2 comments about Anxiety: Friend or Foe? (A Refreshingly Optimistic Approach from the Author of Conflict to Resolution).

1. Dr. Heitler doesn't teach you to get rid of anxiety. She does something better. She teaches you to use anxious feelings to identify what the problems are in your life, and then to switch from worrying to constructive thinking. I was amazed how helpful her perspective is. And by the way,I feel much less anxious now. Great tape.



2. This tape is exactly the reason why psychotherapists are the subject of so much criticism. Dr. Heitler gives the listener little or no information or insight on what anxiety is, why people have it, or what you can do to alleviate it. Her random musings are little more than warmed-over pop psychoanalytic cliches of the Frasier Crane variety. "I'm listening!" She advises one of her patients that his panic attack in a supermarket aisle was caused by his fear of getting married (i.e., walking down the aisle). Does anyone really believe in this kind of Freudian mythology anymore? There is no discussion of the physiological basis of panic disorders, let alone any discussion of how this person would go about alleviating his panic attacks. If you want to get this tape be my guest: instead, I'd rather be taking a train through a tunnel while smoking a cigar.

2 comments about Learn to Relax: Proven Techniques for Reducing Stress, Tension, and Anxiety--And Promoting Peak Performance (Wiley Audio).

1. Stress and anxiety are natural parts of the human experience and can actually improve performance in challenging times. But for those of us with more than our fair share of tension, C. Eugene Walker has written a helpful book. Walker draws on theories from many psychologists, psychiatrists and other researchers in analyzing the origins of our stress. More importantly, he also provides techniques for overcoming and reducing tension - including more than 40 exercises that will help you calm down. While his basic principles will sound familiar to those who know self-help and personal-development literature, Walker does a good job of combining and organizing these points. We [...] recommend this book to a general audience, but also to top managers and executives who deal with stressed-out employees or feel the pressure mounting themselves.



2. Stress management is a considerable task for many people in every sector
   of life, in every age group, occupation and aspect of life. The book
   illustrates specific steps to take in order to identify the stress triggers and deal with them constructively. The lotus position is the ideal setting for relaxation and tension release. Belief systems, perceptions and uncontrollable events are classic stress triggers which the author tries to address in the book. Subjects can engineer less stress into their week by enjoying family activities on Sundays. This will set the tone for the rest of the week. Goal-setting, brainstorming and hot baths/saunas are classic methodologies to deal effectively with stress. The book would be very helpful in combatting the everyday stress triggers that we all face. The book is a good value for the price charged.

4 comments about Worried All the Time : Overparenting in an Age of Anxiety and How to Stop It.

1. I've already decided that, when my blond-haired, blue-eyed, most adorable five-year-old in the world hits 12 or so, she's going into a Carmelite nunnery. I mentioned this to a friend of mine a few days ago, who pshawed, "Oh, but you'll miss her!" to which I said, "Yeah, but I'll be able to talk to her through a screen!" There are days when I really mean this, but only on those days that end in 'y'.

   I never really thought I was the only parent who felt this way, and now that I've read WORRIED ALL THE TIME, I know I'm not. In fact, if David Anderegg's reports are to be believed, I'm probably at the low end of the anxiety scale. Anderegg reports that one dad was concerned about his son's self-esteem because the lad told a joke at school and nobody laughed. Dad actually went to the teacher to see how this could be remedied. My advice would have been to encourage sonny boy to find better material, or a better audience, and faghettaboutit. And that basically is what Anderegg's advice was, in addition to gently telling the parent to butt out.

   Anderegg has some interesting ideas and raises some interesting points. He looks at over-scheduling activities (what I call "Camp Runamuck"), daycare centers, school shootings, the influence of the media, and the potential for drug and alcohol use among children. His basic message can be condensed to "Lighten up, Mom and Dad." While WORRIED ALL THE TIME isn't a "Don't Worry, Be Happy" book, Anderegg's conclusion is that things aren't quite as bad as they seem to be.

   Anderegg is a soothing voice of reason, and I have recommended this book to a couple of sets of parents already, just because of the issues it raises. Anderegg isn't totally convincing, but he does an excellent job of discerning issues of concern and discussing them. He has a balanced take on daycare centers, raising some interesting points pro and con, and makes some obvious but overlooked comments about au pairs. Anderegg's evaluation of the media reveals that he does not know much about how popular entertainment finds its way to the market, but his conclusion as to how much --- or how little --- movies, television and music affect children seems, in the end, on the mark. Similarly, he avoids the hysteria that surrounded the wave of school shootings a couple of years ago, demonstrating fairly conclusively that the safest place for most children continues to be in school. Anderegg even gets into the biological whys and wherefores about why we are more worried and why the world seems to be a more dangerous place for children than it used to be.

   Statistics and the like do not help when your child is one of them, obviously, and possibly this point of understanding isn't stressed enough in WORRIED ALL THE TIME. There is also not much that WORRIED ALL THE TIME has to offer to parents of less than modest economic means, who are raising their children in dire situations. There may ultimately be no answers that fit every situation. However, WORRIED ALL THE TIME at least makes the attempt to identify those areas that may be of concern, and those that may be a source of unnecessary aggravation.

   --- Reviewed by Joe Hartlaub




2. I felt like Anderegg was talking directly to me and all my friends and relatives. We have become so worried about every little decision, torturing ourselves over choosing the right school, choosing the right sports team, choosing the right pediatrician, not to mention whether our children are smart enough/athletic enough/social enough/successful enough to succeed in this terrifying world. Enough already! I'm ready to spend some time just enjoying my kids, and I really like the advice the author gives about how to take a deep breath, give our kids some sorely needed independence, and give ourselves a break!



3. Considering that my youngest child just graduated from high school, it's too bad that Dr. Anderegg didn't write this book 15 years sooner! Nonetheless, his discussion of the emotional dynamics of the college application and college choice process was itself worth the price of admission. With that topic as well as others, Dr. Anderegg does a particularly good job of getting the reader to admit to sometimes acting on less than flattering motivations -- without feeling like a bad person! The payoff for these perhaps painful insights is that one pole of the emotional magnet that keeps many an inner conflict spinning can be thus be identified and - horray! -- turned off. His discussion of the three principles of good parenting - moderate firmness, empathy, and goodness of fit - was an enlightening roundup of theory and research, and enormously reassuring. Dr. Anderegg is especially skilled at distilling recent academic research -- for example, regarding drug use, school violence, adolescent sexual behavior, substitute child care -- and bringing that knowledge to bear on the day-to-day dilemmas and arguments that we all have with our kids, our spouses, and with ourselves. He does an especially good job of pointing out how a given statistic could be and often is interpreted to support opposing positions, and noting when the research data are firm and when the academic jury is still out. All of this is accomplished with a wonderful dry wit and a clear sense of fellowship with us parents.

   I only wish I had had Dr. Anderegg whispering in my ear -- and felt his hand on my shoulder -- long before this as an antidote to the cultural messages screaming in my face through the media and the constant chattering of my fellow parents in the other ear. About the only downside to reading this book is that I have probably acquired more smile lines around the corners of my mouth (Anderegg does have a great sense of humor) - not a bad price to pay for losing some of the furrows in my brow.

   Almost forgot: the Notes section at the end of the book that provides references to the sources of statistics and studies cited in the book is very cleverly done. In addition to the page number from the text a brief tag phrase (typically a few words or a phrase from the book) is also provided. This makes it very easy to find the primary source for the issue you want to pursue further -- a very nice touch. This Notes section is in addition to a more traditional index.




4. I wish all parents would read this book! Both they and their children would be happier if they did. I am an older adult whose children are grown, and I see my younger friends with children making life much harder for themselves than it needs to be. I am sorry the negative term "overparenting" is in the title, because I want to buy a whole bunch to give away but am concerned it could be seen as a criticism.(Couldn't it just be: "Worried all the Time: Being a Parent in an Age of Anxiety"?) However the content of the book itself is incredibly generous and reassuring to parents who just want the best for their kids. Nowhere have I seen such an interface between the personal aspects of childrearing and the specific challenges presented by today's society, such as drugs, TV and video games, school violence, etc. Anderegg cuts through all the confusion generated by the conflicting messages the media sends us every day and is clear about the ways parents can choose to make their lives--and their children's--easier and more satisfying. "Worried all the Time" is also a compelling read for those without immediate childrearing interests because of Anderegg's perspective on our current culture.

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