5 comments about The Way of the Superior Man: The Teaching Sessions.

1. Break past the Ego. Learn the fundumentals to make you an attractive person. Happy filled with abbundance and alowing those that you want most to come to you, rather than chasing them.



2. Ugh, what a load of bull. How do people keep making money off the tired old "men are *active*, women *receptive* stereotypes? People are people, and Deida is a jerk who sees women as subhuman.



3. I think many of a man would benefit tremendously from such a book, because it would help us figure out what's a better way to deal with a woman as a woman and not trying to deal with a woman as a man. Of course, it is hard to really distinguish males from females in terms of thinking. I think from what I read the extremely feminine woman that he describes who changes too much with the wind would not be my cup of tea. I've been with one like that, and things are too predictable. I prefer my woman to be more of a straight shooter. She can have her moods, be typical in many ways, but I think I prefer males or females I am dealing with to show consistency rather than simply changing based on feelings. I am a planner, and it is hard to plan if someone changes like the North Texas weather. Many women are not like that, but this is definitely a useful book for us males to respect women for how they and how they are different and to honor those differences while keeping our respect and sanity as males.



4. This book and seminar lays out material on how to be the best man you can be. If this was required reading half of the failed relationships out there would either work themselves out or be cut off too early to be a problem. If men took the responsibility to understand themselves and how women view their actions we would all be much happier. Instead we can't understand our women and flounder until finally nobody is happy and we break up or divorce. David Deida lays out, in simple terms, how men can understand and even revel in the emotional storm that women are. This manual can not be recommended highly enough.



5. I didn't care for this at all. It's the same old addage that men are still cavemen and have the same instincts. This is the 21st century and men have to get over the fact that they no longer are hunters. I did like that he said men should be more supportive of their significant other and that men are not to fix women but just be there for them to supplement a womens' natural inner stenght. I am going to read his other book, Dear Lover to see if I like what he has to say from the women's perspective. My first impression is this guy is a little nuts. Maybe I'm the one that's nuts because I'm sure he's getting rich off his opinions.

No comments about Making Love Last: How to Sustain Intimacy and Nurture Genuine Connection.

5 comments about Crucial Confrontations: Tools for Resolving Broken Promises, Violated Expectations, and Bad Behavior.

1. Confrontations with other people's ideas, opinions and actions are part of a daily routine. Books like "Crucial Confrontations" show us how it looks like when stakes are high and results could strongly influence our lives. Having such book "on our side" help us to confrontate daily challenges successfully. For both side's sake.



2. I appreciate the books a great deal. They are wonderful tools for improving communication, which is something we all need, and especially when the stakes are high. Great book.



3. The book provides an excellent methodology for addressing issues in both my business and private life. I thought it very helpful with completing my performance reviews for both high and low performers.



4. The first half of this book was excellent. Part I was titled "Work on me first". Under it was Chapter 2 "Master my stories: How to get your head right before opening your mouth". It talks about the stories we tell ourselves to explain what is happening around us. These stories can have a profound influence on your life. Negative stories tend to become self fulfilling prophesies. I'd heard about these stories in a talk. The speaker asked us not to share what we had learned. So I was pleased to see it in another source. The second half of the book I suspect was written by another author. Perhaps if I'd been practicing their suggestions it wouldn't have felt like formula writing. That said, I would still recommend this book to anyone who feels uncomfortable confronting people around them even when it is necessary.



5. I forgot I read this book until I saw it on my list. The teachings are memorable and I am still using them on a daily basis. I am also still giving people advice from this book. Excellent for managers and supervisors. I was making many common mistakes and this book helped put me in the right direction. It is rare for me to remember the in-depth content of books, but this one is well written and has helped me greatly.

5 comments about Driven to Distraction ( New on CD) : Recognizing and Coping with Attention Deficit Disorder from Childhood Through Adulthood.

1. I am an MD and knew for years I did not think like other people-in fact it was extremely difficult to think at all. Getting through med school was tough; I studied constantly and would read and re-read the weighty textbooks; still only "average" among my classmates, after a stellar (and very structured) high school and college performance.
   
   Every page of this book had an "aha" moment for me, brought me to tears numerous times when I saw how comparable my suffering was with the Hallowell patients. Knowledge of this malady alone has helped tremendously.



2. Having had ADHD since birth and as a recovering alcholic, I found this books to answer the many questions that I had regarding the disease. I was always a self-medicator and that turns out to be a classic symptom of ADHD. Five years and no drugs or alcohol!



3. This is an excellent book for the person who has not heard of ADHD until recently, particularly for the adult who has been unknowingly suffering its effects. But I was an adolescent when ADHD first became widely recognized and diagnosed, and I grew up with friends and family members who were diagnosed and treated for their ADHD, at a time when "You mean I'm not crazy, stupid or lazy?" was sort of a joke catchphrase in the high school hallways. This book presumes that, by the time you read it, your ADHD or that of your child has already gone unrecognized for a number of years and caused personal and academic problems. As such, it doesn't really speak to the reality of modern day parents who have known about ADHD from the time our children were born and are now struggling to diagnose and treat the disorder BEFORE it disrupts our children's lives. In addition, the information on medication is very out of date, as many advances have occurred in the 15 years since the book was written.



4. Honestly, the title of my review wasn't originally intended to be funny. I came on Amazon to look up the publishing date for a footnote/bibliography reference for this book. I now have spent too much time reading reviews on diet books and updating my other reviews on movies and phones to do this review justice.
   
   But if you're looking it up, you don't want a long review anyway. It is the best book in the world for someone with ADD, thinks they might have ADD or someone who has to live with a person with ADD.
   
   BUY IT NOW!! Before you get distracted.



5. Cd was very informative. Much easier to put in cd and listen than reading for hours. It covers all basic points of ADD. The fast overview should answer most question that a layman would have.

5 comments about How to Talk so Kids Will Listen...And Listen So Kids Will Talk.

1. This book is an invaluable resource and every parent should read it. We all say that a child should come with an instruction manual - well, this book is just that! I would highly recommend the active listening and talking techniques to anyone with children. The skills that are taught can transform a bad behaviored, ill-tempered child into a good kid with little effort. Wonderful Book!



2. I highly recommend this book (which was recommended to me) It points out destructive patterns of speech and interaction we have with our children (of all ages) and how to improve our parenting skills. Awareness is the first step to doing better, but not only does this book tell you what you can improve, it gives plenty of stories/anecdotes, visual examples in the form of cartoons and a QA-like section for each chapter. It's really easy to apply to real life!



3. This is such an important area that all of us as parents need to learn. How we speak and interact with our kids is the basis for their success in life. One of the best parenting books that not only outlines all the important child-rearing principles but also how to help your child become a happy and empowered young person is Bully-Proofing Children: A Practical, Hands-On Guide to Stop Bullying. Filled with scripts,activities and recommendations for building self-esteem... it is really parenting at its finest.



4. This book really helps in learning how to talk to children instead of yelling at them. Also since I've read it and put the advice into action my child seems to be talking to me more.



5. I thought this book would apply only for older children, but I've found several techniques that already apply and WORK with my 2 1/2 year old child. I love the way the book is organized and I love how it really gives many specific examples of how to apply the methods to different situations.

5 comments about Nonviolent Communication: Create Your Life, Your Relationships, and Your World in Harmony with Your Values.

1. Should be a requirement to learn these skills in school and all business, not just your personal life. A little dry in delivery, but very useful.



2. Nonviolent communication is a very effective tool for anyone looking to create a bridge of understanding and establishing healthy boundaries through thoughts and words. It moves away from the aggressive, competitive and confrontational models that so many people learn from parents, in dysfunctional relationships and at work. My cousin took "Assertiveness Training" back in the 70s. She said that NVC though took that to the next level by introducing compassion, understanding and nonjudgment though observations, feelings, needs and requests.
   
   I've recommended this series to many people [including my cousin] and especially those who have problems with coworkers and bosses. I thought it amusing that even one of Dr Rosenberg's participants conceded that working with parents can be the biggest NVC challenge of all. Nonviolent communication may not be the solution, but it does help.
   
   One particular story Dr Rosenberg imparts among many is about how his grandmother -- a Jewish immigrant for whom English was a second language -- invited a homeless man into the house for a bit of food and rest. When she asked the man his name, he said, "Jesus the Lord." Without a hint of irony or judgment, the grandmother introduced the man to the rest of the family as Jesus. She fed him and gave him a place to stay without a second thought for his gruff appearance or his unusual name. In her own way, by living NVC everyday, she provided the framework for Dr Rosenberg's works.
   
   A few items to nitpick -- and by no means a slight or a reason not to buy the audiobook. In fact, go ahead and buy it now.
   
   Sometimes using NVC language can seem a bit stilted and unnatural. For example Dr Rosenberg often says the phrase, "This meets my need to..." It works in writing and even when Dr Rosenberg says it. But personally, it sounds stilted and just doesn't quite roll off the tongue for many of us. Instead, I personally say, "This works for me. Does this solution work for you?"
   
   Another nitpick: I paraphrase a bit but Dr Rosenberg gives one particular sentence as an example of violent communication: "Minorities don't take care of their property." Then he offers a nonviolent-communication example: "I've never seen the minority family down the street take out the trash." I wondered if bringing up that the family a "minority" is truly germaine. Is bringing up a source of division and stereotype such a race or nationality truly nonviolent or would it be more kind to refer to the family as "the Smith Family" or even as "the family two doors down"?
   
   Last small nitpick [and a bit of a spoiler]: Dr Rosenberg tells a compelling story of a patient who was uncommunicative and unresponsive due to severe psychological trauma. Dr Rosenberg describes how the woman finally broke through by writing a note to him in perfect NVC language. "Help me to express what is going on within me..." Not only did she become NVC fluent after 4 or 5 treatments, but she had the fine motor skills to write this out. So why then did she seem unable to pass him the note until he had to pry her fingers open? There must be more to the story than what we're being told, but it is a bit of a small plot loophole in the overall scheme of what is a great tool for communication and for expressing compassion while at the same time holding one's own integrity.
   
   This audiobook introduced me to the grander realm of NVC and I've since attended some workshops where "jackal" and" giraffe" are introduced. Like me, you may find that you already use many of these techniques, but NVC just ads a few more tools to the toolbox.



3. This audiobook is a really neat exploration of how to communicate honestly to positive ends.
   
   The cds are dotted with Rosenberg relating conversations that employ each technique he discusses. While actual tapes of the conversations would have been more illustrative, they are still believable.
   
   The message is really about how to enact harmonization instead of blunt decisions in disagreements, as well as exploring your own values and how to communicate those values to others.



4. Rosenberg provides here a direct contribution to peace building, in our hearts, with the people around us and by reverberation, all around the world. It is an important work that has its roots in the universal wisdom that connects our human history sometimes with strong threads, sometimes with thinner ones. In a few words, it is a remarquable work, in spirit and in reality. The only thing missing is a booklet, a workbook that would support the practice and exploration suggested in the audio cd. I highly recommand it.



5. Im still listening to this but all I can say is wow. It will really put your mind, your thinking in a better place. It will definitley change your life positively if you let it. The author speaks eloquently and simply to get the message across very clearly..all i kept thinking was this should be required education in school. a real gem.

5 comments about The Five Love Languages Audio CD.

1. This book is Fantastic! My husband and I have always had a great marriage, but this took it to a whole new level. It should be given to every couple when they apply for a marriage license!



2. This is a great book for anyone wanting to strengthen their relationship with a spouse or family member.



3. I bought the audio version so I could listen in my car. I didn't see anywhere that is mentioned this CD is a CD with MP3s on it. I cannot return it since I opened it to see what the deal was. I am really angry at Amazon for this. If I wanted the MP3's I could have just bought the MP3 Downloads, saved the postage and packaging.
   
   The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate [AUDIOBOOK] [CD] [UNABRIDGED] (Audio CD)
   
   Does that look like I would be getting mp3's on a CD? No.



4. Someone lent me this book. I loved it so much, I bought a copy for myself. I think everyone should read it who has or wants to have a relationship of any kind with anyone. I liked it so much, I bought the Five Love Languages for Teenagers and The Five Love Languages for Singles.
   
   Mr. Chapman claims that there are five primary love languages: words of affirmation, physical touch, acts of service, receiving gifts and quality time. Although we all need to be loved in all the ways, there is one love language that is our primary love language. If we are not loved in this primary love language, then our love tank becomes empty and we feel unloved, even if all four other love languages are being spoken to us.
   
   So my conjecture is this may be then, why someone with the love language of words of affirmation would 'fish' for compliments, because they have a deep need to hear affirming words.
   Happy reading!



5. This is such an insightful book that will open your eyes to how you feel love as well as others including your spouse. It also helps you discover how you interpret love and can show love to others in a way they understand. Interesting read, i would recommend to anyone.

5 comments about Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High.

1. Nutshell review - You should read this book if you ever need to talk to anyone! Sooner or later you will benefit from the insights and techniques explained in this book to help you handle things when talking gets tough.



2. Helped having already attended a meeting in which some of these techniques had been use.



3. I have given this book to a number of people. It truly is a good read. Very helpful. For those of us that can be a bit timid....buy this book.



4. I like this book a lot. Developed for business communication it has applications for many areas of life. I found it clear, instructive, insightful and relatively free of new-age doublespeak. I work in an ER and I communicate with angry people (sometimes including myself) in emotionally-charged situations on a daily basis. I find the techniques presented in this book quite practical.
   
   For comparison I read a few of the negative reviews. Several of them dismiss this book as "common sense." I think they miss the point that common sense is not really all that common.



5. As an Executive Coach, I highly recommend Crucial Conversations. Many of my clients face the challenge of talking with their peers and/or direct reports on a daily basis. Most people don't handle those difficult conversations very well. This book gives great steps and info on how to go about treading through the difficult waters. I have purchased several copies of this book as gifts for clients. I am currently re-reading it in order to grasp and absorb the rich content.

5 comments about Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus Low Price CD.

1. Great book. I found this very helpful in understanding both my son and my husband.



2. This is an incredible CD to listen to while sitting at your computer, doing the dishes, or in the car. John Gray teaches his Mars Venus wisdom on this CD to start giving you the basic differences in men and women.
   
   Great CD to own! Especially, listening to it in your car where you can hear it to over and over to learn how to apply them to your personal relationships. John Gray is an entertainer as well as a relationship expert. He does this with his knowledge and his dynamic personality.
   
   Merna Throne
   
   Pocket of Pearls: A 30-day pocket workbook to start hearing a softer voice inside of you!



3. I am blown away by the things I learned in this CD!!! It has helped me so much in my relationship with my husband, and has also helped me to understand myself. I would recommend this CD to anyone and everyone!!! I just wish it was the full book, and not an abridgment.



4. Definitely buy this CD if you don't have the time to read the book... it's a great introduction and you can listen to it while you're cleaning or making dinner...



5. MY FRIEND HAD CD WITH SAME TITLE AND THAT CD HAD MORE INFORMATION THAN MINE

5 comments about How to Win Friends & Influence People.

1. What a great book and so easy to read. A must have for anyone who deals with people and values their relationships with others. Dale Carnegie writes in a way so that you remember what he says and start to apply it right away. He's committed to his reader's success and it's evident in the way he writes.



2. No wonder this is a classic. It is a good reminder of all the things you inherently know, but forget as a normal part of daily life. Immediately upon starting to read it, the way I was dealing with people changed - and business improved quickly! Obviously, a book that should be read over and over. One of the best!



3. This book will make you a million bucks just like it has me if you follow the very simple rules for relating to people.



4. How reading a single book can change your life!
   
   It's true, when I was 16 years old I (like many others I have now found out since then) read my first book about business. I was drawn to it in a small, old fashioned book shop that's no longer in business. At the time I didn't really know any entrepreneurs or people that ran their own business and I had no mentor to point me in the right direction. The book simply "spoke" to me and I grabbed it and bought it.
   
   Weird stuff. Especially as at the time I was a quiet, shy sort of a guy but in my heart I had a burning ambition - I just didn't realise it yet!
   
   The books name was "How to Win Friends and Influence People" - You must have heard of it I am sure but I hadn't at the time and I would say that `personal development' was not the juggernaut it is today.
   
   It changed my life (for the better) - it gave me confidence in general and more importantly it lit a small flame to start my own business that grew and grew until I did just that two years later at 18 years old.
   
   So what you may say, plenty of people have done that! Well it was quite a shift for me, my father only ever worked for 2 companies his whole life and I was expected to go into a life long job myself in biotechnology or something similar - certainly not to waste my `brains' on cleaning offices and cars!!
   
   The book made me change me outlook on life completely - it made me `think' that I could do anything I put my mind to doing and it also gave the courage to get over my shyness at key moments in my life.
   
   It was the start of life long reading habit (before that I couldn't be bothered with reading and we had very few books in my house as a kid) - even to this day 20+ years later I still go and get a few books on a topic if I want to learn something new.
   
   Also, I have adopted the strength to face all my fears `head-on' since then - when i felt anxious about public speaking I got a few books and tapes and learnt until I was pretty good at it, the same for selling, marketing, finance, hr, technology, programming, manufacturing, teaching, training and on and on.
   
   I became curious about other people and looked for the `good' in them and I feared nothing and no-one. I strived for my goals and I achieved them all.
   
   I am trying to illustrate the power of the written word along with a great (if a little dated) book. Also, I want to reiterate the power of personal development as a whole. Today many run down the idea of personal development and it's many offspring.
   
   Personal development is just like this book - you should read and learn and then apply the principles that you believe in to your life.
   
   You must take action on the one's you believe in and you must apply your own moral standards and integrity to anything you learn from others.
   
   For my part I have read this book many times and bought a few copies as well as the tapes, now CDs, it's time for a refresher for me and i urge you to listen to them if you haven't already.



5. A lot of it is common sense, but things we tend to forget. Book came in great condition and came quickly.