5 comments about Dinosaurs Divorce.

1. My son was 3 1/2 when I first started to read this book to him, because he started to want to know why his Mommy and Daddy didn't live together, even though it's all he's really ever known since he turned a year old.
   
   This book has a lot of scenarios and you can read the sections that apply to your current situation. I think this book would be better for a child who is 6+.
   
   In one section, the daughter dinasour is trying to figure out her emotions and becomes frustrated. The illustration has puffs of red clouds about her head. My son refers to it as "The red puffy stuff" and is always concerned about the girl and her feelings. It bothers him that she has the "red puffy stuff" about her head.
   
   As we were going through his toys that he wanted to donate, when he came across this book, he looked at it and said, "That puffy stuff is bad" and put it in the "to donate" box.
   
   Even though this book was written by a man and a woman, I felt that some of the scenarios leaned on the mother, as being the "bad guy", or trying to buy-off the kids too much.



2. This book is good for parents and kids living in a divorce situation. The parents part give suggestions for dealing with what the kids are going through. This is a handy reference book, in an easy read way.



3. My six year old son loved the book. It helps children understand better what divorce is about and what to expect. A must for children going through this.



4. I am a nanny working for divorced family. I found the 8-year old reading the book, I was interested so I read the whole book and I was so impressed I got it for my kids too. Not that I am planing on divorce but the kids have so many friends coming from divorced families and this could help them understand situation they are going through. I think the book explains very sensitively whole process of divorce and life after divorce, new partners of parents and step-siblings included. I find the book very needed and helpful. There's plenty of literature for parents going through this hard part of their life and now this is finally something for the little ones. They deserved it.



5. I found a chile therapist who recommended this book to me. It was a good book, but my children were not interested in it. They would rather talk to me and as me questions, so that what we did. I read it, and it was helpful in terms of coming up with helpful language to talk to the kids about something difficult.

5 comments about Mom's House, Dad's House: Making Two Homes for Your Child.

1. My five-year-old daughter's dad and I have joint custody and joint placement. Therefore, my daughter travels between our houses (about 8 blocks apart) every few days. I was hoping this book would help her dad and I make the most of our daughter's situation, but it seems to focus on parents who do not get along. Perhaps, because my daughter does not remember ever having two parents in the same home, this book isn't as relevant to her as it may be for some. The book seemed to focus on picking up the pieces, rather than just growing as a nontraditional family. I will say one positive thing: the book stresses avoiding the use of "ex husband" and "ex wife" and replacing with "my daughter's dad". I feel that makes for a better situation.



2. Start the divorce off right if that is possible. Especially when comes to the kids. As a man who has custody of OUR child I respect and appreciate this books insights. You see that this is the norm for different situations so one can watch for it and react appropriately. If you cant be friend's then you as matter as well be "corporate friends" and try to make things work for your kids sake. You would'nt be rude or demeaning to another co-worker so dont treat your ex-spouse that way either. Good luck!



3. Thank you for getting the book to me in a timely manner and good condition.



4. Still reading this, but so far is a good book. Very imfomative and got it so fast after ordering!



5. This books gives excellent insight into the difficult task of navigating a two-household family. It not only provides the reader practical tools for easing the transition for their children, but also addresses the necessary relationship between you and your ex-spouse. 'Mom's House, Dad's House' hits the key topics co-parenting in a straightforward but insightful way.

5 comments about Divorce Poison: Protecting the Parent-Child Bond from a Vindictive Ex.

1. I have worked extensively in this area of family therapy, and I strongly recommend this book to any parent with children who is going through a divorce> It is also a must read for family attorneys, judges and social workers.



2. informative, accurate and advice is well explained. The children involved are ALWAYS of the highest priority. As usual though grandparents are forced to take a back seat and await a time when things are so out of control and the children are damaged before the court system recognizes the important roll they play in the children's future.



3. Anyone who has seen parental alienation inflicted on a child up close knows what a horrible form of child abuse it is. Children afflicted with this child abuse often carry the psychological wounds for the rest of their lives. Unfortunately, our divorce system encourages this abuse by needlessly designating one person as the real parent and the other parent as a scapegoat and not a real parent. This creates a situation ideal to proprogate this sort of abusive behavior.
   
   Fortunately, this book provides a good survey of this form of child abuse, including how to recognize it and how to deal with it. This is important because the first time you see this abuse, it is so horrible you can't believe it is happening. This book is a must read for anyone in the divorce industry, especially judges.



4. After a couple of years of my husband and I trying to figure out what was wrong with my step daughter who's now 11, we finally found out that her mom has been repeatedly telling her numerous appalling lies about her dad which she believed and became scared and distant from her dad. She never mentioned the bad mouthing from her mom because she was told by her mom if she spoke up the judge would take her away from her mom. Finally it all came out during an extended stay with us and with the help of a couple of books "Divorce poison" and "The boys & girls book about divorce" we have been able to appropriately address this concern and the positive results already show in my step daughter. Since using the book's recommendations my step daughter has opened up about a lot of negative things going on at her mother's home which we were not aware of, and we have now been able to guide her on how to deal with it emotionally and how to address it directly with her mom. She acts and looks so much better now, her confidence has already improved and she is now relaxed with us like during the old time. This book is an excellent tool to help deal with a very sensitive and troubling situation that can seriously damage a child emotional welfare.



5. I was looking for something that my step daughter could read and understand how and why divorced parents might try to turn their children against the other parent. Which is the situation her father and I have had to go through. I wanted something that would better explain why parents do those sorts of things and why they are not healthy. This book is written for adults and I believe is a good tool for parents to use in understanding the other set of parents actions but a child would not understand reading this book.

5 comments about Why Can't You Read My Mind? Overcoming the 9 Toxic Thought Patterns that Get in the Way of a Loving Relationship.

1. This book is really helpful and right on target. It seems so many people try to have magical mind reading abilities and this book helps to sort that fantasy out!! Particularly useful to give to others to read as a gift!!



2. This excellent book, written by family therapist Dr. Jeffrey Bernstein, is practical, easy-to-follow, and a quick read. Although it is not an instant panacea for relationship ills it did make me recognize my own (negative) contributions to my relationship with my husband and, later, with other, less integral people in my life. Be open-minded, willing to learn, and spend the time and thought to do the exercises honestly. I read this book prior to choosing Dr. Jeff as a therapist and cannot speak highly enough about him. (Yes, I am fortunate enough to live in the same area as his practice!)



3. Dr. Bernstein has captured the essential elements not only to rebuilding and strengthening a fractured relationship, but really to live a happier life. All it takes is an open mind, and a little dedication to the process, and by reading and practicing the simple tips outlined, you can truly transform the quality of your life. I wholeheartedly recommend this book to anybody who would like to improve their relationship with their spouse/partner. What you gain from reading this book is not just a profound improvement in your primary relationship, but a way to create happier, balanced relationships with other people in your life as well. These are practical, real tips that can be applied to everyday situations (I've even improved the quality of my worklife by discovering how negative I was, and how my toxic thoughts were impairing so many areas outside of my relationship issues).



4. This was such a well written and easy to read book. So often, relationship guidance is written in a style which seems to be meant for fellow therapists. This book used humor and everyday language and situations to efficiently get the points across. There is enough repetition of the advice, but not too much. I will end up reading it again and recommending it to my friends.



5. If you have had doubts or conflicting thoughts about your relationship, take a deep breathe, order this book and read it. It will definitely change a lot of your thoughts to more real and concrete truths that will help you and your significant other reach the ultimate calm in relationships. You will change for the better, and even if your significant other reads it or not, they will also change due to you reading this book. Trust me, this author knows what he is talking about. I wouldn't order any other book but this one. It definitely changed my way of thinking and made me appreciate what i have, instead of what i want.

5 comments about It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken: The Smart Girl's Break-Up Buddy.

1. Not what I expected... Instead of making me feel better, it made me feel worse! When your heart is broken, the last thing you want to hear is "it's called a break up because it's broken" and "move on already!" said to you over and over again, as if it were as simple as making a sandwich!
   Instead of bringing the focus on yourself, and dealing gently with your heart and with pain in a constructive way, it brings more focus on the partner who "dumped" you, and what "loser" or "[...]" he is for doing this to a "super fox" (eesh!) like yourself. I highly doubt that building hate or frustration this way is of any good, just as I doubt that numerous break-up stories should make you feel better. It's the last thing you want to hear when your heart is aching. In those moments, you'd want to deal with the pain and understand the situation, and maybe being encouraged that there are wonderful men out there, that would love to be with someone like you!



2. I read recently this while going through a break up, and have since recommended it to all my friends. I was depressed over my break up and this book helped me through it. It's geared towards women/girls who have been dumped (though there's some in there about if you did the dumping.) There are workbook sections at the end of chapters. The book reminds you that you are a good person who will probably find someone who appreciates you, and now you are free to find that person. 5 stars.



3. When your are at your worst this book comes in even handier than a best friend. Stories about others who have been through it, advice about what to do and not to do, and antidotes of self confidence.



4. This book was amazingly helpful to me during my divorce. It not only contains fantastic advice, but made me laugh at a time when I wasn't really feeling that jovial. Put down the ice cream, pick up the book!



5. This book is amazing. I bought this book after a six month relationship suddenly ended, and not by me! I was suffering so badly from a broken heart I thought for sure I would die!I had a huge support system but nothing would snap me out of my funk. Amazingly, after reading only half of the book,I felt so much better! Every question, scenario and fantasy you have in your head when you are in mourning is answered in here. It's to the point , comforting , funny and empowering. I highly recommend this book if you are dwelling on a broken relationship and wasting your time on the jerk who left you.

5 comments about Two Homes.

1. This book was helpful, however, for very young children. Perhaps 3 to 4 year olds. I found it a little young for my 7 year old children. Good illistrations, very, very basic.



2. I've been looking for a book to read to my son about having two families. His father and I were never married, so most of the books don't apply to our situation, because they're about divorced parents. This book speaks nothing about the relationship between the parents. It is purely about the difference in mommy's house and daddy's house. It speaks as if this a natural arrangment, and doesn't suggest sadness or loneliness about the parents not being together. My son is only 18 mths old, but he likes the pictures, and it's a good, simple story-line for when he's old enough to understand. I highly reccommend this book for divorced, or never-married families.



3. my toddler says this book is "good," a high compliment! it's simple, stays focused on the topic. i think the repetition helps to normalize and reinforce the message that having parents who live in difference homes is okay. also helps me to get into the mindset of my toddler, who's looking for a certain sense of belonging and security.



4. This was a great book for our family - very positive about the relationship with former spouses. My ex-husband and I have a very positive relationship with one another and with our son, and this book was helpful to reaffirm that with him. I found that a lot of other divorce/two home type books had a silent negative outlook on it, and focused on overcoming that, rather than on reaffirming the positive things involved in a child having "two homes" or living in a divorced family. GREAT BOOK - HIGHLY RECOMMEND.



5. The child who read this kept saying - 'that's like me' as he realised just how much he had in common with the character - an excellent book, gentle, lyrical, clear and straightforward - comes highly recommended.

4 comments about Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On -- Together or Apart.

1. I highly recommend this book for anyone trying to live through infidelity. I have read several books and this one had so much helpful information. It was written in a way that didn't attack the participating party or the injured party but gave good information for all parties involved. Unfortunately my spouse chose not to read the book with me but reading it really helped me to understand and validate what I was going through. If you are faced with the heartbreak of infidelty this is a must read book. If you don't read anything else, read this.



2. This book is very 'real'! Not so clinical like many others and helps with both parties to heal together. I bought three books and I find this one the best so far.



3. This is a great book for both partners in the damaged marriage. It uses non-offensive terms to refer to each of the involved parties. It provides very good strategies and examples for coping with the initial stages after the affair is discovered, as well as for working on repairing the marital relationship. It is particularly helpful with suggesting ways for each individual as well as the couple to reflect on why the affair occurred, to deal with emotional reactions, and to communicate with each other going forward. I have read several books, and this is one of the top two or three.



4. It was a good book for people who are going though betrayal. It did give a lot of good information.

5 comments about Fighting for Your Marriage: Positive Steps for Preventing Divorce and Preserving a Lasting Love (New & Revised).

1. My husband and I read this book several years ago. We both thought it was the best book we're read on the subject of marriage and communication. I recently sent one to my sister and recommend it to anyone interested in improving their communication. Should be required reading for anyone getting married!



2. Wonderful book! It offers poitive, useful advice for couples either trying to save their marriage or enhance what they have.



3. My husband and I attended a marriage workshop on the military base we are stationed at and really enjoyed it. The books were great and if a couple is having marriage problems this book will help a great deal. I recommend this book for any couple!



4. This is a great book with a lot of practical application. The key is to honor each other by doing what it says.



5. I first read this as a newlywed and found the ideas invaluable. A decade later, it has helped many of the couples I counsel. This book is chock full of practical, easily implemented advice that will enhance any marriage.

5 comments about The Grief Recovery Handbook : The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death Divorce, and Other Losses.

1. This is an incredible book that helps you to process your losses. This is great for anybody. It should be a requirement for all helping professionals to understand how to be the best support to those who you will be assisting.



2. This is the Timeless Book that gets you through Grief. "The Grief Recovery Hand Book, The Action Program For Moving Beyond Death Divorce and Other Losses" needs to be in every home. This book takes you beyond all losses. However you must be willing to do the grief work to get there. The main cornerstone of this book is the loss history graph.
   The loss history graph can help you to sort out the past from the present and clear the way for a better future. This book actually takes you to a new place no matter what the loss. I give five stars because I own three copies. One copy is the first edition which is all covered with hand written notes. Two copies of the second edition one to study and a loaner copy.



3. The Grief Recovery Handbook: A Step-By-Step Program for Moving Beyond Loss The service from the provider was excellent. I wanted only the original because I have my own copy. This is helping numerous people 3000 miles across trhe country, thanks to you.



4. This is a hopeful book that can help you work through your grief even if it is a death, divorce, job loss, or other major loss. If you are over 40 there is a 1 in 3 chance someone close to you will have died during that year. Our society celebrates life, and de-emphasizes grief and the death of our loved ones. Well meaning people say things like this was meant to be, they are out of pain now, and you will find someone else.
   
   Your situation is unique. Even if you find someone with what is on the surface a similar loss, for example, the loss of a child, your situation is dramatically different than their situation and your recovery will be equally as unique. This book offers ideas different than keep yourself busy, and life goes on, it addresses how you feel and how to work through your feelings. I would recommend this book those who have lost.



5. I have received many books on grief since the sudden death (by suicide) of my 23 year old son in 2007. THIS BOOK IS EXCELLENT and has been the most helpful book to me!
   
   Please consider getting this book - if not for yourself, than for someone you may know who is dealing with grief as a result of ANY loss. My mom died when I was 12 years old, and my father's way of "handling" his grief was to become engaged one month later to a woman that he only knew for five days. He thought that he had to find a new mom for my younger sisters and me. We were never allowed to speak of our mother! My father became an alcoholic, and later became estranged from all of us. These actions still impact my sisters and me - decades later.
   
   Through this book, I have learned not to "rush" through my grief. It has literally been a life-saver to me.

5 comments about Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends, 3rd Edition (Rebuilding Books; For Divorce and Beyond).

1. It was really good, help me a lot to undestand my feelings and find a method to cope during and after divorce..
   
   Really liked the final part of each chapter for kids cope, I have a 5 year old son recovering together with me...



2. When I was going through my divorce, I was devastated. My psychologist, Maria, recommended this book. It was so helpful to me, that every time I have a friend or colleague who goes through an emotionally wrenching breakup, I buy them a copy. This is what everyone needs to know to get back on track and get on with their lives.



3. It's been about a year since I read this book but it came at a time when I really needed it.
   
   Close to two years ago my husband left. We had been together for 12 years and had just had a baby. I was devastated. I was crushed. I was lost. I ordered this book based on the reviews and started it when it first arrived, however, I didn't get very far. It was too difficult to face that things were really over between us. At the time, I wasn't ready to begin "moving-on."
   
   A few months after my split I met a wonderful guy. I was VERY concerned that I was rebounding or that I wasn't "ready" for a new serious relationship and that's when I pulled out this book and read it from cover to cover. Because of some counseling I had, I had already worked thru a lot of the building blocks discussed in this book but the book really helped me thru the rest of them. It helped me to see some really negative things about my previous relationship that I hadn't been ready to face. It also helped me to become a "whole" person without a romantic relationship.
   
   Overall I really liked this book and thought the ideas expressed were very helpful to someone going thru a divorce. The only caution I can offer to future readers is that the book probably won't help you unless you are truly willing to face the facts and move on. If you are looking for a book that will console and comiserate with you - this is not your book. If you are looking for a book that will truly help you work on yourself and help you *deal* with your divorce then you should find this book extremely helpful. Again, you need to be "ready" before you will gain anything from this book.



4. This book was recommended by a professional I'm seeing for grief counseling following my divorce. It has reiterated many of the ideas we've discussed in my counseling sessions and has amazed me that at times it seems the author was "reading my mind". I highly recommend it for anyone whose love relationship has ended. It's easy to read; each chapter is unique but tied to the others, and seems to cover all the emotions.



5. Decent book. It was recommended to me by my shrink. A little too much feelings drivel for my taste, but a good reference for organization and perspective when dealing with such life events.