No comments about Despues del silencio/ After the Silence: Como Sobrevivir a Una Agresion Sexual/ How to Survive Sexual Assault (Divulgacion-Autoayuda/ Disclosure-Self-Help) (Spanish Edition).

2 comments about Breaking Free: A Self-Help Guide for Adults Who Were Sexually Abused As Children.

1. UPON READING THIS BOOK I WAS ABLE TO UNDERSTAND SOME OF THE ADULT PROBLEMS I WAS HAVING FROM INCEST. PREVIOUS TO READING THIS GUIDE I COULD NOT UNDERSTAND MY INABILITY TO SLEEP AT NIGHT, OR TO STAY FOCUSED ON TASKS,DEPRESSION. THIS BOOK HAS HELPED TO UNDERSTAND MANY EFFECTS I HAVE HAD AS AN ADULT BUT NEVER NEW COULD BE THE RESULT OF INCEST. IF YOU ARE AN INCEST SURVIVOR I RECOMMEND THIS BOOK TO YOU.



2. I was disappointed that this book was sold as a self-help book for adults instead of its true target audience which is adult women. They authors devote about 71 words in the preface to male survivors. I would recommend this book for women, but I would not recommend it for male survivors like myself. It made me feel as alone and unheard as when I started... I am quite angry at the lack of focus on male survivors and the idea that the authors readily admit their research has been restricted to females, but still sell the book as a panacea for both sexes. It has just reinforced the isolation I feel. There is a book by Mike Lew and it is written just for male survivors and it is not marketed it as anything else. I have not yet read it, but it is my next choice to read.

No comments about Stolen Childhood: What You Need to Know About Child Sexual Abuse.

2 comments about Nobody's Angel.

1. I found this book to be, not-the-everday read, however, emersed with truth with what happens when one becomes trapped in occult activities, and which are nothing to fool around with. Gregory Reid puts into perspective what happens when one becomes so deeply emersed with the "dark side" and yet wants out but desperately needs supernatural help to do so. His book shows the persistance of the faithful outside influences which drew him out of the counterfeits, and into the Truth of Christianity--God's saving Grace. Nobody's Angel is a powerful testimony and I highly recommend this book to anyone dabbling in a spirituality that contains anything less than the mysteries of Biblical consumption. The author describes the dangers of the occult that will cost you more than you can pay, and finding you in dire need of a Savior to release you from it's death bondage. Nobody's Angel is truly a testimony of the "Living God", Jesus Christ. Christine Rhay--Author of "VOWS BETRAYED: A Story of Abuse, A Transformational Message



2. This book is fantastic! It's not long and drawn out, but short and to the many points that the author desired to make. There's nothing 'fake' about the book, not some plastic smile on a face. The words are honest and real to the reader. A breath of fresh air and wonder in the midst of so many books that say 'just do this or that and everything will be better'. It's not a 'how-to' book, but truly a testimony of a 'work in progess'. This book is filled with hope for those who have 'been there' - no matter what the particular circumstance (abuse), because it doesn't offer 'pat answers', but shows God's incredible mercy and grace to those who are hurting.

4 comments about Will Tomorrow Come... A Will To Survive.

1. I purchased this book at a speech the author gave 20 Apr 07 in Lawton Oklahoma (Ft Sill).
   
   I gave it 2 stars because while her story deserves to be told, Cindy seems to want a pity party and praise for surviving a horrible sexual abuse situation but she also deserves a kick in the behind. She should not be a representative for sexual abuse survivors because after hearing her speech and reading her book she is also a hypocrite and sexual abuse enabler. I recommend not purchasing this book
   
   In my opinion, Cindy is a hypocrite because in her Lawton Oklahoma speech/book, she spoke/wrote of how her entire family was always being arrested and she hated the police for it-especially when they took her mother away. Cindy even made it a point to say after 22 years of marriage her husband became a cop and she hated cops. In her speech she said she came to realize her family was the bad guy and the police were the good guys. She actually apologized to several police officers in the audience for thinking bad about them in the past which got a laugh even from me. However, I wasn't laughing after I read her book.
   
   Her book says two of her brothers were shot by police-one in the head while his hands were handcuffed behind his back and the other in the back running away. The police even told the ambulance to take the dead one first and let the one still alive suffer. The store keeper who her brothers tried to rob refused to testify against the police but did go to this author's home and tell her parents the true story of what happened to her brothers. Police are people too both good and bad. In her book, she does not dispute the truth of what happened and she therefore has no reason to apologize. She apologized to the Oklahoma police present at her speech for thinking bad about policemen in the past to curry favor and to elicit a laugh from the audience at the expense of the truth which is the cold blooded murder of her 2 brothers. In my opionion, the author is a hypocrite of worst kind.
   
   Also, at least 3 times or more in her book and her speech this author complains about her real mother, Sharon (stepfather raped her) abandoning the author to live with the stepfather and how she felt betrayed. In her speech and book, the author writes about her sister being beaten to death by this family. In her speech the author goes on and on about being too depressed to rescue her young teenage nieces still living with that dysfunctional family where she, her sisters and mother were sexually molested.
   
   Maybe Sharon, the author's mother, was too traumatized and depressed over her own sexual abuse to take the author in but at least she finally did when the author was 15 which stopped the trauma. It also introduced the author to another life where she met her husband and went on to live a normal life and to write her book. The author complained about her taking care of her 2 stepbrothers in the speech and in her book. Cindy marries young and leaves her mother in part to get away from being used a maid/nursemaid. I am glad it worked out for her. Too bad her nieces weren't given the same opportunity.
   
   The author followed the same footsteps of abandonment as her mother and behaved worse. She deliberately left those 2 young teenage nieces in that house and did nothing but call social services when she knew they weren't doing anything. The author wallowed in her depression over a simple robbery at work where no one was hurt as the reason for leaving these girls to be sexually/physically abused. It had to be more than just robbery to cause severe depression. I think the robbery was the last straw in her world and she broke or better yet she really felt depressed because she knew exactly what was being done to her nieces and substituted the robbery as the reason for the guilt and depression of what she was allowing to happen to those girls.
   
   The author behaved WORSE than her mother, Sharon because the author NEVER rescued those girls-her own nieces. Then, she has the audacity to lament on stage in Oklahoma how these 2 girls are now messed up, have multiple children by multiple men while stating that she herself survived. Shame on her!!! She could have gotten the girls out and at 13 and 14 just let them live in her house with her 2 sons and husband just like her mother Sharon let her live at age 15 with her husband and 2 sons. The author admitted her husband took care of everything house wise anyway as she was too depressed. The 2 girls could have helped out by cleaning, cooking, etc. I am sure those 2 girls would have loved to have had the opportunity to complain about taking care of their 2 cousins instead of being abused. Maybe her husband could have helped her nieces to read like he did with her. This author turned her back to even picking the girls up and allowing her church (which she professes to believe in and care about) members to take the girls and care for them. This author did not want to disrupt her life EVER and now she wants to write about it. If her husband was a police officer while these girls were being molested, he should be ashamed too.
   
   Although I am glad the author escaped, I am extremely disappointed in her as a human being. I wish I hadn't purchased her book. There are better survivor role models who didn't build themselves up by abandoning others.



2. I have read this book several times and found it very inspirational that someone who endured so much throughout life was able to meet pull her life together. She has dedicated her life to helping others whenever possible through karate, church, this book, and personally. She opened herself up to the scrutiny of others which is NOT an easy thing to do EVER. She did the best she could with what she had. Growing up with so much against her has made her thoughtful of others and she always reaches out to those who might need a helping hand. This book is a quick read and I couldn't put it down. Some people make it out of a "hell" such as this and some don't. This book might encourage others to know that help is out there. Thank you for sharing a part of your life with the world.



3. I had the opportunity to read this book right after it came out and was blown away. It is amazing to think that any one person could go through such conditions and situations that, for lack of a stronger word, be described as hell. But even more incredible is the fact that such a person could grow up to be such a strong woman who is very firm in her faith and have the courage to share her story. As is a survivor of sexual, physical and emotional abuse, Cindy is an inspiration and offers strength to others who are struggling or have struggled through similar situations.
   
   The phrase "Everything happens for a reason" rings in my head as i read this book. Though she may not realize it, the example she sets for others is truly remarkable. With each page, Cindy's story is made real to the reader and I offer that her story was a blessing in disguise. Though the memories she has from her childhood may not be like those of sitcom family, they are ones that offer hope. Hope that someone can be raised in such a terrible place but be able to use it as a tool, not a crutch, to selflessly give of her time in effort to help change the lives of others.
   
   Noting that Cindy is now ranked as a 3rd Degree Black Black Belt in Chinese Kempo Karate and regularly gives Women's Self-Defense Classes and Self Awareness Classes in her community further strengthens the fact that Cindy is practicing what she preaches.
   
   Take the opportunity to read this book. Though it was somewhat of a short read, Cindy's words and lifestyle continue to offer inspiration long after I set the book down.



4. I purchased this book at a speech the author gave 20 Apr 07 in Lawton Oklahoma (Ft Sill).
   
   I gave it 2 stars because while her story deserves to be told, Cindy seems to want a pity party and praise for surviving a horrible sexual abuse situation but she also deserves a kick in the behind. She should not be a representative for sexual abuse survivors because after hearing her speech and reading her book she is also a hypocrite and sexual abuse enabler. I recommend not purchasing this book
   
   In my opinion, Cindy is a hypocrite because in her Lawton Oklahoma speech/book, she spoke/wrote of how her entire family was always being arrested and she hated the police for it-especially when they took her mother away. Cindy even made it a point to say after 22 years of marriage her husband became a cop and she hated cops. In her speech she said she came to realize her family was the bad guy and the police were the good guys. She actually apologized to several police officers in the audience for thinking bad about them in the past which got a laugh even from me. However, I wasn't laughing after I read her book.
   
   Her book says two of her brothers were shot by police-one in the head while his hands were handcuffed behind his back and the other in the back running away. The police even told the ambulance to take the dead one first and let the one still alive suffer. The store keeper who her brothers tried to rob refused to testify against the police but did go to this author's home and tell her parents the true story of what happened to her brothers. Police are people too both good and bad. In her book, she does not dispute the truth of what happened and she therefore has no reason to apologize. She apologized to the Oklahoma police present at her speech for thinking bad about policemen in the past to curry favor and to elicit a laugh from the audience at the expense of the truth which is the cold blooded murder of her 2 brothers. In my opionion, the author is a hypocrite of worst kind.
   
   Also, at least 3 times or more in her book and her speech this author complains about her real mother, Sharon (stepfather raped her) abandoning the author to live with the stepfather and how she felt betrayed. In her speech and book, the author writes about her sister being beaten to death by this family. In her speech the author goes on and on about being too depressed to rescue her young teenage nieces still living with that dysfunctional family where she, her sisters and mother were sexually molested.
   
   Maybe Sharon, the author's mother, was too traumatized and depressed over her own sexual abuse to take the author in but at least she finally did when the author was 15 which stopped the trauma. It also introduced the author to another life where she met her husband and went on to live a normal life and to write her book. The author complained about her taking care of her 2 stepbrothers in the speech and in her book. Cindy marries young and leaves her mother in part to get away from being used a maid/nursemaid. I am glad it worked out for her. Too bad her nieces weren't given the same opportunity.
   
   The author followed the same footsteps of abandonment as her mother and behaved worse. She deliberately left those 2 young teenage nieces in that house and did nothing but call social services when she knew they weren't doing anything. The author wallowed in her depression over a simple robbery at work where no one was hurt as the reason for leaving these girls to be sexually/physically abused. It had to be more than just robbery to cause severe depression. I think the robbery was the last straw in her world and she broke or better yet she really felt depressed because she knew exactly what was being done to her nieces and substituted the robbery as the reason for the guilt and depression of what she was allowing to happen to those girls.
   
   The author behaved WORSE than her mother, Sharon because the author NEVER rescued those girls-her own nieces. Then, she has the audacity to lament on stage in Oklahoma how these 2 girls are now messed up, have multiple children by multiple men while stating that she herself survived. Shame on her!!! She could have gotten the girls out and at 13 and 14 just let them live in her house with her 2 sons and husband just like her mother Sharon let her live at age 15 with her husband and 2 sons. The author admitted her husband took care of everything house wise anyway as she was too depressed. The 2 girls could have helped out by cleaning, cooking, etc. I am sure those 2 girls would have loved to have had the opportunity to complain about taking care of their 2 cousins instead of being abused. Maybe her husband could have helped her nieces to read like he did with her. This author turned her back to even picking the girls up and allowing her church (which she professes to believe in and care about) members to take the girls and care for them. This author did not want to disrupt her life EVER and now she wants to write about it. If her husband was a police officer while these girls were being molested, he should be ashamed too.
   
   Although I am glad the author escaped, I am extremely disappointed in her as a human being. I wish I hadn't purchased her book. There are better survivor role models who didn't build themselves up by abandoning others.

1 comments about A Guilt Free Life.

1. Oh, God, this was the most depressing thing I have ever read in my life! I couldn't even finish it. I understand the author was trying to use his own life experiences to make a point, and I am glad he worked through his own guilt. But he did nothing to help me with mine! I threw out the book the same day I started reading it.