they exhibit characteristics of refugee children, and that might begin to characterize the nature of the dilemma of having no role models by which society expects children to learn about life, love, community, and the world, as well as how to work. Some do extremely well by virtue of the fact that they haven't preconceived notions, provided they have someone who cares about them, but there is absolutely no certainty that they will have this kind of relationship. It is something society should give considerable thought to, regardless of gender, and regardless of our minimal efforts to typecast society as we tend to do. What attitudes does a fatherless child bring to the task of parenting, being a spouse, or even being an employee with no role model?

No comments about File for Divorce in Georgia, 7E (Legal Survival Guides).

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1 comments about The Great Divorce.

1. This little book is a total joy to read. I know that the author makes it very clear that one should not suppose that he is factually presenting details of the afterlife, yet, in the end he has created a most satisfying image of a plausible afterlife. As for the title, he is referring to the poet-mystic William Blake's Marriage of Heaven and Hell. He points out that this is a synthesis that can never be, for to do so would compromise the absolute Goodness of Heaven, thereby making a Hell of both. Perhaps there can one day be a marriage of Heaven and Earth (thereby showing both to really have been Heaven all along), but never of Heaven and Hell.
   
   I loved the imagery of Hell being very much like a never-ending city on Earth where it is always twilight and eternal night always on the verge. Yet, it is not a crowded city for people keep moving apart because they cannot stand each other's presence. That's just it. People dwell in Hell by their own choice. It is the obsessions that separate them from God and the highest Reality that keep them from leaving. It is even shown that such higher impulses as love and pity, if unhealthily indulged in for their own sake and for nothing higher or transcendent, can keep you in Hell. Yet, this Hell is also Purgatory for those who workout their obsessions. In fact, there is a regular bus service to Heaven for fieldtrips that serve just that purpose (I always suspected that the omnibus originated in Hades.)
   
   As for Heaven, it is perpetually just the moment before dawn and eternal day. The idea that Heaven is actually more substantial than Hell, or Earth, is reasonable, since it is after all the more Real of the two being closer to the Creator. Indeed, the visitors from Hell appear as pale and insubstantial deformed ghosts who find the adamantine hardness and density of the higher plane physically painful (even walking upon the grass.) The residents of the realm however are radiant spirits who do everything that they can to point out the mistakes and illusions that the ghostly visitors still cling to- and which are the only thing keeping them from traveling higher up and farther in to the one true goal. The most detailed and believable of these tutelary spirits is Lewis' own spriritual mentor, George Macdonald.

2 comments about Protecting Your Assets from a Georgia Divorce (Successful Divorce).

1. This book is published by the same outfit that did the similar, highly successful book Protecting Your Assets from a Texas Divorce, in this case tailored to Georgia law. This book is a step-by-step guide to making the correct moves as the process goes along to keep more of what you own in the settlement, plus good advice on evaluating your situation and getting your life back on track when it's over. No one - certainly not when there's a significant estate involved - should go through a divorce in Georgia without reading this helpful book.



2. Personally, I would have liked to see the material covered in greater detail. It didn't tell me much more than I already knew, and it's the first book I've read on the subject.

1 comments about Backward in High Heels.

1. This novel is a change of pace for Judith Kelman, who is renowned for her
   novels of suspense. But readers who have had the privilege of reading
   Kelman's other fiction will recognize her penchant for combining
   humor and pathos. There are many laugh-out-loud funny one-liners
   and scenes throughout. (The chapter titles alone are worth the price of
   the book!) In between chuckles, readers will root for Maggie
   as she gradually rediscovers and reinvents herself, despite the many
   obstacles she must overcome.

2 comments about Life After Your Lover Walks Out: A Practical Guide (10-Step Empowerment Series).

1. "Life After Your Lover Walks Out" is a practical guide to help you find life after the break up of a long term relationship. Lynda Bevan takes the reader through the emotional shock of the first two days after a break up, and through the questions of guilt and self worth. She addresses fear of the future, offers suggestions for financial crisis, and walks the reader through the grieving process. Lynda guides the reader through ten steps in this journey of self acceptance and recovery.
   
   The author offers innovative, creative methods for developing strategies to help the reader with finding answers to coping with diverse situations.
   
   Within the text Ms Bevan includes lists of negative steps to avoid and positive steps to take as you work through each process. These suggestions are in an easy to read format which makes them easy to read, review, and assimilate.
   
   Step ten helps you change your mindset to become a new you. The process is defined, explained, and action steps are given for finding new relationships and for letting go of the past.
   
   Lynda Bevan has a long and successful career in the Social Services and National Health Services in the UK. She is well qualified to author this treatise. This is Book I in the 10 Step Empowerment Series, published by Loving Healing Press and is edited by Robert Rich, Ph.D.



2. Reviewed by Mary Greenwood for Reader Views (9/06)
   
   "Life after Your Lover Walks Out" is a well-written book focusing on the emotional and practical issues that arise when your lover moves on. The author, Lynda Bevan, has over twenty-two years of service in the Mental Health field in the UK. Her marital/relationship counseling and her own personal experiences have given her the expertise and strategies needed to write a good book on coping with life after one's lover walks out.
   
   "Life after Your Lover Walks Out" is designed to be read in less than two hours so that the reader can quickly see the options on how to handle each Step on the way to emotional recovery. "Life after Your Lover Walks Out" identifies the thoughts and feelings that emerge during this difficult time and provides suggestions and ideas on how to cope. There are ten chapters or steps from Step 1: Falling Apart/Shock, and Step 2: Why is this happening to me? to Step 9: Look to the Future, and Step 10: The New You. There is also a bibliography which includes books by Wayne Dyer, Louise Hay, The Dali Lama and James Redfield.
   
   Bevan writes with empathy for the reader. You can tell that she writes from personal experience as she acknowledges the various emotions and thoughts someone feels when a loved one leaves. She gives very practical and sometimes humorous advice, too. For example, in the Grieving Process Step, she has a list of things not to do which include: 1) "Don't do a Bridget Jones and slob out in front of a weepy film" and 2) "Don't replace a relationship by eating lost of food (comfort food)." Bevan anticipates the negative thoughts of the reader and suggests alternatives on how to get through this experience a happier person.
   
   Lynda Bevan's approach is very personal; she is like your best friend who does not judge you and nudges you to go to the next step in your life and recovery. She understands what the readers are going through and wishes the best for them. I highly recommend "Life after A Lover Walks Out" to anyone going through a major relationship upheaval.

5 comments about Stacey's Choice (Baby-Sitters Club).

1. I liked the book Stacey's Choice because Stacy was very mature and responsible. I liked the way she took care of her mom when she was sick and made the sistting chart for when she was in school. I think the neighbors were very nice to watch Stacy's mother. But in all the drama with her mom Stacy forgot she had to go to New York for a dinner in her dads honor. Stacy needed to choose between her sick mother or her vice president dad. I think her choice was very responsible.



2. stacey has to choose between attending a promotion dinner for her dad in new york and staying home in stoneybrook with her mother who had pneumonia in this book. Stacey felt like she had to choose between her parents, and I know how she feels because my own parents are divorced too though just half an hour away from one another. Stacey seems a little too mature for thirteen in this book, it showed her maturity in handling the situation and standing up to her dad when she decided to go for the dinner but not stay the whole weekend. I guess being a single child and parents splitting up makes one grow up way too fast at times, it was a great read. I enjoyed reading about the shopping trip with the BSC at the beginning of the book too when stacey was choosing an outfit for the dinner.



3. Stacey has a choice. 1. She will go to New York and celebrate his father's promotion day, 2. She will stay in Stoneybrook and take care of her mother with a disease.



4. Stacey's parents are depending on her again! It's either she stays in Stoneybrook to take care of her mom with a desease or she will go to New York to celebrate his father's promotion job.



5. Normally I'm not the world's biggest fan of Stacey, but in this book I liked her a lot. Stacey is in a bind; she feels if she decides to stay home and take care of her mother who has pnuemonia, she will disappoint her father, who invited her to a very important company dinner. She tries to do both, and even though it kind of fails, I feel she acted very responsibly.
   The book itself is one of the most realistic BSC books. It focuses on some common problems for "divorced kids" and mostly highlights the fact that they constantly are choosing between their parents.
   
   The sideplot is also great, even though it has absolutely nothing to do with the main plot. It's pretty funny, actually, and in a way is kind of like comic relief.
   
   The book is great and realistic. You will not be disappointed.